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Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by biacan(f): 10:05pm On Jan 06, 2018
Oyindidi:
They are not used to doing that. In this case, the man prepared the food and he asked her to serve him

My dear, don't blame the op for getting angry. You better start learning now
Aunty I think I'll try but the kind of friends I roll with are not helping issues at all..... we are after big boob's,ass etc
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Oyindidi(f): 10:07pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
Aunty I think I'll try but the kind of friends I roll with are not helping issues at all..... we are after big boob's,ass etc
grin grin grin Big boobss, asss and slaying will fade away with time. You'll be left with reality of lifegrin
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 10:09pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
Aunty I think I'll try but the kind of friends I roll with are not helping issues at all..... we are after big boob's,ass etc
I see ur light oo o!
Keep observing!grin
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by biacan(f): 10:10pm On Jan 06, 2018
Oyindidi:
grin grin grin Big boobss, asss and slaying will fade away with time. You'll be left with reality of lifegrin
True talk embarassed embarassed embarassed
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by biacan(f): 10:11pm On Jan 06, 2018
Martin0:
I see ur light oo o! Keep observing!grin
Ehmmm Martin what are you doing here

Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by MrBottle: 10:11pm On Jan 06, 2018
property123:
With due respect sir/ma, are you saying the method used by our father's of old which made their marriages last longer is bad compared to your modern ideas which gives us 90% divorce rate. Just want to learn sir/ma?
Are you using data to compare and contrast or you are whipping stats from the wind? Divorce rate now is at the same rate compared to which ever generation you are comparing it with? It is an erroneous believe to think that we have it worse than them.

Open another thread let's bring it datas.
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 10:12pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
Ehmmm Martin what are you doing here
Ok! Nothing enjoy urself! I ve questions to ask u oo,I dey come first
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by biacan(f): 10:19pm On Jan 06, 2018
Martin0:
Ok! Nothing enjoy urself! I ve questions to ask u oo,I dey come first
I don enter today embarassed embarassed

I didn't say anything ooooo

Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 10:24pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
I don enter today embarassed embarassed
I didn't say anything ooooo
Hahahahahah u ehgringringrin

Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 10:24pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
I don enter today embarassed embarassed
I didn't say anything ooooo
Hahahahahah u ehgringringrin

Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by biacan(f): 10:28pm On Jan 06, 2018
Martin0:
Hahahahahah u ehgringringrin
I didn't say anything believe me biko nna embarassed embarassed embarassed
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 10:39pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
I didn't say anything believe me biko nna embarassed embarassed embarassed
Did I accused you of anything? I only said am gonna ask you question simple!
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 10:40pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
I didn't say anything believe me biko nna embarassed embarassed embarassed
Eh eh! My questions now!

Ok not now,when am ready I go ask you!
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by biacan(f): 10:41pm On Jan 06, 2018
Martin0:
Eh eh! My questions now!
Ok not now,when am ready I go ask you!
Ask me please Now biko
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 10:49pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
Ask me please Now biko
Hahahahah na wa ooogringrin

Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by biacan(f): 10:52pm On Jan 06, 2018
Martin0:
Hahahahah na wa ooogringrin
I been tell you say I dey fear men like your type wey dey laugh online but for reality nah una vex pass......


Ehmmmm biko Dede gwa mu okwu
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 10:56pm On Jan 06, 2018
biacan:
I been tell you say I dey fear men like your type wey dey laugh online but for reality nah una vex pass......

Hahahahahah forget that tin eegringrin online or offline I dey laugh wella,ask lefulefu?grin



Ehmmmm biko Dede gwa mu okwu
Eh eh can you do a serious long distance relationship if u have see that seriousness in the man who will really love you huh

Someone my just be observing you right now,be sincere!grin
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by biacan(f): 11:18pm On Jan 06, 2018
Martin0:
Eh eh can you do a serious long distance relationship if u have see that seriousness in the man who will really love you huh

Someone my just be observing you right now,be sincere!grin
One thing about me I thought I told you my stands after that ugly incident that happened to me about my relationship loving a man right now is just like a waste of time for ladies because most guys Now are after lust not love ....... but like you said I must see the seriousness of the man cause I don't want to waste my time on someone who don't love me.....but if it happens I'll why not........
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Martin0(m): 5:26am On Jan 07, 2018
biacan:
One thing about me I thought I told you my stands after that ugly incident that happened to me about my relationship loving a man right now is just like a waste of time for ladies because most guys Now are after lust not love ....... but like you said I must see the seriousness of the man cause I don't want to waste my time on someone who don't love me.....but if it happens I'll why not........
Owk! Good!
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by jaychubi: 5:34am On Jan 07, 2018
ABINTUK:
I have been dating my Fiancee for two years now, and in a couple of months from now, we will be hosting our wedding propper.

The problem I have with her which I just noticed recently is that she hates to serve me food. I didnt notice all these habits because we were not staying together. But for the past four months that we have been living together I began to notice this habit.

However, I am a good cook. I do most of the cookings which I believe should have been her primary duty, but just to tell her to take the food from the freezer and warm for us to eat becomes a problem. She will start telling me that she is weak, she is having headache, she wants to go and pee or poo, or that she is not hungry. But the moment I go in to the kitchen and warm the food, you will see her with all smiles coming to eat.

To be fair to her, there are some days she attempts to serve me meal, but then she must ensure that I make the garri while she warms the soup. Or I bring washhand water and drinking water to the table before she serves the food.

She is a very good lady in other areas, but this aspect is killing the love daily. She is always happy that am always doing the cooking which am equally happy too. I have complained for over uncountable times, yet no remedy. She keep saying she will change.

Although I do the cooking, is it too much for her to serve me meals whenever I want to eat? Our wedding is coming up few months from now, and this singular act is making me to give a second thought.

What do I do please...

Seun
Lalasticlacla
You are her house boy, live with it n this might be the reason she loves u n wants to marry u ie BC u r her cook. Dnt start what u can't finish
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Acidosis(m): 6:49am On Jan 07, 2018
So you will be serving your children and your in-law food in a couple of years?


Don't try it man, even your children will hate and disrespect you for that singular act.
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:42am On Jan 07, 2018
I once met a Lady who I had interest in. As we conversed, i joked about her cooking for me and she told me bluntly that she can't cook for a man who isn't her husband. Naturally I Cook my meals buh mehn the tin weak me.
That was the end. No time for nonsense.
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:59am On Jan 07, 2018
I really don't understand the big deal in serving your fiance. This is getting ridiculous
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 11:32am On Jan 07, 2018
UjuJoan2:
Maybe she's the breadwinner, or she contributes as much as you do lipsrsealed undecided
Men need to understand that when women starts shooting cash, the rules change. He who pays the Piper dictates the tune.

That being said, she's way out of line!
OP see above.
If she is contributing the same or more than you financially she would not be willing to bring herself down to doing all the cooking and even serving you.
Yes, that's the truth many men don't want to accept.
Unless you have the upper hand in the typical responsibilities of a man ie providing for her, she will not be willing to do her own typical wifely duties of cooking and serving. Its not disrespect, its just that nobody wants to be used or unfairly treated. You can't expect a woman who is as much a breadwinner as you are to also carry 100 percent of housewives duties on her head.
Do you give her money for upkeep? Take her out? Buy her gifts, even as your fiancee? Since you expect her to cook & serve you
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Jman06(m): 2:13pm On Jan 07, 2018
So after cooking your food you sit back and wait until you are served?
What's there in dishing out food for yourself if you can do the cooking?

Hunger never catch you!
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Futureberry: 3:00pm On Jan 07, 2018
MrBottle:
I grew up in a balanced household where no man knows which chores is meant for man or a woman.
Continue waiting to be serve and end up starving to death.
Imagine relying on someone to feed myself....come suck breast join
liar
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Sammiejokes(m): 3:11pm On Jan 07, 2018
biacan:
I thought you said you're a chef so you cooking at your own house shouldn't be a problem......cause most chef don't like women cooking for them.......

The last point you made stating that is her primary duty to cook and serve you as a wife where was it written that it's the duty of a woman to cook and serve her husband mealshuh that should be 50/50 so we it gets to her turn she might be tired due to her daily routine so as a husband you need to understand your wife and be a good listener or do you want her to fall down when cooking in the kitchenhuh don't ruin your home with that African mentalityhuh it is the cause of many broken homes I hope these helps
Madam, the primary duty of a woman to ensure her family is fed whether she get a helper that is her issue, just fend for the family. U cannot expect me to be the provider and then take cooking duties 50/50.
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Sammiejokes(m): 3:11pm On Jan 07, 2018
biacan:
I thought you said you're a chef so you cooking at your own house shouldn't be a problem......cause most chef don't like women cooking for them.......

The last point you made stating that is her primary duty to cook and serve you as a wife where was it written that it's the duty of a woman to cook and serve her husband mealshuh that should be 50/50 so we it gets to her turn she might be tired due to her daily routine so as a husband you need to understand your wife and be a good listener or do you want her to fall down when cooking in the kitchenhuh don't ruin your home with that African mentalityhuh it is the cause of many broken homes I hope these helps
Madam, the primary duty of a woman both in the bible and the quran is to ensure her family is fed whether she get a helper that is her issue, just fend for the family. U cannot expect me to be the provider and then take cooking duties 50/50.
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Sammiejokes(m): 3:12pm On Jan 07, 2018
biacan:
I thought you said you're a chef so you cooking at your own house shouldn't be a problem......cause most chef don't like women cooking for them.......

The last point you made stating that is her primary duty to cook and serve you as a wife where was it written that it's the duty of a woman to cook and serve her husband mealshuh that should be 50/50 so we it gets to her turn she might be tired due to her daily routine so as a husband you need to understand your wife and be a good listener or do you want her to fall down when cooking in the kitchenhuh don't ruin your home with that African mentalityhuh it is the cause of many broken homes I hope these helps
Madam, the primary duty of a woman to ensure her family is fed whether she get a helper that is her issue, just fend for the family. U cannot expect me to be the provider and then take cooking duties 50/50.
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Sammiejokes(m): 3:14pm On Jan 07, 2018
biacan:
I thought you said you're a chef so you cooking at your own house shouldn't be a problem......cause most chef don't like women cooking for them.......

The last point you made stating that is her primary duty to cook and serve you as a wife where was it written that it's the duty of a woman to cook and serve her husband mealshuh that should be 50/50 so we it gets to her turn she might be tired due to her daily routine so as a husband you need to understand your wife and be a good listener or do you want her to fall down when cooking in the kitchenhuh don't ruin your home with that African mentalityhuh it is the cause of many broken homes I hope these helps
Madam, the primary duty of a woman as written in both the holy bible and the quran is to ensure her family is fed whether she get a helper that is her issue, just fend for the family. U cannot expect me to be the provider and then take cooking duties 50/50.
Re: My Fiancee Finds It Difficult To Serve Me Food.. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:37pm On Jan 07, 2018
Sammiejokes:
Madam, the primary duty of a woman as written in both the holy bible and the quran is to ensure her family is fed whether she get a helper that is her issue, just fend for the family. U cannot expect me to be the provider and then take cooking duties 50/50.
if that is the the case her money is her money alone and yours is for the family.

is the guy in this story 100% the provider?
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