₦airaland Forum

Ishilove:
Whatever. Na you get your hand to type wetin you wan type, so I really, sincerely DO NOT GIVE A FVCK what you think. Sincerely.

Zykod:
Na you sabi Judge and Hypocrite. Na you get sense pass yet your husband use him leg waka comot on you. Judge less, if you wanna comment, comment, no judge. Hypocrite

Ishilove:
My husband waka comot from house go meet your sister abi? Clown

Zykod:
When you can keep a marriage successfully, you can judge, until then, ease off. I no get your time

Ishilove:
Lmao. Where do you Nairalanders get all these crazy stories from? Apparently my own husband has left me and I'm not even aware of his desertion.

ROTFL!!!

Zykod:
Abeg waka

Ishilove:
I thought I was the only one who noticed this. I see so much blind anger, pride and unsubmissiveness in her post. She even admitted that her husband is not earning much, but doesn't want to assist him financially.

She has come here to demonise her husband but from what I'm picking up, she herself is not an easy person to live with.

Well sha, let me not talk what is in my mind. Every man for himself

Oyindidi:
See why I love your posts, we kinda think alike. I was been careful not to hurt her feelings.

We've been through a lot but we fought and conquered. When I see post like this I laugh cos I was once like her

Zykod:
Really? Hit at anything he wants...but you learnt to submit to his will ?

Oyindidi:
Zykod, leave me abeg. I no understand your argument

Zykod:
I follow you fight or argue?

Oyindidi:
Happy Sunday

Oyindidi:
Hmmmm...minor issues if you ask me, men use words like that to make their wives to be submissive. Do you still love your husband? If you do try to be more submissive and I believe he won't use those words again.

Laeroy:
The funniest thing is that he accuses me of same, He said my ideologies bout marriage are now obsolete and that I must discard them, This is majorly the cause of the never ending issues btw us, But each time he wants to make me feel guilty, he reminds me of Ephesians 5:22-23, (The submission Tales), however I also remind him of christ being the head of the church , which he is to submit to, which makes me ask him all the time.,,.Daniel, Do u submit to Christ in everything you do

ashjay001:
Pls, stop! Everyone should carry his/her weight! A case of emotional blackmail. Gave up her well paying job n d fool is still ungrateful? Abegi!



Its good she called his bluff, let things play out. Hopefully, he'll come to his senses, if not, she shouldn't allow him, break her.

ashjay001:
Pls, stop! Everyone should carry his/her weight! A case of emotional blackmail. Gave up her well paying job n d fool is still ungrateful? Abegi!



Its good she called his bluff, let things play out. Hopefully, he'll come to his senses, if not, she shouldn't allow him, break her.

Oyindidi:
And you are?

ashjay001:
A guy, who relates! Everyone should carry their weight, firstly.


Though, not educating d kid, was a no no. To imagine, I used to snub family for romance

Oyindidi:
Hear from both sides before you pass your judgement

Oyindidi:
Hear from both sides before you pass your judgement

Zykod:
This is what we should shun from. Making comment doesn't imply judgement, has God made anyone judge. One has issues and relates okay from just her perspectvie, from what you hear, make suggestions, can this be too hard?

Oyindidi:
I said happy Sunday earlier, didn't I?

ashjay001:
I know.


But, sometimes, u hear a side n just have an intuition. Esp, when u've experience.



That lady isn't being appreciated. That's her beef.


With d little, I know(I see ur posts) of u; u won't take same.

Zykod:
Stop making it a fight my sister. We just dey relate, me see you as sister, it's okay if we have difference of opinions. Why make it something it is not?

ashjay001:
I know.


But, sometimes, u hear a side n just have an intuition. Esp, when u've experience.



That lady isn't being appreciated. That's her beef.


With d little, I know(I see ur posts) of u; u won't take same.

Oyindidi:
I'm not fighting not in the mood to talk
OK, na you sabi

Zykod:
The lady is receiving too much abeg bros, your head is there !

Starching

Ironing

House Keep

Child

Intimacy



If the guy was working, there's legitimate excuse, rather he's chatting, as a single or married man, haba....people don't read before they attack, those attacking the lady aren't thorough in their analysis

ashjay001:
What most don't get is, u don't have to go physical, to abuse someone. And, her story has shown a consistent pattern of her husband's archaic ideas on marriage.



Made her resign from a well paying job.

Starving a pregnant lady.

Refusal to put in more effort to assist her laundry biz.

Knowing quite well how much she has sacrificed financially to d marriage, refusing to acknowledge it.


If she truly was selfish before, he wouldn't ever know how much she's saved!

Zykod:
That's it, there's a consistent archaic pattern in the husband's ideologies about marriage, and it won't change without serious talking to...He needs someone toremove those barriers he has in his mind/brain.


* She resigned

* She relocated

* She was made to face uncertainity ( due to his lack of consistency )

* He isn't wise with spendings

* He physically assaults her

* She's subjected to functioning in a toxic and uncertain environment

* Refuse to take the bull by the horn in getting back on his feet

* Puts more effort to "chatting"

* Wants lesser work, but absolute control and the money he didn't contribute much into making



The guy needs to grow up, i swear



I'm not blowing my trumpet oh, even though i'm just looking towards marriage, i have a 20 years blueprint for my marriage, up till the kids finish university, why can't we have futuristic foresight in this country and plan ahead?

ashjay001:
Hope u end up with d right lady. I wasn't born wise in marital issues. Experience, was an unwanted teacher.


No one on this earth, can predict how his/her marriage will work out.


Am still trying to get back on track.

Zykod:
Nah, when finances are planned out ahead, it deals with 50% of the fluctuations and issues that causes fluctuations.

My mentor worked in HR in Mobil for over ten years, so she had the wisdom, she pulled my ears, you must not give any girl belle till i see your plan and i approve it. SO, i created a 20 years plan, it involves health, education, entertainment. I looked it up this week, i was happy God gave me the understanding. I intend to publish it to help other people looking for such systems as they look towards marriage. Funny, it requires planning, and i've noticed when financial problems are removed from marriage, problems becomes alleviated substantially

ashjay001:
I heard Dangote is supposedly on his 4th marriage? Atiku's son n daughter-in-law, are at loggerheads. Caroline Danjuma abandoned her marriage to TY Danjuma.. Money solves sh*t!

Eccle 7: 23-26

We need to compare plans
Prepared mine 10+yrs ago.

After God, fear women. Amazing creatures. Unfortunately, I luv them

Zykod:
Wow @ 10 years ago Sir. I'm humbled. Looking forward to getting married next year by God's Grace. How can we compare plans?