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goingape:
you are very OK!

Don't ever feel sexually attracted to those apes called naija women

What you need now is to start looking for foreign girls.

I myself naija women irritate me and I have never for once feel sexually attracted to those piece of shiit

Try and date a wihite woman and you will know that you are very normal!

pressplay411:
He's not wrong though. Girls are in fact attracted to money, though not all.
That said @Poster as she asked, hope your sudden loss of appetite for the curves is not because you're now sexually attracted to men?
If not (and I strongly hope) you're safe. Two things are involved.
-You've over-indulged yourself sexually and now losing your sex drive.
-You're frustrated about certain developmen(s) in your life. Perhaps school or unemployment or family issues, maybe even craving the intimacy you can't get from masturbation and porn.

So you need to evaluate this and take proactive measures to solve it. Life's too short to shut down.

Daniel2289:
U are very OK because u are still very young to be thinking about girls at this your age. Why not focus on your hustle and make money for yourself. Very soon, u will see girls craving for your attention.
Just try it.

Troubledmind:
Hi nairalanders, I'm pete(pseudonym), I'm 22, and a virgin, I come from an average family, I won't say I'm too handsome but I'm averagely good looking, they was a phase in my life where I was hyperactive and always drawn to the opposite sex that mere looking at a pic I get erection, this made me chased a lot of girls with different tactics( sweet mouth, dressing, money) they all rejected me despite my looks and money, I resort to porn but find it disgusting, I switched to masturbat,ion it didn't work infact nothing is enjoyable about it and sex workers are a no no for me,

after trying desperately for years to get a real girlfriend for the first time in my life I gave up on searching, I kept loosing intrest in girls, now I never get sexually aroused anymore, even when I see naked women physically or we get locked in a room I will feel nothing, the only erection I get now is the early morning erection, I'm not gay but I am really starting to get worried

Lalasticlal.a please help a brother

Troubledmind:
Hi nairalanders, I'm pete(pseudonym), I'm 22, and a virgin, I come from an average family, I won't say I'm too handsome but I'm averagely good looking, they was a phase in my life where I was hyperactive and always drawn to the opposite sex that mere looking at a pic I get erection, this made me chased a lot of girls with different tactics( sweet mouth, dressing, money) they all rejected me despite my looks and money, I resort to porn but find it disgusting, I switched to masturbat,ion it didn't work infact nothing is enjoyable about it and sex workers are a no no for me,

after trying desperately for years to get a real girlfriend for the first time in my life I gave up on searching, I kept loosing intrest in girls, now I never get sexually aroused anymore, even when I see naked women physically or we get locked in a room I will feel nothing, the only erection I get now is the early morning erection, I'm not gay but I am really starting to get worried

Lalasticlal.a please help a brother

mhisbliss:
there you go with the wrong stereotype again, (girls are drawn to money) you're right about focusing on his hustle but wrong about the money thing, any girl that is after your money is not different from a prostitue so don't generalize, his problem is not the fact that girls aint throwing themselves at him, his fear is the fact that he's loosing his sex drive, not getting attracted to girls is a big problem, he might be transcending into homosexuality, my advice to you is try to know why those girls rejected you, you can befriend them and get acquainted to the point that they're comfortable talking to you, they'll tell you one way or the other why they rejected your advances, if you're lucky, they'll have similar reasons, looks and money isn't all you need to woo a girl I feel it has something to do with your personality so work on yourself

mhisbliss:
there you go with the wrong stereotype again, (girls are drawn to money) you're right about focusing on his hustle but wrong about the money thing, any girl that is after your money is not different from a prostitue so don't generalize, his problem is not the fact that girls aint throwing themselves at him, his fear is the fact that he's loosing his sex drive, not getting attracted to girls is a big problem, he might be transcending into homosexuality, my advice to you is try to know why those girls rejected you, you can befriend them and get acquainted to the point that they're comfortable talking to you, they'll tell you one way or the other why they rejected your advances, if you're lucky, they'll have similar reasons, looks and money isn't all you need to woo a girl I feel it has something to do with your personality so work on yourself

Diso60090:
Please look else where there are many gays at there

tsamson:
Buy S*x doll

kolawoleibukun:
OP I understand your case. It is normal but a very dangerous phase in life. You are pretty young and at this age you can be prone to divert your sexual orientation. You have sexual assuages that are not met. You need some loving but you cannot commit yourself to a relationship. You have an ego and that makes you picky with girls. You have a moral standing (perhaps) that controls your conscience.

Trust me, it is difficult to explain your situation to anyone because the majority will not understand. They will callously tell you that it is normal and that is it. You need more than that. What you really need is a guide. At his stage, you will not find the correct answers with anyone simply dismissing your case. If you can commit yourself with someone who can be there for you to fill the void in your life, you will feel better.

We all say that we are not gays but the fact is that there are times when you feel inclined to fall on a guy not because you are gay but because mentally he fills a space that no one else does. If you are on the flamboyant side for real (good looking), the few persons that might sound close to anything tangible around you might be seeking to use you to assuage their own cravings. Your case is the reason why many people turn gays. Not that they were born gays but they find completion in things that are material and not for the soul.

I was in your situation and about 80% of the things you wrote was my life. I was the last in the family and the attention started to disappear as I grew up. It all started with the things that you consume mentally and the people that you have around you. As it stands, you do not have a real friend. You are probably left to yourself after the show ends. You are pretty shy to open up and it is sometimes good because people are too busy with their own problems and they will make a mockery of your situation.

A good thing that you open up now because this is one of the the reasons why people turn Psychopaths and get homicidal later in their years when mid life crisis takes the stage. Marriage does not solve a case like this and neither do girls. That is something people do not know.

Firstly, what you need is you, Peter. You need to understand that you need yourself before anyone else in this world. You need to know that you are normal. You need to know that you need to stay alive. You need to know that your life and world is worth exploring. Your mind is larger than the normal minds and that is the space that you need to fill. You must understand that your body craves for something that money cannot buy. It is a powerful machine working actively yet it is so fragile. Look out!

Secondly, as people grow in body mass, naturally they change their wardrobes. It is time for you to shake up your circle of friends. Friends and same old cycle must go. You need a fresh breath (environment, habit and people). Your addiction to porn must end. You must fight to stay clean and healthy. Standing against red light angels (hoes) means that you still have some moral standing. Clean up your circle of friends and start anew. Take a trip if you can. Learn a new skill. Write a book about what you are going through. Reach out to sufferers like you and learn more about this.

Nigerians neglect mental or psychological struggles. We do not believe in it so the average mind will trash your cash. So, reach out to like sufferers and learn of their struggles and success. Pursue your dream and pursue it hard. You need mental development and you need to stay humble.

Girls do not fall for you because you have very low self esteem and confidence and that projects your effort negatively. They do not see you as a good partner. Trust me, girls need protection and you do not have it. They will collect your money and move. You might have a good pick up line but you do not have anything in you to make a conversation linger. You need GROWTH in all ramifications.

Sex is not what you need. Nigerians commenting here are so dull. All they know is sex sex sex. It sucks!

What do you have a passion for?

Maxvasia:
you are quite incorrect on many counts. But i will just highlight one. You are wrong to insinuate that its only prostitutes that are attracted to wealth and other forms of material success. Virtually all ladies are. Even you are attracted to more successful people and you would rather see love in the eyes of a rich, responsible man than a poor responsible one. Its human nature. So he was right to tell the young man to focus on material success and he can have any lady of his choice. Even you. Any other assertion here after is just plain hypocrisy

kolawoleibukun:
If I were gay I would tell you and you cannot do a thing about it. You cannot even come close cos I wouldn't need your type. Forget about me and be reasonable on this thread. Someone asked a question, you should give him a sensible answer and stop talking rubbish. If you have nothing sensible to say get out of the thread.

mhisbliss:
there you go with the wrong stereotype again, (girls are drawn to money) you're right about focusing on his hustle but wrong about the money thing, any girl that is after your money is not different from a prostitue so don't generalize, his problem is not the fact that girls aint throwing themselves at him, his fear is the fact that he's loosing his sex drive, not getting attracted to girls is a big problem, he might be transcending into homosexuality, my advice to you is try to know why those girls rejected you, you can befriend them and get acquainted to the point that they're comfortable talking to you, they'll tell you one way or the other why they rejected your advances, if you're lucky, they'll have similar reasons, looks and money isn't all you need to woo a girl I feel it has something to do with your personality so work on yourself

desreek9:
This is easy bro, have a lot of female friends, dont try to woo any of them, trust me one or two will be attracted to you before you know it, start from there

mhisbliss:
what I don't understand is why you had to qoute me to air your views! I'm not the op and it looked like you're referring to me

donstan18:
I have an advice, but it's a really bad and immoral idea that might help.

I'm trying to help, don't get it wrong.


Meet a prostitute, narrate this story to her and tell her to help.

She can savage your situation.