Troubledmind:
Hi nairalanders, I'm pete(pseudonym), I'm 22, and a virgin, I come from an average family, I won't say I'm too handsome but I'm averagely good looking, they was a phase in my life where I was hyperactive and always drawn to the opposite sex that mere looking at a pic I get erection, this made me chased a lot of girls with different tactics( sweet mouth, dressing, money) they all rejected me despite my looks and money, I resort to porn but find it disgusting, I switched to masturbat,ion it didn't work infact nothing is enjoyable about it and sex workers are a no no for me,

after trying desperately for years to get a real girlfriend for the first time in my life I gave up on searching, I kept loosing intrest in girls, now I never get sexually aroused anymore, even when I see naked women physically or we get locked in a room I will feel nothing, the only erection I get now is the early morning erection, I'm not gay but I am really starting to get worried

Lalasticlal.a please help a brother

At 22 u shld be more concerned abt making sth out of ur life and not weather girl turn u on or not

Troubledmind:
Hi nairalanders, I'm pete(pseudonym), I'm 22, and a virgin, I come from an average family, I won't say I'm too handsome but I'm averagely good looking, they was a phase in my life where I was hyperactive and always drawn to the opposite sex that mere looking at a pic I get erection, this made me chased a lot of girls with different tactics( sweet mouth, dressing, money) they all rejected me despite my looks and money, I resort to porn but find it disgusting, I switched to masturbat,ion it didn't work infact nothing is enjoyable about it and sex workers are a no no for me,

after trying desperately for years to get a real girlfriend for the first time in my life I gave up on searching, I kept loosing intrest in girls, now I never get sexually aroused anymore, even when I see naked women physically or we get locked in a room I will feel nothing, the only erection I get now is the early morning erection, I'm not gay but I am really starting to get worried

Lalasticlal.a please help a brother

you are not OK, you are gay

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Abeg i nor fit shout you be gay simple as ABC

OP I understand your case. It is normal but a very dangerous phase in life. You are pretty young and at this age you can be prone to divert your sexual orientation. You have sexual assuages that are not met. You need some loving but you cannot commit yourself to a relationship. You have an ego and that makes you picky with girls. You have a moral standing (perhaps) that controls your conscience.

Trust me, it is difficult to explain your situation to anyone because the majority will not understand. They will callously tell you that it is normal and that is it. You need more than that. What you really need is a guide. At his stage, you will not find the correct answers with anyone simply dismissing your case. If you can commit yourself with someone who can be there for you to fill the void in your life, you will feel better.

We all say that we are not gays but the fact is that there are times when you feel inclined to fall on a guy not because you are gay but because mentally he fills a space that no one else does. If you are on the flamboyant side for real (good looking), the few persons that might sound close to anything tangible around you might be seeking to use you to assuage their own cravings. Your case is the reason why many people turn gays. Not that they were born gays but they find completion in things that are material and not for the soul.

I was in your situation and about 80% of the things you wrote was my life. I was the last in the family and the attention started to disappear as I grew up. It all started with the things that you consume mentally and the people that you have around you. As it stands, you do not have a real friend. You are probably left to yourself after the show ends. You are pretty shy to open up and it is sometimes good because people are too busy with their own problems and they will make a mockery of your situation.

A good thing that you open up now because this is one of the the reasons why people turn Psychopaths and get homicidal later in their years when mid life crisis takes the stage. Marriage does not solve a case like this and neither do girls. That is something people do not know.

Firstly, what you need is you, Peter. You need to understand that you need yourself before anyone else in this world. You need to know that you are normal. You need to know that you need to stay alive. You need to know that your life and world is worth exploring. Your mind is larger than the normal minds and that is the space that you need to fill. You must understand that your body craves for something that money cannot buy. It is a powerful machine working actively yet it is so fragile. Look out!

Secondly, as people grow in body mass, naturally they change their wardrobes. It is time for you to shake up your circle of friends. Friends and same old cycle must go. You need a fresh breath (environment, habit and people). Your addiction to porn must end. You must fight to stay clean and healthy. Standing against red light angels (hoes) means that you still have some moral standing. Clean up your circle of friends and start anew. Take a trip if you can. Learn a new skill. Write a book about what you are going through. Reach out to sufferers like you and learn more about this.

Nigerians neglect mental or psychological struggles. We do not believe in it so the average mind will trash your cash. So, reach out to like sufferers and learn of their struggles and success. Pursue your dream and pursue it hard. You need mental development and you need to stay humble.

Girls do not fall for you because you have very low self esteem and confidence and that projects your effort negatively. They do not see you as a good partner. Trust me, girls need protection and you do not have it. They will collect your money and move. You might have a good pick up line but you do not have anything in you to make a conversation linger. You need GROWTH in all ramifications.

Sex is not what you need. Nigerians commenting here are so dull. All they know is sex sex sex. It sucks!

What do you have a passion for?

Gamusgamus:
you are not OK, you are gay

na gay day know gay. you be gay?

Diso60090:
Abeg i nor fit shout you be gay simple as ABC

you need to shout for your brain to work well. why you go call am gay? na so your parents train you?

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jaychubi:


At 22 u shld be more concerned abt making sth out of ur life and not weather girl turn u on or not

22 is a good age to worry about anything. he is an adult and he is normal to be worried. is only in Nigeria that people create such ideology. 22 in many countries are married with kids. is it because our government bad? what stops 22 from thinking about girls when his hormones are ripe for it?

Troubledmind:
Hi nairalanders, I'm pete(pseudonym), I'm 22, and a virgin, I come from an average family, I won't say I'm too handsome but I'm averagely good looking, they was a phase in my life where I was hyperactive .....

Troubledmind:
I shiver,
My legs wobble,
Shortness of breath,
Trembling voice,
Elevated heartbeat,
Anxiety and restlessness,
I need help, I am 25 and never had a girlfriend nor have I had sex

Previously, you were 25 years old. Now you are 22 years old.

Fake story!!!!! Some folks are writing epistle to advise a fake story teller.

kolawoleibukun:
you need to shout for your brain to work well. why you go call am gay? na so your parents train you?

Second gay sight

So far as you do have morning errection then you are ok.Your problem is psychological depression.Sex starts from the mind to brain to hormone.Your brain has relegated romance

kolawoleibukun:
22 is a good age to worry about anything. he is an adult and he is normal to be worried. is only in Nigeria that people create such ideology. 22 in many countries are married with kids. is it because our government bad? what stops 22 from thinking about girls when his hormones are ripe for it?

It shld not be a priority

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RadicallyBlunt:
Simple thing. Just stop work or school for 2 weeks, dont visit friends. Just remain indoor. When you dey idle with unoccupied mind, na that time you go know whether ur case need spiritual consultation or not.

it all depends on your temperament and hormonal state.

OP don't worry. You're just disappointed or depressed. It's a phase which will pass.

Get a sex doll from Aba, e go turn ur light on

jaychubi:


It shld not be a priority

he never said it was his priority but a worry to him. when someone has a worry we must not dismiss it. these all leads to frustration and psychopathy

Diso60090:

Second gay sight

who cares? if I were gay, so what? what can you do? it is my life and my body and none of your business. someone is talking his problems and the best thing to do is call him gay. very shallow minds. Illiterates who are priviledged to handle a mobile phone.

jmoore:

Previously, you were 25 years old. Now you are 22 years old.
Fake story!!!!! Some folks are writing epistle to advise a fake story teller.

hehe hehe

Espada10:
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kolawoleibukun:
who cares? if I were gay, so what? what can you do? it is my life and my body and none of your business. someone is talking his problems and the best thing to do is call him gay. very shallow minds. Illiterates who are priviledged to handle a mobile phone.

Please look else where there are many gays at there

Yes, you're ok, its psychological... Its in the mind.

Troubledmind:
Hi nairalanders, I'm pete(pseudonym), I'm 22, and a virgin, I come from an average family, I won't say I'm too handsome but I'm averagely good looking, they was a phase in my life where I was hyperactive and always drawn to the opposite sex that mere looking at a pic I get erection, this made me chased a lot of girls with different tactics( sweet mouth, dressing, money) they all rejected me despite my looks and money, I resort to porn but find it disgusting, I switched to masturbat,ion it didn't work infact nothing is enjoyable about it and sex workers are a no no for me,

after trying desperately for years to get a real girlfriend for the first time in my life I gave up on searching, I kept loosing intrest in girls, now I never get sexually aroused anymore, even when I see naked women physically or we get locked in a room I will feel nothing, the only erection I get now is the early morning erection, I'm not gay but I am really starting to get worried

Lalasticlal.a please help a brother

u don spoil ur prick with masturbation na. The lord is ur strength.

I dont get aroused easily even if i'm in d same room wit an unclad lady .. i go to stripper clubs very well and unclad ladies give me lap dance but i dont get aroused. unless she meets my requirements and we are alone in a room then i will b aroused.. i think you are normal .. if u meet ur spec u will b aroused ..

Its in your mind. The fact that you once had something for gals is key. Your hormones are not the problem I believe. Its a state of depression arising from repeated rejection by the opposite sex like you revealed.

Speak with a Clinical Psychologist ASAP

My nigger am in the same shoes like you right now,but you know what stop chasing after them and be you.sometimes in life the more you chase after things the more ut will continue to elude you.Just tell yourself you are normal,live and enjoy life like it comes.Any girl that deserves you will surely show great interest or possibly come for you.Or if you wish to continue chasing them read the book THE ART OF SEDUCTION by ROBERT GREENE.it might help.Remember bro you are not alone in this,am in the same situation like you are.

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CONGRATS DUDE! YOU JUST GOT CURED... Go and sin no more.

your condition is what I've been praying for coz I'm a hypocrite.

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mhisbliss:
there you go with the wrong stereotype again, (girls are drawn to money) you're right about focusing on his hustle but wrong about the money thing, any girl that is after your money is not different from a prostitue so don't generalize, his problem is not the fact that girls aint throwing themselves at him, his fear is the fact that he's loosing his sex drive, not getting attracted to girls is a big problem, he might be transcending into homosexuality, my advice to you is try to know why those girls rejected you, you can befriend them and get acquainted to the point that they're comfortable talking to you, they'll tell you one way or the other why they rejected your advances, if you're lucky, they'll have similar reasons, looks and money isn't all you need to woo a girl I feel it has something to do with your personality so work on yourself

you are quite incorrect on many counts. But i will just highlight one. You are wrong to insinuate that its only prostitutes that are attracted to wealth and other forms of material success. Virtually all ladies are. Even you are attracted to more successful people and you would rather see love in the eyes of a rich, responsible man than a poor responsible one. Its human nature. So he was right to tell the young man to focus on material success and he can have any lady of his choice. Even you. Any other assertion here after is just plain hypocrisy