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Letzdothething:
why do you stress yourself. it's obvious the person behind the moniker seeks attention and online quarrel or something.

donsimo:
I should even ignore the girl.

Letzdothething:
To date girls these days is like hard labour especially when you are trying to put your life together as a bachelor.

The major problem I have with a crush now is that she is broke, the second time we met she told me she had no transport on her. Am now wondering for how long will I be doing this kind of thing. As in am trying to put myself together and sometimes giving out as little as 5k to a girl would seem like heaven wants to fall.

The relationship just got started and am feeling discouraged already even though she's very pretty and I like her much I don't want t start what I can't finish.

Guys please how do you cope with demanding and broke girls?

Amakavula:
hide your face?

Amakavula:
hide your face?

efesodje:
I for attack you now, but see you are pretty. You get luck

Jupxter:
I learnt it late, it busted in my face, i should have started training much earlier, the more exposure we get, the better we become, guys date more early, and learn how to manage a woman, the earlier the better

Letzdothething:
bro, as in I will be back from work and stressed and just want to video call my crush and booom my mb is low is the next thing I'll see from her.
And I'll now be having another head ache just to get mb for someone.
Emotionally it's too demanding. You get to spend every time you meet. How do people cope is beyond imagining.

alexialin:
Op the best you can help yourself with is this : stop dating for now and focus on building your financial reserve. Have self control on your feelings and emotions. Cut your girlfriend loose. You don't need her for now.
Just forget about love affairs. Focus on platonic relationships. Then later when u are strong money wise, u can then focus on having a meaningful relationship that will lead to marriage.

That's my two cents.

mgtow:
Don't fvck small small girls in your area learn to keep your business private. Besides they can't take care of themselves so could very easily accidentally get pregnant and she could be so stewpid to point a finger at you. Who is going to believe your cries that you always used protection?

Pay as you go, is the way to go.

My biggest problem with women is their hypergamous nature and as such, I never go above and beyond for anyone. If pursuing a babe is going to stress me unduly financially, emotionally and pschologically, I cut my losses and run. Nigerian guys need to be better at doing a cost benefit analysis when it comes to women. If the cost of the undertaking is worth more than whatever benefit you feel might accrue to you, then it is not worth it. Most of the time what is the man's benefit? To thrust back and forth between the thighs of a woman before spilling forth seed. Some men pass through hoops and unspeakable ordeals (to the detriment of their own dignity and self respect) to achieve this aim which begs the question: Is it really worth it?

TIPS:

1. Never go for a girl if she shows zero interest in you. Go for the ones who "innocently and unassumingly" orbit around you. She messages you randomly, compliments you, calls you to just say hi, etc. We all have admirers but most guys are blind to green light or as I have come to discover lately, they don't even bother to decode the subtle signals that these ladies are passing because like me, they have decided that it's really not worth the stress.

2. If she calls you 3 to 4 times, make sure you only call her once or twice.

3. Never be the first one to say I love you. It makes you appear needy and clingy. If she says it reply. If she doesn't, don't bring it up.

4. If a woman tries to use her pvssy to exert some form of control over you, disqualify her immediately. For instance if she says "Hmm if you don't buy me that Peruvian hair I asked for you're not touching me tonight. You'll never get a piece of this." Reply with: "Who wants to touch a ugly baboon like you? Keep dreaming, mumu!" Always let her know she can't control or manipulate you by dangling her pvssy in front of you like a carrot. Invalidate her and put her in place. Wreck her self esteem. They know deep down that they are all hoes, and in their quiet moments they feel bad about it. Use this knowledge to your advantage..

5. If you are in a relationship and you notice her slipping away or changing in front of you, resist your impulses to MAN UP. What do I mean by manning up? Don't start giving her more attention or start calling her more or showering her with gifts, you will lose her faster because she is already on her way out and will see you as a beta male who can't get something better if or when she leaves. If you notice her slipping away - DO NOTHING. Act like you don't even notice. Preferably, stop making any effort altogether. JUST STOP. Assume a siddon-look disposition and she will think twice before leaving you. If she does, good riddance. What you are doing is valuing and respecting yourself above all else.



The media has brainwashed men in thinking they need to jump through hoops or pass through the jaws of the tiger to win the affection of a lady you love. The result of this is an overabundance of supplicating men and a bunch of females with an over-exaggerated and over-inflated sense of worth. Refuse to be part of the crowd. Stand up tall and proud, which is what a real man should be. You will discover that the women that want to be in your life will jump through hoops and do whatever it takes to be in your life. I'm speaking from experience.

I took the time to write this because the dating game is stacked against men and most times we end up the losers, holding the short end of the stick. However this phenomenon is not new. The dissatisfaction has spread from Asia down to the West, as more and more men are feeling more alienated and deciding altogether that relationships and marriage aren't worth it any more. And how can it be worth it? Over there the woman you have married and invested in can destroy your life on a whim by taking away almost everything you have ever worked for. The white girls aren't any better guys. No where is safe. In the near future women will begin to complain about a real scarcity of men and it will be obvious for all to see, especially as they grow older and options begin to dwindle. Shebi wen you don flash green light tire and nobody gree respond you go dey run go shiloh? Contunu!

The major problems of woman have always been their unrealistic expectations. Nothing is ever enough. Once you realize this you won't even stress yourself no more. Life is eazi mehn!

Jayk1:
for the first time... u made sense

efesodje:
That's a good decision. Enjoy your single life for now while you look to increase your career/work focus. Believe me the ladies will come once they see you are successful. They love ready made things

Stay woke bro