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MissWrite:
I don't believe that all men are promiscuous. But those who are promiscuous are naturally so. I also don't believe that all women are not promiscuous. And those who are promiscuous are naturally so. And if promiscuity were a crime, then people would have to exercise self discipline to regulate their actions. Every human being (of sound mind) has the ability to refrain from action; it's on this premise that laws are even possible. We have the ability to suppress our urges. The fact that you're hungry does not justify stealing food from someone else. The fact that you're aroused by a girl does not justify raping her. And if an angry belly or blue balls would keep us out of jail, we do it.

But promiscuity is not a crime because there are no victims (or are there? If a broken heart counts ). It's simply a vice. Only with women though. So promiscuous women are inclined to discipline themselves, while promiscuous men do not bother. Instead, they point to their DNA - the same markers that should absolve promiscuous women. The point is, that discipline is possible. And even if there's no penalty to scare you into behaving, the love and respect you have for your spouse (or whatever is holy in your book) should make you want to discipline yourself. But naturally, human beings respond more effectively to the stick.

Sorry. This has now become a conversation about promiscuity instead of homosexuality, as per OP. Anyway, there are parallels: people who are naturally gay are compelled to deny their urges because, unlike promiscuity, homosexuality is a crime here. But, like with promiscuity, there are no victims (or are there? If someone's upset stomach counts . They still have the option of minding their business though)






Yes. I said earlier, "the more popular mix..." . This implies that there is a comparison between two items. And then I said, "for a heterosexual man". Which do you think is more popular amongst straight guys, doing it with two girls or a guy and a girl?








Okay, I'll try to give you a more comprehensive list...
1. Football players
2. Basket ball players
3. Hockey players
4. In fact, any team sport
5. Or team sport supporter
6. Or a team sport coach
7. Indians
8. Guys who have been through an ordeal together
9. Guys who haven't seen each other in ages
10. Guys who have been saved by their co-worker from getting fired
11. .............I'm tired.

MissWrite:
It's the hypocrisy of patriarchal culture again; and this view (that women are naturally inclined to be lesbians) is just as skewed as believing men are biological inclined to be promiscuous while women are monogamous in nature. Society hangs women for promiscuity but not the men; it's really no wonder that men have no desire (and therefore no muscle) to discipline themselves.

Most men get turned on by watching two women kiss, or perform sexual acts on one another. The more popular mix for a heterosexual man's 3-some is two women and one man (and not two men and one woman). In the end, even though they're only catering to the man's needs, those women are going to be lesbians for one night. And it's okay in that context: it's a 3-some, and no one would think of chanting "14years". Even if the Special Anti-Homosexual Squad arrived at the crime scene, the presence of the man would amount to an "extenuating circumstance".

It's clear that men aren't disgusted by lesbianism. And since society (men, patriarchy) condones lesbianism and not ma-man gay sex, it's become bolder in public spaces (the same way that male promiscuity has become bold) . And now they want to say that all women are biologically disposed to be gay? I don't think so. There are gay women and straight women; just like there are gay men and straight men. And there are men who are promiscuous and men who are not; just like there are women who are promiscuous and women who are not.

By the way, that thing in the picture doesn't show lesbian activity; a kiss on the cheek That's just being affectionate; it's nothing sexual. Don't get it confused just because you're growing over it. Have you not seen football players plant aggressive kisses on a team mates cheek while celebrating a goal? Or slap each other's butts? Do you want to call that homosexual activity?

aribitoye:
You are a very intelligent writer. I like you

IamLEGEND1:
A bro has neither the permission nor the right to display any sort of emotion when he is with another bro.
In the event that a bro takes an action that pleases another bro deeply, they simply share a quick look & nod at each other like a couple of douche bags.
it's either that or a first bump. So there you have it- the full range of emotions allowed to be shared between two bros.

Any bro who is comfortable crying in front of his bros or giving his bros kisses on the cheek is considered an anomaly & is removed from the circle of bros and the friendship terminated with extreme prejudice.
And before you say anything about society influencing this unspoken rule of brotherhood, know that this is one of those instances where nature wins over nurture.
We were not made to be so by external forces, we were born this way.

ricktnum:
you are sick. Bigot

pocohantas:
Miss Write stop wasting your time, they are never going to get it.
I've heard this all women have traits of lesbianism severally, and I always look at people who say such as stupid...no offence. It's like saying all men are promiscuous...

One even said there are few cases of bisexual men, that's where I gave up... If only they know how many women are married to gay men. Those men bursting young boys bum in Nigeria,are they not someone's husband?


Naso them talk say all women have traits of being masochist too.
Dumb stereotypes...!!!

MissWrite:
Lol! I hear you, Poco. Sometimes I just wonder where all this is coming from though. Wishful thinking or do they just want to bash women again? To assume that a group of women would activate lesbo-mode after a few shots of alcohol.......sounds like a scene playing out in a hopeful boy's head, no? Reality isn't always kind to dreamers.

Generalizations aside, why would anyone want to insist that I was a lesbian (or have the tendency to be one) after I have told them otherwise? Why can't it be accepted that I would know myself, in the very least?

You're so right: most of them aren't alive to the prevalence of homosexual men hiding away in heterosexual relationships. And because they're ignorant of it, they don't understand the role social bias plays in perpetuating this kind of dishonesty which has ended up trapping so many women in very awkward situations.

all women.......masochist? Some of them are only looking for grooves in which to anchor their sadism without a guilty conscience.

Martin0:
i admire the way u talk here.

do u care for beer (alcohol)

MissWrite:
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You mean generally? Yeah, it's okay. Especially on Fridays or Saturdays.

MissWrite:
Yes. I think that I might defer to this.

In any case, those two statements (in that post you quoted) can't both be true, can they? It wasn't thought out. Maybe everyone is biologically built for promiscuity to begin with; but the expression of it is regulated by morality? I'm contemplating this because we all have the ability to be sexually attracted to an unlimited number of partners. The brain and sexual organs don't become unresponsive to the next person after being mated with one partner, so the decision to be monogamous is not a reflection of our biology; it's rather a reflection of our morality and cultural values. So this makes the expression or suppression of promiscuity a conscious choice. There are lower animals that mate for life, though (beavers, swans, etc....if that concept hasn't been disproven); I don't think they are regulated by morality. Maybe there is something distinct that happens while they mate which discourages the possibility of a future pairing with a different mate? Like the studies with oxytocin and its effect on sexual fidelity? What do you think?

MissWrite:
Lol! I hear you, Poco. Sometimes I just wonder where all this is coming from though. Wishful thinking or do they just want to bash women again? To assume that a group of women would activate lesbo-mode after a few shots of alcohol.......sounds like a scene playing out in a hopeful boy's head, no? Reality isn't always kind to dreamers.

Generalizations aside, why would anyone want to insist that I was a lesbian (or have the tendency to be one) after I have told them otherwise? Why can't it be accepted that I would know myself, in the very least?

You're so right: most of them aren't awake to the prevalence of homosexual men hiding away in heterosexual relationships. And because they're ignorant of it, they don't understand the role social bias plays in perpetuating this kind of dishonesty which has ended up trapping so many women in very awkward situations.

all women.......masochist? Some of them are only looking for grooves in which to anchor their sadism without a guilty conscience.

pocohantas:
That's why I told you not to stress yourself. I have read that "alcohol shot" theory here before, it sounds same way it sounded first time I read it. I would suddenly adopt a different sexual preference because I am drunk?

They know so much about women. When they meet that one woman who doesn't conform with their stereotyped views...they start crying that women are confused. They won't take their L and accept that women, just like humans... are different in their unique ways.

Yea, it was here I read it too. Women love very rough sex...
Chain us to the bed and demolish down there, we love it

Lots of homosexuals around, the society is just less tolerant of them. So, they're more clandestine.

MissWrite:
It's the hypocrisy of patriarchal culture again; and this view (that women are naturally inclined to be lesbians) is just as skewed as believing men are biological inclined to be promiscuous while women are monogamous in nature. Society hangs women for promiscuity but not the men; it's really no wonder that men have no desire (and therefore no muscle) to discipline themselves.

Most men get turned on by watching two women kiss, or perform sexual acts on one another. The more popular mix for a heterosexual man's 3-some is two women and one man (and not two men and one woman). In the end, even though they're only catering to the man's needs, those women are going to be lesbians for one night. And it's okay in that context: it's a 3-some, and no one would think of chanting "14years". Even if the Special Anti-Homosexual Squad arrived at the crime scene, the presence of the man would amount to an "extenuating circumstance".

It's clear that men aren't disgusted by lesbianism. And since society (men, patriarchy) condones lesbianism and not ma-man gay sex, it's become bolder in public spaces (the same way that male promiscuity has become bold) . And now they want to say that all women are biologically disposed to be gay? I don't think so. There are gay women and straight women; just like there are gay men and straight men. And there are men who are promiscuous and men who are not; just like there are women who are promiscuous and women who are not.

By the way, that thing in the picture doesn't show lesbian activity; a kiss on the cheek That's just being affectionate; it's nothing sexual. Don't get it confused just because you're growing over it. Have you not seen football players plant aggressive kisses on a team mates cheek while celebrating a goal? Or slap each other's butts? Do you want to call that homosexual activity?

oyb:
Actually, Nigerians are intolerant of lesbianism outside of how it is portrayed in adult entertainment with hot, young nubile women, who will get themselves and men off. Show them fat middle aged women getting it on, and the torches will come out.