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RuthDaniels:
Op she is crazy! ,She's an ingrate, She is wicked too.

Relationship aside, the least any sensible being can do to someone who helped him or her is to show gratitude. A heart felt thank you and a little gesture. It's not a sign of weakness or desperation, it is to show how much you appreciate the kindness shown to you.

The lady did wrong! Doing chores for someone you are dating is a sign to show you care about the person's well being. She is definitely not in love and does not give a flying fvck about him but his pocket. Your friend is yet to find a lover/wife.

Feminism has nothing to do with this!

Thank you my dear.

But the truth is that feminism has something to do with it.

Some of you good girls might be thinking that there are some good to be associated with feminism, but as Trump calls it, "it is going to far".

Just like misogyny is male supremacy which is destructive extremism, same way is feminism female supremacy, another destructive extreme

Chikita66:
I don't see anything wrong in washing or cooking for my guy, I don't even let the guy ask me, I just go there take the dirty clothes and wash, cook if there is no food. I cant call myself a woman and come visiting my man, everywhere scattered and untidy, I just leave it and I love neatness, If you love someone sincerely, you care for the wellbeing of the person.

Little things matters, be forming feminist, another lady will do it for him and tomorrow you come here and cry wolf.

I love you. More than too much. You are the real deal, as God created you. Keep it up joor.

In this recession most Nigerian men has still not given up their manly duty of providing and protecting. Won't it be unfaithful for us to come here and support women not to take care of the home? What we dearly love them for?

Once again, thank you and keep it up

AgricSalt:
I love you. More than too much. You are the real deal, as God created you. Keep it up joor.

In this recession most Nigerian men has still not given up their manly duty of providing and protecting. Won't it be unfaithful for us to come here and support women not to take care of the home? What we dearly love them for?

Once again, thank you and keep it up

Thanks dear.

sweetetlove:
What brought feminism into this

This is not Feminism na! This is just Chop & Clean mouth.

Chikita66:
I don't see anything wrong in washing or cooking for my guy, I don't even let the guy ask me, I just go there take the dirty clothes and wash, cook if there is no food. I cant call myself a woman and come visiting my man, everywhere scattered and untidy, I just leave it and I love neatness, If you love someone sincerely, you care for the wellbeing of the person.

Little things matters, be forming feminist, another lady will do it for him and tomorrow you come here and cry wolf.

Obviously because the Guy isn't your MAGA. Not in this Case. It's clearly a case of Magarism. so could have done it too, If you don't like a Guy but you need money. 90% of ladies have done this, nothing special.

kimbraa:
But it's her duty to demand for hair money and expect the guy to give her ungrudgingly. Na wa for una!.

Thank you. She has also been calling for 5 days. She expects a love seeking bachelor to continue to harbour her useless bag of flesh and bones.

AgricSalt:
Thank you my dear.

But the truth is that feminism has something to do with it.


Some of you good girls might be thinking that there are some good to be associated with feminism, but as Trump calls it, "it is going to far".

Just like misogyny is male supremacy which is destructive extremism, same way is feminism female supremacy, another destructive extreme

What has feminism got to do with this?

donstan18:
What has feminism got to do with this?

The girl said "she is not going to wash for any man".

If you are sincere, you will agree her words were shaped by the usual internet feminism

AgricSalt:
The girl said "she is not going to wash for any man".

If you are sincere, you will agree her words were shaped by the usual internet feminism

Lol, did you say "Usual internet feminism"?

Those people you see on internet pushing feminism are nothing but frustrated feminist wannabes

I don't think that lady is a feminist, because real smart and intelligent feminists don't depend on men financially, but the lady did by asking for money for her needs, all I see is a lady who doesn't love a guy, a lady who isn't ready to go against her claimed principle for her partner.

ardiva:
It's not her duty to demand for money, neither is he obligated to give her. It's not her duty to wash his clothes neither is she obligated to do so. None of these defines a relationship, what I see here is influenced by culture and the society at large but has nothing to do with feminism. There are lots of women out there who are independent and work for there money, most Nigerian men are intimidated by them , they need a woman the can command at will.

Show us statistical evidence of your statements or keep quiet. That you have a bad and ugly attitude and men run away from you is not a reason to believe that men are intimidated my working class women.

We were all humans first before pride, selfishness and silly ego sets in.

C'mon guys, there's no big deal helping a friend or whether you called it boyfriend to wash his clothes. I mean, it's a height of selfishness--wickedness!--for a girl to refuse such help but wastes no time in asking for huge sums for hair, nails etc.

Hello! This money you're asking for, izzi your entitlement, paycheck or...? Oh, it's not your duty to wash clothes but certainly, na to ask for money? You sure sey you dey normal?

Well, left for me, I don't even give a flying f*ck about you. I can wash my clothes and do all of my house chores. And when I can't, I know where to get help.

However, one thing is certain. I don't keep liabilities. And when one raises its ugly head, I quickly send it to the trash can!

ardiva:
No one is supporting nonsense, yall should direct your answers to the op and quit mentioning me. The said guy spent about 60k in two days, how much does a washing machine cost? You can get a used one in a very good condition for 40k and save yourself the stress. This is me and this is who I am, I don't need a man who will turn me to his cook or maid, I'm financially independent so I don't need a man for his money. Let the relationship be what it is, a relationship! Don't ask me to do chores!!! I do it if I want to and when I want to. I have a busy schedule too and I contribute my time to a relationship. I have far more better things to offer than sex. If we are married then it's different, why would you act like a wife when you are not! Most men aren't even worth the stress, you work your ass out to keep a relationship while he bangs a hooker after work . No wonder a lot of you ladies have no pride and dignity, please quit mentioning me, I responded to the op, yall should direct your answers to him.

This girl is obviously in pain. The misery of heartbreak is written all over her comments..

Abeg na who do this girl strong thing.

AgricSalt:
The girl said "she is not going to wash for any man".

If you are sincere, you will agree her words were shaped by the usual internet feminism

Dude I'm a guy and any girl that washes clothes for a guy is an idiot to me.

If you can give a girl 30k for hair and you don't have washing machine, then there's something seriously wrong with you.

makydebbie:
See how you just avoided or will I say failed to see when the guy pleaded with the lady to help him. You also deliberately ignored the fact that she's totally dependent on the guy.

Are you a feminist?

How can she be totally dependent on him in only three weeks time, and what does feminism have to do with this scenario?

AZeD1:
Dude I'm a guy and any girl that washes clothes for a guy is an idiot to me.

If you can give a girl 30k for hair and you don't have washing machine, then there's something seriously wrong with you.

Any girlfriend that does that willingly isn't an idiot, but any girlfriend that sees that as an obligation is mistaken

khiaa:
How can she be totally dependent on him in only three weeks time, and what does feminism have to do with this scenario?

The word "Feminism" is now a shield to hide under

kimbraa:
I don't know the big deal in washing a few clothes if you actually love the person who happen to have a busy schedule but you can demand for money for hair-do?

Why do people throw the word love around so loosely? Love takes time and it doesn't happen in three weeks.
I think that It was ridiculous for her to ask him for money so soon, the relationship hadn't been established yet, that should have been a red flag for him.

It was his decision to give her the money, he could have said no, just like It was her decision to tell him no.

donstan18:
The word "Feminism" is now a shield to hide under

I agree, some clearly don't understand the meaning of the word.

[quote author=ardiva post=64783891]No one is supporting nonsense, yall should direct your answers to the op and quit mentioning me. The said guy spent about 60k in two days, how much does a washing machine cost? You can get a used one in a very good condition for 40k and save yourself the stress. This is me and this is who I am, I don't need a man who will turn me to his cook or maid, I'm financially independent so I don't need a man for his money. Let the relationship be what it is, a relationship! Don't ask me to do chores!!! I do it if I want to and when I want to. I have a busy schedule too and I contribute my time to a relationship. I have far more better things to offer than sex. If we are married then it's different, why would you act like a wife when you are not! Most men aren't even worth the stress, you work your ass out to keep a relationship while he bangs a hooker after work. No wonder a lot of you ladies have no pride and dignity, please quit mentioning me, I responded to the op, yall should direct your answers to him. [/quote

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stuffs4me:
See who's talking. The hypocrisy in your blood stinks.. How many American ladies ask their boyfriend for money to make hair, and transport fare, etc

Relationship is a two way traffic but most Nigerian ladies are parasites who contribute nothing. They are completely selfish and self centered. They behave like Africans when they want to collect money from you but quickly and shamelessly become Americans when its time to do their boyfriend little favours.

AgricSalt:
The girl was claiming it wasn't her duty. What do you think was guiding her selfish mindset if not feminism?

Besides feminism blinded her kindness, if she had any. Well, she lost

It has nothing to do with feminism, the lady just doesn't care for him.

AgricSalt:
The girl said "she is not going to wash for any man".

If you are sincere, you will agree her words were shaped by the usual internet feminism

Those things are to be taken care of by a wife for her husband.

I would do it for someone who I have a bond with but not a three week relationship.

khiaa:
I agree, some clearly don't understand the meaning of the word.

Blame not them, all blames to ladies who pushes the motion wrongly due to the lack of understanding of what it's all about, hence prompting some men to condemn and tag "Feminism" to any wrongs by women.

donstan18:
Lol, did you say "Usual internet feminism"?

Those people you see on internet pushing feminism are nothing but frustrated feminist wannabes

I don't think that lady is a feminist, because real smart and intelligent feminists don't depend on men financially, but the lady did by asking for money for her needs, all I see is a lady who doesn't love a guy, a lady who isn't ready to go against her claimed principle for her partner.

I agree, and I don't think she really sees him as her partner yet, remember it's only been three weeks. Relationships takes time.

donstan18:
Blame not them, all blames to ladies who pushes the motion wrongly due to the lack of understanding of what it's all about, hence prompting some men to condemn and tag "Feminism" to any wrongs by women.

I was including some women in my statement as well.

khiaa:
I was including some women in my statement as well.

Yea, you did.

khiaa:
I agree, and I don't think she really sees him as her partner yet, remember it's only been three weeks. Relationships takes time.

I think she does, but yet to grow love for him.

Three weeks, you said, but she had to start demanding

donstan18:
I think she does, but yet to grow love for him.

Three weeks, you said, but she had to start demanding

Was she asking or demanding? Actually that should have been a red flag for him. Really!! who does that, I could understand if it was an emergency, but for hair and car fare, pleeeease!!!

khiaa:
Was she asking or demanding? Actually that should have been a red flag for him. Really, who does that, I could understand if it was an emergency, but for hair and car fare, pleeeease!!!

I understand you,

But succinctly, what's your say on this issue?

Who's to be blamed?

donstan18:
Any girlfriend that does that willingly isn't an idiot, but any girlfriend that sees that as an obligation is mistaken

Guy washing clothes is hard oh.

AZeD1:
Guy washing clothes is hard oh.

For some, not all.
Washing machine can help, you know

donstan18:
I understand you,

But succinctly, what's your say on this issue?

Who's to be blamed?

I'm not placing blame on anyone but, this is a very young ''relationship", a time when a couple should be having fun getting to know each other not being a burden.

I don't know but maybe the description of a relationship is different here than it is in Nigeria.