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Guy didn't play it well. He should have warmed his way to the girl before popping the question. If he'd played his cards well and waited a lil longer after the surgery for the girl to realise what he did for her and trip, she'd have said yes. He just gave her his kidney and proposed to her. That's like blackmail.
She obviously said no cos she didn't want the guy to think she was obliged to do anything for him cos of his kidney.

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Thank God the world does not run by our standards. Just look at the replies. Nigerians cannot gove to church in tithing, They cannot give to their communities in decent behaviour. And they donot understand what organ DONATION means. To us it must all have a personal benefit or our church can collapse, our society can be reduced to a game reserve and sick people can die for all they like.

And we expect to lve in a better society that this. Talk of expecting lemonade from hibiscus leaves.

He is not a Nigerian.

Simon then decided to pop the question to Mary and asked her to marry him, but he felt disappointed as he never expected to get the response he got on that night.

If a man had done this, some women would have wished him dead already.

She shouldn't forget that one day her body could reject the kidney. Would she come for another from the man? Mostly kidney transplant persons live between 10 to 15 years while some longer or shorter

Chikita66:
If you like give her your life, if she is someone like me that don't want you and will never change her mind about wanting you, she still will reject you. Sorry bro, next time don't gamble with such things. Calculate your risks well.

Abeg can you keep your head steady for a minute, I want to head butt you.

HajimeSaito:
Let me school you a bit on this.

"Love" does not even enter into the equation here.

If he was so confident about his "love" then why did he wait until after donating his kidney before declaring it to her? It's so obvious that this idiot of a man gambled with his kidney. He thought that by giving her his kidney he could hold it over her as a form of emotional blackmail to pressure her into marriage.

As for you saying that I could never do such a thing, you're absolutely right. I would never use my kidney as a bargaining tool. A girl must give me her heart before I part with something as valuable as my kidney.

U know nothing about sacrifice much less love! So keep ya diatribes to yasef!
A girl(a hoe actually) saved my life(u don't need d details)...she was gentle n caring n a far cry from what I knew of hoes! I would have married her in a heartbeat even if she was alive n proposed to me..but she passed on sadly! Her saving my life was key to making me even like her a little....

Ur second paragraph sounds reasonable enough but then only a woman truly knows who has her heart..ain't dat cute?

HajimeSaito:
So she just HAS to marry him because he donated a kidney

Yes!! She ABSOLUTELY has to marry him. If you are a Christian, you'll understand that when someone can lay down his life for another, that's unconditional love and must be reciprocated. You must love the person back. Jesus laid down His life for us because he loved us and without Him we would be dead. Who are we not to love him?

maasoap:
For you, it doesn't. For him, it does. I don't blame the girl, I blame the man for not using what he had to get what he wanted since he wanted it that badly.

That is exactly my point. If the guy had used his head, he wouldn't be in such a predicament. In the end he ended up as a capital LOSER. He lost a perfectly good kidney and he lost the dream "marriage" that he was stupidly anticipating. A two time loser. People that stupid shouldn't be allowed to have babies.

The guy has been friend-zoned since time immemorial.

kimbraa:
I don't understand people. Is she meant to compensate him with marriage if she doesn't see a future with him now simply because he gave her his kidney out of his own volition? Well, she said she was going to think about it, and she has every right to say "yes" or "no". The guy is matured enough sef.

Now this is the hard truth.

kimbraa:
I don't understand people. Is she meant to compensate him with marriage if she doesn't see a future with him now simply because he gave her his kidney out of his own volition? Well, she said she was going to think about it, and she has every right to say "yes" or "no". The guy is matured enough sef.

And he has every right to collect back his kidney

IamShiningStar:
nne I wonder oo! how some people think ehnn, especially my naija peeps dey baffle me oo! So you must be compensated for doing good or helping out a friend in dire need? oooh! odikwa egwu oo!

note/ they are best friends for Pete's sake! the guy helped her knowing fully she may turn down his proposal or may not. And you heard the man said he can never regret giving her life, marriage or no marriage! And some folks are here talking what I don't know!

Naija folks really have a long way to go in learning how to love for real without expecting anything in return!

The question is....
Can u do such??
Hypocrite!!!

coolestofall:
I wish more pple can emulate her. She simply said hw she felt even though she'll b forever grateful 2 him.

Oga proposer, next time u self propose b4 giving out ur remaining kidney.

see the nonsense u are posting,i will first wed and impregnant her b4 giving her my kidney

coolestofall:
I wish more pple can emulate her. She simply said hw she felt even though she'll b forever grateful 2 him.

Oga proposer, next time u self propose b4 giving out ur remaining kidney.

You think if he had proposed or offered his kidney on the condition that, she should marry him afterwards, she would have said No in that state and prefer rather to die?

Looking at her reasons, something tells me that they will get marry eventually. She didn’t allude to anything negative in rejecting the guy, unless she is not truthful in what she said.

duni04:
Guy didn't play it well. He should have warmed his way to the girl before popping the question. If he'd played his cards well and waited a lil longer after the surgery for the girl to realise what he did for her and trip, she'd have said yes. He just gave her his kidney and proposed to her. That's like blackmail.
She obviously said no cos she didn't want the guy to think she was obliged to do anything for him cos of his kidney.

Is she not obligated to him?

HungerBAD:
This one is deep.

very deep..........

He shouldn't have proposed at this stage when she's yet to fully recover.But,she said she would think about it,what is she thinking about?Over-matured adults of over 40yrs?A man who gave you one of his 2 kidneys loves you deeply and can die for you,what is she waiting for to say 'YES'.Even if she doesn't love him,she should start developing that love and it will mature as they live together.She should not "EBOUE" this man o.

Deicide:
Exactly she doesn't owe him anything! No one forced him to donate his Kidney.

Typical naija girl; greedy n heartless! Guys learn, girls don't believe in love, very materialistic n hardly gives, only takes. Collect what u want from them b4 giving/helping them else, they take u 4 a fool.
If d reverse were d case, all d ladies on dis forum will b up in arms, cursing d guys generation, but c dem now, talking trash like d mumu up here.
d guy shldnt worry, he's 49 n she 41, her biological clock is ticking faster than his, he'll move on easily, but it will b difficult for a 41yr old mama to get a husband. d only thing I don't want to hear tomorrow is that she changed her mind n d guy still went ahead to marry her

kimbraa:
What's the hypocrisy in what I said? Someone did something to save someone's life out of love, and that automatically means she should say "yes" to his proposal? Why do most of you think rendering help automatically gives you a pass to someone? SHM.

This is not an ordinary help.

Half of the guy is living and breathing within the lady. The guy would have died as a result and they were together before he denoted his kidney and the lady must have known before the donation that the guy loved her and what’s to move the relationship higher. Any lady out there knows which guy among her many friends wants them beyond friendship.

The lady would have stopped him, she didn’t because she was selfish. If a guy who is interested in you starts buying you expensive gifts or about to sacrifice their lives in other to save yours, you should stop them and tell them that, you don’t love them the way they do to you and despite their sacrifice, the relationship will not go anywhere.

Don’t wait until you have fully benefited from their live saving sacrifice to tell them No.

The girl did what I would do.
I owe no one marriage for a kidney.

That seems like subtly blackmailing me to accept the proposal.
I won't marry him for that.
I will appreciate the gesture...most definitely.

kunnadej:
Yes!! She ABSOLUTELY has to marry him. If you are a Christian, you'll understand that when someone can lay down his life for another, that's unconditional love and must be reciprocated. You must love the person back. Jesus laid down His life for us because he loved us and without Him we would be dead. Who are we not to love him?

I am a Christian. And if you bothered to get your facts straight, you would understand that unconditional love means love without expectations of reward. That is what makes it "unconditional!"
If you saw a building on fire, and there was a beautiful girl trapped in the building, would you rescue her only on the condition that she marries you? Would that be a fair condition? Shouldn't you just be happy that you saved another human beings life?

pocohantas:
The girl did what I would do.
I owe no one marriage for a kidney.

That seems like subtly blackmailing me to accept the proposal.
I won't marry him for that.
I will appreciate the gesture...most definitely.

I pity men who do extra ordinary things for a woman that is not their wife, many men na mumu dey worry them.
This your word is what we are talking about, dont give what you cannot let go to a girlfriend, regret await any man that does that.

Odingo1:
[s]I pity men who do extra ordinary thing for a woman that is not their wife, many men na mumu dey worry.
This your word is what we are talking about, dont give what you cannot let go to a girlfriend, regret await any man that does that[/s].

Very senseless post.
Men have done same and more to women who sacrificed for them.
Quote me when you have something sensible to say, not gender blaming.

Na lie o! She get who she wan marry

Tapout:
na so.. You that is talking, how many of those guys that you told "i will think about it" did you ever think off??
which ever way you want to analyse it, the summary is that he was rejected.

Tapout Nwanne, oleekwani nke o gara na propose immediately, the babe wan run
I won't be surprised she turns him down, such would put one off.
I don't promise to 'think of it', ana akari ihe akari

maasoap:
When looking for kidney, she wasnt desperate? But now that the man proposed, a mere proposal, he's desperate.
BTW: it's that desperation that made him donate his kidney in the first place, it's a pity that you're just seeing it during proposal.

A proposal is 'mere' to you Why you jump into this convo , the post you replied to isn't my first on this thread, so.... you so missed the mark

benzene00:
you are very big fool for saying this

So it's only the man that enjoyed the sex

I see you are so immature to degenerate to the level of insults right!
So one is not entitled to his/her opinion right?
it's clear your brain is filled with cow manure

maasoap:
Everyone but you could see the reason why the man donated his kidney. Well, he got what he deserved. It should have been marriage proposal and actual wedding before the surgery if that was what he wanted from the beginning. By putting that forward, the lady in question would have thought better.
No time for dulling.

The only problem with this is that such a marriage would have been full of problems, because it seems to me that the guy has already been friendzoned a long time ago, he should have been sensitive to this, and the motive for giving his kidney would then be only out of a desire to see her live.
ln summary the guy should have known his status with her a long time ago. This is the problem with the friendzone, such a wayward zone.
But the girl should just marry him though, so as not to appear ungrateful, even this option is a complicated one.

flexyfit:
Arrant nonsense... Na all this kind of things dey make people no dey help...madam give him back his kidney mbok

Relax ma, no too vex for the lady. What made the man wait for 21years before popping the question? If I were the lady in question, I would think deep before accepting his proposal.
Wetin I sabi self? I no be woman.

CHARLOE:
Typical naija girl; greedy n heartless! Guys learn, girls don't believe in love, very materialistic n hardly gives, only takes. Collect what u want from them b4 giving/helping them else, they take u 4 a fool.
If d reverse were d case, all d ladies on dis forum will b up in arms, cursing d guys generation, but c dem now.
d guy shldnt worry, he's 49 n she 41, her biological clock is ticking faster than his, he'll move on easily, but it will b difficult for a 41yr old mama to get a husband. d only thing I don't want to hear tomorrow is that she changed her mind n d guy still went ahead to marry her

Lol you are very funny I don't know why but these days i just find it hard to argue with people

"There's a sucker born every minute", translated "there is a fool born every minute".

The excuse she gave is so lame. She thinks she is too good for the guy and deserves better. I wonder where those other deserving men where when she was laying in the hospital searching for a donor.

Some women.

HMMM!!!
I FOR SAY NA..I NO SURE SAY THIS KIND THING FIT HAPPEN FOR NIGGA,,COS GUYS NEVER SEE FOOD CHOP TALK MORE