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You just got a job with

Free Accommodation - at least worth 200k

Free Transportation - at least worth 15k

Free feeding - Worth at least 30k

My brother you are doing very well, dont quit the job, Yoruba will say, MONEY MADE FROM TOILET BUSINESS NO DEY SMELL

Be patient, this woman might have a very good thing in stock for you in the long run, her friends and business associates are always noticing your hard work, competency and intelligence, and could even help you grow later, infact they might even persuade her to reward you for your loyalty.

Every master was once a servant, and someday you will be served too.
Working for her Does not in any way diminish you as a man, use this opportunity to even save money.. And at the end of the day, you will be very happy you did.

PLEASE DO NOT QUIT, BE PATIENT!

Spiritfun:
I work in a private company in somewhere Lagos. I got this job after some months of desperate job hunt.

When I started this job in January 2017, I thought I would grow and get some promotions maybe within the shortest time frame. So I gave my all.

Now the problem is that my boss wants to engage me for 24 hours. She calls me anytime she feels like to process some documents and respond to clients' inquiries. Even at midnight and beyond. At first, I thought it was because of the pressure we faced during the season but this continued even as I type this.

I have tried to curtail this behavior of hers but she is not giving up.


The most annoying part of this is that whenever her children are given assignments in their schools, she would tell them to give it to me to solve for them without minding my personal schedule. Her children attends one of the best schools here in Lagos.

I have personally told her to respect my unofficial hours and avoid adding unofficial assignments to my job description but she wouldn't listen.

At a point, I tactically delayed the assignment for days and she started complaining that I am incompetent.

I have made up my mind to quit the job at any slightest opportunity but the role I play in the company is very critical that I can't just wake up one day and resign.

Though she rarely praises me, a couple of her friends have told me how she boasts of my competence and the innovations and values I have added to the company..

Note that three months into the job, she offered me a one bedroom flat at her boys quarters and I didn't hesitate to accept because the place is somewhat closer to the office than where I lived. And sometimes, I join her in the car to the office in the morning thereby saving some fare cost.

Please, I need all the ideas you can give me to handle the situation.

Have u read my life @30. if not try to read it will guide u

affable4:
But as long as you are in that room, you are what you think you are not.

Hahahahahahahahaha........

lonelydora:
That woman wants you to sleep with her but doesn't know how to be plan about it. Is she's married, run for your life...if she's not, shine her amd see how fast you will be promoted.

Not true.
She likes his extra input and she's just being generous, unlike some other peeps.

Your name though, 'has this depressing feel to it

ekems2017:
Your boss likes you that is why she is doing all those things. Just try and be patient with her and you will gain at last. Although it can be so annoying some times but try and endure.

This is the whole truth Spiritfun.
And please note: the like isn't sexual.

Spiritfun:
I work in a private company in somewhere Lagos. I got this job after some months of desperate job hunt.

When I started this job in January 2017, I thought I would grow and get some promotions maybe within the shortest time frame. So I gave my all.

Now the problem is that my boss wants to engage me for 24 hours. She calls me anytime she feels like to process some documents and respond to clients' inquiries. Even at midnight and beyond. At first, I thought it was because of the pressure we faced during the season but this continued even as I type this.

I have tried to curtail this behavior of hers but she is not giving up.


The most annoying part of this is that whenever her children are given assignments in their schools, she would tell them to give it to me to solve for them without minding my personal schedule. Her children attends one of the best schools here in Lagos.

I have personally told her to respect my unofficial hours and avoid adding unofficial assignments to my job description but she wouldn't listen.

At a point, I tactically delayed the assignment for days and she started complaining that I am incompetent.

I have made up my mind to quit the job at any slightest opportunity but the role I play in the company is very critical that I can't just wake up one day and resign.

Though she rarely praises me, a couple of her friends have told me how she boasts of my competence and the innovations and values I have added to the company..

Note that three months into the job, she offered me a one bedroom flat at her boys quarters and I didn't hesitate to accept because the place is somewhat closer to the office than where I lived. And sometimes, I join her in the car to the office in the morning thereby saving some fare cost.

Please, I need all the ideas you can give me to handle the situation.

There's an old Dutch proverb that says do not throw away your old shoes till you get new ones... Make sure an appointment letter from a new company is in your hands before you resign from this present job if not sorry will be your name in this economy

misterchris:
Give me the job

Please and please Spiritfun, recommend Misterchris when you quit. Thenk!

Spiritfun:
I work in a private company in somewhere Lagos. I got this job after some months of desperate job hunt.

When I started this job in January 2017, I thought I would grow and get some promotions maybe within the shortest time frame. So I gave my all.

Now the problem is that my boss wants to engage me for 24 hours. She calls me anytime she feels like to process some documents and respond to clients' inquiries. Even at midnight and beyond. At first, I thought it was because of the pressure we faced during the season but this continued even as I type this.

I have tried to curtail this behavior of hers but she is not giving up.


The most annoying part of this is that whenever her children are given assignments in their schools, she would tell them to give it to me to solve for them without minding my personal schedule. Her children attends one of the best schools here in Lagos.

I have personally told her to respect my unofficial hours and avoid adding unofficial assignments to my job description but she wouldn't listen.

At a point, I tactically delayed the assignment for days and she started complaining that I am incompetent.

I have made up my mind to quit the job at any slightest opportunity but the role I play in the company is very critical that I can't just wake up one day and resign.

Though she rarely praises me, a couple of her friends have told me how she boasts of my competence and the innovations and values I have added to the company..

Note that three months into the job, she offered me a one bedroom flat at her boys quarters and I didn't hesitate to accept because the place is somewhat closer to the office than where I lived. And sometimes, I join her in the car to the office in the morning thereby saving some fare cost.

Please, I need all the ideas you can give me to handle the situation.

First step to your independence is moving out of her BQ

Wetin go come satisfy human being. When you no get job, you they complain, now you get job you still continue to they complained.

My brother so far your salary is runing, free accomodation, free transportation, free handout. You don't know what God has done for you

If I were you I will do two things. I will resign or I will go extra mile to satisfy the boss

dingbang:
You signed up fully for being a houseboy when you accepted the accommodation offer.


You better leave that house

True dat, u just spoke my mind......D boss is a monitoring spirit

So, you're already reporting me to the public? I did you a great favour yet you think I was taking advantage of you. No problem.

KillerBeauty:
Na you yourself nor set boundaries at the beginning. Why would you accept to do her kids homework?
The woman likes you tho and she's happy to have you work with her. That's y she tried making your life easy by accommodating you and all.
But you need to man up and draw boundaries

Honestly, ma'am there is no way he would av turned down helping wif her children's assignment, considering aw long it took him to get d job...It is a dicey situation

Spiritfun:
I work in a private company in somewhere Lagos. I got this job after some months of desperate job hunt.

When I started this job in January 2017, I thought I would grow and get some promotions maybe within the shortest time frame. So I gave my all.

Now the problem is that my boss wants to engage me for 24 hours. She calls me anytime she feels like to process some documents and respond to clients' inquiries. Even at midnight and beyond. At first, I thought it was because of the pressure we faced during the season but this continued even as I type this.

I have tried to curtail this behavior of hers but she is not giving up.


The most annoying part of this is that whenever her children are given assignments in their schools, she would tell them to give it to me to solve for them without minding my personal schedule. Her children attends one of the best schools here in Lagos.

I have personally told her to respect my unofficial hours and avoid adding unofficial assignments to my job description but she wouldn't listen.

At a point, I tactically delayed the assignment for days and she started complaining that I am incompetent.

I have made up my mind to quit the job at any slightest opportunity but the role I play in the company is very critical that I can't just wake up one day and resign.

Though she rarely praises me, a couple of her friends have told me how she boasts of my competence and the innovations and values I have added to the company..

Note that three months into the job, she offered me a one bedroom flat at her boys quarters and I didn't hesitate Town accept because the place is somewhat closer to the office than where I lived. And sometimes, I join her in the car to the office in the morning thereby saving some fare cost.

Please, I need all the ideas you can give me to handle the situation.

bros d moment u accepted that accommodation is when u surrendered ur birthright. so why are u now complaining? u want to save a few extra cash and u accepted accommodation in her permanent living residence

Common 30 mins assignment and you are complaining . Your boss trusts you to the point of asking u to come and stay with her and you are complaining, or you think she doesn't have family members who could stay in that accommodation you are occupying? If u want to continue in that job, don't even think of leaving that house cos you have set a precedence already and just to be clear, u are not just any staff to her but a P.A

let those people hunting for job on Nairaland make u loose your job that is when u will start to regret it.

Your boss love u and knows how much u mean to her but because of her ego she did not want to praise u in your present that is why she hail you at your absent.

Don't quit your job if the pay is okay and more so u are living in a free house, show more love to the kids and show more love to your boss then u will realized that if there is opportunities from your boss he or she wont hesitate to give way for u.
ones again don't allow job hunter to make u loose ur job.

thegentleman:
You can't blame OP, OP couldn't resist the awoof offer.

If that guy is not careful, he will remain in that room for the next 20 years with nothing tangible to show for it.

Stop viewing every favour with ordinary eyes.

Some favours are destructive.

And since last year January,u are expecting people to tell u that u should find ur own apartment....I wonder how some people think




Try to gather some money incase u move out,we can't say her reaction....And u can be searching for well job apart frm that,she might have took you like her brother thou.....

Bro trust me continue the job and keep meeting people. Don't just quit when u never c sure one

Free food,free accomodation, free transport daily.. what else can a man ask for.. on top of it free and unlimited connections and exposure..
My guy this is opportunity to hammer.. save money,save money .no need of quitting now..that one man business for you but in this your case you have lots of freebies involved..Just chill and make the best out of it.grow your career Set a target for your self .Some people are doing those works and at the end of the day they are been paid.People like myself will even take the opportunity if it comes..I will even be washing her car for her..That doesnt diminish everything for you but U know it is all but temporal.

Wish this kind job and opportunity will come to me..Omo I go take the offer sharp sharp afterall some jobs pay you #100k ,you might be free but you wont even enjoy or safe anything from the money..
Hook me up with the woman..I can do those chores for her,do her children's assignment and help out as far as my bank account will be smiling monthly

westernized:
Honestly, ma'am there is no way he would av turned down helping wif her children's assignment, considering aw long it took him to get d job...It is a dicey situation

some people are paid peanuts even after doing those kind of jobs yet the woman gave the ops everything just to make him comfortable.. These things are temporary and it won't remove anything from him. he should just set a target and when he reach it he can quit..

Apination:
Common 30 mins assignment and you are complaining . Your boss trusts you to the point of asking u to come and stay with her and you are complaining, or you think she doesn't have family members who could stay in that accommodation you are occupying? If u want to continue in that job, don't even think of leaving that house cos you have set a precedence already and just to be clear, u are not just any staff to her but a P.A

imagine ooo.. People like me will accept such work wholeheartedly.. Just think of the money you are saving from accomodation, transport and sometimes feeding and you see that it is really something. The woman trusts him and believe me any man that set a target will see such works as nothing because U know it is only temporary. The woman might be introducing and praising him in front of her friends..that already an exposure that might be of benefit to him tomorrow.

BakireBulmaker:
If that guy is not careful, he will remain in that room for the next 20 years with nothing tangible to show for it.

Stop viewing every favour with ordinary eyes.

Some favours are destructive.

people will just view every favor in a spiritual way..What if the woman is sent by God to help out?
What if this opportunity will be a stepping stone to something good for him in future?
What if God wants to use the woman to opdnta way for him? and yet you want him to loose it because of little things that doesn't matter. he searched for job many years and when he got,he also got free accomodation, transport etc and U are telling him not to stop viewing some favour with ordinary eyes..If the favour isn't ordinary, yiy can help him with accomodation or a better job that will not be destructive na

Bro better stick to d job only be watching out any available offers but never leave dis one without securing another

westernized:
Honestly, ma'am there is no way he would av turned down helping wif her children's assignment, considering aw long it took him to get d job...It is a dicey situation

Very dicey

In this buharific economy, you mean doing assignments for kiddies is what is making your heart do gbim gbim! Just tell us the truth that you are afraid of quantitative analysis, verbal reasoning and mathematics and you would rather go back to the employment market that solve those questions. You even have a free boys quarter join. People don't appreciate what they have unless they loose it. Just saying

Spiritfun:
I work in a private company in somewhere Lagos. I got this job after some months of desperate job hunt.

When I started this job in January 2017, I thought I would grow and get some promotions maybe within the shortest time frame. So I gave my all.

Now the problem is that my boss wants to engage me for 24 hours. She calls me anytime she feels like to process some documents and respond to clients' inquiries. Even at midnight and beyond. At first, I thought it was because of the pressure we faced during the season but this continued even as I type this.

I have tried to curtail this behavior of hers but she is not giving up.


The most annoying part of this is that whenever her children are given assignments in their schools, she would tell them to give it to me to solve for them without minding my personal schedule. Her children attends one of the best schools here in Lagos.

I have personally told her to respect my unofficial hours and avoid adding unofficial assignments to my job description but she wouldn't listen.

At a point, I tactically delayed the assignment for days and she started complaining that I am incompetent.

I have made up my mind to quit the job at any slightest opportunity but the role I play in the company is very critical that I can't just wake up one day and resign.

Though she rarely praises me, a couple of her friends have told me how she boasts of my competence and the innovations and values I have added to the company..

Note that three months into the job, she offered me a one bedroom flat at her boys quarters and I didn't hesitate to accept because the place is somewhat closer to the office than where I lived. And sometimes, I join her in the car to the office in the morning thereby saving some fare cost.

Please, I need all the ideas you can give me to handle the situation.

That's why some women do not make good wives, they never know when they cross the line, next time ask for a job specification, she's abusive and most likely not a good wife or mother, she should know that putting her kids trough helps her understand their academic flaws and fix them. But?

BakireBulmaker:
If that guy is not careful, he will remain in that room for the next 20 years with nothing tangible to show for it.

Stop viewing every favour with ordinary eyes.

Some favours are destructive.

You are very right, some favor won't let you grow up as an individual. Just like one staying in one Uncle or Auntie's house after NYSC. Time u supposed to use to build something for yourself and think about what you want in life, you will be using to wash car, cook food for your nephew, be doing all sorts of stupid things, no time or room for growth.

Be a wolf. Learn the business, get solid business contacts, chop her better money and plot your exit to the next job. Don't dull.
Emotion no dey pay bills!

Spiritfun:
I work in a private company in somewhere Lagos. I got this job after some months of desperate job hunt.

When I started this job in January 2017, I thought I would grow and get some promotions maybe within the shortest time frame. So I gave my all.

Now the problem is that my boss wants to engage me for 24 hours. She calls me anytime she feels like to process some documents and respond to clients' inquiries. Even at midnight and beyond. At first, I thought it was because of the pressure we faced during the season but this continued even as I type this.

I have tried to curtail this behavior of hers but she is not giving up.


The most annoying part of this is that whenever her children are given assignments in their schools, she would tell them to give it to me to solve for them without minding my personal schedule. Her children attends one of the best schools here in Lagos.

I have personally told her to respect my unofficial hours and avoid adding unofficial assignments to my job description but she wouldn't listen.

At a point, I tactically delayed the assignment for days and she started complaining that I am incompetent.

I have made up my mind to quit the job at any slightest opportunity but the role I play in the company is very critical that I can't just wake up one day and resign.

Though she rarely praises me, a couple of her friends have told me how she boasts of my competence and the innovations and values I have added to the company..

Note that three months into the job, she offered me a one bedroom flat at her boys quarters and I didn't hesitate to accept because the place is somewhat closer to the office than where I lived. And sometimes, I join her in the car to the office in the morning thereby saving some fare cost.

Please, I need all the ideas you can give me to handle the situation.

You be houseboy na! The Moment u accepted the house offer!

YOU DEY STAY HER BQ
YOU DEY WORK FOR HER AND SHE DEY PAY YOU

YOU ARE HER HOUSEBOY

QED

abiolert:
TO

peacettw:
I have this habit of immersing myself in a character to better understand their behaviour... In this case, your boss.

Your boss went above and beyond to provide an abode for you in her compound with free transportation, electricity, security and who knows what else you haven't said yet. Of course she will feel like she is entitled to use you as she sees fit. After all, YOU ARE AVAILABLE and living above your means.....

Any opposition on your part will look like you are ungrateful. If I were you, I will make myself indispensable first before attempting anything but a lot will have to change along the line.

Be a little bit more formal when dealing with her and the kids. The kids should see you as their big uncle and not a playmate.

Learn to also call in little favours on your own terms as you take on more responsibility. In the same vein, also know when to reject favours so as not to create an impression that you are totally dependent on her.

On the days you can't bear the invasion of your privacy, take the weekend off on a pretend visit to see a sick relative.

Never complain to anyone cos people are funny and might go behind your back to report to your boss.

Have an elderly person visit you once in a while. Introduce such persons to your boss respectfully. This way, she will realise that you are an adult with a life.(never allow her to entertain your guest in her home).

Always assume a dignified front and never break rank.

If at the end of the day, it is simply not in your character to suck up to people to get ahead in life, then please quit when a better alternative comes by.

Good luck.

I just love this. Concise and to the point.

Spylord48:
people will just view every favor in a spiritual way..What if the woman is sent by God to help out?
What if this opportunity will be a stepping stone to something good for him in future?
What if God wants to use the woman to opdnta way for him? and yet you want him to loose it because of little things that doesn't matter. he searched for job many years and when he got,he also got free accomodation, transport etc and U are telling him not to stop viewing some favour with ordinary eyes..If the favour isn't ordinary, yiy can help him with accomodation or a better job that will not be destructive na

Bro. There is no free lunch in life.
The guy enjoying the 'favour' knows where the shoe pinches him. That's why he brought the issue here.

He will become an errand boy eventually.

Now if he moves out, he runs the risk of losing his job. So he is trapped isn't it? For how long?

Come on, nobody really cares about your progress and wellbeing. You have to take bold decisions and damn the consequences. With prayer though.

I am not saying he should quit now. But he should start planning to quit whether he gets another offer or not because he may NEVER get another offer if he doesn't quit this one. Meaning he is doomed.

Quitting the job starts with him moving out. He has to plan towards it. I guess he is still single.