kmcutez:


I pity the poor girl. I wish she was a nairalander so she can be advised to leave him. This guy is stingy. Kai.

I still pay the school fees of the children of the families that wrecked me, from hero to zero. Hundreds of thousands for each child per term. Talk less of someone you have dated for five years and are planning to marry.

Will u please pay my school fees too?
Oponu!!!

Rubbish! I thought you were even gona relate it to the poor girl.

Explain what her Mother did to the girl. See if she approves of it. It's her duty then to go talk to her mother


But for me your a man.if she is asking for a loan for a boy school fees and you got it. Give her the benefit of doubt and loan her. See if she will pay back ok?

She might!

I here by declare ur relationship with that girl null and void, u too stingy, akagum is a sin....

Being a prudent spender is different from being stingy.

One of the marital criteria is rendering financial assistance to your family and that of your in-law which doesn't mean you should become father Xmas.

For the fact that you have been in relationship with your fiance without asking for money shows she is a responsible lady. I mean her mother reinstated it that it's loan. Even if she did not return it back, you have done a rightful obligation to make her spirit bless you. It would be a wicked act if you fail to grant the old woman's wish. From the moment you turned down her request shows u are a wicked soul.

How many ladies can you date nowadays for a period of weeks without asking for expensive gift items?

If you decide to break up on her, abeg I will apply asap. Na her type I dey find

On a final note, u are the reason ladies are calling guys bad name. You should be ashamed of yourself and as a matter of fact, you are big disgrace to men.

kmcutez:
Let her go. You don't love her.

The goddess have spoken gbam!!!

UjuJoan2:


If only she could see this post, so she could know just how little the guy thinks of her.

How little?
U see how u reason now?
Like u have relaxer in your brain!

abike12:
that woman asked you out of desperation. May her helper locate her in Jesus name. I wish I could get her contact to help sef. As for you, you no be beta person

See this one lol
Are u saying there are no people u can help around u...

Letzdothething:
from saying the truth?

Have you seen where a whole family love a poor man? Please answer me honestly.

In life, your interest comes first, family second then others, economy is bad so no time to date broker girl from a poverty stricken family.

Even in churches they preach about riches how much more Lolz.

Get real

You need upper down cut slap not devil

I am sure they are really in dire need if not the don't sound like people who would disturb you ...if you can help help if you can't tell them the truth about your financial situation

UjuJoan2:


This is quite surprising. I half I expected you to jump on the parade and curse women as gold diggers.

Thank God for little mercies!!!

I get really really angry when I read posts like this. As if marrying him is some kind of achievement. For God's sake can't he help out someone in need for the sake of being nice, talk more of his prospective in-laws?

I'm tempted to get the poor woman's account number and give her the money myself to avoid further insult from this yeye man. Arrant nonsense!

O girl I get the account number ooo

This guy gotta be joking sha. You've been dating a girl for five years and has probably known the mother for give or take, three years. She requested for a loan, A LOAN!!! While other mothers would have just demanded from you straight up without blinking am eyelid. She even told you she confided in you because she views you as a son already. Haven't you borrowed people you knew for lesser period money? And you're here spewing poo talmbout dumping the girl. What kind of son in law would you make anyway?
Gosh!!!

Culin:
So because the mother of the lady you date for 5 years asked for help, you want to call the relationship off? Smh.

Hey cute chic

Honestly all of you on nairaland no understand the guy ,all he is saying is the borrow me request should not be coming from the mom ,cos if she decides not to pay back will he be able to ask her to return it as his in-law. It's even an indictment on the moms part ,what if the guy does something wrong to the daughter will she be able to correct the guy? It's a no so many reasons are attached to the reason he raised.

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

It's funny how you claim to love a person and the only one time that you are asked to help out due to the fact that they see you as family already, you came to Nairaland to type this nonsense. Some of us assist families who aren't related to us in any way,with house rent and tuition fees for the kids and heaven has not fallen. If you can't assist a family you are marrying from,who else can you assist? Life is small and nothing we have is permanent. You don't need to have a billion before you impact in people's lives. From the little or much you have,be able to give and help out. If you can afford to help,call that woman now and ask for her account details and send the money to her. Finally, I detest/dislike stingy people. In other words, I don't like your person one bit.

You've dated someone for 5yrs no one naira..now just to loan money to her mum you're doing maths??Guy you are stingy... PERIOD!!!

Diso60090:





You need upper down cut slap not devil

time wasted enjoying is not wasted I like that quote.

Nice to meet you

abike12:
that woman asked you out of desperation. May her helper locate her in Jesus name. I wish I could get her contact to help sef. As for you, you no be beta person

so she has no friends nor family members or even pastor since you have dragged Jesus into this she could desperately ask for help other than her daughter’s boyfriend, behind her daughter? That action is unreasonable

clemmonce:
hmmmm... my brother some girls dont ask guys for money they have this independent mindset.... and secondly they don't want to bother or scare you away..... if you really dig deep you will see she has been struggling alone without you even knowing... I am talking from experience.... Whether her mum will disturb you with further financial disturbance..... well don't ever think their financial status will remain this way for ever.... things might change...... secondly ... Has her mother being disturbing you for such assistance before ?? with all what you said I can't see a problem..... No mariage is perfect no family is perfect no in law is perfect..

Even if her mother has been disturbing him for such assistance before, there's joy in assisting people especially your wife's family

you've already given an answer, you now have insecurity because of it. I'm disappointed in you. you're not ready.

Mehn, I see your refusal as an act of wickedness. If you are in a position to help her and you felt it was wrong for her to ask you for assistance despite getting to know her for over 5yrs 2ru her daughter is to show how wicked and inhuman that you are. What will make me not assist a woman like that? Nothing. I've been privileged 2 give someone that I dont even know 300k, takless of a woman I want to marry her daughter, I'll go extra mile 2 take care of her same way I'ld take care of my mother if I'm in a position to give. Op,you are just a stingy and heartless person.

raphafire:
I here by declare ur relationship with that girl null and void, u too stingy, akagum is a sin....

...then the gods soaked don't quote me ol English master.

UjuJoan2:


This is quite surprising. I half I expected you to jump on the parade and curse women as gold diggers.

Thank God for little mercies!!!

I get really really angry when I read posts like this. As if marrying him is some kind of achievement. For God's sake can't he help out someone in need for the sake of being nice, talk more of his prospective in-laws?

I'm tempted to get the poor woman's account number and give her the money myself to avoid further insult from this yeye man. Arrant nonsense!

ah i don't understand this guy here o. I hope the lady finds this and move on to something better. This is your fiancee that you want to marry, and you will rather she be homeless while at university than help her out with rent?

No wonder she didn't ask you by herself because she already knows your personality and the fact that you won't help her at all, must have taken a lot for her to tell her mom to ask you.

Poor girl deserves someone better, not because you do not have the money, but because you are considering leaving her after her family asks for your help to take care of someone you want to get married to.

You are a terrible human being, honestly.

UjuJoan2:


This is quite surprising. I half I expected you to jump on the parade and curse women as gold diggers.

Thank God for little mercies!!!

I get really really angry when I read posts like this. As if marrying him is some kind of achievement. For God's sake can't he help out someone in need for the sake of being nice, talk more of his prospective in-laws?

I'm tempted to get the poor woman's account number and give her the money myself to avoid further insult from this yeye man. Arrant nonsense!

As a guy ,it's so shameful reading OP's story.The mum is even asking to pay back.Its a loan not even a gift.He plans to wife the babe.He met her in secondary school.She probably may have been a virgin and he may av been her first.The mother is even acknowledging him as her son in law.i am so ashamed on behalf of all men on Nairaland.

This OP must be a tight handed Shylock.
Na wa o. @ OP abeg use shame go sleep.

OP, For your Girlfriend's mum to reach out to you for financial help for the first time I five years shows how cultured and considerate that family is.
You also attested the fact. that your. girlfriend too hasn't been making demands.

so why the fuss about this.?

Your own don finish for life...
For nairaland guys to say you're stingy and u don't deserve your fiancee know that your village people are using your picture to dance every night.

Letzdothething:
time wasted enjoying is not wasted I like that quote.

Nice to meet you

You welcome bro don't forget to inbox me for more information about street credibility

You should be ashamed, 5 years she never asked you for anything.

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

Diso60090:






You welcome bro don't forget to inbox me for more information about street credibility

no thanks.

Bye

kmcutez:


I pity the poor girl. I wish she was a nairalander so she can be advised to leave him. This guy is stingy. Kai.

I still pay the school fees of the children of the families that wrecked me, from hero to zero. Hundreds of thousands for each child per term. Talk less of someone you have dated for five years and are planning to marry.

I'd rather have the girl asking me for money than the mother

Letzdothething:
no thanks.

Bye

Haha you don ben Johnson

nuland:
OP, For your Girlfriend's mum to reach out to you for financial help for the first time I five years shows how cultured and considerate that family is.
You also attested the fact. that your. girlfriend too hasn't been making demands.

so why the fuss about this.?

I'd rather have the girl asking me for money than the mother