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orangb:
No, thanks.

GogobiriLalas:
Not fair to judge from one side of the tale, but as I always say 'when in doubt, go with the man'...

Your wife is a perfect example of a feminist, you can bang the sh!£ out of her but don't ever marry her...so your first mistake is that you got married to her.

Yorubas will say a dog that will long lost heeds not the whistle of its handler; your wife is a lost cause...so let her go, there are too many women out there for one woman to now lord it over a man...a successful man at that.

Your duty now is first and foremost to yourself, your business and your children...in that order.

Yourself, because health is wealth and you need stamina to handle all the smallies that will be trooping after you...dude congratulations, you will be getting more tail than a toilet sit; a wife that sues for divorce divests her husband of the trouble.

Second to your business...you need to make money man...the most horrid men will have women flocking around them so long as they can afford it...I call it the fallacy of equal emotions, men tend to ascribe emotions such as love, loyalty and pain to a woman much as a man will ascribe same feelings to a dog...but like a dog whose loyalty is to the next hand that offers the bacon so is a woman's loyalty to the next man that brings the dough...any loftier emotions are alien to women though they pretend to it...the only true emotion a woman has is hypergamy, the instinct to marry up spurred on by her nesting instinct. Furthermore, your kids will love and respect you if for nothing else..for the comfort and prestige your money guarantees.

And lastly to the kids...if she refuses to relinquish control of the kids, no stress all na for the glory of God...make sure your kids fees are paid and once in a while drop in to check after their welfare; in time the kids will figure out who the real a-hole is..women are the worst custodian of children and the biggest abusers of children...an unsubmissive woman births effeminate men....all your kids, especially your son needs, is to see their dad doing well and showing affection.

Bros this is the world we are living in today, women have been brainwashed to think they are equal to men...even out here in the States a lot of men are starting to realize that in fact men are the price...and like I always tell these young boys, there's no longer any reason to get married..there's nothing on the marriage bed that you won't get better outside the marriage bed...

Happy divorced life bro #MGTOW


Women want weak and tamed men so that they can have power like this... Also take what you have and shut you up. Manginas and blue pills men are ignorantly helping them the more...

ofegge73:
Good evening Nairalanders, I have no idea how to go about making this as clear as possible, but truth is I married a stranger.
I met this Lady in 2012,we became friendly, and talked on consistently.
At the time she was on NYSC in Ikom cross River State. By the way she is from Obosi in Anambra state.
She was visiting me in Lagos every week, of course I paid for her flight tickets back and forth for all the times she visited till we got married and beyond. I have never let her use the bus or public transport to anywhere, it's either I drive her, she drives or a taxi.
A few months to her passing out, she told me she was pregnant, so I thought I would marry her and cut the drama short, but that was my undoing.
We got married, but all through, she spent more time with her parents and siblings.
Fast forward to 2016,my wife got a job through my sister in Abuja, and everything got worse, she wouldn't get back home till very late everyday.
Her explanation was that her boss delayed her.
I got to find out she was dating her boss later, even caught her at hotels in ikeja G. R,.A and on the island with her boss at very odd hours of the night.
Don't get me wrong, I am okay, I live in a 5 bedroom duplex in ikeja, the house is very comfortable and cosy, and almost completing my personal building at awoyaya in ibeju. i am not a poor man.
Well, she gave birth to my first child a boy, but insisted on C. S, then my daughter, through C. S too. All were elective!
She wouldn't come back home,and spent more time at her parents than in our home, always saying she needs herMum to watch the kids,while she is out, we got maids, but she was so violent with them, they all left.
Fast forward to 2017,i asked my wife to come back home, she refused, well I told her the marriage wouldn't work anymore,as she wasnt living with me for the past two years.
She immediately went and petitioned me at office of the Public defender in Lagos State citing domestic violence, irresponsibility as to my kids and stuff, I have always provided food, toiletries, medicals,as well as pay my children's school fees till this minute. But she teamed up with her Mum and brother to make up so many fabrications because they demanded I pay a stipend to them every month, and I said no, I won't do that, your daughter, my wife is in your house cos she wants to be there, not because I sent her away or anything like that.Her father is the only person who is sane, but the man is a pensioner and can't help himself much, so she treats him with intimidation She reported me to the police and all agencies you can think of, well at last they conducted their investigations and found out she was telling lies.
I am no more interested in keeping her, and she has vowed that I can't divorce her or I die, but my kids are the issue now.
I need sound advice on how to go about this.
Please no mockery, I am in dire need of good advice. Thanks.

natasha:
Oga when u want advise be honest with the facts
- Yes u met her and u are wealthy
- you are a violent and possesive man....hence u ensured she spent every weekend at urs by providing flight tickets so she wont say theres no money 2 visit.
- you continued ur monitoring when she married u by tailgatting her every move.
- FYI there's nothing wrong with an elective CS. She won't be the 1st or last woman to opt for it.
- She LEFT despite the luxurious life u afforded her because PEACE of mind and her life is more precious than marriage to you thats attached with violent conditions.
-Just because you are no longer mareied doesnt diminished ur parental responsibilities.....You are still responsible for the upkeep of ur children wherever they may be....so her reporting you to agencies 2 remind and enforce ur responsibilities is correct.

But if u want a pity parry, then what you wrote up there is perfect, Sir Lancelot, Prince Charming and Knight in shinning armour

ofegge73:
Good evening Nairalanders, I have no idea how to go about making this as clear as possible, but truth is I married a stranger.
I met this Lady in 2012,we became friendly, and talked on consistently.
At the time she was on NYSC in Ikom cross River State. By the way she is from Obosi in Anambra state.
She was visiting me in Lagos every week, of course I paid for her flight tickets back and forth for all the times she visited till we got married and beyond. I have never let her use the bus or public transport to anywhere, it's either I drive her, she drives or a taxi.
A few months to her passing out, she told me she was pregnant, so I thought I would marry her and cut the drama short, but that was my undoing.
We got married, but all through, she spent more time with her parents and siblings.
Fast forward to 2016,my wife got a job through my sister in Abuja, and everything got worse, she wouldn't get back home till very late everyday.
Her explanation was that her boss delayed her.
I got to find out she was dating her boss later, even caught her at hotels in ikeja G. R,.A and on the island with her boss at very odd hours of the night.
Don't get me wrong, I am okay, I live in a 5 bedroom duplex in ikeja, the house is very comfortable and cosy, and almost completing my personal building at awoyaya in ibeju. i am not a poor man.
Well, she gave birth to my first child a boy, but insisted on C. S, then my daughter, through C. S too. All were elective!
She wouldn't come back home,and spent more time at her parents than in our home, always saying she needs herMum to watch the kids,while she is out, we got maids, but she was so violent with them, they all left.
Fast forward to 2017,i asked my wife to come back home, she refused, well I told her the marriage wouldn't work anymore,as she wasnt living with me for the past two years.
She immediately went and petitioned me at office of the Public defender in Lagos State citing domestic violence, irresponsibility as to my kids and stuff, I have always provided food, toiletries, medicals,as well as pay my children's school fees till this minute. But she teamed up with her Mum and brother to make up so many fabrications because they demanded I pay a stipend to them every month, and I said no, I won't do that, your daughter, my wife is in your house cos she wants to be there, not because I sent her away or anything like that.Her father is the only person who is sane, but the man is a pensioner and can't help himself much, so she treats him with intimidation She reported me to the police and all agencies you can think of, well at last they conducted their investigations and found out she was telling lies.
I am no more interested in keeping her, and she has vowed that I can't divorce her or I die, but my kids are the issue now.
I need sound advice on how to go about this.
Please no mockery, I am in dire need of good advice. Thanks.

Ishilove:
You are very observant. He obviously is, judging by his username

Moji12:
you are so on point, that's wat I call thinking outside the box. There's is never a smoke without fire. He thought he could twist d whole story but alas d whole truth is starring and glaring. There is always three sides of the story, d first party's story, second party and the whole truth. Reading his story alone is choking me, I now imagine what the wife must have passed through.

ofegge73:
you won't believe this" in her petition to the office of the Public defender, and I quote" All medical expenses including payment for both C. S operations were paid for by a good samaritan" that's exactly how she put it, and I pinched myself! Is this woman for real! Of course I tendered all receipts of payments for the C. S operations and drugs, as well as bed space, which of course was a private air-conditioned room to the office of the public defender, and they carried out their investigations and confirmed that truly I made all payments from my U. B. A account. That's when they warned her and advised her to desist or face harsh penalties.
I am still in shock till today as regards the level of destruction this woman set out to inflict on me.

ofegge73:
you have no idea what you just concluded.
Let me make it a bit easier to comprehend.
I have never in my entire life hit my siblings, or anyone for that matter, the truth is and I will tell you. My estranged wife would easily slap me, and then sulk up to me later to apologise.
I grew up in a wonderful family, I never witnessed my parents fight or exchange words.
There has never been anything like domestic violence all the times she was with me till today.
What I now realize today, is the fact that she always had things her way, because I never checked,monitored or controlled her movement in and out of our home.
So, when I first noticed she was having affairs outside and repeated appeals for her to stop, she became something else.
She didn't pack out of our home, I drove her and the kids to her father's house.
I later found out from their security man that she always had male visitors, and most times wouldn't get back till the next day.
So, I told her the marriage was effectively over, that's when she conspired with her mum and brother to label domestic violence and all sorts against me and went to all the agencies you can imagine or think of in Lagos State, cos she knew she had lost the marriage.
I am a good man and I know so.
God will help me.

ofegge73:
you have no idea what you just concluded.
Let me make it a bit easier to comprehend.
I have never in my entire life hit my siblings, or anyone for that matter, the truth is and I will tell you. My estranged wife would easily slap me, and then sulk up to me later to apologise.
I grew up in a wonderful family, I never witnessed my parents fight or exchange words.
There has never been anything like domestic violence all the times she was with me till today.
What I now realize today, is the fact that she always had things her way, because I never checked,monitored or controlled her movement in and out of our home.
So, when I first noticed she was having affairs outside and repeated appeals for her to stop, she became something else.
She didn't pack out of our home, I drove her and the kids to her father's house.
I later found out from their security man that she always had male visitors, and most times wouldn't get back till the next day.
So, I told her the marriage was effectively over, that's when she conspired with her mum and brother to label domestic violence and all sorts against me and went to all the agencies you can imagine or think of in Lagos State, cos she knew she had lost the marriage.
I am a good man and I know so.
God will help me.

desreek9:
Anybody can be a good samaritan even an evil pers[b]on, him showing receipts and all doesnt change anything,
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This man feels threatened cos she's in her parents house, had it been she was somewhere else do you think he wudnt have bundled her and his kids back home,

Check his write up he contradicted himself at first, making it sound like she was always at her parents house from onset when it was actually 2 years ago,

Violence was involved dats why she packed and left and he cant do anything cos of where she is dats why he went the-law way,

He's just trying to prove he's the man cos he doesnt want people to say his wife left with his kids, he doesnt have control so he needs to paint her black,

That woman is remorseful for what she did, if she is not she wud have gladly divorce him.

engrelvis:
my brother no b quarrel .v been married of all most 13yrs now n am 45yrs.am a marriage counselor in my church.from my experience d issue of marriage is a two way tin.whether u r living abroad or here d trick to marriage is understanding ur spouse n knowing when to act.alot of women v emotional baggage.when u say u v met yr soul mate it deos nt mean dat person is perfect.it simply means he or she understands u.d same woman d op is complaining about now might meet another man n everything will work out for her.what I v seen in our culture is dat our men "order"their wives to obey dem.those types of things stop with our father.our women r more enlighten these days . understand yr wife n know when to enforce rules n when to soften.

ofegge73:
you have no idea what you just concluded.
Let me make it a bit easier to comprehend.
I have never in my entire life hit my siblings, or anyone for that matter, the truth is and I will tell you. My estranged wife would easily slap me, and then sulk up to me later to apologise.
I grew up in a wonderful family, I never witnessed my parents fight or exchange words.
There has never been anything like domestic violence all the times she was with me till today.
What I now realize today, is the fact that she always had things her way, because I never checked,monitored or controlled her movement in and out of our home.
So, when I first noticed she was having affairs outside and repeated appeals for her to stop, she became something else.
She didn't pack out of our home, I drove her and the kids to her father's house.
I later found out from their security man that she always had male visitors, and most times wouldn't get back till the next day.
So, I told her the marriage was effectively over, that's when she conspired with her mum and brother to label domestic violence and all sorts against me and went to all the agencies you can imagine or think of in Lagos State, cos she knew she had lost the marriage.
I am a good man and I know so.
God will help me.

vicardino:
Thanks sir

ofegge73:
you have no idea what you just concluded.
Let me make it a bit easier to comprehend.
I have never in my entire life hit my siblings, or anyone for that matter, the truth is and I will tell you. My estranged wife would easily slap me, and then sulk up to me later to apologise.
I grew up in a wonderful family, I never witnessed my parents fight or exchange words.
There has never been anything like domestic violence all the times she was with me till today.
What I now realize today, is the fact that she always had things her way, because I never checked,monitored or controlled her movement in and out of our home.
So, when I first noticed she was having affairs outside and repeated appeals for her to stop, she became something else.
She didn't pack out of our home, I drove her and the kids to her father's house.
I later found out from their security man that she always had male visitors, and most times wouldn't get back till the next day.
So, I told her the marriage was effectively over, that's when she conspired with her mum and brother to label domestic violence and all sorts against me and went to all the agencies you can imagine or think of in Lagos State, cos she knew she had lost the marriage.
I am a good man and I know so.
God will help me.

kingreign:
Mr sore arse pussy nigga. You saw a girl in nysc you start flying her upandan like winch, as if e neva do you start giving her over luxurious life like her parents na queen of the coast.
The thing wey vex me be say you alleged you found out you wife was bossing her boss and checking in and out of hotels at
wee hours and at wee location and you're is still forming marriage and love?
What sorta mugu love is that?
Now you saw that, you didn't do any shyyte stuff it means you were encouraging them to continue boss and employee romance na.
Why not drop her black trifling arse when you discovered those things instead you allow these go on what we're you thinking?
Walai if na me I'd scatter that useless idiotic boss career or his life won't mind hiring thugs to do a neat job, then throw that stupid woman's things in the gutter. You even saw as the girl was always with her parents than you. This is a signal a bad one at that. You've married her you ought to had stamped your foot down firmly and told her in a ferocious voice you wont allow her do such.
Nothing bad going to her parents house but when it becomes one visit too many and she can count the number of times she spent in your house or your family home then there's bound to be issues coming up soon and I bet its gonna be a big issue.
Now you see why I called you a pussy nigga, wimp and effiminate?
You really failed to represent the alphamale people think you are. You think God gave you Engineering career plus a 6'6 height was to make men become mocked?
You neva chi chom chim.

Newboss:
Igbo? You're surprised?

Igbo women are extreme gold diggers!

I am Igbo, so I know what I am saying!

tobiasbeecher:
Udonmeanit So your mom is a gold-digger

cococandy:
Will you help him kill her?

Asshole

engrelvis:
my brother no b quarrel .v been married of all most 13yrs now n am 45yrs.am a marriage counselor in my church.from my experience d issue of marriage is a two way tin.whether u r living abroad or here d trick to marriage is understanding ur spouse n knowing when to act.alot of women v emotional baggage.when u say u v met yr soul mate it deos nt mean dat person is perfect.it simply means he or she understands u.d same woman d op is complaining about now might meet another man n everything will work out for her.what I v seen in our culture is dat our men "order"their wives to obey dem.those types of things stop with our father.our women r more enlighten these days . understand yr wife n know when to enforce rules n when to soften.

ofegge73:
Thank you for bringing this up, yes we got her back.
We had prayers for her from all over the world.
My Eldest sister in the U.S ,my entire family members inEurope and S. A, and We here in Nigeria had marathon prayers on her behalf.
Quite sincerely, the kidnappers rejected the ransom, and brought her out at about 2.36 am on December,25th 2016.
We were overjoyed.
She eventually relocated to the U. S late last year, she is fine.
Thanks.

ofegge73:
you have no idea what you just concluded.
Let me make it a bit easier to comprehend.
I have never in my entire life hit my siblings, or anyone for that matter, the truth is and I will tell you. My estranged wife would easily slap me, and then sulk up to me later to apologise.
I grew up in a wonderful family, I never witnessed my parents fight or exchange words.
There has never been anything like domestic violence all the times she was with me till today.
What I now realize today, is the fact that she always had things her way, because I never checked,monitored or controlled her movement in and out of our home.
So, when I first noticed she was having affairs outside and repeated appeals for her to stop, she became something else.
She didn't pack out of our home, I drove her and the kids to her father's house.
I later found out from their security man that she always had male visitors, and most times wouldn't get back till the next day.
So, I told her the marriage was effectively over, that's when she conspired with her mum and brother to label domestic violence and all sorts against me and went to all the agencies you can imagine or think of in Lagos State, cos she knew she had lost the marriage.
I am a good man and I know so.
God will help me.

ofegge73:
Good evening Nairalanders, I have no idea how to go about making this as clear as possible, but truth is I married a stranger.
I met this Lady in 2012,we became friendly, and talked on consistently.
At the time she was on NYSC in Ikom cross River State. By the way she is from Obosi in Anambra state.
She was visiting me in Lagos every week, of course I paid for her flight tickets back and forth for all the times she visited till we got married and beyond. I have never let her use the bus or public transport to anywhere, it's either I drive her, she drives or a taxi.
A few months to her passing out, she told me she was pregnant, so I thought I would marry her and cut the drama short, but that was my undoing.
We got married, but all through, she spent more time with her parents and siblings.
Fast forward to 2016,my wife got a job through my sister in Abuja, and everything got worse, she wouldn't get back home till very late everyday.
Her explanation was that her boss delayed her.
I got to find out she was dating her boss later, even caught her at hotels in ikeja G. R,.A and on the island with her boss at very odd hours of the night.
Don't get me wrong, I am okay, I live in a 5 bedroom duplex in ikeja, the house is very comfortable and cosy, and almost completing my personal building at awoyaya in ibeju. i am not a poor man.
Well, she gave birth to my first child a boy, but insisted on C. S, then my daughter, through C. S too. All were elective!
She wouldn't come back home,and spent more time at her parents than in our home, always saying she needs herMum to watch the kids,while she is out, we got maids, but she was so violent with them, they all left.
Fast forward to 2017,i asked my wife to come back home, she refused, well I told her the marriage wouldn't work anymore,as she wasnt living with me for the past two years.
She immediately went and petitioned me at office of the Public defender in Lagos State citing domestic violence, irresponsibility as to my kids and stuff, I have always provided food, toiletries, medicals,as well as pay my children's school fees till this minute. But she teamed up with her Mum and brother to make up so many fabrications because they demanded I pay a stipend to them every month, and I said no, I won't do that, your daughter, my wife is in your house cos she wants to be there, not because I sent her away or anything like that.Her father is the only person who is sane, but the man is a pensioner and can't help himself much, so she treats him with intimidation She reported me to the police and all agencies you can think of, well at last they conducted their investigations and found out she was telling lies.
I am no more interested in keeping her, and she has vowed that I can't divorce her or I die, but my kids are the issue now.
I need sound advice on how to go about this.
Please no mockery, I am in dire need of good advice. Thanks.