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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by chigoizie7(m): 3:35pm On Feb 20, 2018
I will go for the marriage of the olden days.



When I want to settle down. I have always wanted to do so for the love of marriage. I want to enjoy my marriage. Otherwise I will just sit and enjoy my life stress free. I can have kids if I want to.



How ever, we make plans for ourselves but for certain reasons, it doesn't work that way, our partners might have a different plan entirely.




Anyways I am so tired to type much

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Lilimax(f): 3:35pm On Feb 20, 2018
Marriage is between two incomplete people coming together to complete themselves. embarassed

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by petkoffdrake2(m): 3:35pm On Feb 20, 2018
Awol
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by thatigboman: 3:35pm On Feb 20, 2018
lasmile:
The topic should have gone to frontpage. Nairaland which criteria should we follow. Or is it a game of chance?

Good Afternoon all
na u be Op, na u be FTC. Not nice at all.
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Nobody: 3:38pm On Feb 20, 2018
I just saw one guy following a snake, and he was hailing the snake.... chairman! chairman!! anything for your guy
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Divay22(f): 3:40pm On Feb 20, 2018
Then
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by RagaRaga: 3:40pm On Feb 20, 2018
Christian Marriage is really over hype, d money spend is out of recession.

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by tete7000(m): 3:42pm On Feb 20, 2018
Op seems to have problem with the church marriage. His write-up seems to be littered with reference to it as if it is the cause of marital breakups. Sadly, the church values are meant to protect and reinforce integrity of marriage. If people dutifully follow Christian values, problems will disappear in marriages. What kills modern marriages of nowadays is not the Christian aspect of it but secularisation of marriage. The jettison of what Christianity preaches. People go to church, value the social and flamboyant aspect but jettison the core values it expounds.
I laugh when people talk as if traditional values protect marriages better. No, it doesn't. The modern feminist trend is down to the traditional values, as they tend to suppress women and make them nobody in marriage. Many of them endure their marriages but never enjoyed it, they dared not talk about separation because of stigmatisation that is attached to such in traditional settings. When traditional marital values are championed, it is men (of which op is one) that always raise their hands. Why? Because it favours men, you can treat your wives anyhow and no one questions you. That a marriage lasts a lifetime doesn't make it successful. The damages caused by polygamy championed by our traditional value system remained permanent in the lives of women and children that endure such marriage system.

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Chydo63(m): 3:44pm On Feb 20, 2018
THEN:- Because wives were responsible and subjective.
NOW:- Because wives are independent and authoritative.
So in Conclusion, it depends on your priorities and prerogative. Different strokes for different folks. But if you can get a mixture of both these days, you better thank your stars!
Oloshos everywhere nowadays!

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Chydo63(m): 3:44pm On Feb 20, 2018
THEN:- Because wives were responsible and subjective.
NOW:- Because wives are independent and authoritative.
So in Conclusion, it depends on your priorities and prerogative. Different strokes for different folks. But if you can get a mixture of both these says, you better thank your stars!
Olosho everywhere nowadays!
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by happney65: 3:50pm On Feb 20, 2018
veekid:
Who marriage epp

Ahahahahahahahahahahhahaa..My broda you sef dey run?Ahahahahahhahahahaha..I twale for my oga ohhhh..Lol
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by ifrosh: 3:50pm On Feb 20, 2018
ShitHead:
Marriage is a scam! Don't be fooled!

ur name suit u bro.....u are indeed a shithead.
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Nobody: 3:53pm On Feb 20, 2018
Lilimax:
Marriage is between two incomplete people coming together to complete themselves. embarassed
Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse. Millions of tiny moments that create your love story.”
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by HRHQueenPhil(f): 3:56pm On Feb 20, 2018
marraige then:
1. he has a farm, house or a paying job
2. women must be trained 2 cook and take care of the home
3. bride price is a token
4. men could beat up their wives and the woman cant talk back
5. wives were engaged in less stressful jobs cos their husbands were capable

NOw
1. both parties must learn 2 cook, u can download d app 2 help you learn
2. training is now on the job, if u cant bear it divorce
3. conjugal duties must be enjoyed by both parties, if d wife dosent enjoy it, she can call it rape
4. u dare not beat up ur wife again. criminal offense
5. u must be able 2 have a paying job AND business by the side if u are thinking of ever gettting married
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Tollzara(m): 3:56pm On Feb 20, 2018
Marriage is mostly crap these days. The human race has evolved and our values and priorities have changed, so it's for the most part an outdated and pretty much redundant institution.

It's nothing worthwhile in most cases.

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by tete7000(m): 4:01pm On Feb 20, 2018
RagaRaga:
Christian Marriage is really over hype, d money spend is out of recession.


You can do Christian marriage without the flamboyance. The ceremonial part is a choice people can do without. Churches can marry you discreetly without attracting undue attention. I often laugh because people don't really know what Christian marriage is. You people tend to always associate it with the social reception. No, church marriage is not the reception. Sad part is when many are invited to a wedding ceremony, they go and take seats at reception venues without attending the marriage proper in the Church. It is the joining of two people together before the pulpit with vows of trust and fidelity till death do both apart that is the marriage and not the reception that takes place afterwards.
If people will remain faithful to their marital vow to love and cherish themselves in health and sickness, with or without children until death do both apart, it is the best that can happen to human kind.
Who cares if you wear wedding gown to you marriage ceremony? it is not obligatory. Who cares if it is done on Saturday? That is not encoded anywhere. At any morning or evening mass, the Catholic Church will conduct a wedding ceremony for you.

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Nobody: 4:06pm On Feb 20, 2018
For me, marriage is overrated. I don't fancy marriage. Its a waste of time.

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Fuhrerfran6(m): 4:08pm On Feb 20, 2018
EweduAfonja:
I prefer then....

today some silly men are looking for Rich ladies or a lady from wealthy family.

speaking from experience? cheesy
EweduAfonja:
I prefer then....

today some silly men are looking for Rich ladies or a lady from wealthy family.

speaking from experience?

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by itzjorju(m): 4:10pm On Feb 20, 2018
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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by wonder233: 4:10pm On Feb 20, 2018
Its so pathetic how obsessed Nigerians are with marriage. Bunch of simple minded fellows crammed together in a country perpetually stewing in ignorance and simple-mindedness.
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by bukatyne(f): 4:17pm On Feb 20, 2018
tete7000:



You can do Christian marriage without the flamboyance. The ceremonial part is a choice people can do without. Churches can marry you discreetly without attracting undue attention. I often laugh because people don't really know what Christian marriage is. You people tend to always associate it with the social reception. No, church marriage is not the reception. Sad part is when many are invited to a wedding ceremony, they go and take seats at reception venues without attending the marriage proper in the Church. It is the joining of two people together before the pulpit with vows of trust and fidelity till death do both apart that is the marriage and not the reception that takes place afterwards.
If people will remain faithful to their marital vow to love and cherish themselves in health and sickness, with or without children until death do both apart, it is the best that can happen to human kind.
Who cares if you wear wedding gown to you marriage ceremony? it is not obligatory. Who cares if it is done on Saturday? That is not encoded anywhere. At any morning or evening mass, the Catholic Church will conduct a wedding ceremony for you.

Keep firing on.
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by bukatyne(f): 4:17pm On Feb 20, 2018
tete7000:
Op seems to have problem with the church marriage. His write-up seems to be littered with reference to it as if it is the cause of marital breakups. Sadly, the church values are meant to protect and reinforce integrity of marriage. If people dutifully follow Christian values, problems will disappear in marriages. What kills modern marriages of nowadays is not the Christian aspect of it but secularisation of marriage. The jettison of what Christianity preaches. People go to church, value the social and flamboyant aspect but jettison the core values it expounds.
I laugh when people talk as if traditional values protect marriages better. No, it doesn't. The modern feminist trend is down to the traditional values, as they tend to suppress women and make them nobody in marriage. Many of them endure their marriages but never enjoyed it, they dared not talk about separation because of stigmatisation that is attached to such in traditional settings. When traditional marital values are championed, it is men (of which op is one) that always raise their hands. Why? Because it favours men, you can treat your wives anyhow and no one questions you. That a marriage lasts a lifetime doesn't make it successful. The damages caused by polygamy championed by our traditional value system remained permanent in the lives of women and children that endure such marriage system.

On point.
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by veekid(m): 4:20pm On Feb 20, 2018
happney65:


Ahahahahahahahahahahhahaa..My broda you sef dey run?Ahahahahahhahahahaha..I twale for my oga ohhhh..Lol
you no dey run? grin grin grin grin
Even devil dey run for marriage these days

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Pataricatering(f): 4:24pm On Feb 20, 2018
hobermener:
Unless women are taught to know their place in a marriage, marriage as an institution will only get worse and ultimately turn out irrelevant.
better it turns out irrelevant! You can’t continue cheating people in the name of marriage and think things will continue being fine !

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by IMASTEX: 4:30pm On Feb 20, 2018
ShitHead:
Marriage is a scam! Don't be fooled!
Yes, it will be a scam when both parties have contrary aims especially personal interest in the union. But where aims & objectives is properly defined less issues are likely experienced.
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by dingbang(m): 4:33pm On Feb 20, 2018
EweduAfonja:
I prefer then....

today some silly men are looking for Rich ladies or a lady from wealthy family.

its even unwise for a poor man to marry a woman from a wealthy family.

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Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by happney65: 4:37pm On Feb 20, 2018
veekid:
you no dey run? grin grin grin grin
Even devil dey run for marriage these days

grin grin grin
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by dvkot(m): 4:41pm On Feb 20, 2018
i prefer nowadays marriage, which is based on love....
marriage of those days seems like contract the main reason of the woman is to bear children and cook, and if you can't give birth to male child ur name is sorry...
Re: Marriage Now Vs Then – Which Do You Prefer? by Gruvychuky(f): 4:47pm On Feb 20, 2018
people who don't understand marriage or are unfortunate to marry the wrong ones, speak negatively about marriage and try to discourage others. Its not really so. marriage is sweet and enjoyable when you marry right. I have 2 sisters and all of us are happily married with children and we are enjoying it. Even my friends around, its same with them. so I wonder why people condemn marriage. Pray for God to give you someone that will value you

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