tete7000:
Op seems to have problem with the church marriage. His write-up seems to be littered with reference to it as if it is the cause of marital breakups. Sadly, the church values are meant to protect and reinforce integrity of marriage. If people dutifully follow Christian values, problems will disappear in marriages. What kills modern marriages of nowadays is not the Christian aspect of it but secularisation of marriage. The jettison of what Christianity preaches. People go to church, value the social and flamboyant aspect but jettison the core values it expounds.
I laugh when people talk as if traditional values protect marriages better. No, it doesn't. The modern feminist trend is down to the traditional values, as they tend to suppress women and make them nobody in marriage. Many of them endure their marriages but never enjoyed it, they dared not talk about separation because of stigmatisation that is attached to such in traditional settings. When traditional marital values are championed, it is men (of which op is one) that always raise their hands. Why? Because it favours men, you can treat your wives anyhow and no one questions you. That a marriage lasts a lifetime doesn't make it successful. The damages caused by polygamy championed by our traditional value system remained permanent in the lives of women and children that endure such marriage system.

u've typed it all

Litblogger:
Well, both have pros and cons.
There is no doubt that the marriage of 'then' used to last longer than the marriage of 'now'. And women used to be extremely loyal and 100% committed to their husbands.
The con is that there wasn't room for "Love". It made marriage seem like a strict contract. It was too traditional. If a lady wasn't a virgin, she was considered worthless. And it was believed that a woman's place was in her husband's kitchen.
I'm too hungry to type too much jare.

Call me weird, but I think I do prefer the marriage of 'then' anyway.

Are you married? And are you still a virgin?

JamaicanLove:
For me, marriage is overrated. I don't fancy marriage. Its a waste of time.

r
You obviously cant get married

dingbang:
its even unwise for a poor man to marry a woman from a wealthy family.

Abeg help me tell them Ooooo...

KeenMind:
Then, though I'm not even too keen about the whole marriage ish.




Marriage as an institution has outlived it's usefulness long time ago. It's naturally disintegrating gradually. In the next 400-500 years or so, I can bet the last vestiges of the marriage institution will be tossed into the bins of history.

What makes you say that?
Mind you it's not that people don't get married nowadays, it's just the divorce rate that is rampant. Also there are still perks attached to being married that even gays are not content with just being living with their partners, but they want be recognized as being legally married.

EazyMoh:

What makes you say that?
Mind you it's not that people don't get married nowadays, it's just the divorce rate that is rampant. Also there are still perks attached to being married that even gays are not content with just being living with their partners, but they want be recognized as being legally married.

Why do you think divorce rate is rising?

What are these perks attached to marriage that single folks are not getting and desire?

these day's young people live in the fantasy world






unrealistic expectations here and there....we want the perfect husband/wife and so any flaw cannot be tolerated...young people lack tolerance...and thats where we are missing it..unlike our old folks..they tolerated in thick and thin


when werealise that nobody is perfect...only then can we have some sort of marriage tranquility

Nowadays marriages are being destroyed by climate change caused by corruption in the land.

KeenMind:


Why do you think divorce rate is rising?

What are these perks attached to marriage that single folks are not getting and desire?

You don't answer question with a question.
But let me answer you anyway, the fact that there is a high rate of divorce doesn't mean people will stop getting married. In fact majority of divorcees even look forward to marrying again. Humans are social beings, and marriage is one of the most ideal ways to socialize.
Perks like acceptance and respect in the society as I mentioned humans are social beings. Employment opportunities economic support as well as business and political alliances.
Now you may answer my question as to why you concluded end of marriage especially as you gave it a timeline.

Then is far better, no contest, all this bitches aint loyal...

Jolar101:


Are you married? And are you still a virgin?

Something in my forehead tells me it's none of your business

SaintHilary:
r
You obviously cant get married

Shhhhhh... you never can tell.

EweduAfonja:
I prefer then....

today some silly men are looking for Rich ladies or a lady from wealthy family.

its rare dear

The both have pros and cons, but the marriage of now has lots of disadvantages.

Marriage then, no chance of Knowing each other, courtship (which gives room for both partners to express themselves), in dis aspect the woman is always @ d bad edge cos the man will be seen as him been right always (Africa culture)

Marriage today, furnication has increased, too much knowledge, exorbitant spendings of weddings, d ladies is not ready to bent low for her husband. And one new discovery the ladies want to get married early cos of time factors & fear of age

The marriage of now with the commitment of old.

EweduAfonja:
I prefer then....

today some silly men are looking for Rich ladies or a lady from wealthy family.

So u want us to settle down with a liability? if u no get money, hide ur yansh

Well most people are yet to know or would to understand that "White wedding " & "Traditional wedding " are the same!! For goodness sake the traditional wedding is our culture ( the African culture) while the white wedding is the western world traditional marriage. But majority of we Nigerians are yet or will I say don't want to accept the truth. When I see people spend thousands and millions of naira in the name of celebrating and hosting their families and friends in white wedding, I just laugh at their ignorance. After the wedding they go around begging for money.

Litblogger:
Well, both have pros and cons.
There is no doubt that the marriage of 'then' used to last longer than the marriage of 'now'. And women used to be extremely loyal and 100% committed to their husbands.
The con is that there wasn't room for "Love". It made marriage seem like a strict contract. It was too traditional. If a lady wasn't a virgin, she was considered worthless. And it was believed that a woman's place was in her husband's kitchen.
I'm too hungry to type too much jare.

Call me weird, but I think I do prefer the marriage of 'then' anyway.

What they didn't have was lust.
They had true and undiluted love. You are mistaken

EweduAfonja:
I prefer then....

today some silly men are looking for Rich ladies or a lady from wealthy family.

Those type of 'boys' really annoy me!
We call then Gigollos and God help any desperate woman that falls into their hands.

But on the flip-side, we also have ladies that setup their Antenna, not for anything else but to 'track rich men', even if they are as old as their Daddy!
Nasty, useless cunts.

All in all, marriage as we know it in the days of our mothers, has lost its value.
It is now all abou tmoney, money, and money.
Money-go, woman-go.
Money-go, love-flies...and it is not just with women but with men also.
Infact, this generation does not know what love means, all they know is "Pin-Number" of your ATM!

haslaw:


What they didn't have was lust.
They had true and undiluted love. You are mistaken

Okay

FroshJaynex:
So u want us to settle down with a liability? if u no get money, hide ur yansh

U need a better shovel to dig more Mr Gold D.

Litblogger:


Something in my forehead tells me it's none of your business

Lol

Nigeria women don make marrying a fearful task

many of them are not worth it....many are just hustlers....banging every men around for material things...after come come marry one innocent man...de give am wahala