why do women run when they find out you have children

I can't speak for other ladies, but I can for myself. What I do know is that I WOULD NEVER date someone who has children. If I had a child(ren) then maybe. But since I am not bringing any baggage to the relationship, then he shouldn't,

its a tough thing to do, u gotta find a spot for the child first and then for the rest of ur life, u gotta learn to deal with the mother who most times will keep badging into ur life.

it takes a lot to handle that!

Same reason we guys run when we discover they got one(or more).

exactly

bolarge said it all

i will talk for myself, i will never run if i found out my boy-friend have a child before we started dating. that his flesh and blood, tell me what is love if i can't take the child of the one i love and take care of him like mine

i will talk for myself, i will never run if i found out my boy-friend have a child  before we started dating. that his flesh and blood, tell me what is love if i can't take the child of the one i love and take care of him like mine

I can only talk for myself - I will never run away from a guy, just because I discovered he has a child.
Why? Because he might not have choosen to have a child out there with somebody else. Sometimes things happen. He could have been married and it didnt work out. So if I want to accept him and love him truly, it means I have to regard this child also as a child of mine. The child didnt ask in the first place to be born and grow up with her parents being separated, so all those actions are hurting the child and they definitely dont deserve it to suffer from things they have not caused. A partner has to be for me the backbone of the other and if it is not like that, your boyfriend or husband will not develop or maintain the interest of caring for his child and I just think the child deserves his father/her mother to care and cater for them, so I dont want to be the one to discourage my boyfriend/my husband in that.

The only reason that can make me run away from a guy that has a child, is when I discover, pregnating a woman or wife is for him like a game and he doesnt give a f**** about his children, then I will not go further, because I can already assume that I might not make difference with me, perhaps.

They are scared that the child's mother will come knocking on your door one day telling you she needs you back.
believe me it's so hard for them to face that particular problem.
that's why they run as fast as their legs can carry them once they learn you are a father.

it's also the other way round.
men also avoid women who already have children.

Well, Having a kid is not a crime, and If I know she gat kids before and she told me before hand, I do accept her, samething goes for the Female too, You know one will sure feel hurt when he discovers that his date already have an issue.
But here, always ask if the father or mother of such child are legally seperated. If they are not, then is a SIN, 'cos it kinda sound like another man's wife, / otherwise.
FOLLOW UR HEART BRETHREN

y do men run when they know u have kids, sebi na after one dem dey call am

anyway 4 me sha, if im not bringing any bargages, i wud expext him not to bring any either, o pari

ha tell me why DO MEN run when they find out htat a woman has children eh

becos the child(ren) will giv her problmez,they'll want 2 prove 2 her that they were there b4 her and that doesn't sound so gud,does it?

@busta,she's said it all.personally i cant bring up another womans child cos d child will cos a distraction between me n my husband n as long as d childs mother is still alive ill neva marry a single dad.besides since he is my 1st husband my 1st born should be 1st, n many more reasons i cant even marry a single dad

Baby's mama problems, the kids will resent me no matter how nice I treat them etc. Its too much headache for my young heart However if I love the person then who knows

katherinae:

ha tell me why DO MEN run when they find out htat a woman has children eh

According to the misogynistic buffoons we have littering the world, she is well worn But its ok for men to have baby mamas in every area code because they are "Men" Buffons.

Ebonyeyes:

According to the misogynistic buffoons we have littering the world, she is well worn But its ok for men to have baby mamas in every area code because they are "Men" Buffons.

the eternal feminist,

What me? Not at all

Ebonyeyes:

What me? Not at all

hmmm, u r jare

i guess its the evil step-mother syndrome, besides SOME african women can maltreat anyone other than their children just look at the way some treat househelps or relations

@ebony eyes,
LIKE ALWAYS, a feminist

What is all this? so because Im saying what you guys usually say everytime in here and RL im a feminist?

"Dons Feminist badge with honor"

Well, not exactly the simplest news of the year, it's alot to handle, hmm, sort of like finding out your man is gay, or has a small p.enis

they dont want to involve themselves in a kind of rivery home
that is there main reason for d issue

if the mother of the children is alive, it would be almost impossible for them to accept a new wife. and that would bring problems between husband and wife. i won't mind if the mother of the children is dead though.

The same reason i run when i find out a woman has a kid.
Train a difficult kid that will go back to some lousy, no-good bio-dad? you must be out of your Zap.i.n.g mind dude.

GL:

if the mother of the children is alive, it would be almost impossible for them to accept a new wife. and that would bring problems between husband and wife. i won't mind if the mother of the children is dead though.

what u want to "top" THE MOTHER ? na wa ooo

Because they don't wanna be chased out by them or their mother or mother(s). . .

lmao

Kenny_G:

what u want to "top" THE MOTHER ? na wa ooo

of course NOT!!! i guess i should have said i won't mind a widower with children. at least the children would know i had nothing to do with ending their parents' marriage.

GL:

of course NOT!!! i guess i should have said i won't mind a widower with children. at least the children would know i had nothing to do with ending their parents' marriage.

i know was only teasing

Kenny_G:

i know was only teasing

I will never run away from a guy, just because I discovered he has a child.