Sweetheart, I take exception to your comment. Nigerian men are the most romantic men you may ever dream of. When we fall in love, we FALL in love and give everything we have for the love. Same applies to Nigerian Woman. The truth is most SA ladies fall easily for 9ja men not because we like to lie as it were, but because we have SWAG which SA men don't. Most SA men are mentally lazy, hate responsibilities and love alcohol irrespective the time of the day. This is why we have xenophobia out there.
I have dated SA ladies but sorry to say, I'd prefer a Nigerian lady one million times to either a Zambian, SA or Namibian. I have reservations which I would not want to air.

XhosaNostra:


LMAO.

I've actually said something similar a very long time ago here, after reading many threads about guys in the so called "no sex" relationships & the mugu ones being used for money etc. I said, that'll never happen with a South African guy & that is a fact. How some guys do things in Nigeria, is very different to how things are done in other areas. Then again, it comes down to conditioning & being used to certain things. Seems that's what they are used to, to throw money around to attract females. If you notice, that's also what the females expect from the men, from my observation. In other words, Nigerian men & Nigerian females are suitable for each other. They feed each other's impulses. A Nigerian man with a female from elsewhere, is at risk of being used, TBH. Because South African ladies for instance, they're used to a different type of man. South African men aren't the money throwing type. So by comparison, the Nigerian man will appear to be winning the race because of the money-superficial love. In the long run, however, I don't see a relationship between the two lasting imo, because no offence, Nigerian men don't seem to be man enough. There's just something there that seems OFF. I've never dated one in real life because I'm usually not attracted to how they come across in person.

XhosaNostra:
Staged. Unless the guy has been bewitched, I don't see how any self-respecting man would allow himself to become whatever that is. As a woman, I'd feel very uncomfortable watching a man (my man) do all the housework, while I'm sitting on my ass eating bonbons all day. In my own household I prefer to do all the housework, because I do it better

Thumbs Up

lefulefu:
Though pounding yam in most cases na man work cos in most cases it involves physical strength but wetin i find weird in the pix is the case of the guy backing the baby on his back while pounding. Why not give the baby to ur wife to attend to while u focus on the pounding. Anyway the picture looks staged but if not staged den wetin remain na for the man to tie wrapper for chest and wear lipstick.

Pounding is a woman's work.

Women are stronger than men. It is a fact.

StylesX:
I think its stupidity

I can't treat my husband this way even if he is chronic cheat.

Fadiga24:
That's their love I see nothing stupid in that

As if there is a guideline on what a husband should do and should not do in the house.

yes there is a guideline of what husband should, except you don't know your position in the family .you can read your bible.

Pusyiter:
Sweetheart, I take exception to your comment. Nigerian men are the most romantic men you may ever dream of. When we fall in love, we FALL in love and give everything we have for the love. Same applies to Nigerian Woman. The truth is most SA ladies fall easily for 9ja men not because we like to lie as it were, but because we have SWAG which SA men don't. Most SA men are mentally lazy, hate responsibilities and love alcohol irrespective the time of the day. This is why we have xenophobia out there.
I have dated SA ladies but sorry to say, I'd prefer a Nigerian lady one million times to either a Zambian, SA or Namibian. I have reservations which I would not want to air.

The bold face, and that's why my guy Ubunja was right. We become mumus because of this

Olalan:
its called stupid love

Please remove the Love

So many assumptions going on

The photo is what it is. That happens in many African homes but the reverse as it is in the photo

So many guys here feel it’s beneath them, it’s slavery, it’s a disgrace to manhood and the the list goes on...

My question now is why then is it okay for a woman to do all that but not for the man? Are women signed automatically as slaves because they got married?

Here’s a typical almost everyday African home setting: the man married probably three wives and has a farm they all work on, each day after a great amount of work from the farm the women and children are carrying huge amount of loads while their father is carrying just a cutlass. When they arrive home the man sits to a keg of palm wine while the women go straight into the kitchen fixing a meal for him. If this doesn’t look like slavery I don’t know what does.

Most men on here grew up under such settings and they think it’s proper thing, it’s standard... I don’t blame them much

How I see it: The man can either pound (he’s best suited to do that because he’s stronger) and the woman can be with the baby if it needed to be consoled otherwise the baby can be kept with toys while she keeps an eye on her. Or the man can be with the baby while the woman pounds unless she’s attending to an emergency on the PC then the man should just do the pounding...

My husband is in charge, after knowing that, also know that they’re no clear cut roles in marriage anymore it’s 100/100. He’s in charge meaning I can’t make decisions without his permission not that I become a slave for him

My take

Is this a joke or what?

lefulefu:
who wont escape who? i dont get u

lol,the last won't escape it.

Pusyiter:
Sweetheart, I take exception to your comment. Nigerian men are the most romantic men you may ever dream of. When we fall in love, we FALL in love and give everything we have for the love. Same applies to Nigerian Woman. The truth is most SA ladies fall easily for 9ja men not because we like to lie as it were, but because we have SWAG which SA men don't. Most SA men are mentally lazy, hate responsibilities and love alcohol irrespective the time of the day. This is why we have xenophobia out there.
I have dated SA ladies but sorry to say, I'd prefer a Nigerian lady one million times to either a Zambian, SA or Namibian. I have reservations which I would not want to air.

LOL! Your perception of yourself is biased though, not that I expected you to be impartial about yourself. What you view as romanticism, is actually seen as a weakness by someone else. Take note. South African men may be all those things according to you. That's your outsider's view looking in, so don't take offence when I call you weak either, because that's also my outsider's view looking in. Let's allow each other the same freedom.

I don't think we will mourn you picking a Nigerian woman over us, that's your perfect match after all.

His choice, don't cry more than the bereaved

They did it fr d camera

Preshy561:
what's wrong with the picture biko?

Lord save me from KARISHIKA

XhosaNostra:
Staged. Unless the guy has been bewitched, I don't see how any self-respecting man would allow himself to become whatever that is. As a woman, I'd feel very uncomfortable watching a man (my man) do all the housework, while I'm sitting on my ass eating bonbons all day. In my own household I prefer to do all the housework, because I do it better

See advert!!!

StylesX:
I think its stupidity

I think you're a joker blogger with poorly staged photos

Though to be honest, the reverse happens all the time. Hubby watching football while madam is in the kitchen

ginggerxy:
yes there is a guideline of what husband should, except you don't know your position in the family .you can read your bible.

Did he tell you he was a christian?HOW DOES IT CONCERN THE BIBLE IT IS WHAT IS SUITABLE FOR YOU THAT YOU ARE QUICK TO POINT OUT.

XhosaNostra:



LOL! Your perception of yourself is biased though, not that I expected you to be impartial about yourself. What you view as romanticism, is actually seen as a weakness by someone else. Take note. South African men may be all those things according to you. That's your outsider's view looking in, so don't take offence when I call you weak because that's also my outsider's view looking in. Let's allow each other the same freedom.

I don't think we will mourn you picking a Nigerian woman over us, That's your perfect match after all.

Nawa o
See as u sounded defensive!!!!

luminouz:


See advert!!!

I'm not looking for a Nigerian boyfriend or husband lol.

luminouz:

Nawa o
See as u sounded defensive!!!!

Your perception, doesn't make it a reality.

Pusyiter:
Sweetheart, I take exception to your comment. Nigerian men are the most romantic men you may ever dream of. When we fall in love, we FALL in love and give everything we have for the love. Same applies to Nigerian Woman. The truth is most SA ladies fall easily for 9ja men not because we like to lie as it were, but because we have SWAG which SA men don't. Most SA men are mentally lazy, hate responsibilities and love alcohol irrespective the time of the day. This is why we have xenophobia out there.
I have dated SA ladies but sorry to say, I'd prefer a Nigerian lady one million times to either a Zambian, SA or Namibian. I have reservations which I would not want to air.

you're only romantic coz of money. take out the money from the equation you cant get women. other men get women WITHOUT spending like you do. thats why in the townships nigerian men are banned.coz you want to practice the money-type of love you practice in nigeria. no men whether in SA or Zim or zambia can allow you to train their women to be golddiggers. NEVER. forget and die bro.

Thoniameek:
So many assumptions going on

The photo is what it is. That happens in many African homes but the reverse as it is in the photo

So many guys here feel it’s beneath them, it’s slavery, it’s a disgrace to manhood and the the list goes on...

My question now is why then is it okay for a woman to do all that but not for the man? Are women signed automatically as slaves because they got married?

Here’s a typical almost everyday African home setting: the man married probably three wives and has a farm they all work on, each day after a great amount of work from the farm the women and children are carrying huge amount of loads while their father is carrying just a cutlass. When they arrive home the man sits to a keg of palm wine while the women go straight into the kitchen fixing a meal for him. If this doesn’t look like slavery I don’t know what does.

Most men on here grew up under such settings and they think it’s proper thing, it’s standard... I don’t blame them much

How I see it: The man can either pound (he’s best suited to do that because he’s stronger) and the woman can be with the baby if it needed to be consoled otherwise the baby can be kept with toys while she keeps an eye on her. Or the man can be with the baby while the woman pounds unless she’s attending to an emergency on the PC then the man should just do the pounding...

My husband is in charge, after knowing that, also know that they’re no clear cut roles in marriage anymore it’s 100/100. He’s in charge meaning I can’t make decisions without his permission not that I become a slave for him

My take

Madam you deserve a keg of palmwine.I may not agree with you 100% but you made sense.

LOL.......Don't allow me to spill the beans. I am not talking as an outsider but someone who has experienced the streets in SA. It is not an issue of the match but a kingship of the spirit. SA ladies are sweet but 9ja ladies are sweeter. My advice is, if a 9ja man falls in love with you, then, you will know the true definition of love and romance (desire for such). It is a thing of the heart. Lemme stop here@least for now. LOL

XhosaNostra:



LOL! Your perception of yourself is biased though, not that I expected you to be impartial about yourself. What you view as romanticism, is actually seen as a weakness by someone else. Take note. South African men may be all those things according to you. That's your outsider's view looking in, so don't take offence when I call you weak because that's also my outsider's view looking in. Let's allow each other the same freedom.

I don't think we will mourn you picking a Nigerian woman over us, That's your perfect match after all.

ubunja:




South African girls will always have my vote. as for the nigerian women fighting hard to be men and their men fighting hard to be women i always feel like vomiting. nigeria has to be one of the shìttiest places to live.
and nigerian guys almost spoiled south african girls with their ball-less-ness and always using money to get girls. thank god that didnt last. nigerian men have a weakness towards women that cant be explained. i think its their way of being romantic but its just disgusting. nigerian men c'mon now.Man Up already.

Not all of us.. thankfully

MISSCONGENIALITY:
That can't be her husband, that's a house boy. That's not helping, it's serving.

Thank you Miss. See the way she even cross-legge sit down for chair.

XhosaNostra:


I'm not looking for a Nigerian boyfriend or husband lol.

XhosaNostra:



LOL! Your perception of yourself is biased though, not that I expected you to be impartial about yourself. What you view as romanticism, is actually seen as a weakness by someone else. Take note. South African men may be all those things according to you. That's your outsider's view looking in, so don't take offence when I call you weak because that's also my outsider's view looking in. Let's allow each other the same freedom.

I don't think we will mourn you picking a Nigerian woman over us, That's your perfect match after all.

Nicely put. Nothing to add here .

XhosaNostra:
Staged. Unless the guy has been bewitched, I don't see how any self-respecting man would allow himself to become whatever that is. As a woman, I'd feel very uncomfortable watching a man (my man) do all the housework, while I'm sitting on my ass eating bonbons all day. In my own household I prefer to do all the housework, because I do it better

You never see?

lefulefu:

but in the west,feminism is about equality...so how come nigeria"s feminism is about turning a man to a slave .so how u reason the average man"s lot go be if a feminist bcomes the next president of nigeria

That's the main problem, they don't know what the real meaning of feminism is down here in Nigeria/Nairaland. Only very few of them have an in-depth knowledge and understanding of the movement. Lots of them just jumped on the train thinking Feminism means Egbe kiloko o se.


Omo, na to kuku go become slave for westerners again be that because their own rule go worse if they eventually get that power.

XhosaNostra:



Your perception, doesn't make it a reality.

I no get strength for wahala this morning biko

But one thing is for sure....I never used money to entice a woman n I have dated a beninoise,a cameroounian n an Ethiopian....