I am 20 years old and I believe that I am too young for marriage.

The guy I am dating is 25 years old and he wants us to marry now. But the problem is I am not ready because I believe we are still young to start a family but he doesn't see it that way.

And he is threatening to leave the relationship. What should I do?

Source:relationship issues on fb.

Just face ur books.

Sincere advice , now listen, at 20 this is the best time for u to settle down with your fiance, dont be carried away with youthful exuberance, it might not paid off, i know among your peers some might jeered or taunt u, plz ignore them,

in as much as ure mentally,emotionally and physically fit, why not? C'mon what are u waiting for, go ahead and tie the knot.

I think ur parents are in the best position to advice you.

Yes you are too young.
Tell him to wait small till you finish school or skills acquisition

If u guys are Yoruba .u re just tooo young
If Igbo .u can go ahead
Hausa too.u can go ahead

This type of marriage is always bound to fail

But what is life without risks...

Any lady here that had finished schooling or acquiring a skill but not married should keep her advice to herself.

When people say they are not ready , it's confuses me!

Does marriage stop you from enjoying your youth? could it you don't love him enough? or you just want to test the waters?

it won't even stop you from taking another degree self or even building an empire.

I don't aff anything to say.

Let him leave as he is the immature one.
Marriage is not something you rush into especially if you know you are not ready. Don’t marry someone when your heart is not invested regret is a horrible thing. Regretting getting married is not worth it.

What's the difference between yur life now & as a married woman?

Is he not Bleep¡ng you everyday?

Marry him now or end up begging men to notice you in 5 years time like Biacan.

Till then...

DWJOBScom:
When people say they are not ready , it's confuses me!

Does marriage stop you from enjoying your youth? could it you don't love him enough? or you just want to test the waters?

it won't even stop you from taking another degree self or even building an empire.

How is it confusing?
How are you going to enjoy your youth if you are married? You are wife the youth ceases to exist
Not ready for the responsibilities as in our society there are certain quarters where it is an expectation that marriage -babies
She might not be ready for that
The commitment
She wants to see the world ...experience life
Have a career

themaestro08:
Sincere advice , now listen, at 20 this is the best time for u to settle down with your fiance, dont be carried away with youthful exuberance, it might not paid off, i know among your peers some might jeered or taunt u, plz ignore them,

in as much as ure mentally,emotionally and physically fit, why not? C'mon what are u waiting for, go ahead and tie the knot.

Who said that’s the best time? There is a blue print for this?
What about her dreams her aspirations? They don’t matter?

MissRaine69:

Who said that’s the best time? There is a blue print for this?
What about her dreams her aspirations? They don’t matter?

What "dreams & aspirations" can you not achieve in marriage?

The dude doesn't have "dreams & aspirations" too?

I don't see any sense in your comment except by "dreams & aspirations", you mean sexcapades & promiscuity.

You want her to sleep around from dick to dick before she can be "experienced".

Na una way.

How is it confusing?

How are you going to enjoy your youth if you are married? You are wife the youth ceases to exist

naaa totally false - i have seen married woman and men with their blazing youths and yet they are working too. They look healthy and fit that you are shocked when they admit married. It's what you tell yourself that you are

Not ready for the responsibilities as in our society there are certain quarters where it is an expectation that marriage -babies

i know couples who delay procreation for a while and when they were ready they began the project

She might not be ready for that was never matured for it

The commitment
She wants to see the world ...experience life
Have a career

it has never stopped anyone - career wise or whatever

GeeString:




What "dreams & aspirations" can you not achieve in marriage?

The dude doesn't have "dreams & aspirations" too?

I don't see any sense in your comment except by "dreams & aspirations", you mean sexcapades & promiscuity.


You want her to sleep around from dick to dick before she can be "experienced".

Na una way.

I would offer a rebuttal but your mindset is a deterrent we have different perspectives when it comes to what’s poignant and what’s not.

MissRaine69:

I would offer a rebuttal but your mindset is a deterrent we have different perspectives when it comes to what’s poignant and what’s not.

Its very simple madam.

Tell us what those "dreams & aspirations" are.

Education? Health? Career?

Tell us. We want to learn.

Except you mean 'sexperience' because that's all I can see marriage will stop.

DWJOBScom:
How is it confusing?


naaa totally false - i have seen married woman and men with their blazing youths and yet they are working too. They look healthy and fit that you are shocked when they admit married. It's what you tell yourself that you are



i know couples who delay procreation for a while and when they were ready they began the project

She might not be ready for that was never matured for it



it has never stopped anyone - career wise or whatever

Thank you!

Im also curious.

By "she wants to see the world - experience life", trust me, she means sex.

predmine20:
I am 20 years old and I believe that I am too young for marriage.

The guy I am dating is 25 years old and he wants us to marry now. But the problem is I am not ready because I believe we are still young to start a family but he doesn't see it that way.

And he is threatening to leave the relationship. What should I do?

Source:relationship issues on fb.

Once he has a source of stable income, i mean he is financially independent and what he earns can take care of both of you. Then I don't think you are too young.

DWJOBScom:
When people say they are not ready , it's confuses me!

Does marriage stop you from enjoying your youth? could it you don't love him enough? or you just want to test the waters?

it won't even stop you from taking another degree self or even building an empire.

Easier said than done.

GeeString:




Thank you!

Im also curious.

By "she wants to see the world - experience life", trust me, she means sex.

It could mean a lot.

follow ur heart dear..if u think u are mature enough to to be a married woman..then go ahead..my cousin got married at the age of 20 and she's enjoying her marriage. meanwhile one of my girlfriends is 27years, no serious relationship yet...LIFE.

PrimadonnaO:


It could mean a lot.

So why is it so difficult to state these things up till now?

Do the words not exist in the dictionary?

Is she searching the internet franctically for an answer right now to save her face?

Maybe you can help her out.

MissRaine69:

Who said that’s the best time? There is a blue print for this?
What about her dreams her aspirations? They don’t matter?

so are u trying to tell me getting married will hinder her from aspiring for greatness? That a shallow thought! Marriage adds it dosent subtract! Know this

GeeString:




Its very simple madam.

Tell us what those "dreams & aspirations" are.

Education? Health? Career?

Tell us. We want to learn.

Except you mean 'sexperience' because that's all I can see marriage will stop.

No it’s not simple
You want an argument not an objective discussion just look at the condescending way you wrote. There are people I have discussions with here as they are objective
You are not one of those people.

GeeString:




What "dreams & aspirations" can you not achieve in marriage?

The dude doesn't have "dreams & aspirations" too?

I don't see any sense in your comment except by "dreams & aspirations", you mean sexcapades & promiscuity.

You want her to sleep around from dick to dick before she can be "experienced".

Na una way.

my thought exactly, thumbs up for u.

MissRaine69:

No it’s not simple
You want an argument not an objective discussion just look at the condescending way you wrote. There are people I have discussions with here as they are objective
You are not one of those people.

The summary of this epistle is that you cannot state what those things you claim marriage will prevent her from achieving are.

Simple.

themaestro08:
so are u trying to tell me getting married will hinder her from aspiring for greatness? That a shallow thought! Marriage adds it dosent subtract! Know this

In certain quarters of this society yes
Do you know where she is from? The expectations of the particular society she lives in? Are you the husband? What if he wants kids immediately and she does not?
By the way you are allowed to have your point of view, permit me the courtesy to have mine. Or is being objective a difficult concept for you to fathom?

themaestro08:
Sincere advice , now listen, at 20 this is the best time for u to settle down with your fiance, dont be carried away with youthful exuberance, it might not paid off, i know among your peers some might jeered or taunt u, plz ignore them,

in as much as ure mentally,emotionally and physically fit, why not? C'mon what are u waiting for, go ahead and tie the knot.

u didn't even bother to ask if she's still in school or she has one or two things in mind to do at a particular time

GeeString:




Thank you!

Im also curious.

By "she wants to see the world - experience life", trust me, she means sex.

It go also mean she wants to travel , mingle without limitation and yes have some fun which might include your getting laid

GeeString:




The summary of this epistle is that you cannot state what those things you claim marriage will prevent her from achieving are.

Simple.

Ffs
What is she wants to travel abroad to further her education and he does not share that view?
How do you know definitively he will support her career aspirations post marriaage?
What if that becomes a hurdle when her career surpasses his and he stats to resent it?
He might be progressive but the rest of his family are not . They ultra conservative and expect a daughter in law to have a child within a year a of marriage and she might want to wait a year or more?
Finish school ,get a job and build her independence and no living on your own does not involve coitus with any man.
The girl said she is not ready why is it mandatory that she is not allowed to experience life until she is?

I don’t have a secular view of life you do my view is my own. Marry when you are ready not because you have to.