DWJOBScom:


It go also mean she wants to travel , mingle without limitation and yes have some fun which might include your getting laid

MissRaine69:

Ffs
What is she wants to travel abroad to further her education and he does not share that view?
How do you know definitively he will support her career aspirations post marriaage?
What if that becomes a hurdle when her career surpasses his and he stats to resent it?
He might be progressive but the rest of his family are not . They ultra conservative and expect a daughter in law to have a child within a year a of marriage and she might want to wait a year or more?
Finish school ,get a job and build her independence and no living on your own does not involve coitus with any man.
The girl said she is not ready why is it mandatory that she is not allowed to experience life until she is?

I don’t have a secular view of life you do my view is my own. Marry when you are ready not because you have to.

[/quote] author=MissRaine69 post=66041936]

I don't really understand all what you said but I feel you understand and agree with my claim

That's nice

Am not generalising the whole female here

But you should know yasef maybe you might be among the little percentage

MissRaine69:

In certain quarters of this society yes
Do you know where she is from? The expectations of the particular society she lives in? Are you the husband? What if he wants kids immediately and she does not?
By the way you are allowed to have your point of view, permit me the courtesy to have mine. Or is being objective a difficult concept for you to fathom?

GeeString:




Couples dont travel abroad to further their education & work?

If he doesnt support her career aspirations now what makes you think he will when she is through reading it say in 5 years time?

When she is done with school, stays independent & finally gets married and then encounters ALL these negatives you have pointed out, what then?

What was the point of delaying it? They can all still happen even after she has "experienced the world" as you put it.

If she isnt ready then he isnt ready, but dont try to tell us marriage will hinder her career now. That's utter BS.

purem:
author=MissRaine69 post=66041936]

I don't really understand all what you said but I feel you understand and agree with my claim

That's nice

Am not generalising the whole female here

But you should know yasef maybe you might be among the little percentage

MissRaine69:
Like I said You are entitled to your opinion bs or otherwise You can’t make me agree with you Or bend to your notion regardless of how aggressive You try to come across I don’t agree

MissRaine69:

Like I said
You are entitled to your opinion bs or otherwise
You can’t make me agree with you
Or bend to your notion regardless of how aggressive
You try to come across
I don’t agree

GeeString:




You have no point please.

Marriage will hinder her career indeed.
Very weak & baseless opinion.

Absolute BS.

GeeString:





Marriage will stop her from travelling?

Lol

themaestro08:
so are u trying to tell me getting married will hinder her from aspiring for greatness? That a shallow thought! Marriage adds it dosent subtract! Know this

amakadihot87:
.........i think the only problem marriage could bring her is if she starts having kids immediately..........it could set back her studies and ofcourse deprive her of having personal time

DWJOBScom:

Well am assisting the mother of all excuses

MissRaine69:

How is it confusing?
How are you going to enjoy your youth if you are married? You are wife the youth ceases to exist
Not ready for the responsibilities as in our society there are certain quarters where it is an expectation that marriage -babies
She might not be ready for that
The commitment
She wants to see the world ... experience life
Have a career

In simple terms, You mean;

She's too young to be faithful and loyal to one man at 20. She should instead wh*re her body through her 20s to 30s. Then start looking for an unfortunate nice guy to marry the leftover

All those talks about dreams and aspirations are hogwash. Marriage can't stop a woman from achieving her dreams, that excuse is lame.

lenghtinny:

In simple terms, You mean;

She's too young to be faithful and loyal to one man at 20. She should instead wh*re her body through her 20s to 30s. Then start looking for an unfortunate nice guy to marry the leftover

All those talks about dreams and aspirations are hogwash. Marriage can't stop a woman from achieving her dreams, that excuse is lame.

MissRaine69:

I could care less for what you think.
In my comment did I make reference to being promiscuous? No but you did.
See if a man has grown up without an objective view of what the world is like outside this the sort of mindset they adopt. Finding your person and living life does not automatically mean sleeping around. But then we come from different worlds. Where I hail from you are encouraged to have a career to be an asset when you do marry not a liability.

lenghtinny:

Seriously, what makes you think that marriage will affect her career
Did she tell you that the boy wants a full time housewife?

MissRaine69:

How are you going to enjoy your youth if you are married?

Grayjoy:
Just face ur books.

Amarabae:
Yes you are too young.
Tell him to wait small till you finish school or skills acquisition

MissRaine69:

Who said that’s the best time? There is a blue print for this?
What about her dreams her aspirations? They don’t matter?

victorian:
Op if you are not ready to get married now, please don't go into it yet.

We have instincts that warn us deep down not to undertake an unfruitful venture but due to society pressure, we ignore our inner voice/ guardian angel warning us of the danger ahead.
And for the op to be in doubts means, she and her man are not in the same frequency in fulfilling her desires in either furthering her studies during marriage.
She has doubts lurking deep at the back of her mind.

If not? If her bf is convincing enough and sincere with what she wants out of life. She will gladly marry him without blinking an eye or asking us here. Op some men can promise heaven and earth but only your inner being will know if he's sincere or not .
Don't go into what u might regret later. Marry when u are ready emotionally, and materially. So that your in-laws will not even say u are a drop out freeloader.

It's not about how far but how well.

bujebudanu1:
If u guys are Yoruba .u re just tooo young
If Igbo .u can go ahead
Hausa too.u can go ahead

GeeString:





Marriage will stop her from travelling?

Lol

Daejoyoung:

What if it's none of the above tribes? There are so many tribes in Nigeria.