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Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by dominique(mod): 7:35pm On May 01, 2018
Quaco:
Last i checked there was nothing wrong with being rational. Some of us dont make our emotions get the better of us. That's my opinion! The woman should tell her family and both families should come together and resolve it with an out-of-court settlement. The lady together with her husband's family must see to it that he's given the needed treatment or rehabilitation.

I see you prefer the man to go to jail. Tell me how good is that to the little girl?
What good will sending a paedophile to jail do to the traumatized little girl you ask? How about the relief she'll get knowing that her abuser is getting the punishment he deserves and other little girls will be safe from him. That alone will go a long way in healing her.

The rate of child rape is growing at such an alarming rate because of the sick societal mentality that the abusers should be protected. Once child abusers start getting their well deserved jail sentences, you'll see how much the rate of child rape drop. Remember today the victim is an unknown 11-year-old, tomorrow it could be your underage daughter.

All paedophiles must be arrested and sent to jail
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m): 7:47pm On May 01, 2018
dominique:
What good will sending a paedophile to jail do to the traumatized little girl you ask? How about the relief she'll get knowing that her abuser is getting the punishment he deserves and other little girls will be safe from him. That alone will go a long way in healing her.

The rate of child rape is growing at such an alarming rate because of the sick societal mentality that the abusers should be protected. Once child abusers start getting their well deserved jail sentences, you'll see how much the rate of child rape drop. Remember today the victim is an unknown 11-year-old, tomorrow it could be your underage daughter.

All paedophiles must be arrested and sent to jail
I'd rather have them institutionalised in a rehabilitation center. They are sick in the head (mental disorder) and need treatment. You take them to jail, they will be back and their next victim might be someone you know.

I don't know if you're familiar with the term recidivism, you can look it up.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m): 7:55pm On May 01, 2018
eyinjuege:
Children need justice.
The right thing is for him to go to jail. There's nothing like settlement when it comes to a child.
A criminal case should be instituted against the bastard, and a civil case can also be instituted.
The civil can follow the criminal case. He will be put in jail, and will also pay financially for his wickedness.
Nigerian leaders are products of our society. How can we want justice when we deny children justice?
How can our society function when we try to cover evil?
Let us begin to think deeply and begin to understand the deeper implications of our actions and inaction.
Evil triumphs when good men do nothing
The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.... Edmund Burke

Q
Fair enough. I still stick with my opinion even though i'm an advocate for just desert.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by dominique(mod): 7:56pm On May 01, 2018
Quaco:
I'd rather have them institutionalised in a rehabilitation center. They are sick in the head (mental disorder) and need treatment. You take them to jail, they will be back and their next victim might be someone you know.

I don't know if you're familiar with the term recidivism, you can look it up.
Yes they need mental evaluation and rehabilitation, but they deserve to be punished for their crime as well. They can be going for therapy from jail.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m): 7:58pm On May 01, 2018
SAMBARRY:
but distrust will set IN.if he sees an 8 year old and he's looking at the girl somehow,you know that the wife will read another meaning to it and she herself should be monitoring her daughters 24 hrs,when they sleep wake up,go to school and bathing because a man that can rape his little sister IN law will gladly rape his own daughter when the situation is conducive for it e.g the woman leaving the child at home to go to market
He should be instutionalised in a rehabilitation center. Jail is not always the solution to the problem. He will get the help he needs and return to society as a better man.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m): 8:23pm On May 01, 2018
dominique:
Yes they need mental evaluation and rehabilitation, but they deserve to be punished for their crime as well. They can be going for therapy from jail.
Prison can be any form of confinement like rehabilitation, the only difference is no criminal record.

Would have said he should be prosecuted by a competent court but doubt being a paedophile is a defence to mental disorder as the perpetrator will be aware of what he was doing, only might struggle to control his urges but has full knowledge of his action which could even be premeditated. So he'd definitely be sentenced to jail for defilement and miss the opportunity to get the needed treatment.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Joy1706(f): 9:41pm On May 01, 2018
Olulinks:
Your spouse will sleep with your offspring. You will witness it and sad all your life till death.
Oh no *wails*. I won't marry an unbridled animal like you. Come up with something else
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Seahawk: 6:49am On May 02, 2018
Please shut up.
No criminal record indeed.

Since when is rape not a harmful act against another person? Why then shouldn’t they get criminal record for it?

Quaco:
Prison can be any form of confinement like rehabilitation, the only difference is no criminal record.

Would have said he should be prosecuted by a competent court but doubt being a paedophile is a defence to mental disorder as the perpetrator will be aware of what he was doing, only might struggle to control his urges but has full knowledge of his action which could even be premeditated. So he'd definitely be sentenced to jail for defilement and miss the opportunity to get the needed treatment.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m): 9:16am On May 02, 2018
Seahawk:
Please shut up.
No criminal record indeed.

Since when is rape not a harmful act against another person? Why then shouldn’t they get criminal record for it?
Excuse me! The offence is defilement and not rape. Two distinct offences. This is the option i prefer, not forcing anyone to agree with me okay. After all opinions are like noses everybody has one and nobody’s is perfect.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Seahawk: 4:02pm On May 02, 2018
Quaco:
Excuse me! The offence is defilement and not rape. Two distinct offences. This is the option i prefer, not forcing anyone to agree with me okay. After all opinions are like noses everybody has one and nobody’s is perfect.
It’s not rape?

You’re lost. Get out of here
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m): 4:18pm On May 02, 2018
Seahawk:
It’s not rape?

You’re lost. Get out of here
It's obvious you know nothing about the law. An evelen year old cannot be raped but delifed. It is the law, i didn't make it. And if you want to know defilement has a stiffer sentence than rape. I read today online per Nigeria's criminal code it's life imprisonment. Yet to verify that though.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Seahawk: 5:32pm On May 02, 2018
An 11 year old can not be raped?

I’ve heard it all. Just go away. People like you depress me

Quaco:
It's obvious you know nothing about the law. An evelen year old cannot be raped but delifed. It is the law, i didn't make it. And if you want to know defilement has a stiffer sentence than rape. I read today online per Nigeria's criminal code it's life imprisonment. Yet to verify that though.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m): 7:14pm On May 02, 2018
Seahawk:
An 11 year old can not be raped?

I’ve heard it all. Just go away. People like you depress me
It's unfortunate you're ignorant yet you refuse to learn. Look for a lawyer or law student to explain to you. Thank you and enjoy your everning.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Nobody: 2:17am On May 03, 2018
jamesharryson:
I won't insult you, just as you have insulted me. But when a mosquito perches at the scrotal sac, no one tells a man that one needs to calculate well before taking certain actions. I am still standing on my point. Take care of your sister and keep the secret. Solve your problem without creating scene. Broadcasting the story is the same as tarnishing the image of your children, your sister and even you, that think you are doing a great thing for others. Just heed to my advice and thank me later.
How will it tarnish the image of a child? Or any else... What crime did the child or anyone else commit? Your ignorance is a danger to society. Keep your evil advise to your kin.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Nobody: 2:24am On May 03, 2018
jamesharryson:
I am not defending anything. But I am just trying to weigh the situation properly. I have never had sex with any underaged person and I pray never to have such ugly experience. But we have to advise after weighing the situation at hand. Those people calling for the head of the husband will still be the ones to say you ran away from your husband's home without even talking about the reason you did. Save your home! Save your children from the embarrassment! Save yourself from the shame.

Come to think of it, do you know that a great number of people will blame you for that happening? Some will say that you don't do your duties as a woman, while some will say you expose the child to the act! But in everything, the name that will be in circulation will be urs and not even your husband's.

But if you think announcing it to the whole world is the only solution to the problem, go ahead and do it. Pay for jingles in the radio if u wish. Buy TV airtime So that it with be aired in the television, that is your own business anyway. But all I know is that inasmuch as your husband will suffer for the act, you are directly or indirectly suffering with him.

Besides, there is no one who will say he has no faeces in his/her anus
YOU AND YOUR KIND ARE THE SHAME. WE REFUSE TO HIDE AND COVER PEDOPHILES. WE WILL LOUD IT TO THE HEAVENS! NO!

YOU ARE A PEDOPHILE IN THE MAKING AND MAY SOCIETY BE PROTECTED FROM YOU.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Nobody: 2:30am On May 03, 2018
The comments on this thread proof that those women come from these men. To think that there are people on this thread advocating all the evil beliefs and doctrines that create these monsters. To think that we can't agree on something so simple and black and white. I weep for humanity. Simple right and wrong is being debated angry
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Seahawk: 4:35am On May 03, 2018
I am ignorant? Said by someone who thinks an 11 year old can’t be raped.

You’re a buffoon. Moronic dummy.
Quaco:
It's unfortunate you're ignorant yet you refuse to learn. Look for a lawyer or law student to explain to you. Thank you and enjoy your everning.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m):
Seahawk:
I am ignorant? Said by someone who thinks an 11 year old can’t be raped.

You’re a buffoon. Moronic dummy.
Insulting me only exposes who you are. I'm not a Nigerian but i took time to research your law.

''Defilement simply means to violate someone’s chastity. The offence of defilement involved a girl under 13 while rape affects a female at or above 13. It is a well laid down position of the law that a child below 13 cannot be raped.''

I can see your lay mind cannot comprehend how someone can forcefully have sex with an 11yr old and someone is saying it's not rape.

Rape is having natural carnal knowledge (sex) with a girl without her consent.

Unfortunatey per the Nigerian Criminal code any girl below the age of 13 cannot consent to sex so such as person cannot be raped but defiled because her chastity has been violated

So unless you're not a Nigerian and come from another jurisdiction where an 11yr old can be raped keep quiet and learn. You're only disgracing yourself.

I have still taken time to get you a research on the law of defilement and rape in Nigeria. Do well to read it, because ignorance of the law is no excuse.
Thoughts on rape, defilement - The
Nation Nigeria
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Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Quaco(m): 3:13pm On May 03, 2018
Quaco:
Insulting me only exposes who you are. I'm not a Nigerian but i took time to research your law.

''Defilement simply means to violate someone’s chastity. The offence of defilement involved a girl under 13 while rape affects a female at or above 13. It is a well laid down position of the law that a child below 13 cannot be raped.''

I can see your lay mind cannot comprehend how someone can forcefully have sex with an 11yr old and someone is saying it's not rape.

Rape is having natural carnal knowledge (sex) with a girl without her consent.

Unfortunatey per the Nigerian Criminal code any girl below the age of 13 cannot consent to sex so such as person cannot be raped but defiled because her chastity has been violated

So unless you're not a Nigerian and come from another jurisdiction where an 11yr old can be raped keep quiet and learn. You're only disgracing yourself.

I have still taken time to get you a research on the law of defilement and rape in Nigeria. Do well to read it, because ignorance of the law is no excuse.
Thoughts on rape, defilement - The
Nation Nigeria
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Seahawk: 9:14pm On May 03, 2018
Please shut up.

You’re ignorant and forming like someone who has sense.
That someone is defiled according to Nigerian law means they can’t be raped? A 17 year old who is a virgin can also be defiled. Does that mean she can’t be raped since her chastity was taken?

You think I’m one of your fellow dunces who can’t see what you’re trying to do here. Pretending like the issue is what terminology should be used when it’s really about your subtle rapist apologist attitude. Weren’t you the one yarning rubbish about him not getting a criminal record?
Now you know Nigerian law more than I do. Mor*n.





Quaco:
Insulting me only exposes who you are. I'm not a Nigerian but i took time to research your law.

''Defilement simply means to violate someone’s chastity. The offence of defilement involved a girl under 13 while rape affects a female at or above 13. It is a well laid down position of the law that a child below 13 cannot be raped.''

I can see your lay mind cannot comprehend how someone can forcefully have sex with an 11yr old and someone is saying it's not rape.

Rape is having natural carnal knowledge (sex) with a girl without her consent.

Unfortunatey per the Nigerian Criminal code any girl below the age of 13 cannot consent to sex so such as person cannot be raped but defiled because her chastity has been violated

So unless you're not a Nigerian and come from another jurisdiction where an 11yr old can be raped keep quiet and learn. You're only disgracing yourself.

I have still taken time to get you a research on the law of defilement and rape in Nigeria. Do well to read it, because ignorance of the law is no excuse.
Thoughts on rape, defilement - The
Nation Nigeria
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Nobody: 8:32am On Jun 22, 2020
June2:
Woman, please don't beat that girl, treat her, pet her n take her back to her mom. But the cow of a husband you married take him to church for deliverance n forgive him but if he refuses to go to church then threaten to report him to the authority.You need God more than ever now
She needs a divorce (legally granted or not) more than she needs God. She is a tiny particle of God, so she has God. She needs a divorce. For her soul and her sister’s. Don’t you see this?
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Nobody: 8:36am On Jun 22, 2020
jamesharryson:
[s]My dear, there is no advice better than the one given by the first two speakers who said he should protect her home, cover her husband and the little sister. It is the best thing to do. If you go the way you are saying, know that you are creating a bad name for your own family and children and also you ate keeping a stigma that may mar your little sister in the future. Remember that such gossips cannot be easily forgotten. My candid advice is for her to let go and bury the secrets. Pray for God's grace[/s]
When somebody says or posts “my dear” and then proceeds to say/type nonsense I always see red.
What if that girl was your daughter, would you advise your older child (the wife in the story) to keep staying with the monster-man?
angry
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Perogbangba(f): 10:21am On Jun 22, 2020
I am angry reading those comments coming from women. Imagine, none of them even cared about the young girl all they cared about is their God forsaken marriage. Chaiiii, my heart sink. The man needs to rot in jail honestly.
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by jamesharryson(m): 12:49pm On Jun 22, 2020
merahki:
When somebody says or posts “my dear” and then proceeds to say/type nonsense I always see red.
What if that girl was your daughter, would you advise your older child (the wife in the story) to keep staying with the monster-man?
angry
Where did this idiot emanate from? U went and brought up something that happened two years ago just to win cheap and crazy points. I don't argue with goats
Re: See Advise Woman Received After She Caught Her Husband Assaulting Her Sister by Graxie(f): 1:40pm On Jun 22, 2020
If you read this thread and you don't see why most people support rapist on Nairaland, then I can't help you. People comfortable with a rapist raping an 11years old. Too many sick people in naija.
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