A politician and woman rights activist has taken to Facebook to share his story how he was purportedly kicked out of the church because he had sex with his then girlfriend (who is now his wife) and got her pregnant in the process. According to the Kenyan writer, Boniface Mwangi, his church members also refused to attend his wedding .

Read below what he shared on Facebook.

I had sex once, and was kicked out of church!

I just finished photographing and interviewing 70 people between the ages of 18-70 from across Kenya. I posed two questions to them: how did you learn about sex, and what's your family planning method?

Growing up, sex was a taboo subject and it was amazing to learn that people born 70 years ago had the same experience. When I turned 14, I got circumcised. Culturally, I was now a man. I assume my mother told my elder brother to talk to me about sex, but all he mumbled was that women are dangerous, and that was the end of my sex education!

When I was serving in the church ministry, we were taught about abstinence and that it was a cool thing to be a virgin. The church told us sex was a beautiful cake, but if you eat it at the wrong time, it has a rotten rat inside. What a metaphor. I remember listening to a pastor who taught us how to pray "dangerous prayers". The prayers went like this: Lord, if l look at a woman and desire her, strike me with blindness and if I sleep with her, infect me with HIV/Aids. Those "dangerous prayers" were to discourage us from engaging in premarital sex.

But you see, my parent (I was brought up by a single mum) and my eldest brother didn't bother telling me what sex was and its context. The church told me you will discover what it is when it happens. Unfortunately, the church didn't see it fit to tell us that in case you found yourself tempted, you could use a condom. My girlfriend at the time, who is now my wife, also grew up in church. She sang in the choir and wore a chastity ring until the day two young Christians, burning with passion, had sex without understanding its consequences.

Njeri got pregnant and was subsequently fired from the Christian organisation she had been working for, while I got kicked out from serving as a youth deacon. My church pastors didn't even attend my wedding and my wife's church presided over the service. Yet if we had received better sex education, we might have had sex with a condom.

Sadly, we aren't talking about it. Scheaffer Okore tells me she was taught that sex was for wayward people. It was a dirty word, for sinners and prostitutes. If you talked about sex, or engaged in it, you would contract HIV and die. What I find stupid about this approach is that sex education isn't about children having sex. It is about understanding sex because left in the dark, it is curiosity that ends up killing the young cats.

Personally, It I don't think anyone should have sex in their teenage years. It doesn't add value to their lives and in any case they lack the emotional and monetary ability to deal with its consequences. But we are not helping kids by pretending that sex does not exist.

In 1962, Kenya had 8 million people and we are at 50 million people today. We have been having sex, lots of sex and it shows because our population has exploded. We need to talk about family planning. Men in particular must be more responsible. We cannot continue leaving family planning to women. I am part of this campaign, #FormNiGani which is getting young adults to talk about sex and family planning freely.

As writer Kingwa Kamenchu once told me, family planning is about pleasure, and if you have too many kids it will affect your pleasure calendar. Let us all take charge of our sex lives because those three seconds of passion can alter our lives for better, or for us. And let's bring children on board. If our kids can watch politicians behaving badly on national television, then they are old enough to learn about sex

Source; https://www.nationalhelm.co/2018/05/i-had-sex-once-and-was-kicked-out-of-church-man-shares-his-story-on-facebook-photo.html

What it the moral of the story?

So ?


If you want to talk about the importance of sexual education,discuss it peacefully and stop trying to justify or blame the church for your lustful action.

Many of these church folks can be so judgemental. I stopped giving a fvck about them long time ago

the gal no even fine sef

If you're Nigerian & you live in Nigeria, come closer. Have you had 24 hours electricity in your house this year?
Yes, like this. No, share this.

I want to check something

when will i make it to FTC sef i tire ooooo

OK...Seen.

Mark 2:17: KJV:
When Jesus heard it, he saith unto them, They that are whole have no need of the physician, but they that are sick: I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance
Church is met for sinners. If they ask you to leave. Peacefully move to another church, after all they will be at lost of your offerings since it is even their main interest over your salvation.

Africa and Religion

And y is dia tongue out...is d gesture for d church??

Tracypacy:
If you're Nigerian & you live in Nigeria, come closer. Have you had 24 hours electricity in your house this year? Yes, like this. No, share this.

I want to check something

I've 25hrs partly with the generator. What do I do? like or share?

Wetin u come want make we do now.... U fvck give babe belle come d worry us with long boring story like say buhari no be enough problem for us to worry about....

Evablizin:
So ?


If you want to talk about the importance of sexual education,discuss it peacefully and stop trying to justify or blame the church for your lustful action.

Are you trying to tell me you've never been BANGED before?

Hmmmmm

you mentioned it already

pornhub:


I've 25hrs partly with the generator. What do I do? like or share?

UGLY WIFE. WELL SHA I WILL LIKE TO Bleep HER TOO.

The head line is misleading. The church kicked him out from being a youth deacon and not from the church entirely.

Please if you know someone that wants to sell Mercedes or Range Rovers, please kindly tell the person to advertise it on Nairaland or OLX. Bye

I ENJOY SEX ALL THE TIME.......I HAVE NO SHAME IN SAYING IT. YOU TOO SHOULDNT. BUT WHEN NOT SURE USE CONDOM

How truthful! Once?

I no some people will still gamtalk with these story.
Is better you change your orientation rather than writing rubbish,
At least you can still gain somethings and if you don't then you don't have to comment.
If we check there family well na people like them go de number 10 or 11 for him papa o.[b][/b][i][/i]

are you justifying your lustful desires? and yet rubbing it on the church's face?

People no longer fear God at all... Yourr penis stand and break God commandment and you are happy, instead of asking God for forgiveness..

I am not Mr righteous, but lets fear God, at atlease

Utter balderdash.
He should be ashamed of himself.
Leave sex for those in marriage.

kobosmart:
the gal no even fine sef

Kenyan!