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Re: Family House by peacengine(m): 10:40am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

am a hustler and bricklayer. my age is 28 and my girlfriend also 28. and all her younger once had married with kids. that's why she's disturbing me too.



thanks alot for your precious time. I really appreciate it. God bless you

You see ya life? Go to marriage registry, court marriage is not expensive, go and marry. Comot for ur mama house, u de blow person pikin and you no wan marry am

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Re: Family House by eodavids(m): 10:40am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .

Answer this first:
Is it wrong for a man not to have the best of what life offers?

Your ability to answer this equally rhetorical question is the ability for you to unrevel the answer you seek.

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Re: Family House by Nobody: 10:40am On May 19, 2018
You're not married yet so it is not a bad idea.
Re: Family House by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 10:41am On May 19, 2018
Tallesty1:
Jesus is over 2000 years old and he's still in his father's house.
Comedian
Re: Family House by honourable356(m): 10:41am On May 19, 2018
1forall:
My advice, and I will go straight to the points, no psyches:

Make your health your number 1 priority at this time.

If your girlfriend is adding to your stress with your health condition then she's not the one for you.

Focus your effort on getting your life together - health and job. You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

Stay in your mother's house as you can't afford your own place yet - I don't think your Mum wants you out.

The girl is a liability, drop her like she's hot. Now! If as a girlfriend she's giving you this level of pressure, believe me, you won't enjoy being married to her.

My candid advice.
Re: Family House by honourable356(m): 10:41am On May 19, 2018
1forall:
My advice, and I will go straight to the points, no psyches:

Make your health your number 1 priority at this time.

If your girlfriend is adding to your stress with your health condition then she's not the one for you.

Focus your effort on getting your life together - health and job. You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

Stay in your mother's house as you can't afford your own place yet - I don't think your Mum wants you out.

The girl is a liability, drop her like she's hot. Now! If as a girlfriend she's giving you this level of pressure, believe me, you won't enjoy being married to her.

My candid advice.
Words!!!!
Re: Family House by Ken4Christ: 10:41am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .

Be a man and get your own house. No woman want to be close to her mother in law because they can make your marriage a living hell.

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Re: Family House by Mcy56(f): 10:43am On May 19, 2018
selfmadeboss:
Na lie he talk?
What is the correlation between the erroneous statement he typed and the advice the op needed? Must you people disrespect the supreme beings all in the name of trending? Is it not better to be silent than plunge himself into trouble he wouldnt be able to handle?
You better watch out 'cos every idle words that individuals alter shall be accounted for in the day of judgement.

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Re: Family House by luciano80(m): 10:44am On May 19, 2018
It seems you are deaf in the eyes!!!!! Can't you read that he is broke and can't not afford to leave the house cos he can't afford to get room of his own??
The only thing that made sense in all that gibberish u wrote is simple : its not his time to love....shikena!!!! The girl can go jump in any lagoon of her choice if she can't stick with him NOW when the chips aren't even there.

Just when I was going to commend the matured comments in this discussion only for me to see this poo!!!!!

post=67688874:
Absolutely!
Everything she's asking you is not overboard. She's acting according to her age and time and you need to understand that. Your personal ish is not a reason to tie her down. You need time to settle yourself. Maybe this is not the time to love for you. But as you said you love her and she does too, at least enough to ask you for an engagement then sit her ass down and make her a good promise.

Ask for time or anything to find your balance, get out of your parent's house, get a room at least and have your family.

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Re: Family House by OnyiMba: 10:45am On May 19, 2018
YES IS WRONG.

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Re: Family House by Nairalandguru(m): 10:45am On May 19, 2018
Mums sometime can be so difficult to stay with o, and thi your girlfriend to hmmm. So it will not be easy to maintain a balance between your mum and your gf, although both are important. But guy make your health your priority cos that your girlfriend has a boyfriend she is just looking for excuses to chicken out of the relationship. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE....
Re: Family House by peacengine(m): 10:49am On May 19, 2018
1forall:
My advice, and I will go straight to the points, no psyches:

Make your health your number 1 priority at this time.

If your girlfriend is adding to your stress with your health condition then she's not the one for you.

Focus your effort on getting your life together - health and job. You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

Stay in your mother's house as you can't afford your own place yet - I don't think your Mum wants you out.

The girl is a liability, drop her like she's hot. Now! If as a girlfriend she's giving you this level of pressure, believe me, you won't enjoy being married to her.

My candid advice.

Nna small boys full diz Nairaland. This ur advice is not for 28 years old nigga

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Re: Family House by selfmadeboss: 10:49am On May 19, 2018
Mcy56:

What is the correlation between the erroneous statement he typed and the advice the op needed? Must you people disrespect the supreme beings all in the name of trending? Is it not better to be silent than plunge himself into trouble he wouldnt be able to handle?
You better watch out 'cos every idle words that individuals alter shall be accounted for in the day of judgement.
WTF is wrong with u hypocrites. Dude said Jesus has been in his father's house for more than 2000 years and she was disputing it. As an agnostic I wanted to know if he was saying the truth and you are here spewing shit about supreme beings.

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Re: Family House by Lalas247(f): 10:50am On May 19, 2018
This is too funny....
Is it by force to marry ... let your parents live their life n get yourself a house... all this should have been factored in before u got married .

It will surely cause a lot of issues

Ho old are you btw?
Re: Family House by Ellabae(f): 10:50am On May 19, 2018
shocked How can she be 28 nd still learning handwork? Nd she is even pressuring u to leave ur family house nd marry her. Bros kindly leave that girl alone. Take care of ur health nd find something doing to help urself first before marriage.

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Re: Family House by selfmadeboss: 10:52am On May 19, 2018
HIGHESTPOPORI:
If you have you for wire the guy now o,he needs it badly now he is sick
How do you wire when u are not in a location to wire
Re: Family House by Nymeria247(m): 10:53am On May 19, 2018
Bro! First I want to congratulate you and your family for having a roof over your heads in this hard knock Nigeria that we have found ourselves. It is not about what is wrong or right but what you are comfortable and happy with in your present economic and health quagmire as well as your future plans that should matter to you right now. However, If I were in your shoes I'll take advantage of the free shelter and food in my family house to re-organize my life, acquire some skills, re-brand or re-launch my life and then I can start thinking of building a home with my girl if she is still available... don't let your girls hips distract you; get successful first and then sit back relax and watch all other things fall into place.

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Re: Family House by Lumig: 10:58am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .
My brother! You are not the first and definitely not going to be the last that will be in this situation, but as a man never allow yourself to be bullied or pressured into a marriage you're not financially prepared for. Your priority is to get up from that sickbed and hussle for a job that will set you up for a better future. Take your time and never allow your girl to push you into the world of uncertainties. Don't love a lady at the expense of your own peace and comfort...

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Re: Family House by Geesaintagape: 11:04am On May 19, 2018
At 28 u should mak ursef a priority. U hav enough time to talk of marriage looking at ur health n financial status.
Same way my ex was pressuring me 4 marriage until i told her the r/ship could not continue today I'm 33 preparing to marry this yr.
Please no woman/gal is the best the best is yet to come.

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Re: Family House by Orpe7(m): 11:04am On May 19, 2018
Candid Advice
Stay for your mama house, use the advantage gather money wella. It will only be wrong if u were just spending and not investing.
Secondly, ur health is Key
Thirdly, if she wants u out, whats she willing to offer financially. Id take my self for eg. When i was about to settle down, my woman was willing to drop money to add ti what i have to rent and furnish.
So if ur woman isnt willing to support when the chips are down, she aint the one for u. Gbam!
And yeah 28 isnt too late. I married at 34 and i aint regretting it.
For now hustle hard!

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Re: Family House by kmaster007: 11:04am On May 19, 2018
nah today... go Kwara state u go see many of dem don turn to chairman for fmly house

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Re: Family House by isaacsegun(m): 11:06am On May 19, 2018
Mcy56:
If she truly loves you and have your interest at heart, she wouldnt be all demanding considering the fact that she was well aware of your predicament.

What's her own role in making things easy for you? Is it a crime for her to think of how to bring something to the table? Do you want to kill yourself because of a lady that doesnt reciprocate your love?

Bros, set the rule, if she can abide by it fine, if otherwise then let her take her own decision to leave. Dont bother to persuade her to stay, if you force her to stay, uhmmmm....... I hope she wouldnt worsen your condition and still abandon you on top of it.

kudos to you for this ur candid advice!!! can't believe a Lady can come out clean on issue like this as you have done.

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Re: Family House by Tallesty1(m): 11:08am On May 19, 2018
Mcy56:


Why this example? Will you stop this blasphemy please! undecided
If blasphemy was a person, it would sue you for abuse and misuse
Re: Family House by crafteck(m): 11:11am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

am a hustler and bricklayer. my age is 28 and my girlfriend also 28. and all her younger once had married with kids. that's why she's disturbing me too.


thanks alot for your precious time. I really appreciate it. God bless you

She has a point, maybe u cant afford her, let her go, dont waste her time the more

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Re: Family House by madgoat(m): 11:12am On May 19, 2018
benzics:
Just a piece of advice.

First off, Marriage isn't everything, in fact marriage is not an achievement, I don't know the fuss about marriage in this part of the world.

Secondly, please never think of settling down and raising kids when you know you are not living comfortably yourself, don't bring kids into these world to suffer just because you want to feel among the married..

Lastly, work on yourself first, it's never too late, make yourself comfortable, and by that I mean move out of your parents' house, then you can then think of settling down..

I'm just 19, and I'm tired of living with my parents.. You should too wink

So the man should move out and sleep under the bridge?

No wonder. Its because u are just 19 that u gave this kind of useless advice.

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Re: Family House by ThatIgboBoy: 11:12am On May 19, 2018
Tallesty1:
Jesus is over 2000 years old and he's still in his father's house.

chai
u just killed me
Re: Family House by Nobody: 11:12am On May 19, 2018
Why would marriage come to the mind of a man who couldn't pay for just a room?undecided
If I were in OP's shoe, I would rather have my r/shp ended than bringing a wife into a family's house.
A gentleman once told me that he regretted asking his mother to come & help in taking care of their new born baby for a month. It's not that he hates his mom, but the fact is that WOMEN ARE THEIR OWN ENEMIES. They easily see things as rivalry.
Re: Family House by bamoski4real: 11:13am On May 19, 2018
nairavsdollars:
Nothing wrong as a bachelor. But wrong if he is over 40, married and still living in his father's house like the runaway IPOB leader (forgot his name)

His minions like immhotep and fellow gay club members will want your head on a spike for this raw truth.

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Re: Family House by Nobody: 11:14am On May 19, 2018
It is wrong. .I don't like it. .there's a certain age you get to and family house becomes a no-no...when you regain your health. .hustle to get your room outside the family house. .when you pay rent and do other responsibilities no be person go tell you to double your hustle. .as for the girl please let her go if you are not ready for marriage. .she's overripe. .marriage is not a child's play if you don't have any tangible source of income
Re: Family House by Nobody: 11:14am On May 19, 2018
Based on personal experience, it can be very challenging being married and living in a family house. You will open to all sorts of friction between your wife and your family members.

The sort of issues where you are damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Your gf is transferring naija societal pressure to you.

Unless you are a master diplomat, find your own place and avoid the drama.

As to marriage, unless you can ensure no kids right now. Otherwise don't
Re: Family House by Nobody: 11:15am On May 19, 2018
bamoski4real:


His minions like immhotep and fellow gay club members will want your head on a spike for this raw truth.
Don't worry.
Herdsmen will soon come and complete your sense for you..

cc lzaa onyeoga shalomc pointzerom iceberg3 madridguy buhariguy itsmeaboki

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Re: Family House by uuzba(m): 11:15am On May 19, 2018
CastedAyo:
Yes, I'm 18 and feel like leaving my parents house already.

Feeling?
It is never too early to leave.
Go now now. Pack and start paying your own rent. Don't waste time on NL telling us about "Feeling".

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