Why wait until Monday?

KOPT33:


At thirty one I expect you to be more mature than this... end what you want to end and don't make noise over it. Don't try to it justify to anyone. You are here seeking validation for your actions, that will only serve to make you second guess yourself.

Don't worry, you will meet many people who are compatible with you if you are willing to look.

Thank you very much, if it were a 23 year old I'd understand, since when did a man need justification before making his mind up. Have you spoken yo the other party, state your displeasures and let her know you're not interested in a one-way relationship, I don't get why you guys like to suffer in silence, me I can't o, I will shake the table very well so that of us must fall.

Mstchew

if it's because of the gift ish, I suggest you look for another reason to break up, I don't see why you would want to Break up your relationship because she doesn't shower you with gifts.

Bro Pls move on fast, it happen 2 me nd I was finding it hard to leave this toxic lady cos of the sacrifices I ve made, but today I'm happily married with a lovely son. Don't rush into a new relationship, jst take ur time you wil meet homely ladies who are ready to build a home with you. NB run away from all this slay queens.

Mcy56:
Those with head have no cap and those with cap have no head. When I keep reading about all these men giving a lady this and that, I always wonder the type of luck I have

I can give u anything you want oo

Even belle

It's better you end the relationship than to continue with a toxic relationship, bcs marriage is a lifetime institution than you will not graduate from unless death, what you are receiving from her now is less compare to what you will get from her once you force yourself in to marriage with her, bro move on

Mcy56:
Those with head have no cap and those with cap have no head. When I keep reading about all these men giving a lady this and that, I always wonder the type of luck I have

Yours is saving the best for you.

ayamAgenius:


There is nothing wrong with you bro. Needless to reevaluate yourself. They are the problem. Stay away from liabilities and leeches that won't help you grow. Trust me, there are loads of wonderful women out there who are not liabilities and ready to love/pamper their partners. I can't guarantee you won't be getting the usual women drama. Stay away from girls below they age of 25. A good number of them are hungry as$ leeches that can't afford to buy common biscuit for themselves and have never lifted a finger to work to know the true value of money. For a guy of your age, your focus should be finding a smart, educated, working class lady above 25 years. Be wise

#Word.
Stop dating young girls they won't hear.. imagine a guy of 31 dating a university student, why won't she see you as her ATM?.

Dude wait!

What makes the girl toxic? Because she doesn't get you gifts? That's the only information you dropped about her. May be, you should reconsider your choice of word cos your lady isn't toxic.

elyna:
if it's because of the gift ish, I suggest you look for another reason to break up, I don't see why you would want to Break up your relationship because she doesn't shower you with gifts.

does this even sound sensible for you?

He shouldn't break up because of that but you can break up with him if he doesn't spend.

I don't know the kind of brain these childish ladies possess .

MicroSweet:
Dude wait!

What makes the girl toxic? Because she doesn't get you gifts? That's the only information you dropped about her. May be, you should reconsider your choice of word cos your lady isn't toxic.

I can not manage a toxic relationship, imagine sacrificing so much in a relationship that you have to go out of your own will to meet her needs , I have bought her phones twice, paid more than half of her house rent in school twice, it's a distant relationship and we have dated for 3years +, she hasn't even bought me an handkerchief before, I can't figure out one thing that I have learnt from her,

Read the post carefully before you comment.

CorGier:


Yeah, it's never her fault. It always boils down to he should be doing this, he should have done that, etc forgetting that he ain't in a relationship with himself.

I know sometimes you feel the need to stand up for your fellow girl, but sometimes please try, try to be a bit more rational. She "lacks ways of expressing herself," but suddenly finds her voice whenever she wants something from him.
Girl, that ain't love.

The both parties are at fault here so they need to spend more time together and resolve their issues...... the op said it was a distance relationship and from his point of view the said lady is still young and might be doing what she feels is right while hurting the feelings of the op I only said he should be a man and sit her down and tell her what he feels she isn't doing right.....

He isn't going to end it. The girl has his "mumu" button

ola9ja:
Most of these girls don't really love us, it's just a symbiotic relationship, I would be ending my present relationship on Monday, my birthday, I really thought I would get married to her but the relationship has become a toxic one so I had to move on with my life. I can not manage a toxic relationship, imagine sacrificing so much in a relationship that you have to go out of your own will to meet her needs , I have bought her phones twice, paid more than half of her house rent in school twice, it's a distant relationship and we have dated for 3years +, she hasn't even bought me an handkerchief before, I can't figure out one thing that I have learnt from her, I don't and won't regret what I have done for her but I am saddened that I have been in relationship with the wrong person for 5 fruitful years of my life. I will be 31 on Monday.

I don't regret spending on people but I usually get frustrated spending wrongly on people.

I like living people better than the way I met them.

I wouldn't really assume that I didn't learn anything from this relationship, I have learnt a lot and these are the things I have learnt...

1. Even the kindest person can turn into a cold-hearted person.

2. Even if you're madly in love, you should never think with your heart but with your brain.

3. You should never put your happiness in someone else’s hands because you never know when they will decide to leave you.

4. The more you show a person you love them, the less they will reciprocate or appreciate it.

5. It’s human nature to take things for granted, specially in long term relationships. They’ll always look for something better once the infatuation phase ends.

6. Relationships should not be governed solely by love, but also and most importantly by trust, understanding, maturity and SELF-RESPECT.

7. The moment you lose your self-respect you will see your partner as ‘too good to be true’. You will put them on a pedestal and be their slave. Never lose your self-respect and dignity.

8. Master the balance of power and you’ll master the whole relationship.

9. If you constantly show them you love them and care for them, they will start taking you for granted.

10. Distance yourself from your partner from time to time. It will help you see your relationship in a proper perspective.

11. Two main things should be present in a relationship: Trust and communication. If one of them is absent, your relationship is doomed to fail.

12. Being needy and clingy out of love is never a good idea because it will push your partner away and make them love you less.

13. The person that loves less in the relationship is the one in control of the relationship. It’s important to set a balance of power between you two or else one of you will definitely get hurt.

14. If your happiness is in someone else’s hands you’re rooting for conditional happiness. If they leave you, you will end up all alone, sad, depressed, hopeless and even suicidal. No one on this planet should control your happiness other than yourself.

15. The moment you hurt your partner, they will change forever even though you try your best to bring their good old self back.

16. Even if you give someone your heart, it’s not guaranteed that they will reciprocate.

17. The moment they start showing lack of interest, believe them instead of trying to convince yourself that they’re ‘mad’ or ‘going through a phase’ and that everything will be alright.

18. What’s meant for you will always be yours.

19. Sometimes God removes people from your life in an abrupt way because you were being led to danger.

20. If you walked away from a one-sided, toxic, negative, low-vibrational relationship, you won.
And the list goes on…

Most importantly, stay strong in any relationship you’re in. People come and go, the ones meant for you will stay. Stay strong when you're at your lowest and never let a heartbreak define you.

Just have faith and learn to always smile no matter what!

I understand you because I've been in your shoes. Don't change your mind later. Move on and don't look back!

Hanseel1:

I can not manage a toxic relationship, imagine sacrificing so much in a relationship that you have to go out of your own will to meet her needs , I have bought her phones twice, paid more than half of her house rent in school twice, it's a distant relationship and we have dated for 3years +, she hasn't even bought me an handkerchief before, I can't figure out one thing that I have learnt from her,

Read the post carefully before you comment.

Ok. Sorry, Oga 'Toxicology'.

glory the Spell has been broken
pls dont look back
if she gives u sex, dont let that charm you to go back...

unleemited:
Long Distance relationships are naturally difficult.
My advise is TALK! TALK!
Visit her not with the purpose of ending the relationship but having a crashdown talk.
she's this and that bla bla... Have you spoken to her about it before? About your expectations.
Remember those times you just started and the love was sweet-ing you.
Recreate one of those moments and hold a crashdown talk, in person.
Then re evaluate your self and future after that.
No amount is too much on that trip bro. it's the best or last investment. All or nothing.

There is nothing I haven't done

Hanseel1:


does this even sound sensible for you?

He shouldn't break up because of that but you can break up with him if he doesn't spend.

I don't know the kind of brain these childish ladies possess .

i think your level of comprehension is low. just because you're always unfortunate dosent mean all ladies go into relationships so a guy can spend on them. that being said you don't have a brain in your head, else you wouldn't be quoting me without making sense.

elyna:
i think your level of comprehension is low. just because you're always unfortunate dosent mean all ladies go into relationships so a guy can spend on them. that being said you don't have a brain in your head, else you wouldn't be quoting me without making sense.

what is the essence of being in a relationship if you can't purchase gifts for your partner on certain occasions?

How old are you?

zicoraads:
He isn't going to end it. The girl has his "mumu" button

where's your e-boo?

CorGier:
Don't be surprised that this very girl you've given your all and sacrificed everything for would one day look you straight in the eyes and ask 'what have ever done for me?'

They can never love you the way you feel you deserve.
So never go that extra mile, it ain't worth it.

Reminded me of my friend. We gave him the best of advice. He's in a better place now, sadly.

ola9ja:
I have learnt a lot and these are the things I have learnt...

1. Even the kindest person can turn into a cold-hearted person.

2. Even if you're madly in love, you should never think with your heart but with your brain.

3. You should never put your happiness in someone else’s hands because you never know when they will decide to leave you.

4. The more you show a person you love them, the less they will reciprocate or appreciate it.

5. It’s human nature to take things for granted, specially in long term relationships. They’ll always look for something better once the infatuation phase ends.

6. Relationships should not be governed solely by love, but also and most importantly by trust, understanding, maturity and SELF-RESPECT.

7. The moment you lose your self-respect you will see your partner as ‘too good to be true’. You will put them on a pedestal and be their slave. Never lose your self-respect and dignity.

8. Master the balance of power and you’ll master the whole relationship.

9. If you constantly show them you love them and care for them, they will start taking you for granted.

10. Distance yourself from your partner from time to time. It will help you see your relationship in a proper perspective.

11. Two main things should be present in a relationship: Trust and communication. If one of them is absent, your relationship is doomed to fail.

12. Being needy and clingy out of love is never a good idea because it will push your partner away and make them love you less.

13. The person that loves less in the relationship is the one in control of the relationship. It’s important to set a balance of power between you two or else one of you will definitely get hurt.

14. If your happiness is in someone else’s hands you’re rooting for conditional happiness. If they leave you, you will end up all alone, sad, depressed, hopeless and even suicidal. No one on this planet should control your happiness other than yourself.

15. The moment you hurt your partner, they will change forever even though you try your best to bring their good old self back.

16. Even if you give someone your heart, it’s not guaranteed that they will reciprocate.

17. The moment they start showing lack of interest, believe them instead of trying to convince yourself that they’re ‘mad’ or ‘going through a phase’ and that everything will be alright.

18. What’s meant for you will always be yours.

19. Sometimes God removes people from your life in an abrupt way because you were being led to danger.

20. If you walked away from a one-sided, toxic, negative, low-vibrational relationship, you won.
And the list goes on…

Most importantly, stay strong in any relationship you’re in. People come and go, the ones meant for you will stay. Stay strong when you're at your lowest and never let a heartbreak define you.

Just have faith and learn to always smile no matter what!

My dude, you've learnt a lot. I'll read this from time to time.

Hanseel1:


what is the essence of being in a relationship if you can't purchase gifts for your partner on certain occasions?

How old are you?

look for someone else to trade words with, I'm not interested. have a nice day.

MicroSweet:
Dude wait!

What makes the girl toxic? Because she doesn't get you gifts? That's the only information you dropped about her. May be, you should reconsider your choice of word cos your lady isn't toxic.

Bro a lot that I can't even say them all

1. Saving my name with someone's else name when I visited

2. Blocking me and all my friends on facebook and still claiming she didn't do it

3. Bro it's plenty, any relationship that lacks trust is a toxic one bro.

I have taken more than any one in this world could take in a relationship

ur mistakes plenty Op..

1. don't innundate a lady with financial blessings with the hope of gaining her love. she might end up loving ur gift but not u . u might b her undercover maga.. just saying.. afterall, who i b?.. Go to where you are celebrated and not where you are tolerated bro.

2. probably u didnt build attraction from d get- go. i dont think she's attracted to u no matter how introverted she is. am sure u are d one doing most of d callings in those resource wasted 5 years.

3. dis lady has ur mumu button sotey she also ve ur balls too. dammit she is fucking playing u in ur very before and u wia blind to all d handwriting on d wall.. i hate wen guys act too soft with these softsouls. bitter truth is some guys are banging her in dat her skul

am not good at long epistles.
but if i where you, i won't let her know i ve broken up with her. i wil just cease all communications and move on. she will call wen she doesnt hear from you or your money in a while.. jst pretend you ve been very busy with work. man's got no time to lose and man's not hot.
b d first to cut d calls and promise to call her back bt never call her back.
never ever gt emotional with her or any lady dat u wil friend in future except ur wife

check out this thread and thank d Op later

https://www.nairaland.com/2893475/dating-drills-guys-only/3#45168440

graciousify:
please try talking to her about how you feel.

Forget about talking to her or not, for 3 years do you think that the guy hasn't been talking, but the girl might be thinking no he can't leave me, believe me some girls would end up single no matter how they would pray for husband to come their way. I mean 3 years and you can't even buy a single handkerchief for your boyfriend. One idiot tried that with me and am treating her fuckup now . Mtcheeeew .

Perfectnumber6:
Forget about talking to her or not, for 3 years do you think that the guy hasn't been talking, but the girl might be thinking no he can't leave me, believe me some girls would end up single no matter how they would pray for husband to come their way. I mean 3 years and you can't even buy a single handkerchief for your boyfriend. One idiot tried that with me and am treating her fuckup now . Mtcheeeew .

Mr Bleep up treatment, please treat with care I beg you.

ndy87:




Mr Bleep up treatment, please treat with care I beg you.

��� you this girl again, make I kukuma cut the yeye girl throat joor

ola9ja:


Bro a lot that I can't even say them all

1. Saving my name with someone's else name when I visited

2. Blocking me and all my friends on facebook and still claiming she didn't do it

3. Bro it's plenty, any relationship that lacks trust is a toxic one bro.

I have taken more than any one in this world could take in a relationship

Well, these aren't enough reasons to call it quits still. Because there might be other harmless motives behind these things you complained about. However, you may want to go ahead with the breakup based on the belief that the relationship isn't beneficial to you. It is only based on that would i agree that the relationship is TOXIC.
Furthermore, I think you may have given her too much attention, and she took you for granted. Secondly, long distance relationship rarely survives. You've learnt your lessons. Dust yourself and move on. You don't even have to schedule the break up. It doesn't have to be a ceremonious breakup. Just cease to contact her henceforth. Peace!

MicroSweet:
Yours is saving the best for you.

So soothing. Thank you.

ThatIgboBoy:
I can give u anything you want oo
Even belle

Including assurance?
LOL @ even belle, no qualms na .......only that your moniker already spoilt show

Perfectnumber6:
��� you this girl again, make I kukuma cut the yeye girl throat joor

Throat cutting is murder o, I can't afford to be cooking food for you in kirikiri.