ndy87:



Throat cutting is murder o, I can't afford to be cooking food for you in kirikiri.

lols it better i murder her ooo, cos she too wicked , I don't want any other guy to fall for her lies anymore

ola9ja:


Bro a lot that I can't even say them all

1. Saving my name with someone's else name when I visited

2. Blocking me and all my friends on facebook and still claiming she didn't do it

3. Bro it's plenty, any relationship that lacks trust is a toxic one bro.

I have taken more than any one in this world could take in a relationship

I guess d girl is young and for now she wants to explore, she may feel u are trying to shove seriousness down her throat so she feels she cant deal. Give her space and please at the moment you don't need a relationship cos u have to heal completely. Try not to talk about the issue so u don't hurt more than u already have. U ll come through.

Perfectnumber6:
lols it better i murder her ooo, cos she too wicked , I don't want any other guy to fall for her lies anymore

Lies? She sabi your pin code she d use am badly.

MicroSweet:


Now you are talking! You just defined why you described her as toxic! I see reasons with you. Well, I think you may have given her too much attention, and she took you for granted. Secondly, long distance relationship rarely survives. You've learnt your lessons. Dust yourself and move on. You don't even have to schedule the break up. It doesn't have to be a ceremonious breakup. Just cease to contact her henceforth. Peace!

Thanks bro

ndy87:



Lies? She sabi your pin code she d use am badly.

Before yes , now unko she dey roast like seriously ���

ndy87:






I guess d girl is young and for now she wants to explore, she may feel u are trying to shove seriousness down her throat so she feels she cant deal. Give her space and please at the moment you don't need a relationship cos u have to heal completely. Try not to talk about the issue so u don't hurt more than u already have. U ll come through.

She is 27

Perfectnumber6:
Before yes , now unko she dey roast like seriously ���

Now its assess denied. Chai were is that babe, please locate another pin code Na.

ola9ja:


She is 27

She is still a student

ndy87:



She is still a student

u burst my head...lol..no be everybody start school early ...u know how many jamb she write.

JERRY1925:


u burst my head...lol..no be everybody start school early ...u know how many jamb she write.

Seriously that statement wasn't meant to be little her. I was trying to find out something.

ola9ja:


She is 27

Please eh, dat question is not to make her sound or look stupid. Sorry if it came out wrongly.

ndy87:




Seriously that statement wasn't meant to be little her. I was trying to find out something.

like ..oya let's know what you've figured out..
for me..u were surprised...

ndy87:


Now its assess denied. Chai were is that babe, please locate another pin code Na.

. ��� lessons learnt in a hard way

I know we guys love to be the boss in our relationships and marriages but we still deserve some appreciation. We guys want to be feel loved even thou we hate to admit it.
A relationship isn't supposed to be symbiotic or filled with melancholic

ola9ja:
Most of these girls don't really love us, it's just a symbiotic relationship, I would be ending my present relationship on Monday, my birthday, I really thought I would get married to her but the relationship has become a toxic one so I had to move on with my life. I can not manage a toxic relationship, imagine sacrificing so much in a relationship that you have to go out of your own will to meet her needs , I have bought her phones twice, paid more than half of her house rent in school twice, it's a distant relationship and we have dated for 3years +, she hasn't even bought me an handkerchief before, I can't figure out one thing that I have learnt from her, I don't and won't regret what I have done for her but I am saddened that I have been in relationship with the wrong person for 5 fruitful years of my life. I will be 31 on Monday.

I don't regret spending on people but I usually get frustrated spending wrongly on people.

I like living people better than the way I met them.

I wouldn't really assume that I didn't learn anything from this relationship, I have learnt a lot and these are the things I have learnt...

1. Even the kindest person can turn into a cold-hearted person.

2. Even if you're madly in love, you should never think with your heart but with your brain.

3. You should never put your happiness in someone else’s hands because you never know when they will decide to leave you.

4. The more you show a person you love them, the less they will reciprocate or appreciate it.

5. It’s human nature to take things for granted, specially in long term relationships. They’ll always look for something better once the infatuation phase ends.

6. Relationships should not be governed solely by love, but also and most importantly by trust, understanding, maturity and SELF-RESPECT.

7. The moment you lose your self-respect you will see your partner as ‘too good to be true’. You will put them on a pedestal and be their slave. Never lose your self-respect and dignity.

8. Master the balance of power and you’ll master the whole relationship.

9. If you constantly show them you love them and care for them, they will start taking you for granted.

10. Distance yourself from your partner from time to time. It will help you see your relationship in a proper perspective.

11. Two main things should be present in a relationship: Trust and communication. If one of them is absent, your relationship is doomed to fail.

12. Being needy and clingy out of love is never a good idea because it will push your partner away and make them love you less.

13. The person that loves less in the relationship is the one in control of the relationship. It’s important to set a balance of power between you two or else one of you will definitely get hurt.

14. If your happiness is in someone else’s hands you’re rooting for conditional happiness. If they leave you, you will end up all alone, sad, depressed, hopeless and even suicidal. No one on this planet should control your happiness other than yourself.

15. The moment you hurt your partner, they will change forever even though you try your best to bring their good old self back.

16. Even if you give someone your heart, it’s not guaranteed that they will reciprocate.

17. The moment they start showing lack of interest, believe them instead of trying to convince yourself that they’re ‘mad’ or ‘going through a phase’ and that everything will be alright.

18. What’s meant for you will always be yours.

19. Sometimes God removes people from your life in an abrupt way because you were being led to danger.

20. If you walked away from a one-sided, toxic, negative, low-vibrational relationship, you won.
And the list goes on…

Most importantly, stay strong in any relationship you’re in. People come and go, the ones meant for you will stay. Stay strong when you're at your lowest and never let a heartbreak define you.

Just have faith and learn to always smile no matter what!

Hmmmmmmmm
I can say I am passing through the same thing..... It really hurts when you care about someone and they don't return the feelings equally. You indeed open yourself up to be hurt...

It's painful when you know you dedicated a lot of time and resources to this person/relationship...

I have learnt ma lessons thou....
What doesn't kill you jus makes you stronger....

Do an update when you end the relationship ~ if this story is not fictitious tho

Bro... I beg u with God run for ur life... ur explanation is the same stuff that happened with me and my ex. I am 1985 and I senior her with 10 years did everything for her and yet she rolled insult at me and even scammed me. I mean this girl is so heartless that she even injured me I still have the scar till date. period she does not love you, she loves what she is benefiting from u. I discovered my ex was having sex with another guy or some guyz while I was busy praying and making the relationship works, she told me if I am tired of the relationship I should quit, I still went on with it.. I later discovered that she does not love me but infatuated, mine was 2yrs plus. see bro if a girl does not give to you she does not love you, no matter how small she can give, u have been given to her if its a responsible girl who loves you, she will say in her mind that this my boyfriend who has been given to me let me save Dis same money and buy him something worth it for me to show him love and appreciation, that's what a sensible girl will do but my own case and ur own case is different... the girl does not love u, a girl DT can not give to u does not love u I repeat it again and again. look at ur sisters of u have one, u discover that cos of family love dey have for u dey do give to you, becos its in d nature of women to give as they also recieve. many men are been decieved into parasitic relationship in Nigeria that is solely based on sponsorship draining d guy or d man and at d end Dis same ladies will dump dem. so many ladies are carrying curses on their head dey don't know about. money is worked for and if who you are does not value it and appreciate u pls move on, u are too young to be tortured by lazy girl who has an entitlement mentality. I have said it over and over again, most of the things Nigerian ladies some of dem have dey did not buy it by themselves, men gave it to dem. guys let's redefine relationship if a girl can not be responsible for her financial life, relationship should not be her bail out. most Marriages are crashing cos of wrong motives y dey d ladies entered this marriages. any marital or relational foundation built on money will not stand d test of time.
After I broke up with my leech girlfriend, I wanted to ensure DT we get back again to fight for my relationship. I asked her d love you have for me is it strong to stand d test of time she said NO. I went to church and gave testimony if deliverance not minding what I spent on her. I believe there are genuine girls out there ... guyz let's stop been in relationship with students, most of dem are liabilities seriously and playing games alaround, with few exceptional ones. I won't advice a guy should go for student and if u must pls ensure her family are responsible for her upkeep in school and u just do small for her.... not much.. guyz have suffered. I sympathize with u bro but 90% of advice here says move on I say d same.

Stycon:
Do an update when you end the relationship ~ if this story is not fictitious tho

I will, it's my story, not a friend's story.

ola9ja:
Most of these girls don't really love us, it's just a symbiotic relationship, I would be ending my present relationship on Monday, my birthday, I really thought I would get married to her but the relationship has become a toxic one so I had to move on with my life. I can not manage a toxic relationship, imagine sacrificing so much in a relationship that you have to go out of your own will to meet her needs , I have bought her phones twice, paid more than half of her house rent in school twice, it's a distant relationship and we have dated for 3years +, she hasn't even bought me an handkerchief before, I can't figure out one thing that I have learnt from her, I don't and won't regret what I have done for her but I am saddened that I have been in relationship with the wrong person for 5 fruitful years of my life. I will be 31 on Monday.

I don't regret spending on people but I usually get frustrated spending wrongly on people.

I like living people better than the way I met them.

I wouldn't really assume that I didn't learn anything from this relationship, I have learnt a lot and these are the things I have learnt...

1. Even the kindest person can turn into a cold-hearted person.

2. Even if you're madly in love, you should never think with your heart but with your brain.

3. You should never put your happiness in someone else’s hands because you never know when they will decide to leave you.

4. The more you show a person you love them, the less they will reciprocate or appreciate it.

5. It’s human nature to take things for granted, specially in long term relationships. They’ll always look for something better once the infatuation phase ends.

6. Relationships should not be governed solely by love, but also and most importantly by trust, understanding, maturity and SELF-RESPECT.

7. The moment you lose your self-respect you will see your partner as ‘too good to be true’. You will put them on a pedestal and be their slave. Never lose your self-respect and dignity.

8. Master the balance of power and you’ll master the whole relationship.

9. If you constantly show them you love them and care for them, they will start taking you for granted.

10. Distance yourself from your partner from time to time. It will help you see your relationship in a proper perspective.

11. Two main things should be present in a relationship: Trust and communication. If one of them is absent, your relationship is doomed to fail.

12. Being needy and clingy out of love is never a good idea because it will push your partner away and make them love you less.

13. The person that loves less in the relationship is the one in control of the relationship. It’s important to set a balance of power between you two or else one of you will definitely get hurt.

14. If your happiness is in someone else’s hands you’re rooting for conditional happiness. If they leave you, you will end up all alone, sad, depressed, hopeless and even suicidal. No one on this planet should control your happiness other than yourself.

15. The moment you hurt your partner, they will change forever even though you try your best to bring their good old self back.

16. Even if you give someone your heart, it’s not guaranteed that they will reciprocate.

17. The moment they start showing lack of interest, believe them instead of trying to convince yourself that they’re ‘mad’ or ‘going through a phase’ and that everything will be alright.

18. What’s meant for you will always be yours.

19. Sometimes God removes people from your life in an abrupt way because you were being led to danger.

20. If you walked away from a one-sided, toxic, negative, low-vibrational relationship, you won.
And the list goes on…

Most importantly, stay strong in any relationship you’re in. People come and go, the ones meant for you will stay. Stay strong when you're at your lowest and never let a heartbreak define you.

Just have faith and learn to always smile no matter what!

Good Morning bro

Sometimes i read stuffs like this and i would wanna pity the writer, but alas! did you not know who you were fallen in love with?
while paying rents, and doing all those stuffs for her were you fulfilling all the promises you made to her during sex?

a lot of guys do a lot for their women when the sex is free and unique and very good and you get it always , which willl make you not to remember if there are other important benefits.

i wont blame here. lucky enough you indirectly wrote some pertinent advice for yourself.





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Long distance relationships no be am at all.

Your girl will be fuçking another guy, begging him not to stop. Sweating heavily.

you call her

her phone rings

She takes permission from the guy fuçking her to answer your call and begs the guy to keep quiet.

She then answers you like a normal conversation. "I went to church" " I'm cooking rice" "I'm cleaning my room" " I'm doing laundry " "I miss you baby" "I love you"

She giggles and ends the call


The ediot bf is feeling happy he talked to his gf. He may even send her some kkney as she is a student. She could be broke at the moment.

Then the girl resumes her penis session with a proper somebody.


See eh.... Long distance relationship no be am at all


This is how a lot of them are. If yours is better than this then you are lucky

My own 5yrs relationship is crashing fast...

Happy birthday ola9ja ... and please do what makes you happy, don’t be a prisoner of your emotions. Relationship of this era is a joke, too many toxic relationship out there and most times guys are too scared to speak out on it or even walk away with their heads up, cos they’re scared of starting all over again with someone new. You won’t find better, if you don’t let go of the bad. Your happiness is solely your responsibility, girls of these days are very tricky and very unpredictable when it comes to relationship affairs. Stay woke and Keep winning. Peace!

kepstone:
Bro... I beg u with God run for ur life... ur explanation is the same stuff that happened with me and my ex. I am 1985 and I senior her with 10 years did everything for her and yet she rolled insult at me and even scammed me. I mean this girl is so heartless that she even injured me I still have the scar till date. period she does not love you, she loves what she is benefiting from u. I discovered my ex was having sex with another guy or some guyz while I was busy praying and making the relationship works, she told me if I am tired of the relationship I should quit, I still went on with it.. I later discovered that she does not love me but infatuated, mine was 2yrs plus. see bro if a girl does not give to you she does not love you, no matter how small she can give, u have been given to her if its a responsible girl who loves you, she will say in her mind that this my boyfriend who has been given to me let me save Dis same money and buy him something worth it for me to show him love and appreciation, that's what a sensible girl will do but my own case and ur own case is different... the girl does not love u, a girl DT can not give to u does not love u I repeat it again and again. look at ur sisters of u have one, u discover that cos of family love dey have for u dey do give to you, becos its in d nature of women to give as they also recieve. many men are been decieved into parasitic relationship in Nigeria that is solely based on sponsorship draining d guy or d man and at d end Dis same ladies will dump dem. so many ladies are carrying curses on their head dey don't know about. money is worked for and if who you are does not value it and appreciate u pls move on, u are too young to be tortured by lazy girl who has an entitlement mentality. I have said it over and over again, most of the things Nigerian ladies some of dem have dey did not buy it by themselves, men gave it to dem. guys let's redefine relationship if a girl can not be responsible for her financial life, relationship should not be her bail out. most Marriages are crashing cos of wrong motives y dey d ladies entered this marriages. any marital or relational foundation built on money will not stand d test of time.
After I broke up with my leech girlfriend, I wanted to ensure DT we get back again to fight for my relationship. I asked her d love you have for me is it strong to stand d test of time she said NO. I went to church and gave testimony if deliverance not minding what I spent on her. I believe there are genuine girls out there ... guyz let's stop been in relationship with students, most of dem are liabilities seriously and playing games alaround, with few exceptional ones. I won't advice a guy should go for student and if u must pls ensure her family are responsible for her upkeep in school and u just do small for her.... not much.. guyz have suffered. I sympathize with u bro but 90% of advice here says move on I say d same.

I have my scar too... i learnt alot n realised its not a crime staying single with peace of mind

Badt guy.... dat one dey sha
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Very true.....bt bros make sure u ve wells that u drill regularly ooo with no strings attached


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So warm and close to me, thank you. I'm totally in favor of you getting rid of this relationship, as it will not bring anything good into your life, this is important to remember. Plus, you just need to value yourself because no one can do it better than you. To be honest, I thought I made a mistake when I finally decided to file for divorce in Florida with my abuser. It seemed that we had been together for ages, and getting used to another person is an incredible and impossible task. But no, we can get used to new things and allow ourselves to be happy. I think this is the main thing that we must do for ourselves in this life.

Well said... I am so sorry for how sad you feel.

And a good one on the courage to end a toxic relationship.

God will safe us from people who will appear innocent and harmless, but they are a green snake under the green grass.

God will safe us from people who after they have stopped loving us, will still continue to decieve us. Just they can use us till they find the next option for them to jump into.