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Wonder2018:
This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.

After 6years am still not getting it.

I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?

Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I [b]can deal without my vibrator, [/b]but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.

After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.

Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.

Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.

Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it

donstan18:
Stop sugar-coating the truth, the first commenter is so so right. What kind of work takes away your sexual life and stops you from getting wet/h0rny? Was she raped?

A man/woman don't just wake up to loose the sexual drives and attraction he/she has for a partner without being attracted to someone else.

It's either the lady is cheating(which I believe) or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/attribute of her husband.

Wonder2018:
This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.

After 6years am still not getting it.

I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?

Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I can deal without my vibrator, but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.

After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.

Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.

Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.

Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it

Wonder2018:
This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.

After 6years am still not getting it.

I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?

Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I can deal without my vibrator, but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.

After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.

Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.

Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.

Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it

Khallyella:
Once these ladies get married , their true colors start shining bright like a diamond in the sky, Bet if you were like this before you two got married, he wouldn't have taken you to the altar.

He most probably thinks you're attracted to someone else, and I also think so too, you don't just wake up one morning and start feeling unattracted to someone you've yearned to spend the rest of your life with lest you're under a spell

Try getting the spark back in the marriage or quit to give the innocent man peace of mind.

Adios.

olaboy1:
Give OP a new d!ck and all that I’m busy with logistic work will fly out the window.

Khallyella:
Once these ladies get married , their true colors start shining bright like a diamond in the sky, Bet if you were like this before you two got married, he wouldn't have taken you to the altar.

He most probably thinks you're attracted to someone else, and I also think so too, you don't just wake up one morning and start feeling unattracted to someone you've yearned to spend the rest of your life with lest you're under a spell

Try getting the spark back in the marriage or quit to give the innocent man peace of mind.

Adios.

ubunja:
i read that post earlier.
i never trust a woman in my life. pvssy doesnt become loose on its own. just as boobs dont become slippers on their own.
the woman has done something wrong. she claims she never cheated yet mentioned vibrators.!!! sex tòys open up the pvssy you're as good as cheating. she's dumb.

trust a woman at your own peril.

Eberechi24:
your husband created his thread too


https://www.nairaland.com/4530025/true-sign-cheating

donstan18:
I used couples to make my point when I first mentioned you, so don't see my comments as a man vs woman cheating tendency shii.

I still stand with my point; it's either OP is cheating or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/ attribute of her husband.

Work don't steal sexual drives and attraction for a partner.
Marriage don't steal sexual drives and attraction, it can only get less, not abolished.

Ishilove:
It doesn't take genius to know love isn't enough. Love can never be enough

donstan18:
Stop sugar-coating the truth, the first commenter is so so right. What kind of work takes away your sexual life and stops you from getting wet/h0rny? Was she raped?

A man/woman don't just wake up to loose the sexual drives and attraction he/she has for a partner without being attracted to someone else.

It's either the lady is cheating(which I believe) or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/attribute of her husband.

Wonder2018:
This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.

After 6years am still not getting it.

I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?

Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I can deal without my vibrator, but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.

After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.

Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.

Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.

Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it

Kenturkey048:
its called laws of diminishing returns..(satisfaction reduces when more of a commodity is consumed)

Youngtekkey:
Bla bla bla, stress kills sexual libodo, work is stressful, in marriage you'll not always be wet, there would be dry season bla bla bla. Keep the rhetorics to yourselves abeg! Why the hell will you not be in the mood constantly if you're not seeing or thinking of another man. Abeg make una let me heat word. The whole marriage thing is a scam, I've been saying it. I would just get a baby mama and keeping fucking and being tight in game. Who marriage help? Cos someone like me can't tolerate what the OP husband has been tolerating. I for one would have been hitting them side chics hard.

Khallyella:
Once these ladies get married , their true colors start shining bright like a diamond in the sky, Bet if you were like this before you two got married, he wouldn't have taken you to the altar.

He most probably thinks you're attracted to someone else, and I also think so too, you don't just wake up one morning and start feeling unattracted to someone you've yearned to spend the rest of your life with lest you're under a spell

Try getting the spark back in the marriage or quit to give the innocent man peace of mind.

Adios.

kimbraa:
I had to read the write-up twice to see if my eyes were playing with me or it was actually as a result of your perception. She didn't say she's not attracted to him but that her sex life changed, and I think being easily put off, not always in the mood, always tired, is as a result of how busy her schedule is. 6years of marriage...after a year, don't expect your partner to be as sexually active as they were while dating or when newly married. The spark dwindles over time and once one of the partner takes cognisance of this, they work on it and bring back the spark but the main issue is the slacking vagina. I'm not a doc so wouldn't know why.

austyn0:
I am not referring to the cheating aspect, buh the aspect that demands the need for her man to understand what she is passing through....Trust humans at your own peril not just women.

alexistaiwo:
It is actually called law of diminishing marginal utility.

Entirely different from law of diminishing returns.

zomoears:
You have a vibrator!

Look no further. You have fallen out of love with your husband and in love with your vibrator.

Also your pussy is slacking due to regular vibrator use.

makydebbie:
Lol, everything is the woman's fault. Even when her husband didn't even try to turn her on first. Haba!

steve13:
After 2 kids , your eye will clear , Lol Lol , when kids talk , smh, when you see thread like this and you are single , don't comment .

Kindergarten is 300k plus per term in some part of Lagos, rent is above 3m, car issues , work load, arguments, a lot of stress that will make you truly see/take your partner like your sister or bros , Sex diminishes, atimes every week,

This is not cheating issue , some stress won't let you cheat , I understand what the OP is going thru and this man refused to make a lot of money but wants sex 4am and a lot of wetness ,maybe madam diasaponted a client and needed to leave very early ,hmmmmm....Oga work harder to take out stress from madam mbok

kimbraa:
He wants to prove a point, that the lady is seeing someone else even when she swore not to be seeing anyone on this thread just to validate himself that married women cheat the most.

I guess they don't know why people say love isn't enough.

Wonder2018:
But that us the only way I get an orgasim, and I have been using vibe since we got married. We even use it together.