Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by baby124: 8:30pm On May 29, 2018 |
I also won’t be wet at 4am in the morning when I am in deep sleep. You can’t just wake someone up and chook prick with sleepy eyes. Even porn stars will be less interested. Plus I don’t joke with my sleep. Now OP, I think timing is your issue. Try to make time for your husband and plan dates where you both ginger yourself before the kpanshing . Don’t just do one corner 5 second doggy and go about your day. Make an effort! That you still use a vibrator shows that you have sexual needs and you satisfy them. If your vibrator is taking up the time your husband needs to occupy then restrict the use of vibrator to when he has travelled only. So that any time you are Hot you can pounce on him. Goodluck. 4 Likes |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Youngtekkey(m): 8:31pm On May 29, 2018 |
Bla bla bla, stress kills sexual libodo, work is stressful, in marriage you'll not always be wet, there would be dry season bla bla bla. Keep the rhetorics to yourselves abeg! Why the hell will you not be in the mood constantly if you're not seeing or thinking of another man. Abeg make una let me heat word. The whole marriage thing is a scam, I've been saying it. I would just get a baby mama and keeping fucking and being tight in game. Who marriage help? Cos someone like me can't tolerate what the OP husband has been tolerating. I for one would have been hitting them side chics hard. |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by zomoears(m): 8:31pm On May 29, 2018 |
Wonder2018: This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.
After 6years am still not getting it.
I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?
Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I [b]can deal without my vibrator, [/b]but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.
After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.
Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.
Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.
Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it You have a vibrator! Look no further. You have fallen out of love with your husband and in love with your vibrator. Also your pussy is slacking due to regular vibrator use. 5 Likes |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by drnoel: 8:31pm On May 29, 2018 |
donstan18:
Stop sugar-coating the truth, the first commenter is so so right. What kind of work takes away your sexual life and stops you from getting wet/h0rny? Was she raped?
A man/woman don't just wake up to loose the sexual drives and attraction he/she has for a partner without being attracted to someone else.
It's either the lady is cheating(which I believe) or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/attribute of her husband. If u have been married long enof u will know better. It doesn't work like that for everyone. Don't be a child or think like one. Stress is a relationship killer and probably what she has. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by PierreAbutu(m): 8:32pm On May 29, 2018 |
Wonder2018: This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.
After 6years am still not getting it.
I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?
Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I can deal without my vibrator, but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.
After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.
Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.
Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.
Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it Pls don't quit Get my book for him: 52 USEFUL TIPS FOR UNDERSTANDING WOMEN Quote me if you're interested...it's in pdf........N1,500 |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by alexola20(m): 8:34pm On May 29, 2018 |
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Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Espada10: 8:36pm On May 29, 2018 |
Wonder2018: This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.
After 6years am still not getting it.
I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?
Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I can deal without my vibrator, but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.
After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.
Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.
Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.
Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it Madam, tell us the real koko( the truth) and stop yarning dust. You are not the first married woman to have this problem .. Our married nairaland oriaku feminist is facing the same delimma with somadinna nwa di hot |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Heemcelph: 8:39pm On May 29, 2018 |
I'm no therapist but I've read a couple of articles about sex ed. Men would suspect a lady of cheating if they notice a change in the vagina. The vagina wall loosen when a lady is sexually excited and then again the vagina secretes more fluid thereby making it wetter, this allows for easy penetration, it doesn't mean the vagina is "slacked". Fatigue, stress, mental obstruction, age, and other factors leads to low (er) sex urge. Issues like these can easily be resolved if the couple involved initiate a deep conversation regarding it. 1 Like |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by bezimo(m): 8:40pm On May 29, 2018 |
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Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Espada10: 8:41pm On May 29, 2018 |
olaboy1:
Give OP a new d!ck and all that I’m busy with logistic work will fly out the window. Gbam |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Nobody: 8:41pm On May 29, 2018 |
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Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by austyn0(m): 8:42pm On May 29, 2018 |
ubunja: i read that post earlier. i never trust a woman in my life. pvssy doesnt become loose on its own. just as boobs dont become slippers on their own. the woman has done something wrong. she claims she never cheated yet mentioned vibrators.!!! sex tòys open up the pvssy you're as good as cheating. she's dumb. trust a woman at your own peril. I am not referring to the cheating aspect, buh the aspect that demands the need for her man to understand what she is passing through....Trust humans at your own peril not just women. |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by MaziOmenuko: 8:43pm On May 29, 2018 |
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Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by ladykolly(f): 8:43pm On May 29, 2018 |
donstan18:
I used couples to make my point when I first mentioned you, so don't see my comments as a man vs woman cheating tendency shii.
I still stand with my point; it's either OP is cheating or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/ attribute of her husband.
Work don't steal sexual drives and attraction for a partner. Marriage don't steal sexual drives and attraction, it can only get less, not abolished.
how do you know all this,everyone's body differs,don't jump into conclusion over something you're not sure of,she said she isn't cheating. By the way is it your body? |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Fourwinds: 8:49pm On May 29, 2018 |
Ishilove:
It doesn't take genius to know love isn't enough. Love can never be enough so can you tell us what will complete it |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Joyfuljoy87(f): 8:51pm On May 29, 2018 |
donstan18:
Stop sugar-coating the truth, the first commenter is so so right. What kind of work takes away your sexual life and stops you from getting wet/h0rny? Was she raped?
A man/woman don't just wake up to loose the sexual drives and attraction he/she has for a partner without being attracted to someone else.
It's either the lady is cheating(which I believe) or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/attribute of her husband. |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Joyfuljoy87(f): 8:54pm On May 29, 2018 |
You are so unbelievable! Like seriously Jeez! |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by DonaTee(f): 8:57pm On May 29, 2018 |
Wonder2018: This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.
After 6years am still not getting it.
I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?
Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I can deal without my vibrator, but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.
After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.
Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.
Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.
Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it Sorry about your ordeal. A simple remedy which can help you out. 1. Take watermelon-cucumber plus little ginger smoothie Daily. 2. Take kunu made with tigernut, coconut, ginger, cloves, dates and dry pepper. At least 2-3 a week In a few days you notice changes. No more dryness. In sugarcane season eat as much as you can. Also eat Wild local berries. They are packed with antioxidants and help alot. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Nobody: 8:57pm On May 29, 2018 |
Kenturkey048: its called laws of diminishing returns..(satisfaction reduces when more of a commodity is consumed) It is actually called law of diminishing marginal utility. Entirely different from law of diminishing returns. 3 Likes |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by steve13(m): 8:58pm On May 29, 2018 |
Youngtekkey: Bla bla bla, stress kills sexual libodo, work is stressful, in marriage you'll not always be wet, there would be dry season bla bla bla. Keep the rhetorics to yourselves abeg! Why the hell will you not be in the mood constantly if you're not seeing or thinking of another man. Abeg make una let me heat word. The whole marriage thing is a scam, I've been saying it. I would just get a baby mama and keeping fucking and being tight in game. Who marriage help? Cos someone like me can't tolerate what the OP husband has been tolerating. I for one would have been hitting them side chics hard. After 2 kids , your eye will clear , Lol Lol , when kids talk , smh, when you see thread like this and you are single , don't comment . Kindergarten is 300k plus per term in some part of Lagos, rent is above 3m, car issues , work load, arguments, a lot of stress that will make you truly see/take your partner like your sister or bros , Sex diminishes, atimes every week, This is not cheating issue , some stress won't let you cheat , I understand what the OP is going thru and this man refused to make a lot of money but wants sex 4am and a lot of wetness ,maybe madam diasaponted a client and needed to leave very early ,hmmmmm....Oga work harder to take out stress from madam mbok |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by sisisioge: 8:59pm On May 29, 2018 |
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Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Wonder2018: 9:00pm On May 29, 2018 |
kimbraa: I had to read the write-up twice to see if my eyes were playing with me or it was actually as a result of your perception. She didn't say she's not attracted to him but that her sex life changed, and I think being easily put off, not always in the mood, always tired, is as a result of how busy her schedule is. 6years of marriage...after a year, don't expect your partner to be as sexually active as they were while dating or when newly married. The spark dwindles over time and once one of the partner takes cognisance of this, they work on it and bring back the spark but the main issue is the slacking vagina. I'm not a doc so wouldn't know why. Am not always slack. Sometimes am really tight. That's where am worried. I don't want to loose this man because he is thinking am cheating when am not. Which I sense would happen sooner than later |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Amacaco: 9:00pm On May 29, 2018 |
I think it is very wrong for any married person to seek solutions to marital issues on nairaland. Majority of the people who will make comments here are mainly persons who know next to nothing about marriage. This always reflects in their contributions and in the way they make fun of the issue at stake and the poster. Marriage is not like girlfriend/boyfriend relationship as you have no binding commitment in the latter. Anyone who does not have experience in marriage should steer clear of Marriage topics but read and learn. This life is not a bed of Roses. As to the poster, your experience sometimes happen in some marriages. If not properly handled, it can break the relationship. All you need is for two of you to talk to each other sincerely and honestly without being hypocritical. 1 Like |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by ubunja(m): 9:01pm On May 29, 2018 |
austyn0: I am not referring to the cheating aspect, buh the aspect that demands the need for her man to understand what she is passing through....Trust humans at your own peril not just women. we dont date humans. we date women.so trust women at your peril. you speak as if men owe women something. no one owes anyone anything. |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Kenturkey048(m): 9:01pm On May 29, 2018 |
alexistaiwo:
It is actually called law of diminishing marginal utility.
Entirely different from law of diminishing returns. okay thanks.. 1 Like |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Wonder2018: 9:01pm On May 29, 2018 |
zomoears:
You have a vibrator!
Look no further. You have fallen out of love with your husband and in love with your vibrator.
Also your pussy is slacking due to regular vibrator use. But that us the only way I get an orgasim, and I have been using vibe since we got married. We even use it together. |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Fourwinds: 9:01pm On May 29, 2018 |
makydebbie: Lol, everything is the woman's fault. Even when her husband didn't even try to turn her on first. Haba! I need to turn you on this evening..... |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by gare2510(m): 9:02pm On May 29, 2018 |
I think it's not about you wet or Hot but you probably showed or he read signs of you not been interested while it was ongoing, guys and even ladies are very sensitive to these signs whether real or imagined. You need to genuinely ask yourself for the solution look at it from your perspective and then his. It could be just one romantic date alone with him weekly, bi weekly or monthly, look forward to it, prepare with excitement, look good and have fun. Try and create time for the family, its usually not always about money or career, I used to think so but now having gotten both I know better, sometimes it is the small small things. It is well |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Wonder2018: 9:04pm On May 29, 2018 |
[quote author=olaboy1 post=67991143]Nothing you do can ever satisfy a woman, they always quickly feel that emotional emptiness that would eventually make them vulnerable to another d!ck. I think marriage should be abolished and open relationships encourage, that way nobody can sexually hold you to ransom. I had to comment because a close friend of mine is having this same sexless marriage with his wife.
Give OP a new d!ck and all that I’m busy with logistic work will fly out the window. [ |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Youngtekkey(m): 9:04pm On May 29, 2018 |
steve13:
After 2 kids , your eye will clear , Lol Lol , when kids talk , smh, when you see thread like this and you are single , don't comment .
Kindergarten is 300k plus per term in some part of Lagos, rent is above 3m, car issues , work load, arguments, a lot of stress that will make you truly see/take your partner like your sister or bros , Sex diminishes, atimes every week,
This is not cheating issue , some stress won't let you cheat , I understand what the OP is going thru and this man refused to make a lot of money but wants sex 4am and a lot of wetness ,maybe madam diasaponted a client and needed to leave very early ,hmmmmm....Oga work harder to take out stress from madam mbok Oga mi, wetin be your own na? Everybody has his/her own perspective about a particular issue. You can choose to keep telling yourself the whole stress thing not me. I enjoy banging so much, if I'm married and my wife can't give me constant access to that then I will be hitting side Chic's. That's my own perspective to the issue. |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by Wonder2018: 9:08pm On May 29, 2018 |
kimbraa: He wants to prove a point, that the lady is seeing someone else even when she swore not to be seeing anyone on this thread just to validate himself that married women cheat the most.
I guess they don't know why people say love isn't enough. It's not like you know me or can see me, neither can you beat me up of I tell the truth, there is no need to explain myself any further, my post says its all |
Re: He Did Not Enjoy Intimacy With Me, And Concluded I Am Cheating by zomoears(m): 9:09pm On May 29, 2018 |
Wonder2018: But that us the only way I get an orgasim, and I have been using vibe since we got married. We even use it together. ONLY way? This is deeper than your thread suggests. I dont know what to say anymore. |