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I have consistently say this and will always repeat it, marrying a single mother is a PERFECT NO-NO for me.

No disrespect to them but such marriage won't work. Whether it was a man that ditched them or they were the ones that ditched their Baby Daddy is irrelevant in this question.

In fact, I have this friend that has been professing unending and eternal love for me but being a single mother that she is, I told her in plain terms that the relationship that she seek will NEVER work even if she is the last woman on earth. N/B she is mid 20s and beautiful!

As rude as that may sound it remains the fact!

Single mother? NO WAY...

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Go back to the pastor and ask for guidance.

Guidance about what?

TonyeBarcanista:
I have consistently say this and will always repeat it, marrying a single mother is a PERFECT NO-NO for me.

No disrespect to them but such marriage won't work. Whether it was a man that ditched them or they were the ones that ditched their Baby Daddy is irrelevant in this question.

In fact, I have this friend that has been professing unending and eternal love for me but being a single mother that she is, I told her in plain terms that the relationship that she seek will NEVER work even if she is the last woman on earth. N/B she is mid 20s and beautiful!

As rude as that may sound it remains the fact!

Single mother? NO WAY...

It comes with it's extra baggages many won't see until they get into it.

greyham:
You're very wrong bro . It's 97.9% not 80%

Stop misleading the public

Really guys should listen to single mothers when they talk. They sound so empty.

Spoke with a friend (also a single mum) some months ago, she's a doctor, and our gist took us to family matters, and relationship talk (I knew she was divorced). I won't type all the trash she spew that day but I remember telling her " No wonder you are wicked and single"

The look on her face was epic I was a potential victim of multiple stab injuries that evening.

Single mums should be left alone.

Last month one dude opened a thread for advice on his intention to marry a single mum. He was kind enough to share enough details on how they met up till present circumstances, but trust mumu boys, with his response on that thread despite countless advice he should have married her by now

Whenever I see a new moniker and thread on family section complaining about marriage bla bla bla I dey smh for the guy. May his turn no ever reach.

There was also a guy that opened a thread seeking advice in choosing between a single mother (who he is in love with) and a single prayerful Doctor (who his parents want him to marry).

I advised the dude to go with the choice of his parents but some commenters kept telling him to follow his infatuation.

I hope he sees this

1x2x3:
Guidance about what?

On a perfect mate for you. He foresaw divorce for you right? So I see no harm in going to him for spiritual guidance.

1x2x3:
It comes with it's extra baggages many won't see until they get into it.

God has saved you...

Bros, ladies who are single mothers are single mothers as a result of the choice they made and actions they took save the rape victims.

You have to be careful with the machinations of desperate girls!

Meanwhile, you deserve slap! You instruct woman make she no travel and she travel yet you still no break the relationship instantly? Be careful o!

Hahahahahahhahahahah!!!! Useless women... See how they're heeping different "assumptions" on the Op's head. Very wicked beings. They're ignoring the important points Op raised just to bring up some less important "wicked single mother" points.

See as them gather the Op sha! Unfortunate females.

Anyway, baby mama needed ASAP

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
On a perfect mate for you. He foresaw divorce for you right? So I see no harm in going to him for spiritual guidance.

I understand your point but I'm not the type that listens to those things. I ignored what he said until the girl told me she doesn't mind going her way if things doesn't work in a marriage. No confirmation was needed in this case.

CecyAdrian:
Alpha male spotted. Let's assume she was traveling for business but did not want to tell the OP at the moment, she should not because a man who has neither married her nor been committed (from her perspective in the story) told her not to.

You guys need a lot to catch up to on the present day woman

I know ur type. Always make excuses for something u know deep down is not right. She talks about marriage to the guy but she refused him meeting any of her siblings, then she wants to go and "rest" in Abuja. While resting she was giving attitudes, and then more attitudes when she got back. Guess she "rested" very well. Modern woman, one of ur role models preaching celibacy is Pregnant before marriage, she suddenly became an adviser about how women should treat men after CeeCee and Tobi saga, all because she finally wants to settle, this one na billionaire, u wey nor get shishi ....sit there and be claiming modern day woman. At first it will look like a normal thing, when u grow older....ur brain will reset.

1x2x3:
I understand your point but I'm not the type that listens to those things. I ignored what he said until the girl told me she doesn't mind going her way if things doesn't work in a marriage. No confirmation was needed in this case.

Goodluck

1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.

First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.

I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).

We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).

Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.

About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.

She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)

She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.

She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.

Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.

At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.

Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.

"" About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing""

stop being Silly. if there's something u want to do, Go ahead n decide n leave ur pastor out of this.





Meanwhile this her behaviour isn't connected to her being a single mom, Single married n divorced women display those attitude.

CecyAdrian:
Alpha male spotted. Let's assume she was traveling for business but did not want to tell the OP at the moment, she should not because a man who has neither married her nor been committed (from her perspective in the story) told her not to.

You guys need a lot to catch up to on the present day woman

By present day woman u need present day stupidity ?

CecyAdrian:
Alpha male spotted. Let's assume she was traveling for business but did not want to tell the OP at the moment, she should not because a man who has neither married her nor been committed (from her perspective in the story) told her not to.

You guys need a lot to catch up to on the present day woman

OP goofed by doing nothing while she travelled without his permission...


BTW We aren't interested in catching any present day woman! If a woman's loyalty is not 100% she should face front. After all, we don't whine when we are unmarried...

1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.

First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.

I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).

We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).

Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.

About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.

She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)

She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.

She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.

Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.

At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.

Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.

MY GOOD FRIEND. HAPPY SUNDAY. PLS IF U WILL LISTEN, GOOD FOR U AND UR GENERATIONS. KNOW, U CAN NOT CHANGE THIS WOMAN. SHE IS MADE UP.AN OBSTINATE FELLOW IS OBVIOUSLY VERY RUDE & INCORRIGIBLE. I WILL ADVICE, U BEGIN FROM NOW TO GRADUALLY WITHDRAW FROM THIS VERY KNOWN SINGLE MOTHER LADY B4 U RUIN UR LIFE. HEED ADVICE FROM SEASONED MARRIED PARTNERS. HV BEEN MARRIED FOR OVER TWENTY YEARS NOW BUT ITS NOT OVER UNTIL WE LIVE THIS EARTH. SO MARTIAGE IS NOT FRIENDSHIP PLS. U HV SEEN D REDFLAG, THERE IS NO NEED TO COME HERE LATER AND NARRATE 'STORIES THAT TOUCH D HEARTS'.. THANKS.

fof1:
MY GOOD FRIEND. HAPPY SUNDAY. PLS IF U WILL LISTEN, GOOD FOR U AND UR GENERATIONS. KNOW, U CAN NOT CHANGE THIS WOMAN. SHE IS MADE UP.AN OBSTINATE FELLOW IS OBVIOUSLY VERY RUDE & INCORRIGIBLE. I WILL ADVICE, U BEGIN FROM NOW TO GRADUALLY WITHDRAW FROM THIS VERY KNOWN SINGLE MOTHER LADY B4 U RUIN UR LIFE. HEED ADVICE FROM SEASONED MARRIED PARTNERS. HV BEEN MARRIED FOR OVER TWENTY YEARS NOW BUT ITS NOT OVER UNTIL WE LIVE THIS EARTH. SO MARTIAGE IS NOT FRIENDSHIP PLS. U HV SEEN D REDFLAG, THERE IS NO NEED TO COME HERE LATER AND NARRATE 'STORIES THAT TOUCH D HEARTS'.. THANKS.

Dont worry sir, he won't marry the lady.

gameboy55:
He needed no validation, he only gives advise to others to be watchful, this proves u dnt even read the article before commenting #Nigerians don't read

There is no sensible advice in what he wrote.

"If your single mother fiancee disagrees with you on petty issues or she is not in good terms with her siblings, break up with her"
I see no link between been a single mother and the "advice" in his writeup. You could offer the same bad advice for a relationship
with any other other woman. If you don't want disagreement, staying single is your best bet, there is no way around it.


He took a decision where he was clearly in the wrong but he needs the online brotherhood to validate his feelings.

eghuan1:
With all these comments am seeing here, you guys are making me scared o, because am currently dating a beautiful single mum who is over a year older than me.
Though we've been together for about two months now, she has introduced me to her friends, elder sister and her aunt. They all spoke good of her.

But what is giving me hope is that the ex husband has another child with another woman who is not with him. So the problem may not necessarily be the women here, but the guy.

But I de with my looking glass sha

My brother, if I will advice you ehn, I'll say you should borrow the shoes of Bolt and bolt off.

As in, do you think anybody was born a single mother? Wasn't it a consequence of their actions save Widows and rape victims.

Oga forget the initial and pretentious character and shine your eye else you may create similar thread in future. That her Baby Daddy has another Baby mama doesn't count here...

But why can't you start your family on a fresh slate?

guy u harsh o

Tallesty1:
That's not even totally safe because she could be the one that killed her husband.

Truth is, some single mother are victims of a men's wickedness. Y'know right that some wicked men do get girls pregnant and deny them so their being single mother may not be because they are rude, wicked or mannerless but because they were unlucky in love. I agree though that they're still difficult to love because they're hurting but they're good if you can prove to them(in actions) that you're not like the other guy(a very tough task though)

Poster, something is very wrong with you. You dated this woman for 1.5yrs and then you are coming here to insult her because you guys had a fight. You refuse to compromise when she needed you to. You made no effort to be outgoing so that your relationship can be more fun. You didn’t act like you wanted a future with her but you are quick to dangle that prospect whenever she wants to do something you don’t want her to do. How will you go and call her siblings whom you have never met to settle a fight.

So what if she’s not on good terms with her siblings, how is that your business? So if you marry, every fight you have will result in you reporting her to everyone. So many men have married single mothers and they love their wives. Because your relationship did not work out, you insult all single mothers. You want her to be under you in marriage and take all the trash you give. Is that normal? When small trash she gave you, you are on NL bashing her this badly. You are a hypocrite and a badly trained person.

She is better off running away from you. You are also quite immature. I bet you thought because she is a single mum she should have no dignity, pride or self esteem. This is probably why you went for her because you thought she should worship you because of her “handicap”. Kudos to her. Please find a single girl. No woman will be under you but beside you as a partner. So stop living in fantasy land.

Netanyahu1:
Op. I understand the single mother aspect. I have come to realize that 80% of all single mothers have one of two problems. Its either that they are totally dull about everything in life to the extent that no man is interested in managing their intellectual deficiency, or they are outrightly wayward to the extent that no man wants to be a party to their stupid ideology about what a marital union should look like.

In your own case , however, you just dodged a bullet. As far as "Nigeria" is concerned , church is where you find the most useless and heartless con artists, starting from the pastor, therefore , the combination of a single mother you met in church is equal to natural disaster .

Again op. You just dodged a bullet. If I were you I will be dancing like David for this new life god has given you.I mean the real God and not the god of Nigerian pastors.

Brilliant! i swear if i c u i wl kiss u...so wise pple stil dey dis hell(nigeria)

1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.

First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.

I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).

We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).

Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.

About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.

She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)

She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.

She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.

Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.

At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.

Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.

This is not d character of single women but a single woman with character. This are d types of myopic views that causes harm to d society. Now after reading this a girl that is pregnant will decide to have an abortion than to bear d same of being a single woman.
No wonder u hear of ladies that have aborted 5 times.
Ask yourself this question would u prefer a single mother or a lady that has had abortion.
A single occurrence doesn't make things general.

agarawu23:
Not all single mothers have bad attitudes sha, we have some of them that are unlucky.

They got tricked used and dumped by a guy who isn't ready to take responsibility.

They got tricked? Spare us that bro... They made a choice and are responsible for whatever outcomes it brings.

I rather stay single that marry a single mother or a girl with an irresponsible past (whether she has changed or not isn't my problem). I rather start with a girl on a very clean slate...

tmosco:
This is not d character of single women but a single woman with character. This are d types of myopic views that causes harm to d society. Now after reading this a girl that is pregnant will decide to have an abortion than to bear d same of being a single woman.
No wonder u hear of ladies that have aborted 5 times.
Ask yourself this question would u prefer a single mother or a lady that has had abortion.
A single occurrence doesn't make things general.

Please can you relax on this manipulative narrative?

A girl that is pregnant was pregnant as the result of the decision she took. If she decide to go for abortion, she is responsible for it, same if she decide to give birth to the baby.

A man has the choice of settling with a girl with clean antecedents rather than a retired abortionist or Baby Mama.

Guys must be wise

listen men 2 wisdom ,Women ar d most selfish being on planet...dey kip dia virginity nt because of God but because of pride n selfishness...2: if a lady wants u 2 marry her nt because she loves u but because she just want 2 be in dat organisation of marriage...men if u knw hw women despise u,dats y 70% ar pure lesbian d remaining 30% ar btw lesbian n normal lady

My brother I took the decision to marry a single mother in 2016 as am typing I am in great regret.

I met this lady on match-making programme on a radio station,since then the lady has been pretending to be a very nice and decent person.
She started misbehaving the moment she was pregnant and was pushing me to consumate the marriage on time. a week after I went for introduction I lost my job for reasons still obscure to me,I asked my Hr manager she said the decision to terminate my appointment was still mysterious to her as it was not easy for her to poach me into the company.
I assumed it was a mere coincidence,I continued the relationship with her at this period she increased her intensity of madness and people were telling me the madness was a result of pregnancy and I kept tolerating.I got another job and the pay was okay but exactly one month after the marriage I lost the job again over an issue that does not warrant a query (my line manager asked me to send document to him via email and I did but went to his spam mail and I sent a hard copy to him do as to get the document he concluded that I was a computer illerate and should be sacked immediately).
During the period of joblessness,I went through hell as the torture from this lady was becoming unbearable e.g threatening to stab me with bottle,threw my baby away like paper,locking me indoor to prevent me from going outside,destroyed my phone,tore any money she considered too small and so on.
Some months after I got another job, this time around I spent 3 weeks there before I was sacked.reason I was too quiet and they doubt if I can deliver.
I returned home with sack letter and this lady was telling me this is just the beginning of my travail.brother my liver cut at this juncture.
I even fake commiting suicide she was not moved at all.
Untill I walked out of the marriage that was when my life started changing positively.
A month after I left her I got another job with one of the big bank,later move to a multinational before joining the construction company am working at present.

The most annoying part of her behavior is whenever she displayed her madness few minutes later she will come back and knee down to beg me that she didn't know what came over her and she will repeat the same madness in short time
My brother don't move near any single mother.

1x2x3:

Never look for a wife in a church.

If all she talks about is her love for Jesus, flee!

That game is already played out.

//

What would you all say about a woman who was jazzed out under a man by another woman that made her a single Mother?

baby124:
Poster, something is very wrong with you. You dated this woman for 1.5yrs and then you are coming here to insult her because you guys had a fight. You refuse to compromise when she needed you to. You made no effort to be outgoing so that your relationship can be more fun. You didn’t act like you wanted a future with her but you are quick to dangle that prospect whenever she wants to do something you don’t want her to do. How will you go and call her siblings whom you have never met to settle a fight.

So what if she’s not on good terms with her siblings, how is that your business? So if you marry, every fight you have will result in you reporting her to everyone. So many men have married single mothers and they love their wives. Because your relationship did not work out, you insult all single mothers. You want her to be under you in marriage and take all the trash you give. Is that normal? When small trash she gave you, you are on NL bashing her this badly. You are a hypocrite and a badly trained person.

She is better off running away from you. You are also quite immature. I bet you thought because she is a single mum she should have no dignity, pride or self esteem. This is probably why you went for her because you thought she should worship you because of her “handicap”. Kudos to her. Please find a single girl. No woman will be under you but beside you as a partner. So stop living in fantasy land.

Let me permit your ignorance from not reading through the posts. I didn't run here to look for solutions I'm done and I have more than enough issues I've managed in the past without coming here. I am only giving my advice by sharing my experience.

samguru:
My brother I took the decision to marry a single mother in 2016 as am typing I am in great regret.

I met this lady on match-making programme on a radio station,since then the lady has been pretending to be a very nice and decent person.
She started misbehaving the moment she was pregnant and was pushing me to consumate the marriage on time. a week after I went for introduction I lost my job for reasons still obscure to me,I asked my Hr manager she said the decision to terminate my appointment was still mysterious to her as it was not easy for her to poach me into the company.
I assumed it was a mere coincidence,I continued the relationship with her at this period she increased her intensity of madness and people were telling me the madness was a result of pregnancy and I kept tolerating.I got another job and the pay was okay but exactly one month after the marriage I lost the job again over an issue that does not warrant a query (my line manager asked me to send document to him via email and I did but went to his spam mail and I sent a hard copy to him do as to get the document he concluded that I was a computer illerate and should be sacked immediately).
During the period of joblessness,I went through hell as the torture from this lady was becoming unbearable e.g threatening to stab me with bottle,threw my baby away like paper,locking me indoor to prevent me from going outside,destroyed my phone,tore any money she considered too small and so on.
Some months after I got another job, this time around I spent 3 weeks there before I was sacked.reason I was too quiet and they doubt if I can deliver.
I returned home with sack letter and this lady was telling me this is just the beginning of my travail.brother my liver cut at this juncture.
I even fake commiting suicide she was not moved at all.
Untill I walked out of the marriage that was when my life started changing positively.
A month after I left her I got another job with one of the big bank,later move to a multinational before joining the construction company am working at present.

The most annoying part of her behavior is whenever she displayed her madness few minutes later she will come back and knee down to beg me that she didn't know what came over her and she will repeat the same madness in short time
My brother don't move near any single mother.

I'm happy for you. It very saddening living in regrets in a marriage.

Nnemuka:
My dear... And if you look well he may not have Kobo to his name oo just the penis inbetween his legs.
Babes cannot live her life or travel without boyfriend's permission. Lol

Nnemuka u ar a single mother! such bitterness n grief spirit in u,take it easy

Op thank God for ur life oo. U just dodged a dangerous AK47 bullet. I have always said...no matter how a woman pretends to be good...if she no be good woman..during the time una dey date she will relax and her bad behaviour will come out. And take note that most stubborn irresponsible women always use church as camouflage. Never u go to the church saying u want to pick a wife there. All these churchy babes doin thunder by fire and speaking in tongues..na pretend dem dey pretend oo. Dis ur woman how u sure it wasn't runz she went to do in abuja.i know a number of single moms wey dey do runz. she dont want u to get close to her siblings so they wont tell u wat she really is. Just go and do thanksgiving. PS.. I am not a fan of pastors cos of the scams some of them engage in but the pastor that warned u about her is a true man of God.

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