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Ladies, what do you think, hope I am being reasonable.

My Gf went with her male friend. She told me herself. I trust her completely but I don't feel it's right and such acts should not repeat itself. I want to give her freedom but I know how guys are. She thinks I should just be chill about it. It's a mutually faithful rship. We have discussed going all the way.

Guys, would you allow such? Or can you hangout with your good lady friend - nothing sexual - in a strip club? And be like it's just chilling?

It is a Personal Decision i think!

strip club?

I really don't know how some people trust blindly, not saying your girl aren't faithful but some relations aren't healthy for someone who claims to be in a relationship.
BTW if they both got tipsy in such environment and got intimate would she come back and tell you. You had better start checking your status in that relationship.

From the strip club to the bedroom from the bedroom to the jacuzzi.... No be me talk am o,na iyanya talk am

johnrix:
My Gf went with her male friend. She told me herself.

she was HONEST to you, why are you tripping?!

I trust her completely

if you really did then there would be NO issue here, is it?

but I don't feel it's right

she has no problem with it, why dont you accept it, Mr "i trust her"?

and such acts should not repeat itself.

are you guys in a r/ship or dictatorship?! how dare you think you should decide what others can/should do in their own life?!

I want to give her freedom but I know how guys are.

if you had any faith in this woman then you wouldnt even care how men are.

She thinks I should just be chill about it.

she is absolutely RIGHT.

It's a mutually faithful rship. We have discussed going all the way.

you CANT/WONT go all the way with such foul mindset of trying to control her. this is who she is, you can either accept her (as she is) OR let her be, but trying to force her into being who she is NOT (just to satisfy your insecurities) is definitely not the way here.

Guys, would you allow such? Or can you hangout with your good lady friend - nothing sexual - in a strip club? And be like it's just chilling?

if you trust your woman, then why not? what so wrong with the act?! pls tell us what will happen in that strip club that got you shaking in your boots.

Your girlfriend went with her Male friend which is a boy and can also be called Boyfriend to a strip club

Guy na wa for you. Why are some men so loosed like this. Soon that her Male friend will become boyfriend of hers.

It is very bad she went to strip club with him, That club is not a church,bad things that arouse men sexually are seen there and they would like to practice on your girlfriend and continuously persuading your friend will eventually make her fall victim

[quote author= post=68219478]It is a Personal Decision i think![/quote]Yes I get its a personal decision but in everything there is balance

Olalan:
I really don't know how some people trust blindly, not saying your girl aren't faithful but some relations aren't healthy for someone who claims to be in a relationship.
BTW if they both got tipsy in such environment and got intimate would she come back and tell you. You had better start checking your status in that relationship.

I don't want to say what she should or should not do. I just believe some situations can be avoided.

MrBrownJay1:
she was HONEST to you, why are you tripping?!



if you really did then there would be NO issue here, is it?



she has no problem with it, why dont you accept it, Mr "i trust her"?



are you guys in a r/ship or dictatorship?! how dare you think you should decide what others can/should do in their own life?!



if you had any faith in this woman then you wouldnt even care how men are.



she is absolutely RIGHT.



you CANT/WONT go all the way with such foul mindset of trying to control her. this is who she is, you can either accept her (as she is) OR let her be, but trying to force her into being who she is NOT (just to satisfy your insecurities) is definitely not the way here.



if you trust your woman, then why not? what so wrong with the act?! pls tell us what will happen in that strip club that got you shaking in your boots.

Clap for yourself!

Olalan:
I really don't know how some people trust blindly, not saying your girl aren't faithful but some relations aren't healthy for someone who claims to be in a relationship.
BTW if they both got tipsy in such environment and got intimate would she come back and tell you. You had better start checking your status in that relationship.

OP you hear??

Start checking your status quo.

I don't really see anything bad in it .....if she likes going then u go with her then

MrBrownJay1:
she was HONEST to you, why are you tripping?!



if you really did then there would be NO issue here, is it?



she has no problem with it, why dont you accept it, Mr "i trust her"?



are you guys in a r/ship or dictatorship?! how dare you think you should decide what others can/should do in their own life?!



if you had any faith in this woman then you wouldnt even care how men are.



she is absolutely RIGHT.



you CANT/WONT go all the way with such foul mindset of trying to control her. this is who she is, you can either accept her (as she is) OR let her be, but trying to force her into being who she is NOT (just to satisfy your insecurities) is definitely not the way here.



if you trust your woman, then why not? what so wrong with the act?! pls tell us what will happen in that strip club that got you shaking in your boots.

All what you said I know, why do you think I am asking.
- To get other's thoughts.
"Foul", "insecurity", "shaking boots" , why u been so provocative? Another man than me might have gotten angry.

I guess to summarize you are on the side I should do nothing but relax.

johnrix:
All what you said I know, why do you think I am asking.
- To get other's thoughts.
"Foul", "insecurity", "shaking boots" , why u been so provocative? Another man than me might have gotten angry.

I guess to summarize you are on the side I should do nothing but relax.

bro, i am sorry if the above words offends you but thats not the aim (and they are not insults), talking about a "foul mindset", "insecurity" and "shaking in your boots" is all what you described above.... and no, i did not say you should do nothing, but you certainly should communicate with your babe, and let her understand how you feel about the issue. thats the only way to succeed here. forcing someone to be who they are not, is not the way.

This is all shades of weird... I guess that's how 'stories that touch' start. You can't tell anyone what to do but you can state what you won't tolerate, the question is are you brave enough to state it and then accept the consequences?

MrBrownJay1:
bro, i am sorry if the above words offends you but thats not the aim (and they are not insults), talking about a "foul mindset", "insecurity" and "shaking in your boots" is all what you described above.... and no, i did not say you should do nothing, but you certainly should communicate with your babe, and let her understand how you feel about the issue. thats the only way to succeed here. forcing someone to be who they are not, is not the way.

Thanks. I get your point. What about this. Everyone is certainly different. But on such an issue like this, can there be an enforced compromise. E.g. Setting common understandable boundaries on what's accepted or not?

LivingFree:
This is all shades of weird... I guess that's how 'stories that touch' start. You can't tell anyone what to do but you can state what you won't tolerate, the question is are you brave enough to state it and then accept the consequences?

Sure I can, either face the music now or later.

I pity you.... well I don't think you wanna have a future with her though....

I see

The guy go rock her yanch sha?