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lefulefu:
i am not talking about working class ladies. I am talking about lazy house wives who sit their butt from morning till night watching tv while they leave all the kitchen work to the 12 or 13 yr old domestic female house help.dimples u wont understand what i am saying cos u not nigerian and u not residing here. If only u have had opportunity to stay in nigeria and experience what i am sayin then u would have undrstood.abeg forget wat some of the ladies are saying here.there are lazy housewives who put all the heavy domestic load on their underage househelps. The only job they do is watch tv. The husband is outside hustling while she's in the sittingroom and when the 12yr old domestic help burns a pot of rice by mistake u will see the wife turning all WW2 on the little girl. At the time i was 10 yrs old my mom got an appointment in a bank and she will resume at 9 am and close 10 pm everyday.it was my dad who had to beg her to reduce d dometic chorus and even hire a nanny for us.i still remember.a loving husband would protect his wife from any sort of stress. But for d lazy ones who make telemondo their main job.....hmmm.

Ellabae:
this is so hilarious. But that's too much for me to ask of a man. Respect should be given to a man nd he would know when to help.

Elder001:
respect?

With this your mentality I hope any man doesn't turn you into cooking and house chores slave.

I've tried to correct you but you don't want to listen.

it seems you're desperate for something

LivingFree:
I get that there are lazy housewives as there are useless husbands but in the context of this thread, the op is talking about working women coming back home to do chores. I hate child slavery, I wish your government would ban the use of househelp (underage children). I don't know why people are going of context. No sane person would support a housewife imposing domestic chores on her working husband. I'm glad your pro sharing the domestic work when the woman is contributing to the household income. I saw one thread where the Op's fiancée demands her money is hers and his money belongs to the household and people actually agreed with her citing the "husband is the head" nonsense, that they usually sing.

LivingFree:
what about a woman that comes home from work? Should she be expected to do chores at that moment?

JupiterGeekVII:
A man who loves a woman will do those things to help out without her having to ask.

emelda86:
My mama taught me how to take care of my hubby abeg thus advice no follow Sam Sam...

I will cook his meals so far he is my hubby
When he comes back, I'll gladly welcome him back
Plant a sweet kiss on his lips
Help him to the room UnCloth him & UnCloth myself too
Give him sweet akpako in the bathroom
Come out dish his food eat with him & the rest is history.

LivingFree:
I get that there are lazy housewives as there are useless husbands but in the context of this thread, the op is talking about working women coming back home to do chores. I hate child slavery, I wish your government would ban the use of househelp (underage children). I don't know why people are going of context. No sane person would support a housewife imposing domestic chores on her working husband. I'm glad your pro sharing the domestic work when the woman is contributing to the household income. I saw one thread where the Op's fiancée demands her money is hers and his money belongs to the household and people actually agreed with her citing the "husband is the head" nonsense, that they usually sing.

Ellabae:
No too. The man should know what to do. Relationship or marriage is about supporting each other. Anyone can do chores. But It's shouldn't be a criteria for a happy home.

lefulefu:
Relationship or marriage is about supporting each other...a thousand gbam! to that.

LivingFree:
. I saw one thread where the Op's fiancée demands her money is hers and his money belongs to the household

Ellabae:
Lol y re u awake?

lefulefu:
thats an irresponsible man. No responsible man would stoop that low to collect his wife's earnings under the guise that my wife's money belong to me.only irresponsible men do that.

lefulefu:
i am awake today.. Why u awake ursef?

lefulefu:
of course if the wife has a demanding career the husband ought to help.a man that loves his wife will help cos he wouldnt want to see his better half looking stressed out.even if the man cant cook he would be the one to voice out for a house help.our govt only pay a lip service to child trafficking. Its a normal occurence in many families today where under girls are made to do rigorious domestic work.these kids are underfed and kept in horrible conditions and many of these wives handling these underage househelps have high position in the church.on sundays the will be speaking in tongues and moving in the spirit and splashing money on their pastors while maltreating their young househelps. I tell u..a number of these housewives are so heartless.

LivingFree:
No. The woman said her money is hers and his money belongs to the household. So, King ukwu, why are you up so late?

Ellabae:
I Can't sleep.

lefulefu:
i am not going anywhere 2mmorow mornin and besides dis topic kept me awake.i will sleep all d sleep i want in d mornin

LivingFree:
What about church

lefulefu:
eeya.. Jus take a bottle of cold zobo drink.it will drowse u off.

MarieSucre:
Oh it's slavery now. I thought y'all were telling feminists that they are crying for nothing because housework for a woman is not slavery.

Elder001:
are you really living in the 21st century?

for Godsake what kinda disgusting mentality has your mom taught you?

I hope no man turns you into a slave

LivingFree:
I get that there are lazy housewives as there are useless husbands but in the context of this thread, the op is talking about working women coming back home to do chores. I hate child slavery, I wish your government would ban the use of househelp (underage children). I don't know why people are going of context. No sane person would support a housewife imposing domestic chores on her working husband. I'm glad your pro sharing the domestic work when the woman is contributing to the household income. I saw one thread where the Op's fiancée demands her money is hers and his money belongs to the household and people actually agreed with her citing the "husband is the head" nonsense, that they usually sing.

Ellabae:
I never said a man should not help around. In fact being supportive in all areas is a quality I need in my man. But I don't expect a man to do it every time. A man that comes from work very tired should not be expected to do chores at that moment. That's what I meant sir.

MarieSucre:
Someone who cannot use his number six as an adult and the head of the relationship to change do you think he'll ever want to willingly change.

Small time now, he will come on nairaland and day heis gf is always nagging him about housework and then you nairaland boys will flood him with devilish advice about how she is bossy yen yen yen.

Abeg it's good that she set her boundaries and took off.

CAPSLOCKED:

WHAT HAPPENS TO A WOMAN THAT COMES HOME VERY TIRED?
EXPECTED TO START CLEANING AND COOKING IMMEDIATELY. HAHA.

Ellabae:
A matured man would not expect his wife to do that.

CAPSLOCKED:

WHAT HAPPENS TO A WOMAN THAT COMES HOME VERY TIRED?
EXPECTED TO START CLEANING AND COOKING IMMEDIATELY. HAHA.

oyb:
this is the future

the days of child trafficking for domestic chores are drawing to a close. paid help are expensive and dangerous [potential kidnappers/child molesters]

only the most selfish / self centered man will watch while his woman runs herself to death juggling career and housework

the earlier we learn to share domestic chores the better

in the same vein, women must understand that they will also share bills. otherwise, all bets are off.

lefulefu:
abi oo. If thats how she really is then she's a rare gem. I can cook oo..i dey wash my own clothes but i cant stay with a woman that forbids the kitchen cos of one idelogy or the other. A woman wen u come from work will jus sitdown cold on her chair watching home video and telling u good evening under her breath. When a man has a cold wife at home tell me why he no go go out looking for affection.

Only1mi:
What if the wife works longer hours than the husband and gets home later?

Lalas247:
I saw the thread too...
You know me .. I. Allergic to lazy chics ...
I told op what to do ...
I couldn’t even believe what I was reading ... she said she won’t spend a Di e on household things till her hubby is broke! Like wtf what type of wife is that ...


My opinion on this topic .. A real man and loving husband knows when his Mrs is tired and without prompting him .. he will clean up!
I’m not yet married but my better half cooks even more than I do .... without me asking ... why he also knows how hard it is to work long hours so when he is off he helps me out with things and vice versa ....... some people should try this
Think lefulefu didn’t understand the question ..

It’s give and take
Not take take take ...
Morning beautiful