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A tweet shared by Twitter user Shade Mami has gone viral but men are coming for her because of it.

Shade told women they are still single until a man has claimed them and made his intentions clear. Until then, she advised women to "go on dates, meet people, and have fun.

She wrote:
"Dear single Sis

Until that man has claimed you as his own you are single

Until he has used his words to make his intentions clear,You are single.
Act accordingly

Go on other dates,meet people,have fun. It's okay,you owe him nothing. One sided expectations birth disappointment."

After sharing the tweet, men accused her of advising women to be promiscuous and she revealed that the men are calling her out for the post.

She wrote;
"The names I have been called for this tweet alone bruh..niggas want my head on a pitch fork."

Culled from; https://www.torimill.com/2018/06/until-that-man-has-claimed-you-as-his-own-you-are-single-twitter-user.html

All these Kenyan girls that are yet to meet Nigerian guys be forming to know the answer to their single lives.
Bae even after bride price, you can still be single if you meet a Yoruba demon. How much kwanu? Something he can arrange with friends just to chop

I agree with her though.

Until you both agree that you aredating exclusively, until you both declare that you are together, why should one person be in a relationshil and the other one acting single?

You see a lot of people these days dating people who are not dating them back. Weird but it is true. You like someone and you start keeping yourself or stop meeting other people yet youvand thatvperson are not official yet.

singing for her

She has a point sha. #don'tpushthings

Well, I don't usually do this but I absolutely agree with this lady.

Some girls be like I'm dating someone, we're serious and dude hasn't made his intentions clear neither has he proposed. So you put your life on hold in the name of dating someone that is not dating you in mind. B.S! Until he engages you, you're free like a bird. Even some engagement ring this days are intended for regular fvcking and house wife duties. Use your head.

She needs to meet a Yoruba Angel

Looks like dem don break this babe heart well well. She is talking from experience.

True tho

She’s right.

Some guys won’t want to make their intentions clear so that they can run away at their convenience and say they never made any promises to you. At the same time they want to hinder you from being with other men.

Oh please. (Insert big eye roll)

Destiny blockers

i don't have any time for all these relationship do's and don'ts.

Pikin wey dey find party rice nor suppose dey fear dance

Well, she has a point though. However, dating is not entirely mechanical. Certain necessary and reasonable rituals must play its course before the guy pops up he big question. But then, the guy must have seen a level of commitment on the part of the lady.
Consequently, her post is kind of misleading, cos many shallow-minded ladies could take advantage of it to begin living promiscuous lives all in the flimsy excuse that the guy wasn't committed yet.
So a word of advice- commitment is reciprocal. No guy would want to spend the rest of his life with an aristo.
Multiple dating is counter-productive. Many ladies have lost out in the opportunity to marry a god-sent due to it.

lol ur eye go soon clear. Dere are alot of claiming nd u still b single... D one i love most iz wen ur friend endorse her to support ur fuckry list.. you be hearing names like, our Wife,

Many will not understand the message..

They will tag her

Yes now!!!

Wait!!
I was on her side until she said this.

"Go on other dates,meet people,have fun. It's okay,you owe him nothing. One sided expectations birth disappointment."


Nonsense!!

Truth! It's got nothing to do with promiscuity. Seeing other people doesn't mean she's sleeping with them.

If his commitment and effort towards making the relationship work doesn't match yours, then forget it. Have some self respect and move on.

United by Uncle Erigga.......nice meeting you

harry2sexy:
Pikin wey dey find party rice nor suppose dey fear dance

WHY WON'T THE LADY MAKE HER OWN INTENTIONS KNOWN?
WHY WON'T SHE CLAIM THE MAN AS HERS?

okay.

It's like young girls of this generation's lives revolve around men.
Highly unproductive and sluttish in attitude
If it's not about their body features, it'll be about dates and relationships

These failed hoes and gold diggers after wasting their youthful years be giving relationship advice all the time like they know a thing or two about life.

After hoeing all the right men away from your life, life is now starting to fvck back at you. Menopause is coming straight for your head at the speed of light, you are withering away. No more age on your side, then you remember to come to the media to give unsolicited advice to them young and naive girls.

I pity girls that takes these twitter hoes serious. I just pity them. When two blind people lead each other, they are sure to fall into a ditch.

She is right

Laughing at men wanting her head on a pitchfork


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Why are the men so angry? they do it too
Funny enough those men calling for her head do it. they just don't want the women to do it to them.

But she spoke the truth....... Assumption is the mother of all **** ups........

Ladies always wanting to know the intention of men always. ..... Don't force people to say things they never meant. ...... Pls stop the desperate desires and be loyal to just one man.. ...

She's right...

Ladies,,,if a man hasn’t made your relationship OFFICIAL, he doesn’t deserve one second of your loyalty, and you can be damn sure you aren’t getting one second of his either...

Understand that a man who TRULY cares about you will COURT you, and see that you are SO OFFICIAL, he NEEDS to make you OFFICIALLY his.

This seems to be a response to the large number of uncertain and deceptive relationships nowadays especially when the ladies time is being wasted (and over 30 year old ladies are being made fun of).

NwaAmaikpe!!!!!!

GUYS AREN’T AS INTO COMMITMENT AS THEY ONCE WERE.

We live in a culture where hooking up seems to take precedence over serious relationships. While hooking up is fun and one-night stands are a blast, it’s hard to find commitment in a sea of men who just aren’t into it. In this particular case, your singleness is totally out of your control.

P.S..YOU DON’T NEED A MAN TO VALIDATE YOUR EXISTENCE.

You might think it’d be nice to have a partner in crime sometimes, but you certainly don’t spend all your time pining after a guy – and you don’t feel bad about it, either. Instead, you live your life and don’t let it revolve around finding someone.