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Have real sex with someone. It will correct all that or just stop that habit

Masturbation damages the soul.

It deprives you of so many blessings.

Things might turn out to be normal in terms of achievement, but know that it still reduces your accomplishments in all spheres of life.

It damages you spiritually. It limits your social boundaries, shyness becomes a thing, makes you eat a lot.

It is a good excuse not to fornicate or commit adultery and saves you money from the process of wooing and getting your legs over a lady but the bible says it is a sin against the body.

You can still be a brainy but it reduces your brain functionalities, you watch porn, every well-figured woman will arouse you, chances of being a paedophile is high, cheating at the long run is inevitable.

Masturbation is easy to get on with for a long time, but it is a BOMB waiting to explode. It destroys.

FIGHT IT WITH EVERY SINGLE ATOM, ENERGY & MATTER THAT IS WITHIN YOU!

Learn sex transmutation in the book THINK & GROW RICH chapter 11 vs 205- 228.

Yes you can stop it, with God all things na tansho!!!

Chronicles of Vaginus and Vaginismus.

1. You are in a relationship with your hand.

2. Both of you should just knack and stop deceiving yourselves with this virgin crap. You self-service and she gives you head...you have disvirgined her mouth.

Story for gods

Flamezzz:
A virgin masturbating because you believe that sex is for married people but masturbation is for single niggas right?
Na Archbishop go cure your craze

I Concur

Flamezzz:
A virgin masturbating because you believe that sex is for married people but masturbation is for single niggas right?
Na Archbishop go cure your craze

LMAO you be bastard

Confiman:
Please this might be a little lengthy but bear with me, everything here is needed to get the story out and ask my questions. Thank you.

This will go down as one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and I'm deeply confused. But before I go on, I'd love a quick intro.

I just created this moniker to chronicle all of my confusions and to feel free asking for help without any of my friends here tracing them to me. I'm 22 and a serving Corp member. I'm a hustler and I can say I'm doing fairly well for a Corp member.

I am still a "virgin" iff that term can be loosely applied to someone who masturbates. I'm deeply disturbed by my masturbation, but that is not the purpose of this thread.

I recently met a girl - also a Corp member - whom I'm really, really fond of. However, I strongly believe that sex is for marriage (I'm a devoted Christian) and so I have always stayed away from it. With this girl tho, we get frisky a lot. I shared my first kiss with her, and we've since gotten more intimate than I'm usually comfortable with. Sadly, that doesn't help my desire to stop masturbation as I always do that after making out with her. When doing so, I imagine all we had done and it gets me off.

However, this is where it gets embarrassing. When making out with her she sometimes gives me a head. Despite all of her efforts tho (and she is sincerely really good), I can't get myself to remain aroused. No, my hands don't give me half the sensations I get from her mouth, but it still doesn't matter as I just can't remain aroused enough to get off as is the case when I'm by myself.

Today was the very worst as I kept shrinking rather than edging towards release. It angers her cos she believes I don't want her, or how else does she explain it? She feels if I wanted her as much as she wanted me that it would be different. I know my conscience pricks me while we're at it but I don't know if that is the cause. She says I think too much about it... but I can't help the thoughts. Now I'm torn.

I need to know just two things:
1. Is it my 'plenty thinking' that's hindering me when with her? I've already put away most of my inhibitions to get that far with her, but I can't seem to go further. And I don't really think I want to.
2. How can I tell her to take away the sexual edge of the relationship without coming across as offensive, and without confirming her belief that I don't want her?

P.S: Before you begin bashing the lady, note that she is also a virgin. Her vagina is still very much sealed. I doubted that at first, but I've seen it and... So I know. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to go so far either...

I understand your plight, will give you my experience later

Bro I have just one question....

Does she know you jerk off

UrbanExotica:
And give head lmao.

As in en.... Na im type dey speak dirty tongues pass for church o kai!

Hypocrites

See bashing... make una free the guy now... someone Is frustrated and una still dey bash the guy... eniyan buru Choi.... if you can help this guy make una help am...




Guy my advice for you is to first make clear your mind from any thought of sex before marriage is bad... maybe the thought or the fear of anything is causing whatever you're having... just check your thoughts and emotions well...





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Confiman:
Please this might be a little lengthy but bear with me, everything here is needed to get the story out and ask my questions. Thank you.

This will go down as one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and I'm deeply confused. But before I go on, I'd love a quick intro.

I just created this moniker to chronicle all of my confusions and to feel free asking for help without any of my friends here tracing them to me. I'm 22 and a serving Corp member. I'm a hustler and I can say I'm doing fairly well for a Corp member.

I am still a "virgin" iff that term can be loosely applied to someone who masturbates. I'm deeply disturbed by my masturbation, but that is not the purpose of this thread.

I recently met a girl - also a Corp member - whom I'm really, really fond of. However, I strongly believe that sex is for marriage (I'm a devoted Christian) and so I have always stayed away from it. With this girl tho, we get frisky a lot. I shared my first kiss with her, and we've since gotten more intimate than I'm usually comfortable with. Sadly, that doesn't help my desire to stop masturbation as I always do that after making out with her. When doing so, I imagine all we had done and it gets me off.

However, this is where it gets embarrassing. When making out with her she sometimes gives me a head. Despite all of her efforts tho (and she is sincerely really good), I can't get myself to remain aroused. No, my hands don't give me half the sensations I get from her mouth, but it still doesn't matter as I just can't remain aroused enough to get off as is the case when I'm by myself.

Today was the very worst as I kept shrinking rather than edging towards release. It angers her cos she believes I don't want her, or how else does she explain it? She feels if I wanted her as much as she wanted me that it would be different. I know my conscience pricks me while we're at it but I don't know if that is the cause. She says I think too much about it... but I can't help the thoughts. Now I'm torn.

I need to know just two things:
1. Is it my 'plenty thinking' that's hindering me when with her? I've already put away most of my inhibitions to get that far with her, but I can't seem to go further. And I don't really think I want to.
2. How can I tell her to take away the sexual edge of the relationship without coming across as offensive, and without confirming her belief that I don't want her?

P.S: Before you begin bashing the lady, note that she is also a virgin. Her vagina is still very much sealed. I doubted that at first, but I've seen it and... So I know. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to go so far either...

First you are no virgin, cos masturbation is a sexual act, secondly, u need to go and be born again cos, masturbation, Mouth Gig, and all others are all sexual immorality and are Sin before God, see God is not a computer or machine you can decieve, you want to enjoy the pleasures of sex, without engaging in the penetrative, but you engage in the mental, plus hand jerking own, i bet you watch porn too, guy go and give your life to Christ and completely desist from sexual immorality

Wetin send you cum post your problem for NL chai u f up o u shud ve confided with your inner circle na

Stop watching pornography and stop bn hypocritical,u cant b claiming a born again and u ar sinning against God's temple.that's d reason I so much dislike al dis self righteous people they don't practise wot dey preach,we caught a so called pastor watching porn in d office

Confiman:
Thank you very much. I goofed. I normally don't let any sexual occurrence begin with any girl, but it happened with this girl somehow. I'm still battling masturbation tho. Sometimes I'm very successful for a month or so, and then something happens and all of my efforts crumble all over again. I really don't know how to put an end to that habit; Nothing seems to work.

so u av had several encounter with girls... guy i don't even knw ur sickness...

Confiman:
Please this might be a little lengthy but bear with me, everything here is needed to get the story out and ask my questions. Thank you.

This will go down as one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and I'm deeply confused. But before I go on, I'd love a quick intro.

I just created this moniker to chronicle all of my confusions and to feel free asking for help without any of my friends here tracing them to me. I'm 22 and a serving Corp member. I'm a hustler and I can say I'm doing fairly well for a Corp member.

I am still a "virgin" iff that term can be loosely applied to someone who masturbates. I'm deeply disturbed by my masturbation, but that is not the purpose of this thread.

I recently met a girl - also a Corp member - whom I'm really, really fond of. However, I strongly believe that sex is for marriage (I'm a devoted Christian) and so I have always stayed away from it. With this girl tho, we get frisky a lot. I shared my first kiss with her, and we've since gotten more intimate than I'm usually comfortable with. Sadly, that doesn't help my desire to stop masturbation as I always do that after making out with her. When doing so, I imagine all we had done and it gets me off.

However, this is where it gets embarrassing. When making out with her she sometimes gives me a head. Despite all of her efforts tho (and she is sincerely really good), I can't get myself to remain aroused. No, my hands don't give me half the sensations I get from her mouth, but it still doesn't matter as I just can't remain aroused enough to get off as is the case when I'm by myself.

Today was the very worst as I kept shrinking rather than edging towards release. It angers her cos she believes I don't want her, or how else does she explain it? She feels if I wanted her as much as she wanted me that it would be different. I know my conscience pricks me while we're at it but I don't know if that is the cause. She says I think too much about it... but I can't help the thoughts. Now I'm torn.

I need to know just two things:
1. Is it my 'plenty thinking' that's hindering me when with her? I've already put away most of my inhibitions to get that far with her, but I can't seem to go further. And I don't really think I want to.
2. How can I tell her to take away the sexual edge of the relationship without coming across as offensive, and without confirming her belief that I don't want her?

P.S: Before you begin bashing the lady, note that she is also a virgin. Her vagina is still very much sealed. I doubted that at first, but I've seen it and... So I know. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to go so far either...

stop watching porn.
Nasturbate once weekly.

Confiman:
I said it was a bad habit I picked up... One that I'm trying to conquer. That doesn't mean I like it. I've tried getting help severally, even reporting myself to my parents when it first started, but I haven't been able to get past it. In no way did I insinuate that I'm proud of masturbation up there.

P.S: This post has been modified to make it less insulting. My initial response which you will find in quotes below was rather emotional. Please do not take it personally, and do not let it prevent you from giving me mature help and advice. The posts below concerning my hypocrisy might also go some way to shed light on this comments.

The problem is not masturbation itself, it's the addiction(compulsive disorder), study shows over 95% men masturbate all over the world and it's consider normal. I think you need to see a psychologist or so to help you out.

And secondly, your problem might just be result of too much thinking or what you consume.

Confiman:
Please this might be a little lengthy but bear with me, everything here is needed to get the story out and ask my questions. Thank you.

This will go down as one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and I'm deeply confused. But before I go on, I'd love a quick intro.

I just created this moniker to chronicle all of my confusions and to feel free asking for help without any of my friends here tracing them to me. I'm 22 and a serving Corp member. I'm a hustler and I can say I'm doing fairly well for a Corp member.

I am still a "virgin" iff that term can be loosely applied to someone who masturbates. I'm deeply disturbed by my masturbation, but that is not the purpose of this thread.

I recently met a girl - also a Corp member - whom I'm really, really fond of. However, I strongly believe that sex is for marriage (I'm a devoted Christian) and so I have always stayed away from it. With this girl tho, we get frisky a lot. I shared my first kiss with her, and we've since gotten more intimate than I'm usually comfortable with. Sadly, that doesn't help my desire to stop masturbation as I always do that after making out with her. When doing so, I imagine all we had done and it gets me off.

However, this is where it gets embarrassing. When making out with her she sometimes gives me a head. Despite all of her efforts tho (and she is sincerely really good), I can't get myself to remain aroused. No, my hands don't give me half the sensations I get from her mouth, but it still doesn't matter as I just can't remain aroused enough to get off as is the case when I'm by myself.

Today was the very worst as I kept shrinking rather than edging towards release. It angers her cos she believes I don't want her, or how else does she explain it? She feels if I wanted her as much as she wanted me that it would be different. I know my conscience pricks me while we're at it but I don't know if that is the cause. She says I think too much about it... but I can't help the thoughts. Now I'm torn.

I need to know just two things:
1. Is it my 'plenty thinking' that's hindering me when with her? I've already put away most of my inhibitions to get that far with her, but I can't seem to go further. And I don't really think I want to.
2. How can I tell her to take away the sexual edge of the relationship without coming across as offensive, and without confirming her belief that I don't want her?

P.S: Before you begin bashing the lady, note that she is also a virgin. Her vagina is still very much sealed. I doubted that at first, but I've seen it and... So I know. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to go so far either...

You're a criminal and deserves to be punished

Bro I won't bash u but rather advise u as a Christian masturbation is a sin in the sight of God your girl is a virgin but as for u , u ain't a virgin no more bcoz of ur masturbation habit I would advise you to stay away from it if ur bae is ready to give u her virginity bros I think u sud take it save d details of u being a Christian you have done worse so make real love have sex stop the act of masturbation bcoz sexually it's gon affect you bcoz you wud cum quick when having sex and it's not good if u don't know Ow to take her virginity read abt it or download lessons abt it we have them online once u feel like masturbating find somtin to occupy your mind with or try to create anoda habit maybe drink. Read, stroll or smoke but stop masturbation it ain't good in any way God help you.

Confiman:
Thank you very much. I goofed. I normally don't let any sexual occurrence begin with any girl, but it happened with this girl somehow. I'm still battling masturbation tho. Sometimes I'm very successful for a month or so, and then something happens and all of my efforts crumble all over again. I really don't know how to put an end to that habit; Nothing seems to work.

Do you always have too much of a free time?

That's one of the things that trigger porn watching and masturbation in addicts.

So, start going out more, socialise, visit friends, go to the gym, go to stadium, church weekly programs etc.

All these activities help to fill your mind with more creative thoughts.

Secondly, if u've at any time in the past been a victim of abuse, sexual, physical, emotional or psychological, then what you are experiencing may seem like an escape route.

So, try to see a psychologist or a psychotherapist.

Good luck.

Confiman:
I said it was a bad habit I picked up... One that I'm trying to conquer. That doesn't mean I like it. I've tried getting help severally, even reporting myself to my parents when it first started, but I haven't been able to get past it. In no way did I insinuate that I'm proud of masturbation up there.

P.S: This post has been modified to make it less insulting. My initial response which you will find in quotes below was rather emotional. Please do not take it personally, and do not let it prevent you from giving me mature help and advice. The posts below concerning my hypocrisy might also go some way to shed light on this comments.

Dude 4get people judging u for masturbating, we all know its bad or a bad habit and u can stop it with certain skill and mindset or at least reduce it depends on u. Most of them calling u hypocrite are even bigger hypocrites trust me.

To the problem at hand. Shes ur call rite, talk to her about ur not ready for so much sexual fantasies. Theres more to a good relationship than sex, do all those other things together and she won't feel insecure.

w w w . nofap .c o m

912:
There are two main causes of your issue:

1) too much masturbation: this has seriously affected your sex drive and it's leading to erectile dysfunction

2) Your believe that you are a "good christian" and that what you are doing with her is evil. The guilt that your subconscious mind registers each time she performs MouthAction on you is also affecting the ability of your body to respond properly.


Solutions:
1) get a good testosterone enhancing supplements. I assure you if you take them for one or two months it's your girlfriend that will run with the kind of erection that you will be having.

2) stop masturbation. Although I know this one is very difficult for someone who is addicted to it but you have to stop it. Or you limit it to a maximum of twice or once a week. This will help you recover from the erectile dysfunction and help your body build up hormones.

3) stop the horseplay with your girlfriend. at least this will save you the embarrassment you are feeling now. You can make up a story that now you have truly given your life and want to stop being a fake christian . You may end up loosing her if you do this though

Any Testosterone pills u gonna recommend for him??
name it

Dude, I was ones like dt, Bt my girl was very patient with me. The cure is for you to feel relaxed and safe...use condom. Try n love her, cos sm people won't get aroused with someone they do not love (no matter how beautiful). Do you morning exercise (road walk). Then allow yourself few days without masturbation. You'll begin to see the wonders

Confiman:
Please this might be a little lengthy but bear with me, everything here is needed to get the story out and ask my questions. Thank you.

This will go down as one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and I'm deeply confused. But before I go on, I'd love a quick intro.

I just created this moniker to chronicle all of my confusions and to feel free asking for help without any of my friends here tracing them to me. I'm 22 and a serving Corp member. I'm a hustler and I can say I'm doing fairly well for a Corp member.

I am still a "virgin" iff that term can be loosely applied to someone who masturbates. I'm deeply disturbed by my masturbation, but that is not the purpose of this thread.

I recently met a girl - also a Corp member - whom I'm really, really fond of. However, I strongly believe that sex is for marriage (I'm a devoted Christian) and so I have always stayed away from it. With this girl tho, we get frisky a lot. I shared my first kiss with her, and we've since gotten more intimate than I'm usually comfortable with. Sadly, that doesn't help my desire to stop masturbation as I always do that after making out with her. When doing so, I imagine all we had done and it gets me off.

However, this is where it gets embarrassing. When making out with her she sometimes gives me a head. Despite all of her efforts tho (and she is sincerely really good), I can't get myself to remain aroused. No, my hands don't give me half the sensations I get from her mouth, but it still doesn't matter as I just can't remain aroused enough to get off as is the case when I'm by myself.

Today was the very worst as I kept shrinking rather than edging towards release. It angers her cos she believes I don't want her, or how else does she explain it? She feels if I wanted her as much as she wanted me that it would be different. I know my conscience pricks me while we're at it but I don't know if that is the cause. She says I think too much about it... but I can't help the thoughts. Now I'm torn.

I need to know just two things:
1. Is it my 'plenty thinking' that's hindering me when with her? I've already put away most of my inhibitions to get that far with her, but I can't seem to go further. And I don't really think I want to.
2. How can I tell her to take away the sexual edge of the relationship without coming across as offensive, and without confirming her belief that I don't want her?

P.S: Before you begin bashing the lady, note that she is also a virgin. Her vagina is still very much sealed. I doubted that at first, but I've seen it and... So I know. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to go so far either...

Oga, stop masturbation and come out clean to ur babe. because u need to get on with the real thing and not ur hands.. Masturbation has damaged you and if you don't take care of it now. You will be impotent for life when it comes to the real thing. Try search here for my topic on Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (P. I. E. D). Then about ur virginity. You need to forget that now because u r not a Virgin again, you first focus on healing with proper sex and ur gf is the best bet to heal you if you come out Clean to her.

Confiman:
I said it was a bad habit I picked up... One that I'm trying to conquer. That doesn't mean I like it. I've tried getting help severally, even reporting myself to my parents when it first started, but I haven't been able to get past it. In no way did I insinuate that I'm pro hiud of masturbation up there.

P.S: This post has been modified to make it less insulting. My initial response which you will find in quotes below was rather emotional. Please do not take it personally, and do not let it prevent you from giving me mature help and advice. The posts below concerning my hypocrisy might also go some way to shed light on this comments.

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Am glad u know is a bad habit, I will want you to read up side effects of masturbation on Google. Also seat her down and tell her u wanted her as much as she wanted you, but u only want it to be at d right time in marriage, Dan cut out all ur unnecessary intimacy, avoid things dat create images in your hrt dat lead to u masturbating.

The best thing is that both of you should not be in a confined area together.

She has to understand if she also believes in no sex before marriage

olushowunm:
Oga, stop masturbation and come out clean to ur babe. because u need to get on with the real thing and not ur hands.. Masturbation has damaged you and if you don't take care of it now. You will be impotent for life when it comes to the real thing. Try search here for my topic on Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (P. I. E. D). Then about ur virginity. You need to forget that now because u r not a Virgin again, you first focus on healing with proper sex and ur gf is the best bet to heal you if you come out Clean to her.

The best thing is that both of you should not be in a confined area together.

She has to understand if she also believes in no sex before marriage

.

It's all about mind conditioning..you have masturbated so much that you have conditioned your mind to only feel aroused by your own touch. Stop wanking and have more sex..it may be a disaster the first few times but over time you will recondition your mind to be aroused by a woman. Trust me this is actually a very common problem in young men..only difference is you seem to be experiencing it rather late. Most of us overcome this phase in our late teens.

Hard as it may seem, you need to stop masturbating first before taking any further steps. It is messing with your mind, health and emotions.

Why would you want to jeopardize your sexual future with your hands(literally)

Please find support groups(i think there are many around online and on ground), psychiatric help, whatever you can get to stop the destructive habit.

Let your girl go for now. You don't need that complication to add to your problem.That is the bitter truth.

to be honest, brother you have to conquer both mastubation and sex, as you stated you in your writings that you are a christian, please pray.....

Confiman:
Please this might be a little lengthy but bear with me, everything here is needed to get the story out and ask my questions. Thank you.

This will go down as one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and I'm deeply confused. But before I go on, I'd love a quick intro.

I just created this moniker to chronicle all of my confusions and to feel free asking for help without any of my friends here tracing them to me. I'm 22 and a serving Corp member. I'm a hustler and I can say I'm doing fairly well for a Corp member.

I am still a "virgin" iff that term can be loosely applied to someone who masturbates. I'm deeply disturbed by my masturbation, but that is not the purpose of this thread.

I recently met a girl - also a Corp member - whom I'm really, really fond of. However, I strongly believe that sex is for marriage (I'm a devoted Christian) and so I have always stayed away from it. With this girl tho, we get frisky a lot. I shared my first kiss with her, and we've since gotten more intimate than I'm usually comfortable with. Sadly, that doesn't help my desire to stop masturbation as I always do that after making out with her. When doing so, I imagine all we had done and it gets me off.

However, this is where it gets embarrassing. When making out with her she sometimes gives me a head. Despite all of her efforts tho (and she is sincerely really good), I can't get myself to remain aroused. No, my hands don't give me half the sensations I get from her mouth, but it still doesn't matter as I just can't remain aroused enough to get off as is the case when I'm by myself.

Today was the very worst as I kept shrinking rather than edging towards release. It angers her cos she believes I don't want her, or how else does she explain it? She feels if I wanted her as much as she wanted me that it would be different. I know my conscience pricks me while we're at it but I don't know if that is the cause. She says I think too much about it... but I can't help the thoughts. Now I'm torn.

I need to know just two things:
1. Is it my 'plenty thinking' that's hindering me when with her? I've already put away most of my inhibitions to get that far with her, but I can't seem to go further. And I don't really think I want to.
2. How can I tell her to take away the sexual edge of the relationship without coming across as offensive, and without confirming her belief that I don't want her?

P.S: Before you begin bashing the lady, note that she is also a virgin. Her vagina is still very much sealed. I doubted that at first, but I've seen it and... So I know. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to go so far either...

Stop masturbating, you will be fine

What do you expect with a mind in crisis like yours, always fighting yourself?
Lol