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Tajbol4splend:
So how do you manage such situation, I mean your exes wanting you back

Their matter is a tip of an iceberg, I've added them to my friends list because I've making friends with people but definitely not gonna set eyes on them anymore. That's a vow BTW me and my God but now you're aware .

Tajbol4splend:
Lol

Henitan24:
Their matter is a tip of an iceberg, I've added them to my friends list because I've making friends with people but definitely not gonna set eyes on them anymore. That's a vow BTW me and my God but now you're aware .

Being faithful is admirable anyway, few are

Tajbol4splend:
Being faithful is admirable anyway, few are

The truth is it's not really necessary one is faithful but one should be when need be. That's from my own personal view.

Henitan24:
The truth is it's not really necessary one is faithful but one should be when need be. That's from my own personal view.

If you are faithful when need be, you are faithful, my view too sha

Tajbol4splend:
If you are faithful when need be, you are faithful, my view too sha

Yeah you understand the code, for ladies that their existence depends on man they must be faithful because the moment they are caught their existence seized but ladies that does everything for herself and has a lot to offer in a relationship, lucky for any guy who can keep her so I gat to choose the best (man) from so many options because I also give my best to deserve the best.

Henitan24:
Yeah you understand the code, for ladies that their existence depends on man they must be faithful because the moment they are caught their existence seized but ladies that does everything for herself and has a lot to offer in a relationship, lucky for any guy who can keep her so I gat to choose the best (man) from so many options because I also give my best to deserve the best.

I sorta agree with you but I think being faithful is a part of you and your value, a thing of the mind, not the one condition makes you do

Tajbol4splend:
I get you, but you sound as though you had gone through some experience, you kind of stick to that point you been making

because you have to have stood up for love to understand what it is to be in love if your looking to chase you will catch what you never bargained for. Availability is maturity the rest is fun and games. That’s the true Assurance.

solasoulmusic:
because you have to have stood up for love to understand what it is to be in love if your looking to chase you will catch what you never bargained for. Availability is maturity the rest is fun and games. That’s the true Assurance.

How good would it be if everyone were mature

Tajbol4splend:
How good would it be if everyone were mature

Trust me then everyone will value effort and stop ridiculing it. Some settle for Yokozuna because they belittled the love that was available to them

Most of the people commenting read my post to reply, not read to understand.


If you finish reading it, you will get the point.


You all just wanted to comment..


Pray for nigeria, biko

solasoulmusic:
Trust me then everyone will value effort and stop ridiculing it. Some settle for Yokozuna because they belittled the love that was available to them

Had they known, but nobody knows

sarahade:
Senegal

Ahhh

ur country lost today!

Henitan24:
This is a faceless forum right as you guys think but to me it's not faceless. So I'll gladly share my digits with you in order for us to discuss this lengthily. 0. Gonna edit my number soon in the next 10 minutes

Ok... But why havnt u answered my question?

I asked. Have you ever sent a recharge card to your boyfriend/husband?

Be completely sincere with yourself. Before your God and the members of this forum tell me if u have sent card irrespective of the amount to ur partner..
Remember if you're lying you're lying to yourself.

Princedapace:
Ahhh

ur country lost today!

Yes.

sarahade:
Yes.

sorry dear

mimimile93:
marriage isn't on my To-Do-List. I've gone through a hell lot in the hands of women. When am 30yrs I will adopt a child. Boy child. I was done with women the very day I was sent to jail.

Ohw so sad.

mimimile93:
Ok... But why havnt u answered my question?

I asked. Have you ever sent a recharge card to your boyfriend/husband?

Be completely sincere with yourself. Before your God and the members of this forum tell me if u have sent card irrespective of the amount to ur partner..
Remember if you're lying you're lying to yourself.

... just have to

Tajbol4splend:
I sorta agree with you but I think being faithful is a part of you and your value, a thing of the mind, not the one condition makes you do

Not anymore when true love is now one sided. The man you love is in love with a lady who doesn't give a f**k about him and there is also a guy out there dying to have you, it's crazy dude. You rarely see partner that both love each other unconditionally or equally. When I love a man, I give all I've even though if he doesn't reciprocate (I've not dated one sa) because I'm always happy doing what I love or around people I love and my happiness is paramount to me. So f*** true love now but perfect relationship must occur as far as understanding, good friendship and maturity is involves then natural love will tend to grow by itself.

Massmike:
the point is in knowing the type of person your partner is. Some people like mysterious some don't. Not every body has time for mysteries or you think everybody is Sherlock Holmes.
just be wise

Abi ooo. I don't even have the time for mystery .

GrammarNazi1:
...you...

A predictable chump you are. I made the faux in question on purpose, I was so certain of the fact it'll be mindlessly pinpointed by the only stereotype of stupidity we have on nairaland, GrammarNazi. Your case is hopeless just as you are. You should just have been flushed down the toilet hole or better still have your birth averted by levonorgestrel. The world would have only been less one fool as a result.

Henitan24:
Not anymore when true love is now one sided. The man you love is in love with a lady who doesn't give a f**k about him and there is also a guy out there dying to have you, it's crazy dude. You rarely see partner that both love each other unconditionally or equally. When I love a man, I give all I've even though if he doesn't reciprocate (I've not dated one sa) because I'm always happy doing what I love or around people I love and my happiness is paramount to me. So f*** true love now but perfect relationship must occur as far as understanding, good friendship and maturity is involves then natural love will tend to grow by itself.

Hmmm, love matter no be small thing o

solasoulmusic:
When you love someone in all honesty you overlook their flaws and start focusing on their strengths. That is my point, it’s like seeing a mirror and seeing a reflection of yourself whatever you see that you don’t like you can change it. Everything else just nitpicking after all the same people are able to function and be loved by others apart from you right with less judgment.

Love is not desperate it’s brave cause it’s a cold world out there!

Pardon me miss but I have a little issue with ur analogy....

U said When you love some one,you "over look" their flaws and focus on their strengths... right?

I agree with the focus on their strengths but don't you think the person's flaws can also affect you?

I thought loving some one means you are honest enough to tell that person the truth about the implications of their flaws rather than telling them its okay to have them...

In other words, we should over look or tolerate a Casanova or a cheat.....right?

We should also overlook a reckless or loose tongue.... abi?

We should also condone an alcoholic person simply because we think there is a magical wand that can transform them?

What about an abusive person or a brutal person or dirty person.....?

Is love not about being truthful to the person you love by pointing to them about the implications of their flaws?

As much as I know that no human is perfect,I do believe that there is room for improvements instead of massaging one's flaws......

openmine:
Pardon me miss but I have a little issue with ur analogy....

U said When you love some one,you "over look" their flaws and focus on their strengths... right?

I agree with the focus on their strengths but don't you think the person's flaws can also affect you?

I thought loving some one means you are honest enough to tell that person the truth about the implications of their flaws rather than telling them its okay to have them...

In other words, we should over look or tolerate a Casanova or a cheat.....right?

We should also overlook a reckless or loose tongue.... abi?

We should also condone an alcoholic person simply because we think there is a magical wand that can transform them?

What about an abusive person or a brutal person or dirty person.....?

Is love not about being truthful to the person you love by pointing to them about the implications of their flaws?

As much as I know that no human is perfect,I do believe that there is room for improvements instead of massaging one's flaws......

What I know is there is no perfect person in this world and you can’t judge a person by their present state. Humans nowadays will suck the love out of you if you have no backbone guiding you like faith. God can change a life around in a second that even their enemies will be astonished it happened before their eyes, you see when you focus on molding the flesh instead of building spirit you will fight against the strong wind ....everyone is clay after all molded and shaped into who they should be by those that love them not with hatred but with love not castigating but encouraging.

Someone who is dirty can still be clean it’s how you guide them that speaks of your love. I’ll take someone dirty over someone spiteful anyday

solasoulmusic:
What I know is there is no perfect person in this world and you can’t judge a person by their present state. Humans nowadays will suck the love out of you if you have no backbone guiding you like faith. God can change a life around in a second that even their enemies will be astonished it happened before their eyes, you see when you focus on molding the flesh instead of building spirit you will fight against the strong wind ....everyone is clay after all molded and shaped into who they should be by those that love them not with hatred but with love not castigating but encouraging.

Someone who is dirty can still be clean it’s how you guide them that speaks of your love. I’ll take someone dirty over someone spiteful anyday

But you said it should be "overlooked".....

Overlook:
bypass , disregard , FORGET , ignore , neglect, overpass , pass over

Now based on your recent submissions,its obvious that you can't ignore such person's weakness.....right?

Now am not in any way trying to say you should hate those with flaws....rather am saying you should be honest enough to tell them about their flaws though with patience and understanding......

However,what if this person whom you love is unwilling to change and believes that's who they are and you can't change them....will you continue to be with such person?

There are people in this life who admit their flaws but refuse to change because they believe they don't need to....

I agree that God can do some awesome things in the life of a person but how long will you wait for the person to change when he or she thinks he doesn't need to change?

No one is perfect but I believe if one knows about the implications of their flaws and how it affects those around them,then they won't need some one to tell them about what needs to be done about their deficiencies....

if I was an abusive person and I knew it was affecting me and people around me,I won't need to wait for some one to tell me before I change or put such flaws under control...

openmine:
But you said it should be "overlooked".....

Overlook:
bypass , disregard , FORGET , ignore , neglect, overpass , pass over

Now based on your recent submissions,its obvious that you can't ignore such person's weakness.....right?

Now am not in any way trying to say you should hate those with flaws....rather am saying you should be honest enough to tell them about their flaws though with patience and understanding......

However,what if this person whom you love is unwilling to change and believes that's who they are and you can't change them....will you continue to be with such person?

There are people in this life who admit their flaws but refuse to change because they believe they don't need to....

I agree that God can do some awesome things in the life of a person but how long will you wait for the person to change when he or she thinks he doesn't need to change?

No one is perfect but I believe if one knows about the implications of their flaws and how it affects those around them,then they won't need some one to tell them about what needs to be done about their deficiencies....

if I was an abusive person and I knew it was affecting me and people around me,I won't need to wait for some one to tell me before I change or put such flaws under control...

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

Most people are single by choice they would rather be with that person who came in and didn't point out your flaws for the world to see but instead showed you the world with flaws. I can't change an abuser or someone who's ungrateful no matter how much you love them you will never quite measure to their ideas of what love should but what I can do is change my whole outlook and life and not let it deter me from seeking that like mind who places values over money.

solasoulmusic:
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

Most people are single by choice they would rather be with that person who came in and didn't point out your flaws for the world to see but instead showed you the world with flaws. I can't change an abuser or someone who's ungrateful no matter how much you love them you will never quite measure to their ideas of what love should but what I can do is change my whole outlook and life and not let it deter me from seeking that like mind who places values over money.

In other words,are you either going to overlook the person's flaws and stick with them or tell the person about the implications of their flaws to people around them and forget the consequences.....?

U really haven't hit the nail on the head....

Which do you feel would help the person to grow or improve?

Colourich:
I keep telling folks, don't give your all in a relationship. They still won't hear, less really is more, the harder you try, the more irritating you get.

Even if he or she gives you all what you need?

openmine:
In other words,are you either going to overlook the person's flaws and stick with them or tell the person about the implications of their flaws to people around them and forget the consequences.....?

U really haven't hit the nail on the head....

Which do you feel would help the person to grow or improve?

What I am saying is there’s a way you love someone that inspires them and if your not being inspired by your love then I don’t think they love you. I said adjust and overlook because you can’t be making lists about someone...when someone has a list on you too.

Your not a professor on their life you mention it yes but you don’t dwell and make the whole basis of your relationship about it Joseph was a carpenter not a billionaire but he still met mary and she still born Jesus for manger wey no be Sheraton

By today’s standards they won’t even be together but sometimes Gods will is bigger and better than man says ..that person may even marry a billionaire and build you a home where you can be hating 24/7 getting updates on their cleanliness

Everyone is valuable

solasoulmusic:
What I am saying is there’s a way you love someone that inspires them and if your not being inspired by your love then I don’t think they love you. I said adjust and overlook because you can’t be making lists about someone...when someone has a list on you too.

Your not a professor on their life you mention it yes but you don’t dwell and make the whole basis of your relationship about it Joseph was a carpenter not a billionaire but he still met mary and she still born Jesus for manger wey no be Sheraton

By today’s standards they won’t even be together but sometimes Gods will is bigger and better than man says ..that person may even marry a billionaire and build you a home where you can be hating 24/7 getting updates on their cleanliness

Everyone is valuable

My dear I understand your line of thought....and that you need to inspire people to love you based on overlooking their flaws...
However that ideology can become faulty in the long run esp when the person has decided to stay put since you condone their attitude!

Let me offer you an instance....
Mike Tyson a world known boxer married a comedy personality( cant really get her name)
Every time they had a disagreement Tyson punched her as if he was punching an opponent.....
She would run out and hide....or lock her self...
He would always beg and plead with her that she is the only one that understands him and he will change his habits....
(Tyson was an insecure and introverted man)
After enduring physical abuse in the hands of Tyson,she decided to quit the marriage....
If she had endured or overlooked Tyson's flaws by now,believe me she would have been six feets below....

As much as I think its laudable to accept people's flaws simply because no one is perfect,its also instructive and imperative that these people realize the effect of their attitude or habits towards others....we don't live for just ourselves but others too!

Do you know Robert Downey Jr. ?
The actor behind the popular iron man character on Hollywood..
Do you know that many years ago he had issues with drugs...
It was so shameful that Hollywood refused to call him for any filming....
It was so bad that people pleaded with him to get help or go into rehab..... he initially refused but when those around him started withdrawing due to his drug abuse,he just had to ask for help at the end....
Today,he is a normal guy and living right....
Had those around him overlooked his drug habits,would he seek ways to change or get help?

We make mistakes in life.....
It becomes a habit when it continues without correction..
In a classroom,there is a question and there is a correction....
We all need correction in our lives....
Let's correct others though not making it an every day narrative or using insults or harsh tones but making them understand that its for their own good....

....and of course,there is no harm in others that also point out ur own deficiencies or flaws.....we live to correct each other,and inspire each other!
No one is free from flaws...but it will be wrong to use one's flaws as justification to continue with their own flaw....

Life is about self-improvement and learning!

openmine:
My dear I understand your line of thought....and that you need to inspire people to love you based on overlooking their flaws...
However that ideology can become faulty in the long run esp when the person has decided to stay put since you condone their attitude!

Let me offer you an instance....
Mike Tyson a world known boxer married a comedy personality( cant really get her name)
Every time they had a disagreement Tyson punched her as if he was punching an opponent.....
She would run out and hide....or lock her self...
He would always beg and plead with her that she is the only one that understands him and he will change his habits....
(Tyson was an insecure and introverted man)
After enduring physical abuse in the hands of Tyson,she decided to quit the marriage....
If she had endured or overlooked Tyson's flaws by now,believe me she would have been six feets below....

As much as I think its laudable to accept people's flaws simply because no one is perfect,its also instructive and imperative that these people realize the effect of their attitude or habits towards others....we don't live for just ourselves but others too!

Do you know Robert Downey Jr. ?
The actor behind the popular iron man character on Hollywood..
Do you know that many years ago he had issues with drugs...
It was so shameful that Hollywood refused to call him for any filming....
It was so bad that people pleaded with him to get help or go into rehab..... he initially refused but when those around him started withdrawing due to his drug abuse,he just had to ask for help at the end....
Today,he is a normal guy and living right....
Had those around him overlooked his drug habits,would he seek ways to change or get help?

We make mistakes in life.....
It becomes a habit when it continues without correction..
In a classroom,there is a question and there is a correction....
We all need correction in our lives....
Let's correct others though not making it an every day narrative or using insults or harsh tones but making them understand that its for their own good....

....and of course,there is no harm in others that also point out ur own deficiencies or flaws.....we live to correct each other,and inspire each other!
No one is free from flaws...but it will be wrong to use one's flaws as justification to continue with their own flaw....

Life is about self-improvement and learning!

People with secrets make the worst husbands. People with no self control too but some are married to wives that overlook and manage it because there’s always room for improvement with love. When you love your teaching your imparting your advice your not discouraging bad mouthing and abusive. Drug abuse is a phase in ones life it takes an incredible amount of courage and love to scale through there is only one end I applaud Robert for that only you can turn your story around with love encouraging you keyword encouragement not online ridicule not public shame with love. Most people don’t know what love is they equate it with a game where you chase. Do you know that there are some that have had Some really deep experiences to what you see on blogs the only difference is rather love bringing you down it lifts you up!

When your not confident in your love being able to transform and inspire you start nitpicking and discouraging others based on your insecurities.

That clingy person cares and that can’t be bothered person really won’t be bothered when the chips are down they will take all they can get for now. Rick Ross said if it ain’t long term it’s small talk.