mhd5757:

I don't get lonely, I am a social introvert meaning that I prefer keeping to myself but I still go out to socialize with friends.
And if I die alone and nobody finds me, I don't care no matter how my body decays because I would be dead and I would not feel a thing.

Lol! We need help

Nobody should feel compelled to have children or get married.

OP is far more responsible than the majority of Nigerians who feel the need to do the above because everyone else is doing so.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

You are young now and strong. You are surrounded by friends. You have the strength to carry out every task you like. But one day, you will be old and feeble and alone. You will watch your married friends play with their grand kids and travel from time to time to visit their children and grand children while you will be stuck to your dogs. You will wish to change things but it will be too late. It is no too late to make the right choice now. There is a love that dogs cannot offer.

U are not alone

marvelli:
Marriage is not for everyone but in your case, I think its more lack of money that's holding you back. Just look at your list of monetary complaints.

exactly

It's not normal oooo.... It's this buhari economy...

All you need is a good woman and financial security

It seems like it’s finances that is your problem. Our needs are constantly evolving so give it another 5yrs and company of dogs will no longer be enough, you will probably also be financially stable enough to afford to raise a family.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

you are not alone, but i can still maintain a girlfriend. That is the most i can do

May b ur thinking faculty is have problem, if not y can't u think deep, ok imagine now u get old who will take care of you and your bills every thing



My guy stop that kind of thinking � and look for another thing to do

After being broken by someone I held in high esteem, I really don't wanna love again

Yes very normal, especially in proper clime, but over here our society see it as abnormal.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

It is very normal not to marry or have kids. A lot of men are in this boat. I am in the same boat too.

Marriage is an institution programed to favor women.
Kids too are just a bunch of unecessary responsibilities.

I see people have more than two kids and am like wtf is this?

80% of the kids won't even know u when the grow up to become something in life.

That's when their ediotic wivies and girlfriends will tell them their dad is a wizard flee from him..

I came to the world to make a name and not to make kids

Na Your type i de find since. Where have you been. Send me a mail ASAP

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

good to follow ur mind, suit urself, but advice to get married and get ur own kids is better I just think for you free of charge, nice me.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

You are simply going through a phase....... That phase would pass..... When it does, post an update.....

aaronson:
You normal bro.

Marriage is only a social construct. Love is series of chemical reactions in the brain that compels human to breed. Marriage is just the platform that enables both love and breeding seem moral or legal, Men made this up! No consequences if you breed or love outside of marriage, it's only a personal choice. The only down side of it is you would need somebody to keep you company when you aging. Loneliness causes depression and at that point money would seem irrelevant so, what's the point of having lots of money if one lives a miserable life of solitude? This results to suicide sometimes.

I, typing this is guilty of being introvert and solitude but the internet is my play ground. Trust me, I'm worst because I shut down my Facebook page so nobody I know reaches out to me. Back to your decision.

It's not a bad thing after all, I think the same as you sometimes as well and other times I think otherwise. Reason being, Kids gives people new meaning to live for especially when you married.

While I may agree with you sir about his state of mind towards marriage, Marriage is God's business not a social construct per say.

I also think same,but will have a kid and train my kid. I so love peace and happiness. Except of course I find a weird type like me I may reconsider. But until then........ plans are underway to prepare financially for myself and kid.

Very sure you are a kid. Just privileged to be an adult.

Your old age will answer you. Wait till then!

Is it normal for a baby to be born without a private part, if its normal then its normal not to reproduce...

Unreasonable questions everywhere..

mhd5757:

I don't get lonely, I am a social introvert meaning that I prefer keeping to myself but I still go out to socialize with friends.
And if I die alone and nobody finds me, I don't care no matter how my body decays because I would be dead and I would not feel a thing.

i am an atheist, anti establishment, dont give a fvck abt marriage, dont see the big deal in death or even dying young. Not on facebook, instagram or what else is out there (on twitter because of my biz). I just dont give a fvck where and when people expect me to. Life shld not be defined if you are willing to live with the consequences of your choices. Sincere people dare not to blend in. Blending in is an art of deceit. Be happy, be responsible for yourself

lostluggage:
After being broken by someone I held in high esteem, I really don't wanna love again

Bro, when you 60years old, come back here and give a testimony

soberdrunk:
Oh my!! What a pity!! These sisters of the marine kingdom can be very wicked sha!!! See how they have taken this young man and locked him inside "TRANSPARENT GROUNDNUT BOTTLE" and even put cushion inside so that the young man will be extremely comfortable inside.........

different strokes for different folks. i on the contrary,can't wait to have kids and raise them. i'm not sure how old you are but i feel with time,your maturity would set in and you'd start thinking differently.

It's a matter Of choice Sir.

Just ask yourself, meditate and examine the Question: "Can the Dogs & Once-in-a-week woman give you a sense of joy, satisfaction, fulfilment and company when you get really old

Yes it is normal. But your idiotic and ignorant culture tells you otherwise. That is why they make a big and stupid deal about marriage online, as though it is an achievement. Go inside Nigerian marriages and you'll laugh your ass out.

The truth is that not every human being is fit for marriage. Some people are better off being by themselves. Marriage becomes misery for some people who'd be better off and happy being by themselves.

More so, not everyone should or will children. Disease, health issues, mental incapability of raising children, emotional stability or its lack therefore, economic/financial issues and a host of other reasons make some not fit for marriage or for having children. Sadly, our culture refuses to recognize and accept these realities.

So, access yourself and your own unique life situation. If you conclude that you'll be better off by yourself and without children, there is nothing wrong with that. Just be aware that you may lack companionship or children to support you when you're old, in which case you should plan accordingly for old age.

I will use this medium to also appeal to the National Assembly to pass a law that enables "Euthanasia." This is important because life can sometimes take an unexpected turn due to accidents, sickness, and other unforeseen events that render one incapacitated and without ability to help themselves or to make decisions. Euthanasia then becomes the only way of ending a worthless life of pain and suffering.

Goodluck in life!

The ideal situation is to get a wife material that you can make your baby mama or the mother of your kids.

But then it is very rare.

Most baby mamas are not wife materials.
And wife materials don't get to be baby mamas.

Is normal now, but you won't like it when you grow old

ohigus:
May b ur thinking faculty is have problem, if not y can't u think deep, ok imagine now u get old who will take care of you and your bills every thing



My guy stop that kind of thinking � and look for another thing to do

Dude is a kid

Am 100% certain. Still earning allowance and in bad company

Or a miserable life he can't get out of.

Earn money has a man and you imagine a young one.

Inasmuch as you are not bleeping your dog....your life is your life....after all Nigerian marriage doesn't last

Not at all bro,,,,having same thoughts too,the only reason people keep bringing up is kids,,,or who gonna care for you wen u aging, that's bullshit ,even right now bringing kids into this sinful world full of struggles and hardship is kinda like wickedness to me,there loads of kids out there who need to be taken care of,both kids of family friends neighbours, orphans a lot,