mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

I think you are on the right path my friend. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. However, if you live in Nigeria, good luck to you. Nigerians have been mentally conditioned to believe that you can only feel happy and fulfilled with a family of your own even though that is not necessarily true judging by all the miserable married Nigerians I saw back then in Nigeria.

And the Nigerian society is setup in such a way to stigmatize single adults of marriageable age. So, if you choose to live a single life with doggies, Nigeria is not the ideal society or country to live in.

In advanced countries many people live happily with their dogs despite not being married and without kids but in Nigeria....hmmmmm. I don't know. The citizens in the country called Nigeria will frustrate your life.

Start seriously thinking of relocating to an advanced country now if you really don't desire marriage or kids. My 2 cents.

milemimi93:


y are most of y'all concern abt old age?

Haven't u seen people u have millions of kids who are well to do yet at old age they look like someone u dosn't have kids?

It is not assurance that all ur kids would look after u at old age.
They will abandon u if they want to or if they have bad wivies and there's noting u will do.

If u plan ur life well, with or without kids u can be fine at old age.

Give example, Oprah Winfrey?

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

In the land of the hunch back. The straight back peson is the monster.


So therefore its a banger sorry i mean, majority determines normal, its a game of numbers

I don't know broda. As for me, I'm just so scared of going into a relationship. Marriage freaks me out.

Philpham:
Op, you are nothing but an impotent g.ayy olosho. Don't jazzy crew

You are most certainly mad!

We can't all like the same thing.

Mhd5757 I was in agreement with ur post till i saw ur reasons being money to spend on a wife and kids. Are u telling me u want to remain on one financial level tru out ur life? Like no Ambition or wat? So u will rather feed dogs. Lol dats not normal at all. If u had said vos if the drama and all i will understand and agree uts better to be single than tolerate all manner of drama and nagging.

Money will be made irrespective of marriage cos thats the main objective to be useful to urself and others.

So u guess if u became a billionaire 2moro u wud change ur mind quick and get married rite? Lol

It is normal .. same as I .. I wouldn’t want that stress involved in marriage nor having kids, but if it happens in the future , it happens , if it doesn’t , it doesn’t .. doesn’t change a thing for me ..

milemimi93:


kids are so cute and lovely.
When they grow up will they still be cute and lovely?

Anybody having kids for fear of old age is making a bigger mistake.
Making kids isn't an assurance dat those kids will look after u at old age.

Recently a naija celeb called out two twins who abandoned their mom to die.
A mom had twins dat are doing so well yet she lived a loner and died like a church rat.

If u plan ur life well, u will be fine at old age.

that's one in a million case bro.

If we must encourage this path, then we must start now to develop a homely aged people homes and facilities in major Nigerian cities where people can retire at old age.

Many rich people have used their own money to buy their own death, how Some house helps or maids are wicked. They kill their aged employer and run away with his money and belongings; that's part of the hazards

dasparrow:


I think you are on the right path my friend. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. However, if you live in Nigeria, good luck to you. Nigerians have been mentally conditioned to believe that you can only feel happy and fulfilled with a family of your own even though that is not necessarily true judging by all the miserable married Nigerians I saw back then in Nigeria.

And the Nigerian society is setup in such a way to stigmatize single adults of marriageable age. So, if you choose to live a single life with doggies, Nigeria is not the ideal society or country to live in.

In advanced countries many people live happily with their dogs despite not being married and without kids but in Nigeria....hmmmmm. I don't know. The citizens in the country called Nigeria will frustrate your life.

Start seriously thinking of relocating to an advanced country now if you really don't desire marriage or kids. My 2 cents.

That's because most are jealous and envious of your single life. You have more money and pleasure.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

You are going through a phase in life. Enjoy it while it lasts. Just do not run out of vaseline, because after a while those ashawos will fell like sandpaper, and dogs have a craving for juicy nuts if you try to mount them.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Hell no! come to thing about it, if your parents were like you you won't have been born. I think you need to see a shrink!

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Hehehe...

You’re kinda “normal” actually.

There are TONS of people exactly like you.

There’s even a movement called “Men Going Their Own Way”.

Here’s a community of people just like you: www.reddit.com/r/mgtow/

Just be mindful of the more toxic comments.

Biglittlelois:
Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck

What a weak response...

Stop thinking with your Bigclitoris my dear Biglittlelois...

Wish I were you 11 years ago.

blackaxe78:

Give example, Oprah Winfrey?

Mother Teresa

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Marriage and kids is not like a must
Do what you want,don't let any1 make your life a living hell

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Your marriage your kids your life your mumu your deadbeat your dickhead

Do you think Nigeria cares about your problems

Rhea:


You are going through a phase in life. Enjoy it while it lasts. Just do not run out of vaseline, because after a while those ashawos will fell like sandpaper, and dogs have a craving for juicy nuts if you try to mount them.

Gosh have you seen a dog mounted by a man's "juicy nuts" b4?

Ashewo kobokobo!

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

If you were in places like the US where you can be transferred to assisted living facilities for seniors(old people), where they are well being taken care of, that might be okay for you to remain unmarried with no kids for the rest of your life.

But in Nigerian situation, by the time you are old, no matter how much money you have, it will then dawn on you that you should have got married with kids. You don’t want to live in solitude at the ripe age of your life with no one you can call your own that you can talk to. By that time, everyone you know today, your siblings and relations would abandon you because they too would be living the last part of their life. Only your children and your old wife will be all you got.

Like I said before, Marriage is beautiful, when both partners are kind, selfless, considerate and understanding about themselves and life. Family is everything to me and I won't trade it with cats and dogs or paying young boys to fuc when am itchy. Nah! Not me.

If you run away from responsibility or scared of financial responsibilities even to yourself then marriage is not for u. Then if u are a wicked being or selfish being or too crafty, just Stay single and enjoy your life till old age.

Am not scared of responsibilities I take it head on and I don't see marriage as poverty alleviation either. Cos anyone who wants to stay and die single, pls be my guest. Lol.

Na your life. Arrange it as u see it fit. Simple.
Life is just simple!

Nothing is wrong with you OP. I know a few people in the US who are not married and don’t have kids because they don’t want to. I also have friends that don’t wanna get married nor have kids.

marriage structure is broken....when you have a structure thats more cheaper to have dogs or plastic women or even ashawo for a hour then its already brocken....

their is realy no diffence having a woman for a hour....

Marriage and kids is not like a must
Do what you want,don't let any1 make your life a living hell

And u think ur family will accept that, this is Nigeria!

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

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Marriage is not what it used to be.

Don't let them suck you into the bubble.

The "certified" ashewo part is a no no.

/

victorian:
Like I said before, Marriage is beautiful, when both partners are kind, selfless, considerate and understanding about themselves and life. Family is everything to me and I won't trade it with cats and dogs or paying young boys to fuc when am itchy. Nah! Not me.

If you run away from responsibility or scared of financial responsibilities even to yourself then marriage is not for u. Then if u are a wicked being or selfish being or too crafty, just Stay single and enjoy your life till old age.

Am not scared of responsibilities I take it head on and I don't see marriage as poverty alleviation either. Cos anyone who wants to stay and die single, pls be my guest. Lol.

Na your life. Arrange it as u see it fit. Simple.
Life is just simple!

wow, babe let go through this journey together na, me like o

divinelove:
I see a man DT will die of loneliness in old age, u might die and decay in your bed n nobody will know

Having a kid or kids does not mean you won't die of loneliness.

Dogs and ashawos wont take care of you wen you are old

InvertedHammer:

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Marriage is not what it used to be.

Don't let them suck you into the bubble.

The "certified" ashewo part is a no no.

/

women will change too....

many of them will get pissed and say fvck you....

they will put their heads in the sky and say they dont need men too....many will only consider marriage and children when they are 40....

but by then,they cant have that much children no more....and nobody wants them at that age no more anyways.....

judgement....!!!!...

it ain't normal.

it's not like you don't wanna have a relationship, because you do.

truth is, i think you're just tryna avoid certain responsibilities.

so nigga, you better check yourself.

dasall.

It is good and may you leave very long so that the Dogs can take care of you in old age and give you a befitting burial and take over the properties you acquired. Childishness is worrying you

clive2u:
Dogs and ashawos wont take care of you wen you are old

that arguement is not gonna work....