₦airaland Forum

Zoharariel:
What you're feeling is normal. Men are polygamous by nature. It was religion that brought about these man-made marital restrictions.

In spite of some people's beliefs that polygamy is morally wrong, the majority of men know that it is not natural to have only one sexual partner at a time - even though they will never come out to say it in order not be ostracized & stripped off their social statuses in their churches & social gatherings.

Psychologically, it is impossible for any man to be limited into eating only Akpu & Edikaikong soup decorated with Goat meats everyday for the rest of his life. A day will come when he would crave to have Pounded Yam & Egusi soup laced with different specie of fishes & edible reptiles such as crocodile.

My advice to you is to be smart about it and do not make a habit of it.

Pay no mind to all the people that will come on this thread telling to hold on for Jesus & the holy spirit - with their lying tongues & deceitful lips. They know how to speak peace to their neighbours but inwardly setting an ambush for them.

Do not allow man-made laws written & compiled into a book by some Roman charlatans under the influence of alcohol in the 6th century deprive you of your natural instinct & liberty to explore all the good things that life has to offer.

Iamgrey5:
I believe you are experiencing one of three things or an hybrid of the three things

1) You are being influenced by your environment i.e current location, friends

2)You are truly not in love with your partner

3) You are not ready to settle for one person



if it is the environment
To resist the urge, you can either
1) change environment or focus on other things

if it is love/trust issues
2) Quit your current serious relationship, if you aren't married or in really advance stage of the relationship.

if you are married, I will suggest you spend more time with your wife.

Encourage her as much as possible to dress or look like the type of women you find attractive, I mean the type you cannot resist the urge to cheat with.

You might even encourage her to dress like a runzgirl(or Small girl with Big God as they are now called) during pre-intimacy to fulfill your sexual fantasies, assuming your fantasies revolves around those type of ladies.

Fulfilling sexual fantasies is one of major causes of cheating in modern relationships and it is often taken for granted within the Nigerian society


In the end though, self discipline is the major component, but you can always find a way of fulfilling your sexual fantasies with your spouse.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Just know that, there are some Men who will never cheat. Speak only for thyself.

Anigold4real:
is this suppose to be a question? My husband doesn't cheat so don't generalize

Amarabae:
Marry someone who is sexually attractive to you,
Someone who by just looking at him/her, a burning desire arouse in you,
Someone that you enjoy every seconds and minutes of love making with him or her,
Someone that don't just moan but cry tears of joy during love making with you,
Someone that bring out the "porn star" in you.
Someone who can bring out the beast in you during sex
You will never have any urge to cheat.
Cheating in marriage is very stupid and wrong.
You have to consider the health of your spouse, before you go out, sleep around get an std and come home to infect your partner.
Think about your integrity, how will your children and in-laws look and rate you if you are caught cheating.
Yuck.
Mr OP.
Go and revive your sexual lifestyle with your partner, maybe it's now boring,
Make it spicy,
It doesn't have to be missionary style all the time,
Change styles,
Change position
Try new things.
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Lastly pray and discipline yourself.
A responsible family man don't cheat.

Zoharariel:
What you're feeling is normal. Men are polygamous by nature. It was religion that brought about these man-made marital restrictions.

In spite of some people's beliefs that polygamy is morally wrong, the majority of men know that it is not natural to have only one sexual partner at a time - even though they will never come out to say it in order not be ostracized & stripped off their social statuses in their churches & social gatherings.

Psychologically, it is impossible for any man to be limited into eating only Akpu & Edikaikong soup decorated with Goat meats everyday for the rest of his life. A day will come when he would crave to have Pounded Yam & Egusi soup laced with different specie of fishes & edible reptiles such as crocodile.

My advice to you is to be smart about it and do not make a habit of it.

Pay no mind to all the people that will come on this thread telling to hold on for Jesus & the holy spirit - with their lying tongues & deceitful lips. They know how to speak peace to their neighbours but inwardly setting an ambush for them.

Do not allow man-made laws written & compiled into a book by some Roman charlatans under the influence of alcohol in the 6th century deprive you of your natural instinct & liberty to explore all the good things that life has to offer.

Stricker321:
Please for those married out there, how do you cope with sexual pressure?

So much temptation to cheat.

The pressure is just too much.

Rollitout:
I cheated once and I have repented and ask for forgiveness my wife did not catch me o, I just quit cheating

bukatyne:
So small girl with big God means runzgirl?

Woaw!

Thought it was the literal meaning as in devoted Christian/Muslim.

Thanks.

Why is the god with capital 'G' though?

Psoul:
Wrong assertion. Ppl don't cheat because there is problem in the marriage. Even a very good loving couples can still see themselves cheating.

mimimile93:
I've never cheated on a pvssy so I don't know how that sh!t feels. And never will advice anyone to do such.

My question to married cheaters is, why go into marriage if you know u won't be able to stick to one d!ck or cooch for the rest of your life?


I can cope with any other bad character a woman exhibits but not cheating.

I can't stand a cheater!

UyaiIncomparabl:
Cheat if you want to. It's a free world.

DavidEsq:
Those cheating shoes u are feeling pressured to wear, just put ur wife in doz shoes, then come back to tell me how it feels.
The bible says: "marriage is sacred; keep the bed Holy and undefiled".
Moreso, it's ur desire to cheat. Hence u feel the urge to do so. James 1:14 says "each one is drawn out by his desire and desires give birth to sin and then, death".
Lastly, why have u forgotten u ppl's most quoted lines: "I am a winner, not a loser" (can't u defeat this temptation ni. Abi ur winnership no reach sin). "I can do all things tru Christ who strengthens me" (Haba! Faithfulness no join the "all" things wey u can do tru Christ)?
Job in the bible said: "I have made a covenant with my eyes. Therefore, I will not give a strange woman undue attention".
U can do that too, bro and so can I. It was once a challenge to me but I'm solid now. Tnx to Jah.

IamPlato:
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Are You Sure

UyaiIncomparabl:
Everybody wan chop my head!

KanwuliaExtra:
False.
A good and loving spouse does not cheat. Trust and commitment are major ingredients in a solid marriage.

If you allow your animalistic, sexual urges to rule your marriage, then you are just “managing”! The mistrust and disappointment will always be there. You can’t TOTALLY love someone who betrayed you and you cannot TOTALLY love someone you betrayed.

You took vows, and you broke them.

Yes, you can still love people you betrayed, but it never be 100% pure. Adulterated at best! Pun intended!

clefstone:
how do u know so much to just conclude

correctguy0900:
Please how can I get a make up free faced gurl. I so much love natural. Not deceptive paintings. I am vacant, could u recommend a sister or in case u vacant. Thanks.

paparazzi1987:
Serioiusly i want yab you before, but when i looked at your profile pix...i must confess..you are damn preety.

I support anything you say on Nairaland

ogolomachi:
pretty dumb hoe

quiestla:
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Wrong advice snob

Austin234:
So disappointed that this is coming from a woman

IamPlato:
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Will You Allow Your Guy Do Such

Jethrolite:
Exactly, what's pressure to cheat?

Mikolion87:
Some other times, there's a reason for some actions. If a woman cheats, it could be that her hubby has become insensitive to her sexual needs. It could also be due to prolonged disagreements and misunderstandings between them. All these and many more can make any spouse fall out of love with his or her partner. But of course, I'm not trying to justify cheating. Just saying, try not to be the reason your partner nurses the idea of cheating

UyaiIncomparabl:
I'm a relationship expert.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I don't sell make-up free faced girls. You can check around in the streets or at the shopping malls. I'm not vacant, neither is my 'Sister'.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Lol. Thanks man.

clefstone:
lol. Marriage and the the things that go with it can only be understood by someone in the institution. Forget all those relationship expert thing, when u get married go in with an opened mind. On cheating, I like some of ur opinions but you seem to contradict yourself sometimes

correctguy0900:
Hahaha. I must be living in d 50s. Didn't know I could actually shop for one. Get 1 and 1 for free. Lol.

But seriously was just my way of appreciating ur unique style. Not just a fan of too much painting. We actually thousand mile far from each other. Enjoy ur weekend lady.

Iamgrey5:
Apparently that is their new street name.

The capital G is often used by Abrahamic religions i.e Christians/Muslims to describe an ominiscience God

The Abrahamic religions are the most practiced within the hypocritical Nigeria society.

Hence, even the sex workers are not left out of the hypocrisy.