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Luxuryconsult:
now let's do it the Nigerian way.. Hehehehehe...... Are you saying you don't see my signature, hun?

Ebuka2016:
thanks dear. Most of the stuff on that page is true about me. Some i had gotten rid of, like being timid. The love part is so not me tho

Luxuryconsult:
Now i understand you better. It's true, some people like forcing others to conform to their will/wish.

And that your cancerian friends, i told you, some cancers have grown to become a mature cancer while some are still heavily ruled by the star. Like me for example, i'd say have become a matured cancer buh as you said earlier on alot of factors affect this zodiac something, like experience in life, background e.t.c i might choose to get close to some people buh because of some little backstab have suffered in the past, i'd have to be careful, and no matter how much i love anybody, i always make sure to check if they are worth it first so to achieve that, i bring out the fault in them first, like the flaws are what i first search for in someone i love cuz sometimes i'm tryna get over the love or just to avoid stories that touch. So, when i'm getting over such person, i might in some situations mention/complain to such person about his/her flaws. or like a cancer who has experience heartbreak in life, you know no matter how emotional and caring he is supposed to be, he might choose to limit cuz he wouldn't want to be in same situation he was before. Take a look at page one where a guy was talking about how he doesn't love anything girlfriend and how he doesn't care about them because of past heartbreak buh would go a million miles to save a friend instead. So i guess that's the problem between the two friends you compared.

LivingFree:
Is that how you are?

MissJoy29:
You are welcome. Glad I helped
@bolded, are you sure?

Ebuka2016:
yeah. I hate to be in love or to feel emotional

MissJoy29:
Oh yeah? Even though love hurts most times, you won't deny it's a beautiful thing, will you?

Ebuka2016:
it used to be beautiful for me when i was younger. But right now, its the last thing i wanna feel. Being in love makes me too emotional, and when i get too emotional, i get depressed. I hate depression so i hate love.

MissJoy29:
Lol @getting depressed when you get too emotional.

I understand you though. I feel that way but only when I know that the person I'm feeling this way for doesn't feel same or is not worth it. But other than that, it's love all the way

Cheer up. Love is a beautiful thing

sirBLUNT:
To H first then i leave for G by 1pm...

Luxuryconsult:
I mean relationship wise. As a cancerian i'm very emotional buh only in the issues of life, when i see people suffering from anything (Disease, sickness, poverty and the likes) buh when it comes to relationship wise, trust me, i'm probably the strongest man in that aspect. I just don't need anyone to complete me, not a friend, not a partner. Nothing at all. Though i was raised a loner and it has really helped me to be emotionally dependant in life. You just can't see me sad because an opposite sex i call a partner does anything or from a friend action. It's like no one can hurt me emotionally friendship/relationship wise though.

A neighbor and i got talking the other day and he was telling me how he almost died because his girlfriend wasn't there for him, it happened that they both agreed to meet that day and the lady changed the plan, i was just shaking my head for him. A grown man with 2 kids ooo with another woman though. And so also i remember this neighbor back then in Ib city also, he always complain with sadness and bitterness all because of a woman.

With few things have seen, and seeing how weak people are emotionally in relationship, i just can't buh thank my parent for raising me a loner. In my house, no friend, no girlfriend/boyfriend. Driver take you to school during high school days and come to take you back after school. Infact if anyone come asking for us, you might be looking at us sitting right in front of you buh if mum says we are not around, then we are not around. Hehehehe. That's after rigorous questions ooo and if you pass her questions, then she'd call whosoever you've come to see and you must talk just outside the building, you are not going anywhere. Back in those days, it wasn't easy for we (the boys in the house) seeing all of our friends getting laid, gisting us how they do the do and how social they were then. My parent are not wicked, infact my mum is more of a friend to us all than a mother. Buh both Mum and Dad are loners so they made sure we all inherited that trait. And it actually paid off.

Most of my ex thought it was just plain wickedness buh i no fit do pass myself now. And till date, since i was born i only have 3 friends. And my social life is about 30%. I don't regret anything anyway, i just wish to know how many people out there are like me.

Like Emotionally dependant like me.

MissJoy29:
I can relate to your post sir. I also have a very close friend who incidentally is a "cancer". This guy is the most cold person I have ever seen after my brother. NOTHING, I mean nothing about relationships move them. You can only hear them talk about a lady if you are very close to them. These guys also have less than 20% social life. They are loners. I have never seen.

I don't like emotionally-cold people. They are very unsympathetic and rigid. It's scary. You should have that one or two persons you are allowed to be soft with.

But cancerians are the most nurturing & dependable sign after Taurus of course. Once you love a cancerian & he gets to love you back, you will understand what the word "security" means in love and relationship/marriage.

Mryacks:
Your last paragaph....spot on!

MissJoy29:
True.

Jagaban880:
u seem to know alot abot cancer sign

all u said abot us s ntin but de truths

i love been indoors
cnt date a chick datz nt loyal
i detest lies

Love my Mama can do anything for Her

But i dnt know my talents yet

i need to discover my inner potentials

50 cent,wizkid,yungsix,Mr Eazi, wole Soyinka,late Nelson Mandela,tom cruise,sylvester stallion,burna Boy,olu jacob,nonso diobi ,Messi,rita dominic,nikola Tesla,alexander de great ,
brock lesna,princess Diana,sarkodie

etc


De all discoverd dere inner potentials... except Me.

Ebuka2016:
Love ain't beautiful for me.

You know what? It's actually my weakness. When the person i love loves me back and tries to let me know she does, that's disaster for me. I get all emotional, then boom! Depression happens and continues happening as long as the emotion lasts. During this period, i don't sleep well, i become less confident, my productivity is affected, etc.

I so enjoy being a little bit heartless. Thats when my confidence is at its peak. It feels like i had taken a drug. Its heavenly. I sleep well and am extremely productive. During this time, i feel like i can actually take up anything and win.

When i was younger, i craved for love. Being loved made me confident, the more love i get, the more confident i become. Right now, its just the opposite baby.

MissJoy29:
Sorry for the late response. I just saw this.

Hmmm....this is serious.
I think something must have happened to bring you to this state. You must have been hurt maybe not necessarily repeatedly but by someone you loved so dearly. I'm saying this cos of the firsthand experience I had with my Cancerian friend. Looking at him, he's on a very far opposite direction with love cos the person he has always loved has birthed a monster in him. So I don't see him loving again in a long while. Not only that, I don't see him loving genuinely again...except a Miracle happens.

@first bolded, that's cos you don't want it to be. Once beaten is twice SHY not twice DESTROYED. You have allowed yourself to be so cold that the prospect of love fills you with so much dread that you don't wanna try again. You brought this upon yourself so only you can fix it as well. It starts from the mind.

@second bolded, surprisingly, my friend was always saying that. Kept complaining about how loving someone will make him weak and powerless and the person having so much influence over him. I see! I understand better now. Honestly, I don't know what to say about this cos it's all in the mind and I can't control your mind.

PS: if all I said up there about you isn't true, please let me know so I won't counsel again. Lol.

I'm still learning.

Jagaban880:
u seem to know alot abot cancer sign

all u said abot us s ntin but de truths

i love been indoors
cnt date a chick datz n loyal
i detest lies

Love my Mama can do anything for Her

But i dnt know my talents yet

i need to discover my inner potentials

50 cent,wizkid,yungsix,Mr Eazi, wole Soyinka,late Nelson Mandela,tom cruise,sylvester stallion,burna Boy,olu jacob,nonso diobi ,Messi,rita dominic,nikola Tesla,alexander de great ,
brock lesna,princess Diana,sarkodie

etc


De all discoverd dere inner potentials Expect Me

Ebuka2016:
well, thanks a lot for your replies dear.

I had been hurt by the persons i loved in the past but i don't think thats the reason why i hate love. Its just that when i love someone and the person loves me back, i get all emotional, start expecting other people to show me the same love, then when i don't get it from pple, i get depressed.

When am not told am loved and cherished, i go out there knowing exactly what to expect so i remain very confident regardless of how cold/bad some pple may treat me.

Then again, am a perfectionist and i kinda have a high taste for everything, not just women. The kinda woman i want to love me, only money will get me that so i stopped wasting my time with women altogether because i don't want a woman i love to be 'managing' me. I want to feel like i really mean something to her so that her chances of cheating with other men is minimum.

So at this point, am deeply engrossed in my hustle, maintaining focus and not wanting to have anything to do with either love or women.

I like the attention you're giving me tho.

MissJoy29:
You are welcome.

Well, well you described in your second paragraph is same with everyone . I'm not excluded. Tuface's song come to mind....it feels good loving someone when the person loves you back. I also get depressed when I feel I'm the only one doing the livibg in a relationship. It's a gut-wrenching feeling. So it's normal.
But you made two confusing & contradictory statement:
1) When you love someone & the person loves you back, you get all emotional & depressed.
2) When you love someone & the person doesn't love you back or doesn't love you as much as you need, you become all emotional, needy and depressed.
They are contradictory. Which one is your situation? Cos the second one ain't abnormal but the first one is.

I'm also a perfectionist and I have a high taste in men. But I try to make sure the expectations are realistic and obtainable so I won't be building castles in the air.
Who is this kinda woman you want to love you that only money can get? A model? Beauty queen? It's understandable you wanna have money to take care of your woman. But thinking that's ALL you need to "keep" her, is totally wrong. And what happens when the money is no more there? (not your portion though). Cos trust me, if you like, have all the money you can & you don't meet up my expectations, forget it. I found myself in such a situation recently.

It's good to be focused & focused. Continue. When the time comes, the right woman & love will come.

You are welcome again.
I didn't receive feedback from you on the other mention before this one. Check.

Ebuka2016:
ok, you probably don't undertand what i said.

I just mean that, assuming i love you in particular and you show me that you love me back and care about me, when i go out there and mingle with pple i dont even know or have never seen before, i start expecting them to give a fvck about me the same way you do and pple don't really give a fvck about pple they don't know but the weird thing is that i used to get depressed because of it.

Sorry but i don't really expect a woman to love me just because of my money alone, but you know in the chase game, a woman falls for a man she considers to be more valuable. Money is not entirely what makes a man to be more valued than other men but its a huge part of it. Am also expect perfection from myself, not only from other pple so i try to work on other aspects of my life aside being rich.

I didn't really see the former mention, i still can't find it. You can resend if you have the time.

MissJoy29:
Ok. I get you now. Well, all you need do is to come to terms with the fact that everyone will not feel positively about you. That's the fact.

Glad you understand.

Never mind about the mention sir. It's not really relevant.

MissJoy29:
Yes I do. I know a lot about them by God's Grace. A whole lot.

@bolded. You don't give up. Not yet
I don't know how old you are but I have a feeling there's still time for you to do that.

Jagaban880:
I'm 23yrs old presently celebrated my birthday on de 10 July

do u tink dere is still time for me to unravel myself?

MissJoy29:
Unravel yourself how please?

Jagaban880:
lol i Mean mother nature Gift

Luxuryconsult:
I mean relationship wise. As a cancerian i'm very emotional buh only in the issues of life, when i see people suffering from anything (Disease, sickness, poverty and the likes) buh when it comes to relationship wise, trust me, i'm probably the strongest man in that aspect. I just don't need anyone to complete me, not a friend, not a partner. Nothing at all. Though i was raised a loner and it has really helped me to be emotionally dependant in life. You just can't see me sad because an opposite sex i call a partner does anything or from a friend action. It's like no one can hurt me emotionally friendship/relationship wise though.

A neighbor and i got talking the other day and he was telling me how he almost died because his girlfriend wasn't there for him, it happened that they both agreed to meet that day and the lady changed the plan, i was just shaking my head for him. A grown man with 2 kids ooo with another woman though. And so also i remember this neighbor back then in Ib city also, he always complain with sadness and bitterness all because of a woman.

With few things have seen, and seeing how weak people are emotionally in relationship, i just can't buh thank my parent for raising me a loner. In my house, no friend, no girlfriend/boyfriend. Driver take you to school during high school days and come to take you back after school. Infact if anyone come asking for us, you might be looking at us sitting right in front of you buh if mum says we are not around, then we are not around. Hehehehe. That's after rigorous questions ooo and if you pass her questions, then she'd call whosoever you've come to see and you must talk just outside the building, you are not going anywhere. Back in those days, it wasn't easy for we (the boys in the house) seeing all of our friends getting laid, gisting us how they do the do and how social they were then. My parent are not wicked, infact my mum is more of a friend to us all than a mother. Buh both Mum and Dad are loners so they made sure we all inherited that trait. And it actually paid off.

Most of my ex thought it was just plain wickedness buh i no fit do pass myself now. And till date, since i was born i only have 3 friends. And my social life is about 30%. I don't regret anything anyway, i just wish to know how many people out there are like me.

Like Emotionally dependant like me.

MissJoy29:
By that do you mean talent?

Colourich:
I'm not emotionally weak, I don't usually get emotionally attached to people, let's say am a geek.

MaestroJosh:
I'm September 17,where do I belong?