He trusted you blindly in the first place and you betrayed that trust by putting your name on the property. It should have been Mr. & Mrs.
Secondly, you need to work on your ego and the way you talk to your husband. Many women speak destructive words during misunderstanding and expect their husband to forgive quickly.
You must have provoked him to the core before he could leave the house for you.
Solution
Change the name to Mr. & Mrs.
Then beg him sincerely. If he is proving difficult, you can call someone he hold in high esteem to resolve the matter, even though I do not support 3rd party in marriage issue.
Be submissive to him in deeds and words.
Shalom!

There is fire on the mountain!!!
You can do whatever you like to reconcile with him but changing the ownership of the house is a NO ! NO!!
Don't fall for it, if you do, he will eventually send you our of the house.
Mind you he may not trust you again,

JoannaSedley:
Women also makes sacrifice when a family project is ongoing but they do not whimper and throw tantrum all over town. Just that the land is under his wife's name and he is vomiting blood. Bunch of egomaniacal hoodwags.

That is what we usually call your dad in our group that year

Madam, I beg in the name of common sense do not, I repeat do not change the name on that document. Don't even change it to Mr and Mrs. Couples are allowed to have separate investments. Your husband is wicked and manipulative. Change it and u will be here in a few years crying about how you have been kicked out. He will calm down and come home . If he doesn't byeee to him. Very very manipulative man.

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


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i'm sorry, but your husband is just your typical african trying to do authority stealing

why should the house be in his name when he did not contribute to it
why is he running to his family to 'report'. what is he saying - my wife used her money to build a house, but the house should belong to me - because . . .

he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

your story actually sounds like bs though, because of the above

anyway, a self respecting man will simply build his own house instead of throwing baby tantrums saying 'the house is mine'

HEseesall:



I am not a blogger who wants traffic, you can choose not to believe if you want, i just need advice and other options,

What advise?
Or u just want people that will validate your selfish decision?

phreakabitoo:


Una build house together you register am for your name?
No be thief be this?
Na your type SARS and EFCC dey find for street. . .
You are lucky it's not me. Na lawsuit straight.
You go prison, I divorce you and get a new queen shikena.

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You didn't read her post.
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He used his money for his parents while the built the house.
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Are you saying she does not deserve to build a house?
Or arw you saying she can not file for divorce and get a better king?
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Men sef....
I just tire for all these ego...
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I used to be like this before sha...
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But not anymore...
A woman is a also a human being.
She has her life to live
She has the rights to be happy and respected.
She should be applauded to making right moves.
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We don too take this people for granted.
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Seriously that man is foolish.

Can you sell it and keep the money while the family starts the whole accommodation/property issue from the scratch? You shouldn't change it to his name. It is not fair! You've got to keep yourself protected...you've got to remain wise. The property is yours...geskia

The man is just like a chameleon with hidden agenda, why the fuss when you agreed to sharing the name on the property between you two. I'm sure he's probably seeing someone outside, because when you love your home, you would be willing to do anything to save it, ego would be needless. Come what may, don't ever let him be the only one whose name appears on the property because when you succumb to his selfish demand, another woman would Just chop and clean mouth on top your sweat! When he finally asks you to leave.

Wives be submissive to ur husbands and husbands love ur wives so they can both live in peace. A woman that can't be submissive to her husband should leave the husband and stay single afterall there are so many single women in their 40s,50s,60s etc

oyb:


i'm sorry, but your husband is just your typical african trying to do authority stealing

why should the house be in his name when he did not contribute to it
why is he running to his family to 'report'. what is he saying - my wife used her money to build a house, but the house should belong to me - because . . .




your story actually sounds like bs though, because of the above

anyway, a self respecting man will simply build his own house instead of throwing baby tantrums saying 'the house is mine'

Why should he build his own house?
Can't men live in a house built by women?

sholatech:
Change it to Mr & Mrs ABC. It is allowed. That way, it is now for both of you.

No change it to Mr K ABC and Mrs M ABC

phreakabitoo:


Una build house together you register am for your name?
No be thief be this?
Na your type SARS and EFCC dey find for street. . .
You are lucky it's not me. Na lawsuit straight.
You go prison, I divorce you and get a new queen shikena.

Where are these kids coming from who find it difficult to comprehend

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


MODIFIED For those viewing this, i have made some clarifications down to page (1),

Your story is missing many points. U did nt tell how the house was bearing your without the man of the house knowing. You lack respect and loyalty, for using solely your name in a house you are living with your husband, as if you don't know that your husband should be the head in everything. Now the chips are down, he is showing you why he is the man of the house. Don't boda changing the name again, before you knw it, another woman will be picking his calls wen u call. By then you will understand. Nonesense!

iamkeyz:

Why should he build his own house?
Can't men live in a house built by women?

The house was jointly built. I guess ONLY the land was secured in the Wife’s name.

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


MODIFIED For those viewing this, i have made some clarifications down to page (1),

Dont change it. I am a man telling you this. The house is yours. He can go back to the village and live there. No form of intimidation should make you change it.
If you change it to his name, he will send you out of the house, If you leave it with your name he will have two options.
1. To send himself out of the house.
2. To calm down and live with you in peace.

I guessed you are holding him on the scrotum now. He will have no choice than to hands up.
more on www.questionnigeria.com

My Sister, this man aint no good. He is not even into u. He is into money and his parents. I will neva allow this man back into my life. Let him go stay with his parents, he mos build that house. Keep ur house in ur name and forget marriage. U dont need him and for sure as hell dont need a marriage! Its 2018, get over men trying to walk over u in da name of being the head wara wara. That is pute BSssss

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


MODIFIED For those viewing this, i have made some clarifications down to page (1),

my dear, the truth is that u can change the name to Mr and Mrs but u must hold on to the house original document or else ,he will change the name to his alone behind ur back and still throw u out of the house,
after changing it to Mr and Mrs , take the original to ur father or mother to hold on to, cos he might kill u for it, look around u, so many evil things happening in Nigeria, God forbid make we no hear another bad story about the house matter

iamkeyz:
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You didn't read her post.
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He used his money for his parents while the built the house.
.
Are you saying she does not deserve to build a house?
Or arw you saying she can not file for divorce and get a better king?
.
Men sef....
I just tire for all these ego...
.
I used to be like this before sha...
.
But not anymore...
A woman is a also a human being.
She has her life to live
She has the rights to be happy and respected.
She should be applauded to making right moves.
.
We don too take this people for granted.
.
Seriously that man is foolish.

Must have skipped that part o.
Honestly, I thought they financed the project together, but she supervised it.
The guy no get sense at all.

The husband did the right thing by moving out of the house, there can't be 2 captains in a ship.

cococandy:


Your post is annoyingly disgusting. First of all there is no under or above in marriage. It’s a partnership.a partnership that requires investment and sacrifice from both parties not one person.

Secondly, if she had used her share of the money to take care of her own family like he did, they wouldn’t have a home now for him to claim. Maybe that’s what she should have done to save herself unnecessary heartache.

Her asking him to agree to 50-50 ownership is basically him getting 75% of the proceeds of the business (since he used his own 50% earlier). That’s actually very unfair to her and I think she’s very kind for agreeing to that. You want her to give away more because if she doesn’t appease his ego the marriage won’t last. Who wants that kind of life for themselves? And what kind of person thinks that’s okay? I’m utterly disgusted at the lot of you who see nothing wrong with that. You’re despicable.

For a mature man to not plan for his future speaks a lot about they kind of person he is. Basically he’s annoyed right now because she has refused to give him 100% of the proceeds of their hard work together.

In your demented minds, that’s what a woman deserves. 0% of the fruit of her labor in exchange for the title of Mrs?

In Godly marriage that I believe in, the woman is under the man, infact she must submit to the man. Submission is more than respect it's only below the word worship. Marriage is not a partnership par say because the man has the final say on all issues in the union. He is the head of the union.

The word husband literally means "Master" most ppl don't know dt.

The maker of marriage also gave us the manual for it and it is called holy Bible.

The holy Bible is not there to please any one it is the eternal and timeless word of God.

If you don't wanna submit to a man then don't marry, marriage is a place of submission to the will of your husband.

When a lady says she is looking for a husband what she is saying without knowing it is that she is looking for a Master

Natascha:
My Sister, this man aint no good. He is not even into u. He is into money and his parents. I will neva allow this man back into my life. Let him go stay with his parents, he mos build that house. Keep ur house in ur name and forget marriage. U dont need him and for sure as hell dont need a marriage! Its 2018, get over men trying to walk over u in da name of being the head wara wara. That is pute BSssss

See them, � gals

OgaInnocent:

Your story is missing many points. U did nt tell how the house was bearing your without the man of the house knowing. You lack respect and loyalty, for using solely your name in a house you are living with your husband, as if you don't know that your husband should be the head in everything. Now the chips are down, he is showing you why he is the man of the house. Don't boda changing the name again, before you it, another woman will be picking his calls wen u call. By then you will understand. Nonesense!

That’s the very 1st mistake the woman made. She secured the land in her name and this same house according to her was jointly built by both parties. The man knowing the property was in her name felt betrayed and she, the woman further told the man this that it’s her property.

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


MODIFIED For those viewing this, i have made some clarifications down to page (1),

U got to apologize to ur hubby for taking that acting initially without involving him. Go meet with him personally where ever he is and apologize to him. Then talk to him about joint ownership of the property. Invite in a lawyer to draft the agreement of joint ownership between u and ur hubby. But do not make d mistake of putting his name only. Don't always do a thing without involving ur hubby, when it backfire, u won't like it.

Heseessll. Quite a dicey situation. I wouldn't stay in a house built by a woman but I must say your husband is a chauvinist and has no sense of goodness in him.
I see two options. You can be magnanimous and do a joint ownership or rent another flat and Put up yours for rent. That's is if what you are saying is true.
If he doesn't pick up any of these options then he is a devil.
If I were him, I would be crossed finding out at that moment that I was not part of the ownership ( you stuck to your own plan, nothing wrong with that, but he should be aware from the onset)
I would request we move out to a rented apartment ( can't live in a woman's house cos I know how they talk,)
Or I will ask for a joint ownership With an agreement to refund a portion of the cost of building to you on instalments.
Just pray to God for solution

Bluffly:

Where are these kids coming from who find it difficult to comprehend

Where are these imbecilic morons, who find it difficult to state their opinion without insulting individuals who are exceedingly more intelligent than they could ever dream of, coming from? Be careful how you tread autistic one, you might get blown to smithereens.

Physika:


@Acidosis

God bless you for this.

This is exactly how people destroy their homes with half truths and half baked information.


Immediately I saw the thread, I knew she didn't build that house alone.

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

I don't trust him, maybe he want to bring in another woman

divinelove:


In Godly marriage that I believe in, the woman is under the man, infact she must submit to the man. Submission is more than respect it's only below the word worship. Marriage is not a partnership par say because the man has the final say on all issues in the union. He is the head of the union.

The word husband literally means "Master" most ppl don't know dt.

The maker of marriage also gave us the manual for it and it is called holy Bible

please tell them you cannot have 2 masters in the house

Eketem:
I am confused as to why you are begging him.

You both got paid from a business
He used his own share for his parents, you used your own to build a house now he got angry and decided to kick you out of your own house, you told him it wasn't possible.

He gets angry and moves out
Let him stay out, he is a wicked man that would have been happy to see you out on the streets with your kids begging him up and down.

I don't understand why you are now begging him.

I don't know why Nigerian women are so desperate to keep wicked men

i concur, you are belittling yourself by begging him. Let's call a spade a spade, if according to you the funds were provided by yourself to acquire the house, then nothing is wrong with the house being in your name. Hold your ground , be firm and be respectful to him and his family, but explain to him the reason why the house is in your name. It does not mean because you answer his name you should suck up to him.

sacramento1212:


The house was jointly built. I guess ONLY the land was secured in the Wife’s name.

Same thing I have been saying.


The OP needs to apologize to her man asap.

Most of the comments on the first page will destroy her home.

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

don't do it. if he cannot allow it be in both of you's name,better keep your house in your name. never change ownership fully to his own name alone.