EmpresFIDEL:
it is very difficult.. I have been addicted to him for 5years. so the only thing that want to separate us on this earth is genotype. it's very painfull

We know,but if you ever marry and have SS children you will regret this decision..that is if your SS kids do not hate you for bringing them into this World to suffer so much..


. I have seen that happen personally..be guided and do the right thing.

It's not compulsory to have your own kids. You can simply go for an adoption

You are both potential wicked parents

Babe let him go......

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

if you can withstand the stress and trauma then go ahead

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

You better make the right decision that is leaving him. You'd regret when you start having SS children. He would definitely leave you by then

There's 25% chance that each child will tunrn out a SICKLER. Think am well o?

Can you personally live with sickle cell??

If No do the needful,
don't do to someone what you can't tolerate

Hmmm. Its painful letting go now but my dear, the pains of watching ur children suffer from ur mistake will be worse.

Don't put your future and the life of your unborn children in jeopardy because of emotions. Your children might not forgive you

The fault in ur genotype

fear of the unknown

Fear of what the future holds

Fear if you will find love again

You know what to do but tese fears are holding you back

Move on sister and I wish you the strength to do what must be done

Break up isn't the end of happiness

Been in your shoes before its quite painful but just had to let go today I'm happy I did the right thing my dear just let go don't put your generation in danger

You will have no choice but to separate. Listen to the voice of reason.

It's better you let go,. To avoid the stress and all,. But if you really love each other and can stand the stress and pressure that comes with it then You can get married,. The checking of the foetus is actually a good option,. And it's definitely not up to 400k,. Check At Luth,. Mushin, it was done by Sickle cell organisation,. So it was subsidized by the govt,.,. A friend did last year,.

Hmmmm breaking up is not an option? You better make it an option before you regret it along the way. Terrible regrets. You are in and out of the hospital on a daily basics. You better start to move on from him. You seem not to understand what you are getting into. Until you bury three kids after suffering your eyes will open. You think is a small thing abi.
Go ahead if you wish to.
If the child actually survives after several hospital days . It never ends oo. Treatment continues oo.

That's the first question I ask my female friends, once you are AS I move ahead.

Please don't let anyone deceive you. JUST break up if not you will regret in the future.
Your whole life savings will finish on medical bills that is if your children's immune system is even strong enough.
In some cases children don't live up to 5 years they just keep dying as they come

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Go for PGD , AMNIOCENTESIS OR or other pre birth diagnosis but like someone said , very expensive.

EmpresFIDEL:
it is very difficult.. I have been addicted to him for 5years. so the only thing that want to separate us on this earth is genotype. it's very painfull

You are selfish. You don't even think about the possible harm you will cause your children. You are addicted to him indeed!

no problem OK....u guys should go ahead

Amarabae:
my dear, listen to me.
If you marry him, both of you are AS,
That means that every child you bear has a 25% chance of being an SS.
It is a medical fact.
So are you guys ready for the gamble ?
What if you give birth to an SS?
Can you handle the economical, physical ,mental and emotional stress that comes with managing an SS child?
The best advice I will give you is to let the guy go!
Remember his family is now against the relationship, if both of you prove stubborn and get married and have an SS child, you will not get the support of the family.
The blame brigade will come out for you.
Let the guy go.
It's painful to say goodbye, I understand
Just let him go!
Unless you both will marry and adopt children without having any biological child,
I doubt it.
Let him go.
I repeat let him go

So you are still here,you this joy killer are you married?
Five years ago I received same advice from people like you,today my first daughter is two years with AA genotype, Christabel is seven months kicking well....what is wrong with you people,you put your trust in doctors more than God yet on Sunday you dress like say na u holy pass without put God first.
Which church do you even attend cos I am suspecting to be all this hail Mary that don't believed in God but Mary,I am very angry with you for given her that kind of advice.



Faith work wonders even today.
Iam a living testimony, I and my wife are As.
100-25=75.

And you can also check how strong the S in your genotype is, compared to the A,. If the A is stronger. You have a good chance of giving birth to a healthy baby.,. But if it's not,. Then you know the rest,. The world is so developed Now,. With research and all,. If you bring an SS into this world,. And you have all this at ur disposal,. It's sad,.

Netanyahu1:


Go for PGD , AMNIOCENTESIS OR or other pre birth diagnosis but like someone said , very expensive.

Another sound advice. @EmpresFIDEL

Ignore those naysayers when there is a will, there is always a way.

However, I will re-echo it, don't birth a child with SS its a would be a life of pain for all involved.

I pity the unfortunate child that will suffer the bitter consequence of your love by inheriting the sickle cell, which is very likely.

When sentiment override rationality.

am presently doing my paediatric posting, and have seen lots of ss infants, and I consider it a crime to bring a ss child into the world wen u cld have avoided it, as a doctor I wldnt advice u to go on, medically it's not right, u wldnt want to allow ur child go tru the stress and pain, I also understand letting go is not an easy tin to do.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Breaking up now will be the least pain you can have compared to having one or 2 SS kids later...You have no idea what kind of stress that comes with having SS child or children.

Babe please forget about the relationship and move on
What you will pass through if you continue can not be compared with the break up

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EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Are yhu a believer? I don't know yhur relationship wth Christ but one thin I must tell yhu is, God is a miracle God.

He changes even SS to AA. If yhu can believe Him for that then it is possible for yhu too.


But until something happens, abeg dearie sister, don't embark on dat journey. The pain that comes with it surpasses all d sweetness yhu feel right now.


And for 5years, are yhu jxt getting to know abt it or hav simply ignored it all along? Habba.



Please, yhu need to thnk beyond o

EmpresFIDEL:
please move my post to front page.. please I need advice.

You don't consider breaking up, but medical it's advised you both don't marry not to bring in a child to this world that will suffer from the mistakes of the parents.. It's not easy we know but safe your children the pain, if you had a family or close friend who is a sickle cell child believe you will understand better