EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Okay...but you are ready to live with the guilt of your stubborness today when you give birth to ss children and they start surfering complications? It seems unfair but there is nothing reasonable you can do about it for now. Save your kids from trouble while you can.

I just lost an SS nephew that was a like a child to me about a month ago and a friend last year that was SS too. I was with my nephew when he died and I will advise you don't do it because this thing can be hard. It will wear you out except you are ready to abort when discovered during early stage of pregnancy. It will burn you out

Just five years dating? And you think breaking up isn't an option?... Lol.
What were you looking at before the whole thing got so serious..

Don't let me sugar coat my word.. Marry him and you will regret it all your life.. You will pray to the extend that you will doubt the existence of God.
Even if you re super rich, you will still be troubled...

Let him go.

How many people actually ends up marrying who they really loved??

When you stay awake at night battling crisis you'll have gall in your mouth and the bitterness will not be for the sick child...but your spouse.

When a mosquito bite could mean life and death to an innocent baby and blood transfusion is common place your eye go clear.

When...make I stop here...but you should stop this nonsense already. If you can't think beyond your nose and are only concerned about yourselves and don't care about your unborn child then you are not fit to be a mother.

Jaqenhghar:

My dear read up on google. There are options though expensive. If most people thought like Niggerians we wont have airplanes and other inventions. We will be busy saying its impossible

Nobody is saying it is impossible. People here are asking 1) Does she have the strength to look for solutions? 2) Does she have the money? 3) Is going after this worth it? 4) What if her husband gets tired and leaves her? 4) Is any procedure 100% sure or is there still a risk of having ss kids? These are not stupid questions.

Empresfidel

You can do artificial insemination.

Get a sperm donor, an AA person, you get pregnant and deliver, live happily ever after.

If you're cool with that anyway

Listen- it is better to break it off now than later Love is overrated and it us NOT enough to sustain your marriage.
I see all sorts of advises here about checking the foetus before birth, pray tell how many pregnancies will you terminate before you find a suitable one?
Trust me, it is not worth it..

EmpresFIDEL:
thank you very much

You are ready to abort multiple times? You are a pig sha. Nope. Pig get respect for im own

better breakup ooo,don't allow your brain chemicals to make your life miserable in future

You could consider Artificial Insemination( If you have money) .

Fertilization of egg and sperm is done in the lab and at that point you determine the Genotype.

Your eggs are harvested and can be frozen too and used when you want


The other procedure whereby you conceive Naturally and check the genotype of the foetus could involve passing a probe into the pregnant womb to get a sample. This pocedure could cause abortion even if the fetus is fine and if not then you could abort.

Do yyou really want to go through that?

Money answereth many things

charliboy654:
If u have the money go ahead. There are solution to these problems but requires alot of cash.

There are no practical solutions. It is a very irresponsible act to attempt to bring a child into this world that is in inherent risk by default. The physical trauma alone should be enough dissuation. But typically I do expect a Nigerian to go ahead as we are selfish and shallow thinkers. And the lady in question is talking about love as if she knows what love is.

The first proof of love is sacrifice. Ones wilĺingness to let go in the process of giving. True love will not allow her to continue with certain consequences. That rather seems to me like inconsideration and selfishness.

U only truly know u loved each other when you let go....#lifelessons#

The Truth, it's a difficult suitation for both of you, u have 25% chance of getting SS as each time you want to born. Meanwhile, God by your side you might not have any SS. If you want to risk this, just know that it requires a lot of resources and attention when your kid(s) turns out to be SS.


Good luck

EmpresFIDEL:
it is very difficult.. I have been addicted to him for 5years. so the only thing that want to separate us on this earth is genotype. it's very painfull

I understand your pain, I was once in the same position. It's very painful but the pain would be more if you end up giving birth to an SS child, what can you possible tell your child when he or she asks you why you decided to bring him/ her into this world to suffer knowing fully well that's what he/ she will pass through as SS. As a mother, how will you feel when you see your child passing through pains all because you were so much in love that you couldn't think right? Believe me, that would be a lot more painful than the pains you are feeling right now.

Here comes in the miracle worker...Jesus Christ..you and the guy should seek his face to change your genotype from AS to AA ...nothing too hard for him to do

EmpresFIDEL:
it is very difficult.. I have been addicted to him for 5years. so the only thing that want to separate us on this earth is genotype. it's very painfull

somebody should post the pics of an as child to reset her Brain, it is painful but such is life!

[/color][color=#770077][b][/b]its not easy dear, I sincerely understand how you feel but the hard truth is to let go. It's better this the only fair option here though hard. Please

EmpresFIDEL:
it is very difficult.. I have been addicted to him for 5years. so the only thing that want to separate us on this earth is genotype. it's very painfull

My dear, at what point did you two get to know your genotypes? A year into the affair or after five years? That was the time you should have called it quit. I tell you, the emotional depression of seeing and watching your child/children in pain, helplessly, can you bear that? The feeling that this child will eventually die one day....hmm.. Pls stop right now and move on. Somebody said you can check the foetus genotype and abort, lol, how many times are you sure you're gonna be pregnant? I had/have ss siblings, not palatable. I've been in hospital wards with SS patients, I joined the parents in crying. One young lad would ask his dad, 'Dad, why am I always sick? Does God hate me? What did I do to deserve this?' Etc. Think twice pls, and after that, think twice again and again. May God guide you.

unpredictedone:


who says it can't be treated to it's end, this genotype stuff is just been overrated due to ignorance, I know a lot of persons who have being treated with just foods. all she/they need is to be place on diet, change of lifestyle and watch wonders of God. I'm a witness!

I NO DEH FEAR ANYTHING "GENOTYPE" IT'S ALL IGNORANCE IT CAN BE TREATED TRUST ME.

ALL YOU NEED JUST VISIT THIS FOR YOURSELF https://www.nicholedietaryconsultancy.com/

Thank you

You guys are likely to have ss kids and raising ss kids no be moi moi, go and hear the experiences of parents of ss kids, then your brain will reset. I lost a cousin last year. She was 18. They hardly survive.

ologun01:


You don't need to break up..

Read more on

1. PGD ( Prenatal pregnancy test)CVS

The foetus is tested about 10 weeks and if it's SS( you can decide to keep it or do as you wish) it's don at the sickle cell centre at idi-araba @ 280k as at Febuary this year, you can go there to find out more.

2. IVF + PGD

This is more expensive as it's an IVF procedure plus test done on the fertlized egg before implantation and might cost upward 2m depending on the centre you decide to do it.

Basically..you eggs are retrieved during ovulation and the husbands sperm is used to fertilize the eggs , afterwards the eggs are tested ( bare in mind during IVF , more than 10 eggs can be retrieved). After ferlization and eggs tested..you can discard the SS ones and request the AS or AA ones to be implanted back into you ( you can decide to have twins this way) and or freeze the remaining eggs( if you are lucky to have many that are AS or AA) so next time..you only come for implantation

Mind you this procedure cost alot( budget 2m and above for this)

And if you do none of the above and have a SS child

Then you next option is bone marrow transfer ( this is still but a procedure already done at uniben and sickle cell centre @ idi araba planning to start soon)

Above are your options medically.

If you both love each other as you proclaimed..those above are the available options now and will involve sacrifice.

All the the best and Good luck

This is the kind of information needed not the rush to condemn and encourage a breakup. So many medical solutions today used be unimaginable years ago, so there have been improvements. Thanks again for the information

delishpot: Please if his family say NO do not force it o. Tomorrow if you have SS and you start running up and down he will get tired and blame you for the whole problem your sturboness brought to him. It is financially, mentally and physically exhausting. Please ask anyone who has had a sick child. Esp one who falls sick frequently even small cough and carthar that lasts for two weeks sends parents into worry frenzy talkless of SS. Think am well abeg.

@EmpresFidel, whatever you do, the emboldened words are gold.
Btw, do you really want to be aborting kids till you get the 'right' genotype? They'd probably not tell you that yet, but that abortion routine is in itself frustrating and emotionally draining.

Except perhaps you have the funds for an IVF though. God be with you.

eddyboii:
Here comes in the miracle worker...Jesus Christ..you and the guy should seek his face to change your genotype from AS to AA ...nothing too hard for him to do

LOL!! LOL!! Like my husband would say, there're many things God can do, but there are a lot he won't do. Change genotype you say? LOL!!

blackedwin:
My Dear,
I was in your shoes 10yrs ago, 4 kids (2AS) & (2AA).
Truth is, it ain’t easy but God saw us through.

Wish you best of luck and God’s guidance

God bless you, I claim similar miracle in my life.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

just Google "hbss crisis and complications" thank me later

I bliv every succesfull marriage is base on having kids that will makes a happy family.
Assuming u have the money to check the foetus genotype and it appeared SS in a 3 consecutive time and u abort all , don't u think that your husband will be forced by his family to marry another woman of diff genotype?
Listen to me u have to widen ur thought here, think beyound the horizone cause ur healthy children are ur future in ur marriage and nt that guy.
Just let him go.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

A young boy of 14 years who is a sickler once came to my office and told me how he hated his parents for bringing him into this world to suffer so much pain. He has battled every symtom that comes with being a sickler.

He died 2 years later. It was really heart-wrenching.

Don't be selfish, consider the lives of your potential offsprings and let go.

mabelly:


People abort for health complications so is this one. SS is a health issue and complication.

If my memory serves me right, biology states that SS genotype doesn't come in successions. That is If the first is SS the next can't be SS.

Don't know if I am 100% correct with this but science has made life a whole lot easier.

Please leave theory. I know many families regretting this same decision you want her to go ahead with

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

u won't suffer d consequences of ur foolishness but ur unborn children will if u continue with d relationship

eddyboii:
Here comes in the miracle worker...Jesus Christ..you and the guy should seek his face to change your genotype from AS to AA ...nothing too hard for him to do

God does not attend to deliberate mistakes made in rebellion. And rebellion is defined as having all the information and yet making a bad decision. For this the bible has said on every matter, 'get wisdom'. It is simply not wise to continue with such a marraige and if you do you will suffer inspite.... or despite God. This kind of attitude is what causes the world to ask, 'where is your God', when all manner of storms come. Most troubles today in the kingdom and with His children are just self inflicted: the failure of wisdom or the abundance of ignorance or the intransigence of rebellion.

Nnamdiojukwu:
So you are still here,you this joy killer are you married?
Five years ago I received same advice from people like you,today my first daughter is two years with AA genotype, Christabel is seven months kicking well....what is wrong with you people,you put your trust in doctors more than God yet on Sunday you dress like say na u holy pass without put God first.
Which church do you even attend cos I am suspecting to be all this hail Mary that don't believed in God but Mary,I am very angry with you for given her that kind of advice.



Faith work wonders even today.
Iam a living testimony, I and my wife are As.
100-25=75.

. Oga keep quiet and face reality. Leave God and hail Mary out of this. It is an advice so don't bring your stupid talk here. Are you better than people that call hail Mary? Is your family richer than those that call hail Mary? Are you holier than them? How many people that are calling hail Mary that you are feeding or are paying salary? You call yourself a christian and criticizing others. She is giving her advice based on medical aspect. Suspecting to be hail Mary that doesn't believe me God...it's only you that believe in God abi? Face the topic and leave religion out of this. If you don't have any advice for the person better keep quiet and if you have you give the person that need it without bringing religion here......

Listen to me my sister, l was once in your shoes l have a friend that her elder brother had a fiancé they had the same issue but later we all let go. My advise for you is to go for a blood test when you get a future guy. Don't risk your future.