₦airaland Forum

bezimo:
Lol....Me with problem..hahaha..I dont have one..typical hoeing ass naija girl..

HauteReel:
Chai Pocohantas!!! What is this? He wants to do what?! You must have been behaving badly to attract such a comment. Maybe you've been deliberately jiggling your a** while walking. Daddy and Mummy must hear this.

Gidilagoon:
Thank you so much bro, I appreciate.. I believe everyone deserves a second chance but my fear is that, what if she bumped into one of her old lovers later in the future since I know she has dated many guys in the past, and she’s too emotional. I hope they won’t end up banging again after brain washing her?
One part of my heart is telling me to forgive her and counsel her ,while other side is telling me, she might do the same thing after I finally put a ring on her

Gidilagoon:
Thank you so much bro, I appreciate.. I believe everyone deserves a second chance but my fear is that, what if she bumped into one of her old lovers later in the future since I know she has dated many guys in the past, and she’s too emotional. I hope they won’t end up banging again after brain washing her?
One part of my heart is telling me to forgive her and counsel her ,while other side is telling me, she might do the same thing after I finally put a ring on her

yinkhar:
I can see your whole generation is a hoe. how dare you call me a hoe. I swear you just messed with the wrong girl cos I never insulted you and you had the gut to type rubbish to me. you think I'm part of the idiots begging you to Bleep them with your dirty stingy rainforest manhood? If you can take your stupid time to check my profile, I don't comment like a senseless fool you are. Never in your life should you quote me to say rubbish because if you do, you will see that all naija girls are not the same. if you think you can hide behind your phone and type nonsense to people, oloshi
To even make it worse, he might be a boy that just finished secondary school, I swear seun needs to start asking for birth cert before people can comment here

1. Slapping a woman shows immaturity.
2. As long as she is not yet married to you, she is not your wife hence she has the right to meet other suitors. If you want her to be faithful then you should pay her bride price.
3. The fact that she begs means she is a good girl trust me any girl who is not a virgin has been bleeped so stop getting upset cos the pusssy remains intact you can always take as much as you want. No one is uprooting it.
4. Call her back and sit her down and plan a marriage now. Street is military, so learn to be a soldier.

5. Nude pictures or not, Kim Kardasian makes millions from bring naked. Learn to use your weaknesses

pocohantas:
This is how these young men slap now o. Maybe it is all the drugs in circulation, they seem to be more aggressive. I have always been wary of them, but currently...I am tilting towards paranoia. I relate with them very carefully

Kpac:
I am coming out of my comment retirement to honestly give you an advice you so much seek for.

Foremost on my advice is that you should kindly henceforth not seek a life-saving, destiny-shaping advice like the one above on a fast degrading forum like this which has also been occupied vigorously by an equally degrading different kinds of people, these days. Its like a deer going to the den of Lions to ask for advice on how to treat Mr Rabbit his neighbor. What kind of advice do you really think their brains can process?. Their minds are adequately corrupt, they have sawdust and carbide stuffed in the brains and the remaining part of the functional part has been eroded by codeine. Just so they don't win is why i am typing this, else you take a wrong advice that would affect your life, not theirs.

Lets move on from there, you have to realize that its getting more difficult for real guys to get ladies worthy of marriage these days, and its getting worse by the day. When a lady is on facebook, instagram, wechat, whatsapp, has a badoo profile, at the same time on twitter, active on nairaland, etc, it would take a real huge grace of God to have such lady not get Vulnerable and have date so many guys as you have pointed out about your fiancee. If this didn't happen now, it would have still happened after your wedding and could turn so ugly then. I am a realist and i strictly don't deceive myself. With what you have said about your fiancee, she did a terrible mistake (which she wouldn't have regretted if you have not caught her) but she quickly followed it with sincere steps of remorse, regret and remission. She deleted her facebook account and changed her number. Whew ! Thats a huge one. Most of the ladies on this forum giving you wrong advice would NEVER changed their phone number for any man. Your fiancee did this and that shows a lot of sacrifice for a lady in this generation.

She has engaged her aunt and maybe others, and that requires taking in some great shame to have done that. If she never wanted you and loved you, she would have used that 3 Italian slaps you gave her and the German dragging her out of your house as her great Alibi to make it look like you also a devil yourself. But she did not. Despite your embarrassing shortcoming, which you need to work on yourself, she has not stopped at anything (so far) to do anything she thinks could help you decide to forgive her.

You are not a saint either, we have had many ladies too who asked for advice if they should go on to marry a guy who gave them 3 Japanese slaps and dragged them from his house Fashola-style. Though what you discovered of your beloved fiancee was heartbreaking but please, you also need to look inside the mirror and ask yourself if you really think you're matured enough to get married. You seem to have a long way to go with your temperament - which of course collapses a marriage even faster than adultery.

As for she dating many guys in the past, its unfortunate, but she actually trusted all those guys is why she dated them but they had nothing to offer her. The past is the past and should be left in the past. If you guys love each other so and very much and have decided to mutually live your lives with each other, then Behold, all things have become new. Dont get married to her and be taunting her with her past again. That singular act breaks a woman's heart harder than seeing their husband on their maid. A man has to have a big matured mind and a huge restraining mind to be a successful husband.

In a nut shell, its human to make mistakes and its human to forgive. Nigerians hate that word forgiveness and that's why our society has been rounding a no-progress circle for ages. You can even deduce that from our beloved Nigerian film, they would never forgive any evil doer in their films, If they cannot find any quicker and harsher death for that evil doer, who has even repented, the next scene you would see is that the person walks away after bitterly rolling on the floor and asking for forgiveness, then suddenly a car speed to him/her, hits him/her and the person dies instantly. That's when they can end that film. They cant even give the person a chance to get to the hospital before he / she dies. Never. So its in our culture to hate to forgive, but you have to forgive your fiancee because she has really done everything she could after that interesting discovery.

Finally, please ensure its not just Facebook she deletes. Try to call her your own self, in a calm voice (cos she would have probably gotten so afraid of you after those slaps and drags), ask her to come meet you, then do your manly talks to ask her to tell you everything she thinks you should know now before you find out at anytime in the future and it gets too late. I assure you that you would need to sincerely talk very well, long and convince her she can trust you whereas you should also be very very prepared to be matured enough to hear anything and immediately shove it to the past. When she has confessed everything, you guys should jointly make decisions that would not affect your marriage henceforth. So, if she has a secret badoo profile for example, or she even has a username on a nude website, you should both there and then delete them all and please take her back to start a new life.

I assure you, there are worse ones out there. The ones on this forum are even worse. If you were dating any of them, you would have been in jail now with that your temper cos you would have killed them and even hang their corpse.

Goodluck Bro.

franchasng:
as in, some guys get liver sha....how dare u slap my daughter and she tells me about it and you aren't sleeping at the nearest Police cell waiting to be transferred to Kirikiri....what nonsense

I stopped sympathizing with him when I read the part where he said he slapped her thrice, gosh....ladies de suffer for Naija guys hands sha, its well.

Now I see why ladies are clamoring for equal right. Its totally unfair to the poor girl no matter what she did. Maybe she was deceived by the American based man that he will marry her...and she fell for it cos most Nigerian ladies out of poverty and financial lack fall easily for guys living abroad just for the opportunity to travel out of this hell hole of a nation

Guys are to blame in all these....guys pressure ladies a lot....just because u have small money as a guy, you now see it as a right to be deceiving every girl in town with "I WANT TO MARRY YOU" and due to scarcity of able guys to marry, they fall for it and later u guys turn around and still call them hoes or whatever, its not fair.

We guys aren't saints o...in fact, some of the guys looking for faithful women are dogs that move around looking for anything in skirt to hump....some have had over 500 sex mates, sighs...life isn't fair to most women sha, its well

Fourwinds:
please can you reply me with that Okafor law...

I have seen it but I can't remember it again

NwaAmaikpe:
Okafor's Law of Congodynamics which states that once a Congo has been shined before (C1), it can always be shined (C∞ ) provided it was shined properly the previous times it was shined (P).
(C1 P = C∞)

pocohantas:
You need common sense more. If only it were sexually transmitted, I might oblige you. So, the world can have one less dunderhead to worry about.

Gidilagoon:
Pls house, I don’t know if am being stupid or not man enough but I just have to share this with you guys just for an advice.. it might be long as I really want to express myself pls.

I have been dating this girl going to 2years now and we are planning to settle down probably next year. I have known this girl for a very long time because we have dated before when I just got admitted to university but we ended after short period.

So After few years that we’av graduated, we met again and fortunately we were both still single ,so we decided to start dating again and this time we are more serious and planning for future, I realized she must have dated many guys when I left her because it was a long time ago, so I decided to change her phone number just to avoid any connection with any guy from her past since am planning my future with her now, but after awhile I noticed some of these guys still chat her on FB and Instagram and she replies, and one even sent her money and I was totally mad at her but later we resolved it.

So back to the main issue that just came up recently . I don’t know what took me to her Facebook profile and I decided to go through her messages, I noticed one of the guy she claimed to be her uncle was a man friend she has known from the past, this guy Is married with 2kids living in US. I noticed my girl sent her nude to him and they were having sex chat, so I acted like I didn’t see anything and I invited her to my house the next day and tell her what I saw, then she started crying, immediately I gave her 3 hot slap and asked her to leave my apartment but she wouldn’t leave but kept crying on the floor and said she’s ready to swear with death if such ever happened again, that she was just stupid.

Well I dragged her out of my house, and since then all her family from different places have been calling me pleading on her behalf except her Mom and Dad which she can’t tell about it. I noticed she has changed her phone number and delete her Facebook account after what happened, but I told her it’s already late when her aunty called me...

Honestly I still love her, because she’s the only girl I ever fell for but won’t I look stupid if I accept all the pleading and continue with her? And can such girl make a good wife? She’s too vulnerable, too emotional and she has dated a lot of guys in the past, so it scares the hell out of me to settle down with her, so that man no go die untimely death..

Her aunty said she wants to come and meet me this weekend but I told her I will get back to her. Do you think I should let her come?

Pls mature men in the house don’t abuse me, just advice your guy abeg.

donstan18:
One thing we should know is that until a lady is married, she's still single and a packaged prostitute.

She might be seen as a retired one once she's married. The earlier we get this the better for us.

Even a wise and intelligent Nigerian lady will agree with me that they are packaged prostitute parading as girlfriend.

OP, you shouldn't have slapped her, she's not your wife, you don't own her, you assumed she must have dated so many men, but you didn't tell us how many ladies you've dated.

Once your girlfriend cheat or misbehave. Kindly break up or forgive.

Don't hit a woman who is not your wife because she cheated. Don't even hit a woman atall, even if she's your wife.

Your action didn't make you a man, learn to act less and think smart when provoked by a woman.

Brite02:
@OP.

I maybe wrong....
From experience........
Old habit hardly dies........

mimimile93:
Even the married ones are prostitutes..

Any Nigerian lady born from the 80s whether married or single is a prostitute..

I respect the ones at the brothels.. They keep it real.

Not the ones disguised as girlfriends and wives..

Gidilagoon:
Pls house, I don’t know if am being stupid or not man enough but I just have to share this with you guys just for an advice.. it might be long as I really want to express myself pls.

I have been dating this girl going to 2years now and we are planning to settle down probably next year. I have known this girl for a very long time because we have dated before when I just got admitted to university but we ended after short period.

So After few years that we’av graduated, we met again and fortunately we were both still single ,so we decided to start dating again and this time we are more serious and planning for future, I realized she must have dated many guys when I left her because it was a long time ago, so I decided to change her phone number just to avoid any connection with any guy from her past since am planning my future with her now, but after awhile I noticed some of these guys still chat her on FB and Instagram and she replies, and one even sent her money and I was totally mad at her but later we resolved it.

So back to the main issue that just came up recently . I don’t know what took me to her Facebook profile and I decided to go through her messages, I noticed one of the guy she claimed to be her uncle was a man friend she has known from the past, this guy Is married with 2kids living in US. I noticed my girl sent her nude to him and they were having sex chat, so I acted like I didn’t see anything and I invited her to my house the next day and tell her what I saw, then she started crying, immediately I gave her 3 hot slap and asked her to leave my apartment but she wouldn’t leave but kept crying on the floor and said she’s ready to swear with death if such ever happened again, that she was just stupid.

Well I dragged her out of my house, and since then all her family from different places have been calling me pleading on her behalf except her Mom and Dad which she can’t tell about it. I noticed she has changed her phone number and delete her Facebook account after what happened, but I told her it’s already late when her aunty called me...

Honestly I still love her, because she’s the only girl I ever fell for but won’t I look stupid if I accept all the pleading and continue with her? And can such girl make a good wife? She’s too vulnerable, too emotional and she has dated a lot of guys in the past, so it scares the hell out of me to settle down with her, so that man no go die untimely death..

Her aunty said she wants to come and meet me this weekend but I told her I will get back to her. Do you think I should let her come?

Pls mature men in the house don’t abuse me, just advice your guy abeg.

ImaIma1:
For your peace of mind, let her go. If you were already snooping on her phone, Facebook, IG?, etc, when she there was no evidence against her, what do you think you will do now? Attach a bodyguard to her? You even made her change her phone number.

You had no right slapping her though. If she messed up, then you should have just ended the relationship without having to hit her.

You will always be suspicious of her even if she changes. So maybe yoi should move on and allow her do same.
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Ziggylady:
I like you already with tnis post..Truer words has not been spoken ...but the girl messed up,i dont know what it is with ladies and sending nudes..even to their boyfriends

franchasng:
my dear don't blame ladies for sending their nudes to their men, these men do use various cunning ways to coerce them into doing that. Pity a woman in love with a foolish man

I am a guy, we blame ladies a lot while claiming to be saints, not fair u know.

Happy sunday

pattybf:
U r too controlling for my liking. First u changed her phone Nos n slapped her, den went digging into her privavcy,. Unto what na, her husband or her father?

All ur comments is all abt her past, didn't u ve past too?

She will be digging her grave by marrying u. U r a tsunami, waiting to happen.

I suggest u let her go b4 u kill her for us, n look for ur angel elsewhere!