MarieSucre:


Even the Bible says the head shall be the tail and the master should be the slave. Jesus himself to gave a lesson on submission in leadership when he took a bowl of water and insisted on Washington, drying and oiling the feet of all his disciples, a task meant for house help/slaves during those bible times. A lot of marriages fail like the above one because men are more obsessed with seeking for submission without realising that they too have to wash the feet go their wives spiritually.

That is how Sapphira submitted to Ananias, where are they now? Being a husband is a good thing but it does not mean that your automatically intelligent or will have all the knowledge in the world or will never make any mistakes. Most of these men make worst mistakes in their work place, with their extended families, with the pen.is, with their health but in all these they want you to just submit to their decisions blindly haba!!! A man whether he is husband or a father is also human and prone to making mistakes.

MarieSucre:


Trust me even men talk anyhow too. Tue valve story and countless stories also prove that. We need to raise a generation of financially independent women but even that won't solve the problem.

emelda86:


What are you even saying, they did joint business it paid big time, they shared the money he used his on his family, she used hers to build a house on her name now after a very big misunderstanding, the man wants her to leave the house with her kids plz which sensible man does that

What would have transpired between the both of them that made him ask her to leave with their kids,,,that been said the wife now suggested for her to change the name to Mr/ Mrs her declined saying it should be in his name fully

Inoru ebe na'akor ajanbele n'puo gi ehn....

divinelove:


That's why you must be careful about who you choose to be your husband because after marriage you must submit to him till death do you part except you divorce him

MarieSucre:


"But obviously..." How do you know that the BUT OBVIOUSLY HAPPENED. It's you that is forming ideas from thin air claiming comprehension guru.

dafemnet:
This single old woman is even talking

MarieSucre:
Yes, she was wrong to do that. But maybe she has seen something we don't know...

MarieSucre:


As I said before, even men talk anyhow too. Case in point, the efulefu above.

proffemi:


Thin air? Please. That appears to be your forte.

I said "obviously" because I have, out of curiosity, followed op's visits here. She has been online half a dozen times, and stopped contributing when the questions got piercing. Clearly because they would not favor her narrative. Oh, how do I know she comes here? Because she obviously created this personae just for this thread.

Comprehension guru I am not, but you can certainly learn a thing or two about deductive reasoning from me.

proffemi:


Me sef I tire o. So many people projecting their own insecurities and resentment.
The irony is, as I have pointed out repeatedly, op keeps sneaking online (last seen 8.08 pm) but refuses to answer questions that will no doubt prove her guilt. All this while her advocates are going to town with all manner of conjectures.

I care about this case because so much wrong advice has been given for this woman to torpedo her own marriage.

proffemi:


You're demonstrating the full repertoire of annoying female tricks tonight, God bless you.

The one you did above is a classic: Refuse to admit wrongdoing, then, when faced with irrefutable evidence, make a quick and shallow attempt at an apology, but quickly follow up with a silly justification. Don't you and your ilk realize that this negates the "apology' or admission of guilt?

dafemnet:
u better look for a female partner asap cos u are getting old for any sensible man.

Biglittlelois:
But oga, why are you monitoring her online presence, you're stalking her already, maka why?

MarieSucre:


If you're the only son of your family, then your family is ruined.

sacramento1212:


You know people just jump into conclusion without critically analyzing the situation. No right thinking man will tolerate the nonsense the woman did. She’s initially at fault here.

kay9:


Exactly what I'm wondering.

iPopAlomo:




was this question answered...


Abeg wetin she do way the man wan pursue am...??

proffemi:


Because she came online and specifically asked for advice. She gave a version of the narrative that favored her.Then she clammed up just after the questions got tough. So I wondered if she'd simply left the thread, or had simply lost appetite to respond.

If she didn't want strangers asking questions, she could have stayed offline. Besides, she can simply say when the questions are too personal.

As to whether she has better things to do: why don't you read through her posts and decide if that sounds like someone for whom this is a side show?

bukatyne:


Not seen an answer o.

Cc: platony, obason22 and oklander

Biglittlelois:



Does it really matter if she is online or offline this thread is close to page 30, do you expect her to answer each and every questions asked she can choose to reply or not and she may also be online to read more opinions, why are you so worked up on that you are taking it personal, typical of a man!!!

YorubaEmir:



My advise.
Peace is golden.
At this point, everyone is hurt and needs his/her ego massaged.

Your biggest mistake was building the house with your Name without his knowledge. How does it sound to your ear? It means you never trusted your man enough right from the onset.

Now the deed has been done. Why not change it to his name for peace to reign? From the way you sound, he is a good man and whatever prompted him to ask you to leave must have been grievous.

Please don't let pride take away your man. Do not listen to those asking you for divorce. They will break your home.

offshoreking:
Unmarried people shouldn’t give advice to couples. Women always feel with pride and ego if they knew they have something you want. We didn’t know what cost the miss understanding, its only does that knows the details we give you cool and perfect advice. Believe me, you will never get any maturerd answer from this forum. The forum is filled with single men and woman, under 30. So i will advise you to meet some married couples and give them the full details of what happen. Remain bless.

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


MODIFIED For those viewing this, i have made some clarifications down to page (1),

MarieSucre:


Op if you take this advice you will homeless in under a year I am warning you. Next time oga odd not like the amount of salt you put in his food, combined with his sugar baby he is hiding outside He will tell you to get out and this time you're on your own.

paulynpen:


I will prefer to live under roof than steal her house! Yeye man, they believe in pulling down a woman to remain relevant. You don't remain relevant by pulling down your wife, you labour and plan.

Orgym:
I can see from the comments and contribution of people here, reasons why many marriages could not stand the test of time.

1. The woman could not give detail account of what transpired between them, that led to such demand from the husband. She only gave the result of an argument between them, even until now.

2. Both husband and wife agreed to spend their money on two projects even when she claimed the ownership of the money. Madam it is not your money.

3. A woman disrespect marriage institution by claiming to be the sole ownership of a family house even when she only pay for the land ( as she claimed). She failed to tell us how the house was built and some shallow minded people can only advice her to keep the document to herself.

4. The woman disrespect and betrayed the trust repose on her by her husband. The husband have not bothered, (based on trust), to check the document probably because of love and trust or because of personal reason unknown to us here.

5. Madam, I sense a selfish attitude in you.

6. There is a wide gap between you and your husband and that led to this secrete you kept to yourself.

However, I have to be frank here, sometime Nairaland can be helpful because of comments and contributions from some mature and positive minded people but it can also be devastation as some are shallow minded. I can't imagine why some here can give advice that can lead to total collapse of the marriage. A lot of advice have be given here, it is left for you to filter and chose the right one IF ONLY YOU WANTED TO FIX YOUR HOME. Remember, the pride of a RESPONSIBLE, woman is a stable and happy family.
Be humble to apologise to your husband, meet your marriage councillor, pray about it, then both of you should see a legal adviser (together after resolving personal differences). See you happy soon.

dafemnet:
This one that cannot have a boyfriend is talking, cheap olosho

EagleNest:


Please always read critically with understanding, not with emotion. And don't label one "crooked mind" just because u don't agree. Put your own opinion and we'll weigh it. If you have been in marriage for such a long time you will know the story is still incomplete even though the woman is at advantage at the moment.

Read the front page on some of her responses and know that there is still something unknown or untold.

I am looking at motives behind each decisions. I broke it down logically with questions which I expect the ops to answer and you just came thinking, I have asked her to surrender the title doc. Haba!

You don't build house overnight and I will repeat was the man in the know about whose name is in the land document before collabo in building. What percentage did he contribute? What did he do for his parents with his money? Treatment or building? These are critical questions to know the truth.

It's sad that the marriage is crashing simply due to poor communication and mistrust. What is the cause of the quarrel in the first place. Is it connected to the issue at hand. The best would be to share the title but we need to know the side of the man's story. why is he man refusing.