Skmoda360:

tell it to that nigga as per his relationship cuz I think it can never help.

LivingFree:
You sound overbearing, is this not an adult who has lived all her life governing herself? How do you come along and start telling her what to do? I think you should let people live their life how they see fit and if you have a problem with the way they're doing things you should recognise that it's your problem and you should reflect on how you can manage it or if it's a deal breaker for you then move on with you're life. Imagine telling someone to close the door when they're using the toilet. It's not everybody that closes the door when they're pissing and they live with their partner. I find it uncomfortable personally so I close my door instead of telling them what to do. You don't sound like a fun person to be around always correcting people upandan like you an eraser. Learn to chill and deal with your control issues.

LabUdegbe:

Pls explain this line...

pryme:


No, sometimes you have to make some people understand your life does not revolve around them.
For some strange reason women tend to respect men that are like this.

biafraisdead:

I will never do that, ever since I broke up from her my mind and is very much at peace with me, I don't wish to have anything to do with her again not even a call I went through hell for the 2 years we dated I really endured to see if she would change but she kept exhibiting same stupid characters.

Elliot2:
a girl u smash her pussay so good she calls u daddy,can not give u attitute d next minute like she is managing u.

Skmoda360:

you funny uhn...that's true to some extent but on a serious note ...most women are unpredictable.

Elliot2:
true! but,at least it gives u dat confidence dat she is not nagging cos u r less a man in bed.

aribasoye1:
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Have ones been in this shoes before, I love this girl from ogun too but her character and lifestyle puts me off from her, and this is the girl. I was planning of getting married to. one day I then asked myself, will I want my daughter to take after her, in my mind I know she's not the kind of mother I will like my children to take after, I prayed about it and took the bold step to QUIT, it really pained me and I cried cost this was the girl I know I love dearly and leaving her was so painful but was the best thing I need to do to live long. Bro since you have known her character and u ain't too cool or down with it and If u wanna live long, JUST QUIT. You are not loosing she is,

oyb:
All these people advising play this game, give timeout etc, need to understand that marriage is supposed to be for a lifetime. Once they are married, what options are available to manage her behaviour?

More to the point, this is the woman. The best that can happen is that she will temporarily suppress her character, maybe for a week, then back to status quo.

There are people who are made for women like that, but you aren't.

Raskasal:


What I meant was that in any area of the house we were supposed to have physical contacts, like pass by and hit each other, and touches, she avoids them

doskie:
thanks.

Raskasal:
This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all

biafraisdead:

Months back I was in a similar relationship before I finally call it a quit(I also intend to keep her as a wife, I have even introduced her to my people). I always apologise to her even while she was at fault and she will never admit been at fault or even say sorry, though she would stupidly tell me at times that her bad side is her being too proud and that she was working on her self to correct it. the day I ended the relationship was a day she insulted me and I just told her I won't call her again but she thought I was joking and since that day(over 7 months now) I haven't called her neither has she called me(because of pride). But I know she is seriously dieing now her problem is for her to call me and say 'I am sorry' she keeps calling me with unknown numbers and each time I pick she would end the call without saying anything but I know she is behind those calls, also she keeps stalking me on LinkedIn, she doesn't know LinkedIn sends u profile of people viewing ur profile. so my brother if u try to change her and she is not changing I would advise u to let her go; imagine what u would go through when u finally marry her, we shouldn't allow love to block our senses at times. any man or woman that can't say sorry is not worthy to be a husband or a wife. By the way where is she from cos we may be talking about the same girl.

Slimsly100:



The last part though!! Reminds of R-kelly's song, SAME GIRL

biafraisdead:

hi pretty.

Slimsly100:



Hi deadman..

biafraisdead:

why are u being rude?

Raskasal:

I understand. Ohh she's from Ogun state

Raskasal:
This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all

Prakash247:


My brother,you are not alone in this.i once experienced something like this but since you are currently looking for mature minds,I guess I will have to wait for them to b through.I don't have a mature mind,what I have is an experienced man...Are we together?

Prakash247:


My brother,you are not alone in this.i once experienced something like this but since you are currently looking for mature minds,I guess I will have to wait for them to b through.I don't have a mature mind,what I have is an experienced man...Are we together?