dazzlingd:

Of course it is so obvious the story was well baked.

She still have issues that her husband spent money on his dad...just imagine how evil women can be, so he shouldn't treat his dying father?

2. She went behind to use her name alone for the house they both built together meaning she already had the motive things may go wrong and a day like this will come.... She's betrayed her husband's trust, she's a traitor and a pessimist. Wicked world.

3. They had some misunderstandings,....it was obvious she was hiding some facts here, biko madam should tell us what misunderstanding they had and what caused it... Well she knew she was guilty so she made no mention of that. Worst of all she had to remind him the house belong to her alone! Betrayal!!!!!

4. She knows she was wrong all along then in the concluding part of her baked story she said and I quote "he is a good man".... No woman, you don't deserve such a good man, you can have the big house to yourself all alone and let the man move on and marry a new wife that will make him happy.

But my advise sha, you can still make things up and learn from the past and if not life's too short mhen... Move on.

She. She. She. She. She. Abeg let us hear word.

Amberon11:
Are you sure your mental health is in tact?
A property you contributed 85% to shouldn't be in your name?

When most men build homes do they include their wives names on the documents?

Pls do well to watch your choice of word.

A man doesn't necessarily need to include his wife's name in the documents of the family property, neither is a wife forbidden from owning properties but she must inform her husband if she was a good wife; this will enable the man know where he stand and he would determine whether or not he is comfortable with it.

As you can see the man isn't a poor man, she deceived him and he's has told her to keep the house (that's my man).

Vicyace:


Bros. You are right they both acted irresponsibly.

But can you tell your wife to get out of the house for you out of anger and expect her to feel cool and safe? - No disrespect-

If she told him to leave the house what would have been his response.?

Did he just wake up from the blues to tell her to get out of the house? Did you miss where she was using toxic language at him and insulting his family? Any woman that doesn't regard my parents and family is unfit to be my wife even if she has 100 kids from me. Any man would react same way under such situation, some will back it up with follow-up resetting slap.

I blame the man, he has been a pussyniggar from the onset that is why the situation got to this level.

PrecisionFx:



"" making the man realize how irrelevant he is to her.""


I guess u are talking about another story.

If the man is of value to the woman,she would've at least informed him of her intention of using just her name for the property,not letting him know shows that she's cunny and doesn't trust the man.The man is really pained because he felt betrayed.

chronique:
I don't know if it's that most of the people commenting on this thread have brain problem, or they are just being intentionally stupid. Women keep talking about how pride will not allow men marry a woman who is financially better off than them but it is issues like this that always causes that. The day I swore never to collect a dime from a woman, was the day an ex insulted me after we quarreled. She first told me "to hell with me and my mother" and that statement never left my head. She spent her money to come visit me after we'd argued back and forth over when she should come. I kept postponing her visit cos I didn't have enough on me but she said she didn't mind spending her cash. I eventually agreed but when we had issues, she brought up that issue to spite me and all attempts to return the money she spent failed. I swore never to collect a dime from a woman after that day. It was the first and last time it ever happened.

My point is this, women should know that things like this would always spite a man and bruise his ego and all men are wired like that. It's only a leech of a man who wouldn't see any problem with it. If the wife wasn't up to something, it would not have cost her anything to put the documents in both of them's name from the onset. That way, the man would not have been able to ever claim sole ownership of the house. More so, she didn't tell him from the onset that the land was bought in her name. If that had been done then, he would have known what to do. But to suddenly wake up one day to hear that the house you thought was meant for two of you, has only one person on the document, is unacceptable. I also won't accept it cos I'd be thinking of what would happen if my fortunes ever go bad and how I'd be treated in future. A wise woman builds her home but a foolish woman tears her home down.

It is funny how once the table turns, you guys come crying about ego. Which human being doesn't have ego? Which human doesn't want respect? Or you men convinced yourselves you want and deserve it more? Everyday there is a story of a woman who gets thrown out of her home. I don't see you typing epistle on how her ego got bruised. I don't see you come to tell us how women shouldn't collect money from men. You and your cohorts never talk about how made men treat their dependent wives.

Everyone should treat their spouses as they will love to be treated. Women learnt from the experiences of their mothers.

Yes,a wise woman builds her home.
What does a wise man do?

olubankemi:


I see no difference in their posts by interpretation. The only difference is the choice of words used.

She omitted the part of her insulting the husband in the presence of his cousin. That omission was deliberate

foyeks2001:
Mr Man, u r a selfish being ...u asked someone that has the lion share of the said landed property to pack out of her own house. God is watching you.

That is one problem with women! once they have been able to achieve a thing, the whole world will hear about it. Thank GOD the woman's family have heard about her actions and they are not pleased with her. I know that was the reason she is seeking for peace and advise. What is lion share? are they doing boy friend and girl friend relationship?

Hello men in the house, Do not do joint ventures with your wife in any thing that will bring money on the long run, rather encourage her to invest, guide and advise her until she is successful, than going into a joint venture with her. Ensure you make provisions for all your children needs so that she will not be using it against you! women, very funny creatures!

All of you going on about how the woman didn't give details.... She already said all of these same things in her own thread na. There's really not much difference in the two stories aside from the emotional blackmail evident in the man's story which still tallies with what the lady referred to as pride.

HEseesall:



When he told me he wants to use his share for his parents, we agreed my share would be used for get a property then we start to build from there and that's what i did, i expected he knows i would use my name cos i keep the documents, now he is saying he wants his own name only not jointly, who says that pls, at least i compromised for jointly,

HEseesall:



Yes it is not a small money, his dad had an ailment he had to be flown out, he used the remaining to complete their house, he's the first born, now they think i'm evil cos of all he did for them, it's really saddening

Money was shared evenly between husband and wife. Husband used his own to fly with his father abroad for treatment and build a house for his parents. Wife used all of hers for the house. He's now coming here to say how he used some of the remainder to complete the house. Lol how much was that remainder considering it had already been divided amongst other huge projects whereas the complete sum from the woman was on the building project. I think it takes only basic mathematics to know who owns the house.

Oga ExtraExtra you were joking when you said she should leave? Lol, she was joking too when she said the house is in her name

And if the house is jointly named you think she would raise her shoulders above you abi? But your own shoulders will be down when house built mainly in her money is named completely in ONLY your name especially as your family is now against her abi? So that anytime you and your family decide to 'jokingly' order her out of the house again, she'd be stranded as many women today are abi?

Bravo solution! You want to be transferred to another state and bring your children with you. Congratulations wise man. That would do great wonders to the well being of your children to grow without their mother because their father has to prove his manliness. You try.

All of you castigating the woman... Don't forget that Oga ExtraExtra himself stated that his wife married him from a wealthy home while he didn't have so much. Not once did he state that during their marriage his wife was bossy or disrespected him by virtue of her having more money. Rather the woman brought up a business idea for she and her husband in the spirit of team work to build their own empire. Today, the man owns other businesses by virtue of his woman's support. And someone here has the mind to say she was cheating. Oga ExtraExtra say the truth and let the devil be ashamed - you are the one cheating on your wife both in your dealings with her and by extramarital affairs. Don't come here to play victim.

Lol Oga ExtraExtra you are a clown! Please save us the drama on Nairaland and sort your family issues.

MarieSucre:


Neither did he. He should tell us all the things he is doing that is making his wife feel he is cheating. Abegii leave that matter that man is cheating and is looking for how to bring his side chick in. We don see this same pattern many times.

If the man was cheating, why is she so desperate to reconcile with a cheating husband?

Did you watch your choice of words when castigating the woman?

But a woman must include her husband's name right? You Nigerian men can't take half of what you dish out to women and that's a fact.

How did she deceive him, she did the right thing. So many women also contribute in building with their spouses but at the end they're swindled out of it.

This woman is a smart woman and deserves a trophy.

TonyeBarcanista:

Pls do well to watch your choice of word.

A man doesn't necessarily need to include his wife's name in the documents of the family property, neither is a wife forbidden from owning properties but she must inform her husband if she was a good wife; this will enable the man know where he stand and he would determine whether or not he is comfortable with it.

As you can see the man isn't a poor man, she deceived him and he's has told her to keep the house (that's my man).

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

The truth is you are the terrible person, selfish and very in considerate. Stop putting emotions that you don't want divorce. Did you read your conditions well? You want her to change the name on the property you jointly built to your name ONLY. Brother, can you help me with a word from the dictionary to qualify you. From what you said it shows the kind of attitude you have. You are not a man after God's heart. Why not put your sister in that position and see if you will agree to put the husband's name ONLY in the property. So supposing that was the case, wouldn't you have driven her out? You are probably saying you don't want to divorce cos of what you stand to lose. THE PAINFUL TRUTH IS ALWAYS BITTER. YOU BOTH WILL HAVE YOUR NAMES ON THE PROPERTY. OGA, ONLY YOUR NAME CANNOT BE ON THE PROPERTY FOR A HOUSE YOU JOINTLY BUILT. Going by your analysis, her contribution is even more. Go home and make peace and have both names on the property.

teemy:

Tonye, let's be honest here. Rubbed it in his face? He never would have known the truth if he did not make the unnecessary statement. For him now, it is a matter if being in charge of a house where he can say 'pack out this instant'. As men we are supposed to have pride but it is for the responsibility we carry and for him to have insisted on her changing name to his only is never a good sign but an example of a man wanting to defraud someone he is supposed to protect.

She got angry and said words she meant out if anger. She cannot use eraser to wipe them out now.
He got angry and said words he meant out of anger. He cannot now come and prepare zobo for anyone here he never meant it.

By the way, what is in the issue of adding name sef? If she had bought a car, should it be Mr and Mrs too? A store, Mr and Mrs or anything for that matter does not need those paparazzi just to make 'people' satisfied when she COMPLETELY had the choice of deciding what she could use her money for. People change and that is a fact of life. Her money her COMPLETE decision and she did one she could easily Will out without drama or recourse to anyone. The man here only stopped insisting in owning her property when the whole world had known he actually does not own it.

Tonye, even on a man owned alone property, is the man ever supposed to ask his weaker self to move out?

My brother, did she informs him from the onset that the property was in her name so as to enable the man appreciate the true situation of things in the family? Was she anticipating his death or divorce that made her act so craftily? Why would a wife be insulting parents and family of her husband or even a random person? I get disgusted seeing one insult his own parents not to talk of my parents.

And who wouldn't act the way the man acted under such situation? Personally, I would! She can return home when she is ready to respect my family!

Thank God the man isn't a poor man, she can have the entire property to herself (Even if he was a poor man I'd advice him to go look for smaller apartment)

makydebbie:



This is what happens when you bring family issues to nairaland for kids to settle.

Imagine this very stupid comment based on equally foolish assumptions. That's how you'll break someone's marriage with your irredeemable stupidity, thinking you're wise. Nonsense.

Kids?



Well.....

I'm not known for pretence and I don't

Your lots were blaming the Man without hearing his side of the story and Now You all are bothered about salvaging the marriage after finding out she was wrong?


If you had read my OPINION till the End, You'd see my thought about his decision and also NOTICE I wasnt in support of DIVORCE AND NEITHER WAS HE.


PS: I said MIGHT with capital letter for a reason ma'am

So u did not think that ur wife also was joking when she said she owned the house, but wants her to accept urs as a joke. U made it even worse coming here. Why can't u call ur wife and converse with her, telling a woman to pack out of ur house is no joke or an unintentional gesture.

You took ur own money and used it for the treatment of ur dad which isn't bad since u guys had agreed which by the way she can't go against in the first place else she will be tagged a wicked woman.

U now used the other part in finishing a house for them even though u guys don't have one, using only the remaining smaller amount for ur project. And u tell her to pack out of the house and want her to obey u and not fight to keep her home.

I pray u guys settle, cos u both did wrong towards each other. U didn't watch ur utterances towards each other. And that cousin of urs hope he only came for a visit? ( greet him for me ,cos he's the real mvp) olofofo, one day he will do this and loose his teeths.

chronique:
I don't know if it's that most of the people commenting on this thread have brain problem, or they are just being intentionally stupid. Women keep talking about how pride will not allow men marry a woman who is financially better off than them but it is issues like this that always causes that. The day I swore never to collect a dime from a woman, was the day an ex insulted me after we quarreled. She first told me "to hell with me and my mother" and that statement never left my head. She spent her money to come visit me after we'd argued back and forth over when she should come. I kept postponing her visit cos I didn't have enough on me but she said she didn't mind spending her cash. I eventually agreed but when we had issues, she brought up that issue to spite me and all attempts to return the money she spent failed. I swore never to collect a dime from a woman after that day. It was the first and last time it ever happened.

My point is this, women should know that things like this would always spite a man and bruise his ego and all men are wired like that. It's only a leech of a man who wouldn't see any problem with it. If the wife wasn't up to something, it would not have cost her anything to put the documents in both of them's name from the onset. That way, the man would not have been able to ever claim sole ownership of the house. More so, she didn't tell him from the onset that the land was bought in her name. If that had been done then, he would have known what to do. But to suddenly wake up one day to hear that the house you thought was meant for two of you, has only one person on the document, is unacceptable. I also won't accept it cos I'd be thinking of what would happen if my fortunes ever go bad and how I'd be treated in future. A wise woman builds her home but a foolish woman tears her home down.

Too bad you learnt the hard way

For me, I've always had that philosophy! Even if her father is Dangote, I rather soak my garri than collect from her

foyeks2001:
Mr Man, u r a selfish being ...u asked someone that has the lion share of the said landed property to pack out of her own house. God is watching you.

and you think he meant it? it was the anger speaking nothing serious. BTW she as know him Kong enough to know when he mean it.

NoToPile:




I hope this tradition extends to the wife also owning everything the husband owns?

For sure. 1 + 1 = 1 to those who know what they are doing.

Martinez19:
Op, who do you think you are deceiving? If, in the first place, you thought the house was jointly owned and that she owns a lion share of the house, why send her out of the house? If you felt that the house deserves to be jointly owned, why insist on your sole ownership of the house? You wife has begged you, from her post, she is sorry, she wants you back and is willing to give you a joint ownership of the house (which you deserve, at most) but you still put your marriage at risk and insist on sole ownership. Is forgiveness and the breakdown of your marriage less important than you sole ownership of the house?
Forget that nonsense talk of she betrayed you, act maturely and restore your marriage and get back your joint ownership of the house. Pride dey your body. You know say person get lion share of the house and you say you thought you had joint ownership of the house yet you sent her out? Oga na pride and wickedness be this. No matter how much she insulted you, you don't deserve sole ownership of the house.

Youngzedd:


For sure. 1 + 1 = 1 to those who know what they are doing.

Very good



@topic

They will most likely reconcile but my own ish is the inlaws matter, they might make life miserable for the woman since they now know 'it's not our sons' house. Then because of this incident she ll be tagged as a proud disrespectful woman, then the issue of 'it's because her family is rich' will begin to play out, resentment will come in etc etc. They most likely won't consider that she may not have shown any sign of disrespect all these years.
Before you know it ideas are being pumped into the OP's head and if he's not careful, extended family interference will be what might cause separation not necessarily this matter.

The only advise I have for you is that you should settle your issue with your wife amicably. In her epistle, she confessed you are a good man. From your story, you haven't painted her bad too. This thing is just one of those thing, try and reach a middle ground as you have put here.

MizMyColi:


How did the man treat her that sent her into such manic-like state.

Like I said, except she is just a straight up Jezebel...
Something must have made her feel so bad and burnt to speak in a degrading manner about the man's family.

Well, what do I know...

I don't know what will make me speak so condescendingly about my inlaws sha. There are lines you don't cross.

But for the man to use the "Leave my house" clapback.....

Hmmmmm, to your tent, oh Isreal.

It is a time bomb waiting to explode or implode when a woman has money whether from her connection, self efforts or family. You just tolerate until u can stand on ur own and bail. You don't know what u did wrong, just knowing she contributed to ur successes is a problem to her.

I think he is cheating. All his moves are that of one who wants to get his wide away from him.
1. She accuses u of cheating.. You refused to give her ASSURANCE but asked her to pack out.
2. She threw her bombshell and you moved out.
3. She shifted ground and offered to include your name but you insisted it must be only yours.
4. You now initiate transfer request from your state away from her.

Oga, talk true. You know who is doing you. Hope that one will build a house with her money and put it in your name.Rubbish..

TonyeBarcanista:

Pls do well to watch your choice of word.

A man doesn't necessarily need to include his wife's name in the documents of the family property neither is a wife forbidden from owning properties but she must inform her husband if she was a good wife; this will enable the man know where he stand and he would determine whether or not he is comfortable with it.

As you can see the man isn't a poor man, she deceived him and he's has told her to keep the house (that's my man).

Why is it not necessary to include the wife's name in documents of family property

Why does her owning or not owning a property a determinant factor for where a MAN stands?

Why won't he be comfortable with it?

Let's assume he's not comfortable with it wifey wont/cant acquire a property right?


Will appreciate your response, trying to get how some Nigerian men think. Thank you.

ikennaf1:


Hi,,, Your signature... do you have a PDF version of the book?

I will try to see if I can find it.

Bros I know how pained one can be in this scenario but please tread with caution. ...one true Mark of a real man is managing our emotions and not making rash decisions .

one thing you should not discount is that even in her lopsided story she did not forget to state that YOU ARE A GOOD MAN.


When marriage happens for couples from families with different financial status ...it takes time and hard work for both parties to agree on extended family related commitments....it becomes more difficult when the richer family is the bride's

I will subscribe the documents be changed to carry both of your names but it should not be based on a do-or-die basis .

please for the sake of your children tread softly ...those of us who are from broken homes don't wish same for even our enemies .

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

u decided to use ur part of the profit to send ur parents abroad for treatment she agreed,did she also agree with ur decision to build them house from same proceed? Ok let's assume yes,so u watch her purchased the land,started laying foundation, when the house was almost completed you came with ur left over peanut yo support, so you want to claim ownership Abi?ok you sent her packing out of the house over little argument,less I forget you didn't mean it lol.. What a joke of a man you are..ur wife deserve a real man that will really appreciate her beautiful personality. You're not a MAN yet,try grow up ok?

All I see is a fucking greedy Nigerian man and only the greedy ones like you will support you. The woman did the right thing. If the woman had spent the money on other things, there will be no house. So, the woman owns the house, you can go and build your own house and have your name on your house. Let her return the money that you contributed. That house is her investment, she can do whatever she wants to do with her house. Women suffer a lot in Nigeria, both from greedy husband and from wicked in-laws.

May God save us from this unfair society. Amen.

Mark 10:7
[7]For this reason a man shall leave [behind] his father and his mother and be joined to his wife and cleave closely to her permanently,


Mark 10:8
[8]And the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh.

There is no two in Marriage. There is no me, I, mine etc it's we, us.

This is the beginning of your problem. You should find a way to reconcile with your wife stop listening to outsiders who doesn't even know what it means to be married.

You reason like a child and as such in no position to comment. when people are angry a lot of words they dont mean comes up but at the time the woman used her name only there was no apparent trouble meaning she's is deceitful. the issue the man has is the deceit which can be attributed to she doesnt really love the man, thats the issue the man has with her, its not about the property hence he wouldnt have so easily let go

Notatribalist:
u decided to use ur part of the profit to send ur parents abroad for treatment she agreed,did she also agree with ur decision to build them house from same proceed? Ok let's assume yes,so u watch her purchased the land,started laying foundation, when the house was almost completed you came with ur left over peanut yo support, so you want to claim ownership Abi?ok you sent her packing out of the house over little argument,less I forget you didn't mean it lol.. What a joke of a man you are..ur wife deserve a real man that will really appreciate her beautiful personality. You're not a MAN yet,try grow up ok?

spongeisback:
It's only a wicked person that would support him. The wife even tried to cover him up and he came to disgrace himself. How can you send your wife packing because of an argument

your father is a bastard your mother is a prostitute

[quote author=Acidosis post=69564915]

You're wrong, the idea of having "my house" and "your house" in a so called marriage fast tracked the separation. The more you have things in common with your spouse (includes joint investments, businesses, love, kids, sex, even eating together), the more difficult it is to separate. Marriage is all about togetherness, marriage has its own principles.[/quote that's a wise post. Very wise]

If you are in the woman's position you would have realised what she has done. Now she has to live with the consequence of her action. All of you comparing the liberties of a man with that of a woman are not realistic. Men and women do not have the same liberties even in a strong feminist society

RealTreas:
All I see is a fucking greedy Nigerian man and only the greedy ones like you will support you. The woman did the right thing. If the woman had spent the money on other things, there will be no house. So, the woman owns the house, you can go and build your own house and have your name on your house. Let her return the money that you contributed. That house is her investment, she can do whatever she wants to do with her house.