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SexyDenzel:
WTF! a lot of people?! why are they doing that?

otipoju:
No be everything be fight. Take it easy. I cant really blame him for his naivety. This man wanted to build a life with the woman in question but she took advantage of him.

If you have not been there you may not understand.

lefulefu:
guy when i was applying in one canadian university i saw their tuition fee. It was 14,700 dollars or so for a year in a medical programme. Dat one no be small money if u convert am to naira na. Now imagine u were fortunate to get admitted and ur parents were paying such an enormous sum...now would u be so dumb and invite a woman u barely know to camp with u?. Anything problem dat comes out of the issue should be blamed on the op. Ur parents send u to canada for one thing ...to get dat degree but u dey camp woman for ur pad and dey work overtime to feed her lazy azz. Wat such of juju dey do dis one?

Nina4u:
In order to understand her you got to understand were shes comming from ...does she have kids? Here in america black african americans make babies and live off of the goverment ..they dont like to work and think the society owes them a living ...not all but majority ... Unlike African people that are very educated and hard working ...btw a visa doesnt cost 3500 dollar ..it cost about 600 ..ur beeing taking advantaged off ..send her back ..learn move on ... An oyibo would never treat u that way

Mobilia:
Let me see if I can speak a little bit of Pidgin here:
Are you the OP? I don't need to speak for myself...I asked a question and if the OP decides to answer, then he will.
Abeg sir, please do not tell me to "shut up" biko, because I won't. Take una dey shakara elsewhere. I no dey want wahala with you.
Thanks and have a good night!

Mobilia:
Let me see if I can speak a little bit of Pidgin here:
Are you the OP? I don't need to speak for myself...I asked a question and if the OP decides to answer, then he will.
Abeg sir, please do not tell me to "shut up" biko, because I won't. Take una dey shakara elsewhere. I no dey want wahala with you.
Thanks and have a good night!

khiaa:
I'm black American and this is the only fair response as of yet, no prejudices or judgments. Kudos to you. Common sense with a fair approach. The OP is lying, there are no Visa's and fees to pay for an American to enter Canada, the U.S. and Canada share the same borderline all we need is our Identification card. I live in California which shares the same borderline with Mexico, since when do I need a passport and Visa to enter there?

FisifunKododada:
You will not stereotype YET you are calling her akata. Do you even know the meaning of akata?

CyberWolf:
Because the girl will provoke him to the extent he can’t take it anymore, then he will beat her up mercilessly, this will lead to his arrest and charge for domestic violence/abuse( Whichever way they puts it) and we all know how that normally works ends...

LonelyHeart627:
Your Fiancee did not use you but you are the cause of your problem. Before I proceed with my question, Please when was the last time you did medical checkup? I am not 100.00% sure that you are mentally stable based on what you wrote above.

Ogalanyaidi:
Hello Nairalanders.

Seriously I feel I've been used and will need your advice. I need to be told the truth.

I am a Nigerian living and studying in Canada. I've been here for 2years. I was introduced to this black American lady, we exchanged calls, texts and emails for about 4 months before I arranged for her to meet me in canada. She relocated from US and we've been living together for 10 months now. Before her arrival, I helped her secure a job while she was still offshore, I got her a car, got a befitting apartment. Yes I paid her flight ticket to Canada paid for her visa fee, international passport because until that time, she was a first time traveler. An action I regret so bad. No doubt she cooks for me, does all domestic chores by herself above all, she is someone of same faith (Christianity)

My thought was that her coming was gonna make things easier for me as we'll both work to build our life's together. I also thought that she being an American might provide me the opportunity of having my American dreams but the reverse is the case. For 8months I paid the rent and bills myself as she was very reluctant to work but could sit for hours playing play station 4. I always reminded her of the need to work so as to help me but she would counter me saying ' I don't need help' because she feels that I make alot from my job. I had bad grade in school last semester because I was skipping classes cus I needed to work twice harder. This has created a breach in my visa condition because I'm only entitled to work 20hours a week during academic sessions.

To gain employment here we need certifications or reasonable years of experience. This has pushed few of us to embellish our resume as we claim years of experience we never had in the industry just to get the job. My fiancee insisted that she will not embellish her resume to land a job as it contravenes her morals. My parents, friends and associates waded in but she stood her ground and this has rendered her financially incapacitated and has pushed the responsibilities on me. Many times we ended up fighting, quarrelling and trust me when I say she hit me so hard and few times she had inflicted injuries on me. Her visa doesn't have job limitations because she's allowed to work unlimited unlike me who is a student. She's been here for 10 months and can't boast of having $1000 while many female students pay their tuition, rent, bills themselves and even send money to their parents back in naija. Each time I talk to her about these ladies she is quick to shut me up. She said they have no choice cus we are from a poor country and would do anything to stay.

Fast-forward to July, her one year working visa would end in October and she needs atleast $3500 to pay for her health insurance and visa application. She is helpless as she can't pay this fee. I have politely asked her to return back to her country but she isn't buying the idea because she claims to love me so much but in reality, she's homeless cus she has been squatting with friends and relatives. Her recent excuse is that she found out that my ex was still calling me and this made her depress.

My understanding is that she is a very lazy lady full of excuses because she wasn't used to hardwork even in her country. She wants comfort and luxury but doesn't want to pay the price. She is now pleading with me to support her so she could pay. During our quarrels, she nags me and insults me that I lied on my resume to secure a job. My fiancee has been feeding and living on the same job she said I lied about my experience.

I'm from a very humble background. For the past 2 months, my parents moved to our yet to be completed building with no toilet. I explained this situation to my fiancee and her mother but the mother adviced that my parents can use plastic buckets.(what an advice). I asked her mother if she uses bucket to poo over there in America.

Now I've asked her to get the money for her visa fee and health insurance herself because I will not contribute anything as i think its unfair for her to keep spending from an income she is opposed to but she tells me that God had forgiven me.

How could I've known that this babe I thought was coming to help me wil become a thorn on my flesh. She wants luxury she doesn't travel via train she would prefer driving the car to the toilet and kitchen if permitted. As at today, she has about 4 driving fines unpaid.

2buffagain:
It's it only girl that can provoke guy?

Simply move your important items to a safe zone, with the understanding that your house is a war zone.

The bitch is broke and cannot finance a war with you.
Put recording devices around.
By the time you have burnt all her paiint and thrown away all her makeup, she too will get mad. As soon as she hits you, call 911. Get her escorted out. Put a restraining order on her, as aided by evidence of the recording devices.

Use the same system to Bleep her up.
How she decides to carry her life from there is her problem.

The truth is, the law is not as biased to females as people make it seem out here. It's just that men don't like to sink down to a woman's level to fight her the way she is fighting him. The law here is set up to work according to the fighting style of women, which is why it looks like it only favors women.

It's just a fighting style. Adopt it and see yourself rid of every crotch-bleeding parasite you ever made the mistake of picking up.

khiaa:
I'm black American and this is the only fair response as of yet, no prejudices or judgments. Kudos to you. Common sense with a fair approach. The OP is lying, there are no Visa's and fees to pay for an American to enter Canada, the U.S. and Canada share the same borderline all we need is our Identification card. I live in California which shares the same borderline with Mexico, since when do I need a passport and Visa to enter there?

khiaa:
I'm black American and this is the only fair response as of yet, no prejudices or judgments. Kudos to you. Common sense with a fair approach. The OP is lying, there are no Visa's and fees to pay for an American to enter Canada, the U.S. and Canada share the same borderline all we need is our Identification card. I live in California which shares the same borderline with Mexico, since when do I need a passport and Visa to enter there?

Konquest:
^^^^^
^^^^^
You've said it all.

When I first read the original post, I knew
that some embellishments were in the post
of the so-called Canada-based guy...
^^^^^
^^^^^
You've said it all.

When I first read the original post, I knew
that some embellishments were in the post
of the so-called Canada-based guy...