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Sack her, then replace her name with mine in the payroll

Mcpadosky:
Good morning my fellow romance landers, please I want you all to pardon my grammatical errors because am not too good in writing.

I work as a project coordinator east covering the entire south east and south south in one of the leading advertising, promotion and marketing agency Nigeria.

So I deal mostly with women, beautiful ones because of the nature of my work and every woman wants to identify with the boss for favour.

4 years ago I met a girl in one of the south east state and she was even the person that gave me green light and one thing led to the other we started dating but my mum never likes this girl but she can't tell me her reasons not until I gave my younger graduate sister a work to work as a supervisor and no one knows that she is my sister, so when she sat with other girls numbering more than 200 because the project is big and a beverage activation in one of leading breweries. Girls started their normal gossip that was when my sister found out that my so called sweetheart is a heavy runs girl, but am not always around because of work and her school is a bit far from town and she leaves in the school hostel.

When my sister told my mum, she told her that her spirit never accepted the girl and am very stubborn so mum is just being careful not to offend me. I later confronted her but she started crying but since all this while I never suspected her due to the love I have for her.

After Six months, my office had Issues, because of that she broke up with me, although the issue never affected me that much because I have some investments which she doesn't know that sustained me throughout the trying times. Not more than 4 months, we bounced back and we got more contracts from multinational companies, when she heard that we are back she wanted to come back which after pleading, even from her mum I accepted her back, Because am like the bread of her family, I gave her brother work as a supervisor and her sister and the brothers wife is one of my brand ambassadors.

Something happened again last year I broke up with her, although we're still friends and have sex on some occasions and am still close to her family. She wanted us to come back which am still considering and she still works for me in a double project, one she earns #75,000 per month even as she doesn't have her results ready because she is yet to do her NYSC and I lied to my office because all my workers documents in my region is with me. The second work she works as a supervisor which I always cover her up even when am not around my city rep always covers her up because of me and she earns around #81,000 minus allowance. I can't say everything I have done for this girl.

Last month, one of my distance guy called me and said that his girlfriend works for me I said wow which of them she mentioned my girlfriend, I was surprised and I kept my cool. Then told me that they said that am her oga and am very good to her and the family, I said ok, he now asked me if the girl is good him that no one is bad or good that it all depends on what he wants.

Serious matter, boss Pls just incase, you still have any vacancies, Pls help me I need a job badly. Help a brother. Biko

Mcpadosky:
Good morning my fellow romance landers, please I want you all to pardon my grammatical errors because am not too good in writing.

I work as a project coordinator east covering the entire south east and south south in one of the leading advertising, promotion and marketing agency Nigeria.

So I deal mostly with women, beautiful ones because of the nature of my work and every woman wants to identify with the boss for favour.

4 years ago I met a girl in one of the south east state and she was even the person that gave me green light and one thing led to the other we started dating but my mum never likes this girl but she can't tell me her reasons not until I gave my younger graduate sister a work to work as a supervisor and no one knows that she is my sister, so when she sat with other girls numbering more than 200 because the project is big and a beverage activation in one of leading breweries. Girls started their normal gossip that was when my sister found out that my so called sweetheart is a heavy runs girl, but am not always around because of work and her school is a bit far from town and she leaves in the school hostel.

When my sister told my mum, she told her that her spirit never accepted the girl and am very stubborn so mum is just being careful not to offend me. I later confronted her but she started crying but since all this while I never suspected her due to the love I have for her.

After Six months, my office had Issues, because of that she broke up with me, although the issue never affected me that much because I have some investments which she doesn't know that sustained me throughout the trying times. Not more than 4 months, we bounced back and we got more contracts from multinational companies, when she heard that we are back she wanted to come back which after pleading, even from her mum I accepted her back, Because am like the bread of her family, I gave her brother work as a supervisor and her sister and the brothers wife is one of my brand ambassadors.

Something happened again last year I broke up with her, although we're still friends and have sex on some occasions and am still close to her family. She wanted us to come back which am still considering and she still works for me in a double project, one she earns #75,000 per month even as she doesn't have her results ready because she is yet to do her NYSC and I lied to my office because all my workers documents in my region is with me. The second work she works as a supervisor which I always cover her up even when am not around my city rep always covers her up because of me and she earns around #81,000 minus allowance. I can't say everything I have done for this girl.

Last month, one of my distance guy called me and said that his girlfriend works for me I said wow which of them she mentioned my girlfriend, I was surprised and I kept my cool. Then told me that they said that am her oga and am very good to her and the family, I said ok, he now asked me if the girl is good him that no one is bad or good that it all depends on what he wants.

My brother when will you get sense? If you don’t have borrow from people .
Am not saying you should quarrel with all her people and her but you should dissociate from having anything serious to do with her.
For your friend to call you saying she is his girlfriend, what other proof do you need to chase the Olosho from your life.
Abeg ho borrow sense and act wisely.

Mcpadosky:
Is ok bro, but apart from project coordinators, state coordinators every other thing is on contract. some coordinators are even on contract. browse about experiential marketing.

pls fix me somewhere i have 0'level

There is something not adding up with your story especially where it ends.

Even if what you said is the truth, you shouldn't have mentioned it in the first place when it's obvious you are dating a glutton, serial cheat and destiny destroyer.

Mcpadosky:
Thank you so much my brother, I posted this here expecting the bashing and those who don’t believe in in story because all this makes me stronger and is equally a pain reliver. u must be a true friend. for the people that need my help, if I can I will help them because one thing is given someone a job another thing is keeping that work. please can u share your phone number with me I want to be a true friend.

Drop yours. I will chat you up on WhatsApp

Mcpadosky:
Am not a teenager my man, although I count my self as one of the luckiest person in the world. am a full time igbo. my MD is my dads best friend. although am the youngest in my position but I still have a lot to offer to my office. my issue is this girl, although I have learnt my lessons. but I have decided not to sack her. the project she is doing now will end by September.

I still doubt u are igbo ..
Igbos can do everything for a woman to make her happy., but they dont tale cheating lightly especially in a serious relationship.
Some1 u consider to marry.
U can neva change a cheating woman especially one who didnt cheat for poverty sake.
The gal u talked about here is just a gold digger

Boss, I think you should leave the rest for God to handle it. Girls are always like that.
Sir, I'm also a fresh graduate and I just got through with my service year. I've a little experience on how advertising firms do the activation program for alcoholic and non-alcoholic firms cos I worked as a bar supervisor in a big club house somewhere in Lagos during my I.T days. I'm tall (6'2) and I've the right body shape to work as an ambassador, sir. Pls sir, help me with a job. Thanks in anticipation, sir. This is my contact sir: Faniyi_olawale@yahoo.com. (sir, I can work anywhere and location is not a barrier for me, sir)

konfused:
Bia enyia isi na ibu onye Igbo, kai......



First of all are you a graduate......?

Secondly, how can you be "fucking" a girl that works under you and is under your supervision......That's against the rules of the game

Thirdly, how come after so many revelations that the girl's way is not pure, both from your sister and other people, you still insist on going out with her.

Last but not the least, your actions after hanging out with the girl and the "real Boyfriend" is very childish and irrational.

You have a lot to learn, you have to learn how to master your emotions and be a man.

You shouldn't have made those moves immediately (sacking her, removing her from all WhatsApp groups, surcharging her for lateness) .....you showed your hands too early and it shows you lack maturity and can be easily manipulated.

Which state do you reside in the SE?

your right bro, my greatest weakness is what u just stated above, I have anger problem and always find it difficult to control my emotions sometimes. Of course I am a BSC holder. the truth is that I never expected such from her even if she is the worst woman in the entire world because I have always stood for her even when the key account manager of the product she is promoting for me want her sacked because of gross misconduct that boils down to altitude.
I removed her from the other project because I can't continue to cover for her or my city rep covering for her cos because my eyes just opened and I realised that I have been very stupid since all this while.

O.P two things are involved
1. Its either you genuinely love that girl or you love the sex with her
2. She's a happy girl and what i mean by happy is you like her company ,she's jovial,not easily offended ,has a easy going habit and simple kind of girl.

If your situation is 1 then critically look into the matter and make a fast decision,if your case is 2 run as far as your leg can take you ,this type of girls are good for nothing as they would also do same for the numerous guys they are dating ,they don't have any conscience as they rarely see what they are doing as bad,they are just having fun and are time wasters.

my little token

Hello Padosky,

First, let me sympathize with you but it's expected that NLders will still bash you irrespective of who you are on this forum and that's what keeps the forum going as one family i.e. The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Well, you saw all the signs from the onset but you chose to ignore because you were head over heels in love with the lady. The first rule in any office dealings is, "Never mix business with pleasure" but you did the otherwise in this case and that was the beginning of your woes. Yes, we all fall in love at some point but it has to be done with our brains intact.

I believed you have honestly learnt your lessons and I will advise that you just move on 'cos these are part of the phases of life, a man must pass through just to determine how strong-willed you are.

Please, do not sack the girl for now 'cos it might backfire on you (in the sense that you knew you wasn't qualified for the job and yet you employed her just to satisfy your desires then and she might resolve to use it as blackmail on you... "Never under-estimate the power of women". Since her contract is ending in September, just let it be till that time and afterwards, you can decide not to renew it. Also, do not sack any of her family member still working with you just because of someone else's stupidity (do not pay evil with evil and that's against the scriptures... lol!).

As from this moment, ensure you monitor activities (end to end) of all your team members working with you, to be sure that they are meeting their daily operational deliverables irrespective of who is involved inclusive of your sister. Business is strictly business... go ask the likes of Dangote and Otedola.

In all, the deed has been done and I will advise that you move on, concentrate more on your work, try to make new friends, look for more recreational activities to help take your mind off that scenario etc. With time, the wound will heal and God will provide for you the woman that will truly care for you irrespective of your status.

Last line, remember to always be the kind person that you have always being. Do not use others stupidity to stop the good deeds that you have rendered.

Remain Blessed!

justlaw:
Hello Padosky,

First, let me sympathize with you but it's expected that NLders will still bash you irrespective of who you are on this forum and that's what keeps the forum going as one family i.e. The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Well, you saw all the signs from the onset but you chose to ignore because you were head over heels in love with the lady. The first rule in any office dealings is, "Never mix business with pleasure" but you did the otherwise in this case and that was the beginning of your woes. Yes, we all fall in love at some point but it has to be done with our brains intact.

I believed you have honestly learnt your lessons and I will advise that you just move on 'cos these are part of the phases of life, a man must pass through just to determine how strong-willed you are.

Please, do not sack the girl for now 'cos it might backfire on you (in the sense that you knew you wasn't qualified for the job and yet you employed her just to satisfy your desires then and she might resolve to use it as blackmail on you... "Never under-estimate the power of women". Since her contract is ending in September, just let it be till that time and afterwards, you can decide not to renew it. Also, do not sack any of her family member still working with you just because of someone else's stupidity (do not pay evil with evil and that's against the scriptures... lol!).

As from this moment, ensure you monitor activities (end to end) of all your team members working with you, to be sure that they are meeting their daily operational deliverables irrespective of who is involved inclusive of your sister. Business is strictly business... go ask the likes of Dangote and Otedola.

In all, the deed has been done and I will advise that you move on, concentrate more on your work, try to make new friends, look for more recreational activities to help take your mind off that scenario etc. With time, the wound will heal and God will provide for you the woman that will truly care for you irrespective of your status.

Last line, remember to always be the kind person that you have always being. Do not use others stupidity to stop the good deeds that you have rendered.

Remain Blessed!

wow ur really a nice person, u just nailed it. I have decided not to sack her because is not good to pay evil with evil but I now ensure that she does her work the way it should be done. thanks bro, please send ur email address here let's exchange contact their. thanks once again.

Goddyss:
Drop yours. I will chat you up on WhatsApp

can't drop my number here for safety purposes hope u understand. please send me ur email address let me send it their. thanks

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wjames:
Boss, I think you should leave the rest for God to handle it. Girls are always like that.
Sir, I'm also a fresh graduate and I just got through with my service year. I've a little experience on how advertising firms do the activation program for alcoholic and non-alcoholic firms cos I worked as a bar supervisor in a big club house somewhere in Lagos during my I.T days. I'm tall (6'2) and I've the right body shape to work as an ambassador, sir. Pls sir, help me with a job. Thanks in anticipation, sir. This is my contact sir: Faniyi_olawale@yahoo.com. (sir, I can work anywhere and location is not a barrier for me, sir)

I don't live in lagos and not incharge of the affairs their either, but my head office is in somewhere ikeja, although I do come to Lagos once in a month for regional meeting and sometimes for training. but if we have anything tangible that side I can link u up. just drop ur digits.

Goddyss:
I understand. scottnwokedi27@gmail.com

check ur mail bro.

Nightmareo07:
I still doubt u are igbo ..
Igbos can do everything for a woman to make her happy., but they dont tale cheating lightly especially in a serious relationship.
Some1 u consider to marry.
U can neva change a cheating woman especially one who didnt cheat for poverty sake.
The gal u talked about here is just a gold digger

thanks bro. but I have never felt so humiliated in my life. thanks

Mcpadosky:
I don't live in lagos and not incharge of the affairs their either, but my head office is in somewhere ikeja, although I do come to Lagos once in a month for regional meeting and sometimes for training. but if we have anything tangible that side I can link u up. just drop ur digits.

Thank you very much sir. 08102012324. May God continue to bless you sir.
Happy Sunday!

Mcpadosky:
what part of delta state? but all I can give is contract works.
I am a full time member of EXMAN experiential marketers association of Nigeria.

am in Ughelli North.... Pls I seriously need it

Mcpadosky:
The best advice so far. thanks bro.

You welcome bro.

[quote author=iLegendd post=69783225][/quote]Boss, analyse the story, we could learn a thing or two

AyamStarch:
Boss, analyse the story, we could learn a thing or two

I would love to, but currently engaged.

Good to hear that you have decided not to sack (God bless you much more for this). But always ensure that she delivers on every task given to her as expected.

Remain blessed and continue to be the kindhearted person you have always being

My emails are: justlaw15@yahoo.com, lawrence.nzegbuna@yahoo.com

Mcpadosky:
wow ur really a nice person, u just nailed it. I have decided not to sack her because is not good to pay evil with evil but I now ensure that she does her work the way it should be done. thanks bro, please send ur email address here let's exchange contact their. thanks once again.

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Tempted to give a sarcastic reply...But, Nahhhh
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No need to Mange her...That Word doesn't exist in Relationships...
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You Would definitely be Shooting yourself on the Foot if you Continue..

I think that you must analyse the facts and learn from them.