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delkuf:
Please I need your advice. Is so happened that I know this lady for years now. we are good friends. But the problem is, I know that as a Christian we can't really get married because she is a Muslim. So I have been trying to keep the relationship on just us being friends, even though I love her and I know She has this little feelings for me. If I had been serious, I know we would have gotten married or close to that, but I keep avoiding her and sometimes I do it on purpose.

Now, where I get really confused is that, any time i pray for God's will in marriage, she keeps coming to my mind. This is not infatuation or something. It has been happening over and over again. I know God also talk to us through giving us this deep impression in our heart.

It was so deep on day that I told the Holy Spirit that I can't marry her. I spoke with my pastor this week concerning this issue, and he said it is not possible for God to tell us to marry a Muslim and this thing keeps coming. am really confuse. because of this, have not been praying concerning marriage.

PLEASEEEEEE, I need Christians to comment on this.

Meekha:
Well, lemme not say that we are both sailing on the same ship but my own situation seems very similar to yours. I really helped her in the time when she needed help most and the help happened to be very timely and this made her fall in love with me. But there are many problems here
1. I am 7 years older than her (Which I do not find really ideal but nevertheless can cope or change my views shaa)
2. She is a Muslim and I am a BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN who wouldn't' give up my Christian faith for any reason, though I was born a Muslim, I converted to Christianity along the way.
3. She is from a super rich family and I am only a worker hired by her dad to help coach her where she had deficiencies. I am a graduate who is just trying to make ends meet and this job is very dear to me.
4. I have made a personal commitment to myself against falling in love with people I coach but then, this seemed to be very very different!
5. The parents of the girl have a high level of trust for me or an unusual likeness so they treat me better than other co-workers maybe it's because I deliver an exceptionally excellent service plus I am very hospitable and I consider it one of the greatest wrong I will do to betray their trust.
6. I know that it is a great woe on her part if her parents never find out about her emotional connection to me because it is a big TABOO for Muslim girls to marry Christian man though the reverse is permissible!
7. She is a Hausa-Fulani girl while I am from the middle belt: A clash of culture and social values.
8. I will end up putting the saviour who connected me with the family in a big trouble and this may result in the robbing of other young people like me of their prospects. The list seems endless.

Of a truth, I love the girl and she is of the view that she can marry a Christian cos her religion permits it (i knew it's not true, she was just speaking out of love). I currently have been putting up a stern face whenever we meet but this seems to be fanning the flames of desires even the more. The more I get to see her, the more my resolve weakens as per not dating her. Whenever I pray, her pictures keep flashing before my face as if to say that she is the One and I dream a lot about her these days. She is more than beautiful (know these typical beautiful Hausa-Fulani girls)

THE TRUTH!!!
Christianity does not encourage marrying people of the opposite religion and so if one does it, it may not be the best choice!!
God save us!!!

Meekha:
Well, lemme not say that we are both sailing on the same ship but my own situation seems very similar to yours. I really helped her in the time when she needed help most and the help happened to be very timely and this made her fall in love with me. But there are many problems here
1. I am 7 years older than her (Which I do not find really ideal but nevertheless can cope or change my views shaa)
2. She is a Muslim and I am a BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN who wouldn't' give up my Christian faith for any reason, though I was born a Muslim, I converted to Christianity along the way.
3. She is from a super rich family and I am only a worker hired by her dad to help coach her where she had deficiencies. I am a graduate who is just trying to make ends meet and this job is very dear to me.
4. I have made a personal commitment to myself against falling in love with people I coach but then, this seemed to be very very different!
5. The parents of the girl have a high level of trust for me or an unusual likeness so they treat me better than other co-workers maybe it's because I deliver an exceptionally excellent service plus I am very hospitable and I consider it one of the greatest wrong I will do to betray their trust.
6. I know that it is a great woe on her part if her parents never find out about her emotional connection to me because it is a big TABOO for Muslim girls to marry Christian man though the reverse is permissible!
7. She is a Hausa-Fulani girl while I am from the middle belt: A clash of culture and social values.
8. I will end up putting the saviour who connected me with the family in a big trouble and this may result in the robbing of other young people like me of their prospects. The list seems endless.

Of a truth, I love the girl and she is of the view that she can marry a Christian cos her religion permits it (i knew it's not true, she was just speaking out of love). I currently have been putting up a stern face whenever we meet but this seems to be fanning the flames of desires even the more. The more I get to see her, the more my resolve weakens as per not dating her. Whenever I pray, her pictures keep flashing before my face as if to say that she is the One and I dream a lot about her these days. She is more than beautiful (know these typical beautiful Hausa-Fulani girls)

THE TRUTH!!!
Christianity does not encourage marrying people of the opposite religion and so if one does it, it may not be the best choice!!
God save us!!!

Meekha:
Well, lemme not say that we are both sailing on the same ship but my own situation seems very similar to yours. I really helped her in the time when she needed help most and the help happened to be very timely and this made her fall in love with me. But there are many problems here
1. I am 7 years older than her (Which I do not find really ideal but nevertheless can cope or change my views shaa)
2. She is a Muslim and I am a BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN who wouldn't' give up my Christian faith for any reason, though I was born a Muslim, I converted to Christianity along the way.
3. She is from a super rich family and I am only a worker hired by her dad to help coach her where she had deficiencies. I am a graduate who is just trying to make ends meet and this job is very dear to me.
4. I have made a personal commitment to myself against falling in love with people I coach but then, this seemed to be very very different!
5. The parents of the girl have a high level of trust for me or an unusual likeness so they treat me better than other co-workers maybe it's because I deliver an exceptionally excellent service plus I am very hospitable and I consider it one of the greatest wrong I will do to betray their trust.
6. I know that it is a great woe on her part if her parents never find out about her emotional connection to me because it is a big TABOO for Muslim girls to marry Christian man though the reverse is permissible!
7. She is a Hausa-Fulani girl while I am from the middle belt: A clash of culture and social values.
8. I will end up putting the saviour who connected me with the family in a big trouble and this may result in the robbing of other young people like me of their prospects. The list seems endless.

Of a truth, I love the girl and she is of the view that she can marry a Christian cos her religion permits it (i knew it's not true, she was just speaking out of love). I currently have been putting up a stern face whenever we meet but this seems to be fanning the flames of desires even the more. The more I get to see her, the more my resolve weakens as per not dating her. Whenever I pray, her pictures keep flashing before my face as if to say that she is the One and I dream a lot about her these days. She is more than beautiful (know these typical beautiful Hausa-Fulani girls)

THE TRUTH!!!
Christianity does not encourage marrying people of the opposite religion and so if one does it, it may not be the best choice!!
God save us!!!

Lekozy:
thank you brother

emperorlaqrin:
Mr in as much as I don't want to go into words with you cos I understand clearly the area you coming from but I challenge you to your "UNBELIEVER".

You see because you a xtian and the opposite person is a Muslim does not make you nor the person and UNBELIEVER cos you both know the religion you are practicing .

Sincerely we have allowed religion to eat deep into our soul in this country and thereby we neglect the fact that We are all created by one SUPREME BEING.

I am a Muslim but am from a family of xtian and Muslim and there as never been issue of all this natures since I have grown as an adult from my parents likewise we the children chose the religion we want to practice without anyone dictating to us.Yeah I accept the fact that they should both talk things over before marriage cos that's the KEY to there successful union.

I am a very good example here and this just happened to me few months ago , I had a xtian lady am dating for say like 3years and I am practicing Islam and this lady eventually ended the relationship with me few months ago on the basis that she can't be living in the house with different believe .

Also I have a cousin who is an Islamic fanatic who as some believe s about xtian, I usually argue with him by telling him those things he believea are not right about xtianity .
I have practiced both but I chose to be a Muslim not cos I think xtianity is bad but cos I am matured to make a decision and know which is best and I believe the more .

We all have a right to religion and is there in our country constitution and we should not allow religion dictate our lives .

peace

enilove:
THERE ARE MANY VOICES IN THIS WORLD :

That of men, God and Satan.

These are real and they do speak.

Many people in this world hear their voices dropping in their hearts like suggestions.

Satanists , agents of darkness do hear voices.

Even innocent people who are not agents of darkness hear demons speaking or directing them thinking it was the voice of God.
The devil spoke through Peter in the Bible , if not by divine power , an ordinary man would have thought it was Peter speaking.

Back to your question .
It is true that there is nothing impossible for God to do. But ask yourself , why can't HE change her now instead of after marriage?

GOD MAY NOT SPEAK TO YOU CONCERNING HER SINCE YOU DID NOT ASK GOD FOR DIRECTION FROM THE BEGINNING. IS LIKE YOU HAVE PICKED ALREADY BUT JUST WANT GOD TO APPROVE OF DISAPPROVED IT , GOD DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY.

The servant of Abraham first prayed for the sign to know the right wife for Isaac not after he had choosing b4 asking God for a sign.

The devil can deceive anyone by any means and through any avenue open to him.

James 1:14-16 KJV
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
[15] Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
[16] Do not err, my beloved brethren.

LASTLY , ASK GOD FOR A CLEARER CONFIRMATION.
PLS DO , ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE A DIVINE CALLING. A DIVORCEE CANNOT BE USED BY GOD IN HIS VINEYARDS.

Meekha:
Well, lemme not say that we are both sailing on the same ship but my own situation seems very similar to yours. I really helped her in the time when she needed help most and the help happened to be very timely and this made her fall in love with me. But there are many problems here
1. I am 7 years older than her (Which I do not find really ideal but nevertheless can cope or change my views shaa)
2. She is a Muslim and I am a BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN who wouldn't' give up my Christian faith for any reason, though I was born a Muslim, I converted to Christianity along the way.
3. She is from a super rich family and I am only a worker hired by her dad to help coach her where she had deficiencies. I am a graduate who is just trying to make ends meet and this job is very dear to me.
4. I have made a personal commitment to myself against falling in love with people I coach but then, this seemed to be very very different!
5. The parents of the girl have a high level of trust for me or an unusual likeness so they treat me better than other co-workers maybe it's because I deliver an exceptionally excellent service plus I am very hospitable and I consider it one of the greatest wrong I will do to betray their trust.
6. I know that it is a great woe on her part if her parents never find out about her emotional connection to me because it is a big TABOO for Muslim girls to marry Christian man though the reverse is permissible!
7. She is a Hausa-Fulani girl while I am from the middle belt: A clash of culture and social values.
8. I will end up putting the saviour who connected me with the family in a big trouble and this may result in the robbing of other young people like me of their prospects. The list seems endless.

Of a truth, I love the girl and she is of the view that she can marry a Christian cos her religion permits it (i knew it's not true, she was just speaking out of love). I currently have been putting up a stern face whenever we meet but this seems to be fanning the flames of desires even the more. The more I get to see her, the more my resolve weakens as per not dating her. Whenever I pray, her pictures keep flashing before my face as if to say that she is the One and I dream a lot about her these days. She is more than beautiful (know these typical beautiful Hausa-Fulani girls)

THE TRUTH!!!
Christianity does not encourage marrying people of the opposite religion and so if one does it, it may not be the best choice!!
God save us!!!

delkuf:
thanks very much. I just feel like why approach her, if I know I may not get married to her. there was a day I heard a voice. I don't know how true it is, when I listing the reasons why I can marry her, and why she keep to my mind, the voice said, am I the one to convert. am judging her as a sinner was it not the same way you were also a sinner and God saved you. can't God also change/convert her. am not making it up. this was what I heard. and since then, I don't think have prayed for marriage. I don't know if it's true. what can you say concerning it. please reply

delkuf:
I don't know from what angle you are looking at this from. But am not a religious person, am a Christian, that Christ like. and as a Christian there are certain things I can do and not do. and one of those things I can't do is to marry a nor Christ like because there will be clash of interest, because as a Christian, am not permitted to sleep with her until after marriage. so I don't think she would want that. then as a Christian, I may likely end up as a pastor, would she want to be the wife of a pastor? this are the things am concerned about. so as a Christian, we cant do certain things.

Akpacha:
E go hard to see muslim ladies marry christians, but so easy to see pastor daughters (christians) marry muslims.

enilove:
Op, I will advice you to do the following :

1... Approach her and inform her of your feelings for her. If she agrees , tell her that she needs to be converted to a Christian and Why.

2... If she cannot convert , then remove the idea of marriage to her from your heart.


Those 2 steps are very Important because , if you don't ask her to convert b4 marriage , she might refused to after marriage. And as long as she does not commit adultery , you cannot divorce her based on her religion if she is willing to remain in the marriage.

God has told us not to marry an unbeliever which may be why God has refused to speak to you.
God does not go against His words.

A wrong marriage can destroy God's plan for you. It can take you to hell.
You may think women are weak, but in marriages they are VERY VERY POWERFUL.

MY ADVICE IS THIS, DONT MARRY HER FOR ANY REASON UNLESS SHE ACCEPT JESUS CHRIST AS HER SAVIOUR.

delkuf:
I prayed concerning it today. I took the matter to the Holy Spirit. I will be sharing in another thread what the Holy Spirit showed me. please do join me

delkuf:
I don't know from what angle you are looking at this from. But am not a religious person, am a Christian, that Christ like. and as a Christian there are certain things I can do and not do. and one of those things I can't do is to marry a nor Christ like because there will be clash of interest, because as a Christian, am not permitted to sleep with her until after marriage. so I don't think she would want that. then as a Christian, I may likely end up as a pastor, would she want to be the wife of a pastor? this are the things am concerned about. so as a Christian, we cant do certain things.

emperorlaqrin:
Mr in as much as I don't want to go into words with you cos I understand clearly the area you coming from but I challenge you to your "UNBELIEVER".

You see because you a xtian and the opposite person is a Muslim does not make you nor the person and UNBELIEVER cos you both know the religion you are practicing .

Sincerely we have allowed religion to eat deep into our soul in this country and thereby we neglect the fact that We are all created by one SUPREME BEING.

I am a Muslim but am from a family of xtian and Muslim and there as never been issue of all this natures since I have grown as an adult from my parents likewise we the children chose the religion we want to practice without anyone dictating to us.Yeah I accept the fact that they should both talk things over before marriage cos that's the KEY to there successful union.

I am a very good example here and this just happened to me few months ago , I had a xtian lady am dating for say like 3years and I am practicing Islam and this lady eventually ended the relationship with me few months ago on the basis that she can't be living in the house with different believe .

Also I have a cousin who is an Islamic fanatic who as some believe s about xtian, I usually argue with him by telling him those things he believea are not right about xtianity .
I have practiced both but I chose to be a Muslim not cos I think xtianity is bad but cos I am matured to make a decision and know which is best and I believe the more .

We all have a right to religion and is there in our country constitution and we should not allow religion dictate our lives .

peace

maestroferddi:
Any Christian sister who wilfully marries a Muslim was never born again in the first place.

Want to argue?

Wait till you get born again and begin to enjoy the bliss and peace of Godliness and then contemplate the uncertainty of becoming unequally yoked with an unbeliever...

Technically, a genuinely born again Christian is off limits for careless experiments because Jesus affirmed in Gospel of John that having taken the custody of the Saints entrusted to him, he is sure no-one, not even Satan, can take them away from Him (Jesus).

I hope you understand...

englishmart:
purge yourself of religious bigotry and intolerance. Civilized people don't discriminate

Otunbalai:
can you give me a definition of an unbeliever? and give me a Biblical reference which state categorically that Christian shouldn't marry Muslim ? or which put Muslim as an unbeliever ? I will be waiting for you respond. please. thanks.

D1zion:
The truth is as a Christian you dare not befriend a Muslim girl openly even to the extent of you saying you want to marry her, the moment you start that is either they kill you or the girl in question. & if Peradeventure you become head bound that it's she or never then be ready to convert to Islam. If it's a Christian girl,they will force her into marrying & converting her to Islam without her families knowledge even. They cast spell on her to make her deny her families. My brother if she's ready to convert without any problems then marry her but even if she says she will practice her religion while you do yours don't agree. I know what am saying am an Hausa lady but a Christian from the heart beat of the northern state. Pls don't let anyone deceive you, cos this people are not humans at all when it comes to their religion & their allah

madridsta007:
The Bible is unequivocal and blunt about this.

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

bros! according to this, does it now mean Muslims are unbeliever ? and believe define an unbeliever for me..

— 2 Cor 6:14

You need to each choose between listening to your emotions or listen to God’s word— which is very, very clear. This shouldn’t be a question at all, in my opinion, unless we want to pretend that the Bible isn’t clear about it.