MissRaine69:

1) If you are spending money with the delusional belief that he will love you then this is whole different topic for discussion not what you asked.
2) What’s there to handle? It’s about the type of woman you are and his confidence if he has potential and is willing to explore it why not? But Nigerian women have a flawed way of thinking most don’t recognise potential they aim for the already made man.
3) What do you expect to happen? Are there no women who have sponsored their man’s visa, schooling and are now husband and wife?
What happens is based on mindset and emotional intelligence. ( many lack this)

Never has a truer word been spoken.

kimbraa:
Hahaha! Actually, there's a level of poverty I just can't deal even at my level, so why would I marry a poor man? Who love epp?

What if you marry a rich man and in the long run he became poor; would you divorce him and go in search of another rich man?
In the same way you can marry an M. SC holder who is poor (probably a teacher in private school) and before you know it God show him mercy and blesses him with a better job.
Nobody likes poverty even those who are poor hate their situation and are making every effort to come out of it.
Always remember that there are dark days in everybody's life.

Onyiridike:

My brother wants to marry and from your comment your type is rare. Could you please send me a pm?

so you believe her comment?..just like that?..okay

a male gold digger are allow!

Lalas247:

Love ke
Love won’t help that sad lady up there licking azz...... they will use her money to feed their under cover family ....
Naija guys that most don’t even u derstand what it is to love someone .......he better get a job ... even if I earn more that’s fine but he has to work and his wage has to look after himself cuz me no want houseboy biko ...


Mind you ... if I divorce him .. he might take half .. ko possible rara

What works for A may not work for B. To each, their own.

kimbraa:
On the contrary, I'm not.

You used the phrase peculiar to some e-warriors on NAIRALAND

" bitter truth"

kimbraa:
What works for A may not work for B. To each, their own.

Funny how those cheap boyz are missing from this thread

Onyiridike:

What if you marry a rich man and in the long run he became poor; would you divorce him and go in search of another rich man?
In the same way you can marry an M. SC holder who is poor (probably a teacher in private school) and before you know it God show him mercy and blesses him with a better job.
Nobody likes poverty even those who are poor hate their situation and are making every effort to come out of it.
Always remember that there are dark days in everybody's life.

Ma'am, keep your wishes to yourself 'cause I don't want to marry a man circumstances would make poor later. I know these things happen, but I want to be among those who wouldn't encounter such in life. Thanks.

abike12:
no. it will end in one story or the other and it's not worth my time. I can support if he's working on his master's or if he's going through transitional period but if it's a permanent situation i'm not interested.

Note: I don't have a problem with other women doing it but for me it's a no so please don't bother bringing your life frustrations to my mentions.

Would you support a rich guy getting married to a poor girl?

Madam since you’re asking for ladies opinion. Sorry for replying to your thread. Please don’t marry a totally broke guy marry a man that has handled money before or still handling money but not up to your level. The totally broke once always turn to be ungrateful and take life more difficult when they start handling money. Be wise

kimbraa:
Ma'am, keep your wishes to yourself 'cause I don't want to marry a man circumstances would make poor later. I know these things happen, but I want to be among those who wouldn't encounter such in life. Thanks.

Amen. However, I didn't wish you anything bad ; I simply asked you a question.

CanadianEnginee:


Would you support a rich guy getting married to a poor girl?

I've worked my behind off from a young age because I've always known the kind of role model I want to be for my children so honestly I don't have business with that question.

kimbraa:
Ma'am, keep your wishes to yourself 'cause I don't want to marry a man circumstances would make poor later. I know these things happen, but I want to be among those who wouldn't encounter such in life. Thanks.

Another question; would you support a rich man getting married to a poor girl?

abike12:


I've worked my behind off from a young age because I've always known the kind of role model I want to be for my children so honestly I don't have business with that question.

And you think those who are poor are lazy and never worked hard like you?

abike12:


I've worked my behind off from a young age because I've always known the kind of role model I want to be for my children so honestly I don't have business with that question.

Madam, calm the Bleep down, read the question, think then answer.

I'm also a very ok guy but will I marry a poor girl? Yes. So why cant a girl marry a poor guy?

Iamgrey5:
You used the phrase peculiar to some e-warriors on NAIRALAND

" bitter truth"

LOL. I just borrowed their famous line na.

Onyiridike:

And you think those who are poor are lazy and never worked hard like you?

Don't mind her.

CanadianEnginee:


Madam, calm the Bleep down, read the question, think then answer.

I'm also a very ok guy but will I marry a poor girl? Yes. So why cant a girl marry a poor guy?

how can I answer? I'm not a man and I respect other people's wishes to marry who they want. That's why my initial response answered for only myself. Some people prefer a woman that's totally dependent on them for personal reasons, some like a man that will wash their pant and pay all his bills. To each their own...

I disagree with you. It depends on individual, everybody are not the same.

Colourich:
There is a probability that the man will use you for sugar mummy things, then in turn spend the money on the woman he love.

Onyiridike:

And you think those who are poor are lazy and never worked hard like you?

And you think I care how you interpret a statement that was not directed to you?

Seal33 you can spend on a poor woman,sponsor her education or business and she will:
Marry you or
Ditch you.

Same applies to men if a woman sponsors them.

If you are intending to buy his love with money or win his heart by caring for him, probability that you will succeed is slim. If he doesn't love you, he doesn't love you. If he loves you, you can still boost the love by spending on him.

Make sure you're not spending on a visionless and lazy person. These are the ones that will ditch you whenever the money stops coming. A lazy man doesn't appreciate help. He sees the help as luck.

Personally, I don't like ladies spending on me even though I'm yet to "make it". If I love a rich woman, it means I truly love the woman for who she is. Her money na jara. If I don't love you and you spend on me, I might not reciprocate it.

Onyiridike:

What if you marry a rich man and in the long run he became poor; would you divorce him and go in search of another rich man?
In the same way you can marry an M. SC holder who is poor (probably a teacher in private school) and before you know it God show him mercy and blesses him with a better job.
Nobody likes poverty even those who are poor hate their situation and are making every effort to come out of it
Always remember that there are dark days in everybody's life.

Ma'am you have mixed facts with fiction in your post.


@ blue is a fact

Nobody likes poverty, it's not a desirable state

@red is a fiction

Some people do very little to break off the cycle, some people i.e. men and women alike are only hoping to be whisked away someday by a saviour.

So in summary, It is true that poverty is really terrible, it is also true that most people suffering from poverty hope to break off the cycle at some point.


Nonetheless, don't ever marry someone thinking that by default they are working hard to break off the cycle; don't marry anyone out of pity, rather wait to see the potentials and hard work before giving it a shot.

Always try to make rational decisions and study the situation properly

Colourich:
There is a probability that the man will use you for sugar mummy things, then in turn spend the money on the woman he love.

but if d man has money u can spend all his money n put all yr financial burden on him as u like abi?

although it may sound absurd but LOVE beyond money

If u manage it with respect and good communication and also don't expect any strange thing in return it will yield positive but not anyhow poor person..... Guess u know poverty is a serious disease.....

If the person Is poor with high spirit and hard working to get on top then such poor man only need ur assistance and ur relationship will be good

MissRaine69:

1) If you are spending money with the delusional belief that he will love you then this is whole different topic for discussion not what you asked.
2) What’s there to handle? It’s about the type of woman you are and his confidence if he has potential and is willing to explore it why not? But Nigerian women have a flawed way of thinking most don’t recognise potential they aim for the already made man.
3) What do you expect to happen? Are there no women who have sponsored their man’s visa, schooling and are now husband and wife?
What happens is based on mindset and emotional intelligence. ( many lack this)

I like this one "Emotional intelligence"

Elder001:
Bullshît.. Marriage isn't a poverty allegation program.

No rich person should marry a poor individual

@ bolded

I know that you meant alleviation but I just dey imagine as your face go serious as u dey type this allegation

Onyiridike:

Another question; would you support a rich man getting married to a poor girl?

Yes.

Don't Let anyone lie to you that marriage is all about love. Now i am no marriage expert, but any idiot knows that while money is not the key to a happy marriage neither is love the key.
Emotional Security Is Abstract! Financial Security Is Tangible! Go!

pcguru1:


hypergamy
hʌɪˈpəːɡəmi/Submit
noun
the action of marrying a person of a superior caste or class.

Women (today's generation) marry up but not down, few women would (those madly in love or those desperate to marry anyone). Then again it could be that the guys pride could be considered too , some guys can't handle women out earning them, so its a multi faceted issue and not just a simple one

lol redpilled man..

MariaLavina:
If the thread is about you, I'd advise you do not marry that poor boy yet. If you are that rich try set him up first, help his business grow then tie the knots if he asks.


Life is so simple.

Usually I don't do this but your replies are off d hook... u r smart nd intelligent nd I admire u if u r truly a lady

Onyiridike:

What if you marry a rich man and in the long run he became poor; would you divorce him and go in search of another rich man?
In the same way you can marry an M. SC holder who is poor (probably a teacher in private school) and before you know it God show him mercy and blesses him with a better job.
Nobody likes poverty even those who are poor hate their situation and are making every effort to come out of it.
Always remember that there are dark days in everybody's life.

Why is it so important for you to convince other people to marry a man of a certain economic status? Everybody knows that life happens, sickness, disease, financial problem, disaster, but that should not prevent a sane human being from knowing what they want for their life and going after it. Even people who prefer very beautiful partners know that acid can pour on them anytime but you don't see that stopping them from going for their choice. So madam poverty ambassador what is your own?