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I had this issue with my girl friend and i decided to end the relationship some few days ago. you might read the two thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/4566997/been-unreasonable

https://www.nairaland.com/4659078/decided-end-relationship-which-way

After we spoke yesterday she said i was just looking for an excuse to end the relationship after four years. I got angry told her yes i wanted to end the relationship and she said if i wasn't ready to give her time to severe the friendship with the said guy then she thinks is better we go separate ways. I told her if the solution to the problem is me giving her more time then i guess going our separate way would be best as i have been patient enough as we have been on the issue for over two years now. I blocked her on whatsapp so she called that i should unblock her which i did and she said i should give her from till this month ending to resolve issue meanwhile she said she has told the guy in question and the guy said he would speak with me today but she told him to hold on till tomorrow when she would be in town so the three of us can sit and talk. I dont have problem with that.

Many apologies for my long story.

But as with every of our misunderstanding she only seem to see reasons only when it seem am about to abandon the relationship my fear is what would now happen after marriage when there would be no relationship to loss again.

See how girl is using two guys to play ball

Does the guy in question have a red car?

NO why do you ask

hahahahahaha:
Does the guy in question have a red car?

Dude just imagine someone you call your girl in a dilemma of letting another dude go to the point of bringing three of y'all in a table talk and you are cool with that really...

That girl don't regard you, mehn I get principles o these is total disrespect I can't take such bullshit!

Some people don't know the rules to this dating game, they ain't suppose to be in a relationship.

He is someone i know as we both attend the same church

Justbeingreal:


Dude just imagine someone you call your girl in a dilemma of letting another dude go to the point of bringing three of y'all in a table talk and you are cool with that really...

Why not give her till year ending

lawrenzooo:
He is someone i know as we both attend the same church

Someone you know or not its complete bullshit, what exactly are you guys gonna talk about :

You - leave my babe

Friend - she be my friend na

Girl - looking at you both seeing goats.

Man be principled in relationship set boundaries don't let no girl make u look like a Fool.

Thanks for the advice

Justbeingreal:
Someone you know or not its complete bullshit, what exactly are you guys gonna talk about

You - leave my babe

Friend - she be my friend na

Girl - looking at you both seeing goats.

My man be principled in relationship set boundaries don't let no girl make u look like a Fool.

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Your instinct is not serving you well..my observation.

By this time you would've draw a firmly conclusion to leave her or not..you blocked her whatsapp contact, she told you to unblocked it you obliged.. What kind children play is that?

You're just indecisive friend. How long will you continue in this immature gimmick.

you are not stable..see as woman just dey control you..take a decision and stand by it

lawrenzooo:
Thanks for the advice

You are welcome! I understand that it can be emotional a times making decisions with feelings involve, but we just have to be strong and make some firm decisions and also be principled and set our boundaries because the more we overlook and condole bullshits like this the more their fish mind think its okay to do crap like this. IF she don't learn with this and continue then another guy leaves her she go get sense.

Imagine marrying such lady. Don't look back when teaching these ladies lessons nor let dem use u as mumu... Stay woke man.

I guess so. she actually called to talk and i couldn't talk at that moment so she said if i can't talk i should unblock her lets chat. I guess over time i have become so vunerable

Lonestar124:
Your instinct is not serving you well..my observation.

By this time you would've draw a firmly conclusion to leave her or not..you blocked her whatsapp contact, she told you to unblocked it you obliged.. What kind children play is that?

You're just indecisive friend. How long will you continue in this immature gimmick.

Thanks for your kind words. I just feel i shouldn't disappoint her but i guess she is not worth it after all.

Justbeingreal:
You are welcome! I understand that it can be emotional a times making decisions with feelings involve, but we just have to be strong and make some firm decisions and also be principled and set our boundaries because the more we overlook and condole bullshits like this the more their fish mind think its okay to do crap like this. IF she don't learn with this and continue then another guy leaves her she go get sense.

Imagine marrying such lady. Don't look back when teaching these ladies lessons nor let dem use u as mumu... Stay woke man.

lawrenzooo:
I guess so. she actually called to talk and i couldn't talk at that moment so she said if i can't talk i should unblock her lets chat. I guess over time i have become so vunerable

Man bulshit the girl and give yourself a peace of mind...Don't be too emotional.

To enable her roundup with her other guys

I almost missed this. i guess so. i had given up good friendship because of her. why she can't do the same is what i don't know. all the same thanks for taking out time to comment

Deadlywoman:
She has zero respect for you and she's only after the Mrs title. She has put 4 years into this relationship and that's all she cares about. Losing you means she failed, do you see how 'love' isn't mentioned?

The day she knew you were uncomfortable, feeling threatened or insecure about this man is the day she would've said bye to the said man. But instead she's setting up meetings and going back and forth with the man, telling this strange man about your relationship, what you're thinking about and what you feel. There is now 3 people in this relationship, it sounds like a joke.

lawrenzooo:
Thanks for your kind words. I just feel i shouldn't disappoint her but i guess she is not worth it after all.

Truth is you hold the knife and the cake with the whole analysis on this issue so far, the last decision is yours to take after all this only you know better on what to do... Remember we live with whatever choice we make.

P.s. check the dictionary meaning of cuckold.

Trash

By the way, how old are U o.p??

lawrenzooo:
I had this issue with my girl friend and i decided to end the relationship some few days ago. you might read the two thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/4566997/been-unreasonable

https://www.nairaland.com/4659078/decided-end-relationship-which-way

After we spoke yesterday she said i was just looking for an excuse to end the relationship after four years. I got angry told her yes i wanted to end the relationship and she said if i wasn't ready to give her time to severe the friendship with the said guy then she thinks is better we go separate ways. I told her if the solution to the problem is me giving her more time then i guess going our separate way would be best as i have been patient enough as we have been on the issue for over two years now. I blocked her on whatsapp so she called that i should unblock her which i did and she said i should give her from till this month ending to resolve issue meanwhile she said she has told the guy in question and the guy said he would speak with me today but she told him to hold on till tomorrow when she would be in town so the three of us can sit and talk. I dont have problem with that.

Many apologies for my long story.

But as with every of our misunderstanding she only seem to see reasons only when it seem am about to abandon the relationship my fear is what would now happen after marriage when there would be no relationship to loss again.

she was willing to sacrifice her relationship for this guy, I think she likes the guy not the other way round. Move on, I think this round table ish is demeaning, she isn't loyal bro.

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bjayx:
Trash

By the way, how old are U o.p??

the best thing for you to do is to leave her. if you can snub her for like 1yr do that. dont pick her calls , block her on whatsapp facebook all social apps and make sure she do see you with a particular girl even if you are not dating her. do that she will come begging . thank me later

Bro ur so called girl frnd dont want to let go of the dude cus she is benefiting frm him, and ur so called girl frnd dont regard u and u are very soft believe me that girl we trade u over that dude, u are just her second option, thats why i luv the bad guys, that boy is fucking her thats the bitter truth and the girl knew that u are very weak, bro i duff my cap for u mr luver boy

lawrenzooo:
I had this issue with my girl friend and i decided to end the relationship some few days ago. you might read the two thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/4566997/been-unreasonable

https://www.nairaland.com/4659078/decided-end-relationship-which-way

After we spoke yesterday she said i was just looking for an excuse to end the relationship after four years. I got angry told her yes i wanted to end the relationship and she said if i wasn't ready to give her time to severe the friendship with the said guy then she thinks is better we go separate ways. I told her if the solution to the problem is me giving her more time then i guess going our separate way would be best as i have been patient enough as we have been on the issue for over two years now. I blocked her on whatsapp so she called that i should unblock her which i did and she said i should give her from till this month ending to resolve issue meanwhile she said she has told the guy in question and the guy said he would speak with me today but she told him to hold on till tomorrow when she would be in town so the three of us can sit and talk. I dont have problem with that.

Many apologies for my long story.

But as with every of our misunderstanding she only seem to see reasons only when it seem am about to abandon the relationship my fear is what would now happen after marriage when there would be no relationship to loss again.

If I may be allowed to Wade in

1. She doesn't love you as much as you thought she did, she may be really fond of you but not in love

2. She is emotionally manipulative and knows the pull she has over you, if I were to guess she gets really explosive more than usual recently?

3. She loves the other guy and probably talks about you with him

4. She is holding onto you as a safety net

5. Even if you get back with her she will keep communicating with the other guy

6. Let her go don't be the one to hold on, if she loves you she will break up with him without even telling you. Telling you to give her time shows her total indecisiveness on this which means like I said earlier the love for you isn't so strong anymore

7. Again let her go

8 a woman is the one who keeps her man or a relationship, if she really wanted this that conversation you typed wouldn't have occurred

9. Don't be an after thought move on

10 I am be wrong so don't take my word for it

Thank you

jenigurl:
If I may be allowed to Wade in

1. She doesn't love you as much as you thought she did, she may be really fond of you but not in love

2. She is emotionally manipulative and knows the pull she has over you, if I were to guess she gets really explosive more than usual recently?

3. She loves the other guy and probably talks about you with him

4. She is holding onto you as a safety net

5. Even if you get back with her she will keep communicating with the other guy

6. Let her go don't be the one to hold on, if she loves you she will break up with him without even telling you. Telling you to give her time shows her total indecisiveness on this which means like I said earlier the love for you isn't so strong anymore

7. Again let her go

8 a woman is the one who keeps her man or a relationship, if she really wanted this that conversation you typed wouldn't have occurred

9. Don't be an after thought move on

10 I am be wrong so don't take my word for it

Nice thread. Keep it up.

3 fools in a round table negotiating how to share pussy

Boss. I greet you sir.

iLegendd:
Nice thread. Keep it up.