I believe in God and I believe miracles abound where there's faith, so I believe if it's God's will your son can be made free from his ailment , though I don't believe in tempting God but obviously that's what is happening now, because you guys went into a marriage with full knowledge of the resultant consequences and untold sufferings for the kid.
tread with caution
But I would advice you to do the needful by divorcing her, being that you were deceived into the marriage and it would be wickedness now that you are sure of her status to bring in more kids to suffer and if you choose not to have kids anymore at this young age in your marriage, then how far can you go with that?
I am totally against you marrying a second wife though (please don't do that, it's against righteousness and save yourself the future troubles that about with such) and if u must marry a second wife then divorce the current one first

iupac120:
This is a serious issue. Op, you're now a married man and sending your wife away will not be the solution. The mistake you made initially was threatening for AS and your wife decided to play along which is deception on her part. My genotype is AS but before I develop feeling for any lady the first thing to ask is your genotype before I would disclose mine .
secondly, you didn't stand you ground after the mandatory test which would have averted this episode from playing and giving the poor child pains and resource drain on your family.
However, sit your wife down and discuss with her. She will always be part of you and as a Christian, divorce is not seeked lightly.
The next approach to take is to seek for medical counselling from professionals in genotype and get first-hand information on the way forward for the marriage.
Finally, as a man always stand on your opinions once they don't contradict God's commandments.

As Christian divorce is not taken rightly but as a Christian they can bully him to marry the girl when they are fully aware the girl is AS. Relationship based lies never withstand test of time. The young had better move out of the house for her, but please take care of your child. Please be careful so the does not lure you into another pregnancy. Good luck if you know how to detach yourself from the cage.

Aremolekunowo:
Greetings to my people of nairalanders, I met my wife around 2015 and we dated for almost a year and attended all the necessary church and family teachings.

She told me she was a single mother, and all the men that dated her before I came to her left her because of that,I promise I won't leave her for having a baby outside wedlock.

The relationship keep on growing and I told her about my AS genotype and I made it clear to her that nothing will make me marry AS lady because of sickle cell children palavar. she told me that she is genotype AA. We continue our relationship did introduction and fixed our wedding date, now a month and two weeks to our wedding we went for mandatory test in our church clinic behold she failed the genotype test it was AS, right there I told her I no dey do again, she rejected the result and claimed vehemently that she is AA. second day we did confirmatory test it was still the same thing.

Her parents called me and told me both of them were AA and there is no way their daughter can be AS gene. they later brought some previous test (fake) of her AA stuff. I was bullied by every one around to go ahead since it was just few weeks to the wedding that it was manipulations, though my spirit was not willing again but I was compelled by all to go ahead that the thing has change back to AA she also said so that it has changed back to original AA. We go ahead and marry sha. She took in immediately after nine month she gave birth to a baby boy which I named Ikechukwu though we are both Yoruba's but I love Igbo people so much because I grew up with many of them. After some months after birth, Ikechukwu begin some strange sickness we begin to take the boy in and outside hospitals, spending the little income I was getting I decided to do Genotype test for d boy my wife resist it but I went ahead behold it was SS(sickle cell)

immediately I show her the result she went on her knees begging me, I called her father and informed him about it he invites me to his place and he too was begging me that he was also AS and not AA as he claimed before; now every is begging me again that I should not break my marriage that is based on deception, I have done everything that will make her leave my house except violent she refused to go. Every one is bullying me and begging me again, now non of them have supported me in any way for the boy expensive treatment.

IK is now a year old, am not willing to have another child with her again, please my people what should I do , and what's the best way to make her leave my house for at leat 2 to 3 years? please advice your brother and son, thanks and sorry for the long epistle God bless you all.

Let her know that she will contribute 50% of the baby's medical check up.she and her family MUST sign agreement with you on the boy's medical upkeep because they were cause of it. And avoid any form of intercourse with her till you get advice from a medical expert. Above all ask God for his grace to carry the cross

No one chose to AS, AA and so on. Na God dey decide who is AS, AA, If you take biology, Marrying an AS does not automatically means your child will be SS, the chances for an AS is very high. many Nigerians are AS.

This is what happens when you leave God out of your marriage plans. The devil has taken over your life.... My fellow men/ women please never make a mistake of not asking God to choose a wife/husband for you. He knows the best for you. Have you forgotten that He knows all humanity better than they even know themselves....This should be a lesson to all Christians. My brother go to God in prayer and fasting with a humble spirit and ask for directions on the next step to take for your marriage. I am sure He will direct you. Nothing is impossible with God.

Let her know that she will contribute 50% of the baby's medical check up.she and her family MUST sign agreement with you on the boy's medical upkeep because they were cause of it. And avoid any form of intercourse with her till you get advice from a medical expert. Above all ask God for his grace to carry the cross

[quote author=Tomoyayi post=70197088][/quote] Noooo.... I never reach o

Imagine you guys brought in a child to suffer because of your foolishness. The worst will be when the child now dies as a young adult after you have spent so much on raising him.

aonag:
Is it only in Africa or nigeria this AS SS thing happens? I have not seen oyibo person suffering from this... can someone help out please?

Do you live in oyinbo land?

madridguy:
Your wife just wanna use her raggae spoil your blues.
I am not trying to blame you bro, but you caused it all. How could you believe her parent fake medical report? Since 2 different labs had revealed her real genotype, you have no business with her parent again.

I cannot say you should leave your wife now because of your son.

That was exactly where he got it wrong, allowing sentiments to take reverence over laboratory proof that they are not genotypically compatible. Damn!

Now little Ikechukwu will grow up not enjoying good health while he keep spending on his medical bills which won't be pocket-friendly.

YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT TO DISSOLVE THE MARRIAGE. ANY CONTRACT / MARRIAGE DONE UNDER FALSEHOOD OR DECEPTION CAN BE CANCELLED WITHOUT ANY STRESS. JUST DISSOLVE THE MARRIAGE , HELP IN THE TAKING CARE OF YOUR SON. THE ONLY THING YOU WILL GET OUT OF THAT UNION IS ANGER , HATE AND UNHAPPINESS..

You're not man enough. how could you allowed them to manipulate you

Ill start by saying ure d biggest Bleep up of 2018...first of all u discoverd she was AS and you too be AS buh u allowed her selfish parents talk you into marring her when you should have plainly told dem...n you know d dangers of dat...now u brought d poor boy *ikechukwu* into d picture and now hes falling sick.if anyting do dat boy na ur head e de ooo....u de marry out of pity abi na out of faith...ur faith has just turned ur fate oga ade....leave d lady else all ur life savings na hospital account go collect am....i de ontop my bed

I feel for the guy in question, because with that have happened he will hardly trust what ever the wife do or say. Meanwhile guy click on the link in my signature

He really mess up.

phase1:


That was exactly where he got it wrong, allowing sentiments to take reverence over laboratory proof that they are not genotypically compatible. Damn!

Now little Ikechukwu will grow up not enjoying good health while he keep spending on his medical bills which won't be pocket-friendly.

The Story Has A Previous Existence, Why U Disturbing Us Nw.

Hmmmm, sorry dear.. I did my genotype test and I was told am AA even though I have a very strong feeling that I was AA. My wife went for test and she AS and we agreed to get married, few days to marriage church ask us to go for test only for the result stating I am AS... We both told ourselves the implications and agreed to go ahead with the marriage, God so kind and merciful our children are both AA. My Bro the decision is up to you.

chuberg:



Let her know that she will contribute 50% of the baby's medical check up.she and her family MUST sign agreement with you on the boy's medical upkeep because they were cause of it. And avoid any form of intercourse with her till you get advice from a medical expert. Above all ask God for his grace to carry the cross

Fear women wit secrets. A frnd of mine jst discovered dis month dat a girl he intends gettin married to has bn fakin her age,....him nt knowing she's older dan him & also avin 2 other serious dates dat sees her as d one dey wnt to marry.

LIFE na wah!!!!


FEAR WOMEN!!!

APC marriage.

This poster is yet to convince me that he is a man

1. Move to a separate apartment if she wont move out.
2. Marry a wife that is willing to be honest and truthful, and move on. Deception runs in your wife's family, I wouldnt spend one more day as in laws to such people.
3. Continue to provide for your son to the best if your ability.

Be wise in chosing a life partner. No one should bully you out of your right to enjoy a happy life with an honest wife.

Best regards.

Hmmmm, sorry dear.. I did my genotype test and I was told am AA even though I have a very strong feeling that I was AA. My wife went for test and she AS and we agreed to get married, few days to marriage church ask us to go for test only for the result stating I am AS... We both told ourselves the implications and agreed to go ahead with the marriage, God so kind and merciful our children are both AA. My Bro the decision is up to you.


Let her know that she will contribute 50% of the baby's medical check up.she and her family MUST sign agreement with you on the boy's medical upkeep because they were cause of it. And avoid any form of intercourse with her till you get advice from a medical expert. Above all ask God for his grace to carry the

chuberg:



Let her know that she will contribute 50% of the baby's medical check up.she and her family MUST sign agreement with you on the boy's medical upkeep because they were cause of it. And avoid any form of intercourse with her till you get advice from a medical expert. Above all ask God for his grace to carry the cross

Hmmmm, sorry dear.. I did my genotype test and I was told am AA even though I have a very strong feeling that I was AA. My wife went for test and she AS and we agreed to get married, few days to marriage church ask us to go for test only for the result stating I am AS... We both told ourselves the implications and agreed to go ahead with the marriage, God so kind and merciful our children are both AA. My Bro the decision is up to you.

1stCitizen:
OP,

Firstly let me say I am very sorry you are going through this. Sometimes life throws some strange challenges at us. The important thing is how we deal with these challenges. Your wife needs you now more than ever. We are fallible, you, your wife, me and everyone on this forum.

I want to believe that you were in a situation where you wanted the truth to be false(We have all been there) and the so called bullies helped you do that. Such is the trick of the heart. No one is to blame here as this is no time for that. The only innocent person here is the little child whom I believe will grow to make you both proud.

Be the man and make a plan for his care. Fate deals people worse daily.

I tell you what. AA and AA marrying have resulted in the birth of children with learning disabilities, rare genetic disorders and bone marrow cancer, so accept the reality on ground like a man you are and stop the self pity.

Send me a PM so we can talk this through. If I am not mistaken,there are tests available to check the genotype of a foetus so early termination can be considered. Do not break your home over this my man.Stay blessed

That's trashy talk , Honestly God forbid, I'll dump her arse

But OP did really stupid thing , when everyone started pressurizing you to marry her after two independent tests, you'll know they just want her to leave family house , Won ke si e lowo ni


Although proper maintenance and medication Ike will live as long as possible , but the prospect of cost and sickness which probably would always scare you when he falls sick is going to be an issue


If i were you @Op, I'd dump that Biatch fast but will try my best to take care of my boy at all times


If she's lying to you about that, what else has she lied to you about ?

Dump the Biatchhhhh

extremelygolden:
Unfortunately the deed has been done already and you can't abandon her and your son now. A stitch in time, they say, saves nine, and there's no need crying over split milk.

I think the decision to pause bearing another child with her suffices. I just pray a miracle occurs and Ikechukwu is completely and permanently healed.

This is like a case of a stone you saw coming, but unfortunately you allowed it to blind you. Well you own the cross carry it.

czarina:
That marriage is invalid for the single reason that it was built on lies. Let's wait for for the elders




meanwhile, check my profile if you live in Jos and environs

This ur massage, does it come with a happy ending

victorian:
You've entered already. You can't leave the poor boy on his own.
Mehn I pity you bank accounts, in fact you and your wife bank accounts. Cause of taking care of a sicker is not a ride in the park. It's damned expensive, especially when crisis starts. I lost my elder through sickle cell. He died age 18. I lost my second brother through hole in the heart, he died age 24. Am the only left but with AA genotype. They both died right in front of me. Terrible past moments It wasn't easy . I had to spend on my second brother's health, cos our parents were old and gone, after some years back. I lost the battle three years ago. After spending alot in his treatments. Mehn it wasnt easy. I saw pepper!

And my parents spent fire to take care of my late brothers when they were alive.

Sorry op, you can't run away from your son. It's good uv decided not to have more kids with your wife. But please take care of your son. Some sicklers survive while some don't. May God see both of you through amen.

Ha! I find your personal story very touching. You have already seen too much blood! I respect you and I feel for you. I pray that God gives you happiness and also that He decrees 'never again' to tears and sorrow in your life. Amen.

Do everything you can do to send her packing. My aunty has ss kid and the couple are not enjoying their life. Am just sorry for I.K tho. poor little boy that has a wicked mom.

Try and get a wife, don't let your baby mama distract you