lawnreigh:
This is really deep, unfortunately she do tell me that the feelings she has for me is natural and it has actually been difficult for her to accept another guy until I appear suddenly into her life. I will give it a second taught myself and I really appreciate your advise. Thanks

MRSoftapples:
Hmm my brother,, you have to really asked yourself if this girl really loves you or not..
From the look of things, her ex really loves her and still loves her, so it's best for you to let the lady go,, advice her to go back to her ex..
its not like he cheated or he is a woman beater,, just smoking and bad friends didn't stop him from loving her..
What she should have done, was to report him to his mom and family members, so that they can advice him to dump the dangerous lifestyle and be focus on life..

The lady overreacted by going into another relationship with you because her ex had done nothing wrong,, all he needed was an elderly advice..

So my brother, let go of the girl, tell her to go back to her ex,, wish her well in life, advice her to talk to elders in her family and move on with your life..

djjosh:
Lol...i'm laughing right? This is cos same tin is happenin to me nw, & u knw wt i did? I gave her option to go and console him so he'll not do something stupid. Guess what? They are now together, just last week the guy is talking of coming to visit the lady's family. I was not in town, i came in on saturday night, saw her on sunday & she said i shd 4gv her dt she sti lov d guy. I js wishd her wel & am nw movin on...i xpected it anyways, dtz y im tkin it cul. So nigga, jus try lil effort n push her to him n c, dr'll js blend at once n u'l b a collateral damage as u said. Ds hoes, dr aint worth it.

lawnreigh:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, Let me start talking about how we started, I have known this lady for a long time(Just Friends) but we started talking again few months ago after about 6 years without communicating, she is the type that I really love and want to make my wife, but an issue started coming up as a threat in between us lately. To start with, she was dating a guy when we started talking again and I was out of the country then. We got along very well and things started getting serious overtime, she told me she has a boyfriend then but she doesn't really go into much details at first, when I came back, I asked about her boyfriend issue and she told me he is a cool guy but things are getting bad between them because she has been having issues with the kind of friend he keeps, their lifestyle of smoking etc and he isn't serious with any life plans which was before she found out due to long distance relationship.
She ended the relationship after we met (she has always emphasize this to know how real I am about her), the problem now is that the Ex keeps resurfacing using different strategies like begging, crying and other childish act and was always like no one can take her from him, the worst that happened recently now is that the guy wanted to commit suicide, the mother and some of his family members had to call my girlfriend to please reverse her decision on the break up so that he wouldn't end his life etc. I need suggestion on how to resolve this issue once and for all. Its getting out of hand and I cant keep continuing like this, likewise herself too. All ideas, insults and suggestions are welcome.


Note: She has done all her part to persuade the guy stop the lifestyle and plan toward the future and stop keeping friends that are into smoking and all those lifestyle many times before I met her to no avail, thinking she cant leave him simply because he disvirgined her and has been the only guy she had known all of her life. I know all this details personally through a friend that attended same University with her, personal background check and her words too. No one is perfect but I don't see her as the lieing type and she open up to me on everything. Thanks

zicoraads:
Lawnreigh, from your post, I can deduce that the three of you live in the same town. So I'll advise that she puts her foot down and make it clear to him that it is over between the two of them.

Ignore Dominique's advice about her being there for him. Trust me, he's most likely trying to emotionally blackmail her. I repeat, he's trying to emotionally blackmail her. A guy that keeps his kind of lifestyle loves life too much to really take his own life.

Now your lady should call a meeting between her parents and his parents, and make sure he's also there. If he didn't get the memo then, make sure your lady makes it clear that she has moved on and she is now in a serious relationship. His parents should know that their actions and his are affecting your relationship negatively. She should also tell them that if their son does any harm to himself, it is no longer your responsibility.

If at the end they haven't gotten the memo, he should go ahead and kill himself.

But believe me, there is a 99 percent chance that he just wants her back at all cost. There is nothing you can do really. She is the one to end this if she really wants to. Except she just wants to string you and her ex along.

Cheers.

bbode1:
what i think is this, ask her if she is stil emotionaly atached. compel her to b truthful. if she is leave her eventualy, bt if shez not. tel her to cal the family of d boy nd her own family a meeting. she shld mak it clear shez done wit d relationshp nd giv them reasons y. on ur part, u hav to mak a police report. cos a sucidal person can also take ur life too. u need to make him know that u not going to let your woman go back to him. u also need to let him knw that his a threat to u. and the police have know abt it. your life shld be the most important thing to u

Elliot2:
my guy back then in skul drank a poison cos of his gurl dat dumped him...

fhorlar:


Re u sure u taking it cool? Mehn..this is most pained comment av seen here today.

Truckpusher:
He is an idiot .

Most of the girls we all dated in school almost ended up with some other guy.

lawnreigh:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, Let me start talking about how we started, I have known this lady for a long time(Just Friends) but we started talking again few months ago after about 6 years without communicating, she is the type that I really love and want to make my wife, but an issue started coming up as a threat in between us lately. To start with, she was dating a guy when we started talking again and I was out of the country then. We got along very well and things started getting serious overtime, she told me she has a boyfriend then but she doesn't really go into much details at first, when I came back, I asked about her boyfriend issue and she told me he is a cool guy but things are getting bad between them because she has been having issues with the kind of friend he keeps, their lifestyle of smoking etc and he isn't serious with any life plans which was before she found out due to long distance relationship.
She ended the relationship after we met (she has always emphasize this to know how real I am about her), the problem now is that the Ex keeps resurfacing using different strategies like begging, crying and other childish act and was always like no one can take her from him, the worst that happened recently now is that the guy wanted to commit suicide, the mother and some of his family members had to call my girlfriend to please reverse her decision on the break up so that he wouldn't end his life etc. I need suggestion on how to resolve this issue once and for all. Its getting out of hand and I cant keep continuing like this, likewise herself too. All ideas, insults and suggestions are welcome.


Note: She has done all her part to persuade the guy stop the lifestyle and plan toward the future and stop keeping friends that are into smoking and all those lifestyle many times before I met her to no avail, thinking she cant leave him simply because he disvirgined her and has been the only guy she had known all of her life. I know all this details personally through a friend that attended same University with her, personal background check and her words too. No one is perfect but I don't see her as the lieing type and she open up to me on everything. Thanks

MRSoftapples:
Hmm my brother,, you have to really asked yourself if this girl really loves you or not..
From the look of things, her ex really loves her and still loves her, so it's best for you to let the lady go,, advice her to go back to her ex..
its not like he cheated or he is a woman beater,, just smoking and bad friends didn't stop him from loving her..
What she should have done, was to report him to his mom and family members, so that they can advice him to dump the dangerous lifestyle and be focus on life..

The lady overreacted by going into another relationship with you because her ex had done nothing wrong,, all he needed was an elderly advice..

So my brother, let go of the girl, tell her to go back to her ex,, wish her well in life, advice her to talk to elders in her family and move on with your life..

Truckpusher:
Total fallacy .
Anyone that wants to commit suicide over a break up doesn’t really love the other party but obsessed with them.
When you love someone and they don’t love you back simply walk away let time be the judge if she or he made the right decision.
Anyone that threatens to harm themselves over a break up is an emotional blackmailer and a bad news.
Men and women that exhibits this kind of character are potential abusers and can even murder the other party.

My thoughts exactly
Don’t even fall for their tears - They will kill you if something flips in them.

kingxsamz:
Abeg all these relationship matter don taya me.

iwatch:
stop typing like a damage robot. Humans are reading. Jeez!

Damaged robot ? How? Can u explain?

fhorlar:


Re u sure u taking it cool? Mehn..this is most pained comment av seen here today.

MRSoftapples:
Hmm my brother,, you have to really asked yourself if this girl really loves you or not..
From the look of things, her ex really loves her and still loves her, so it's best for you to let the lady go,, advice her to go back to her ex..
its not like he cheated or he is a woman beater,, just smoking and bad friends didn't stop him from loving her..
What she should have done, was to report him to his mom and family members, so that they can advice him to dump the dangerous lifestyle and be focus on life..

The lady overreacted by going into another relationship with you because her ex had done nothing wrong,, all he needed was an elderly advice..

So my brother, let go of the girl, tell her to go back to her ex,, wish her well in life, advice her to talk to elders in her family and move on with your life..

Pipedreams:
He dey resurface like sh.it wey no gree flush abi

djjosh:
Yes i am dear, i expected it that's why am taking cool!

iwatch:
why should you even be laughing over this? Like what do you ladies gain doing this every time?

fhorlar:


Naaa..ure still hurt..still in denial though
I know what heartbreak means, trust me
That shiit hurts like hell
But den shiit happens all the time doesn't it?
Seeing evry girl as bad and whatever term u use, affects only one person in the long run
YOU!

justtoodark:


did you meant smite or smack...??...and in that case his or her butt....?