A lot of people obsess about girls, this is why they'll continue to play with you and milk you dry while channeling their love to the men they really care about. From my experience with girls, you don't need to struggle so much to get any girl's attention if you have attended first to the basic things. As it is said, first things first. This has been my message about dating and will continue to be, because it works. I don't know why guys like to take the hard route thereby jeopardizing their emotions. It hurts me to see guys degraded just because of a girl. This is why I have decided to pen this down.
If you want a girl to be all over you in reality, these are the basic things you should pursue, anyone telling you something else is not being realistic. You may succeed in getting a girl but you may not be able to keep her attracted to you for so long. In order not to be a victim of heartbreaks, follow these rules:

. Be independent and Successful : little wonder why many girls have abandoned their college lover for other men (real men). This should not come as a surprise. Success is attractive. Who wouldn't want to be associated with a successful and independent man. It is for this reason that most girls fall for doctors, lawyers, business men, etc. If you're still in school, face your studies, graduate, get a job.. Then you'll really begin to stress less about getting a girl. How do I know? Speaking from experience. This is the most important aspect of getting any girl. Every other rule is secondary.

. Be cute and presentable: Do not wear oversized clothes. Be moderately fashionable. Be clean and cute, with nice haircut. Wear a good cologne and footwear. If your dentition is bad, or you have stains or plaque on your teeth, or mouth odor, see a dentist. Looking good is good business.

. Have a good command of English language. It can be a turn off when one can't speak well enough. You don't have to speak big grammar. Simple words spoken well is enough. If you weren't opportune to go to school, it shouldn't stop you from learning. Learning is a lifetime process.

. Be romantic and have a good sense of humor: A good sense of humor has a way of turning on the emotional tap of every woman. You don't have to be a clown. Just know the right things to say at any point in time without appearing too serious. Crack jokes from time to time.

. Don't appear desperate : This is where a lot of guys screw things up by desperately pursuing a girl. It can be a total turn off. It is said that scarcity creates value. Be caring without appearing desperate and boggy. It will give her enough room to think about you and miss you.

. Be Cool, Calm and Collected. You don't have to be violent to prove your worth. Good Character is a very attractive virtue. Everyone is drawn to someone perceived to have good qualities. Be a good listener, extend generosity to the less privileged, be caring and sensitive to her emotions, be humble etc. Charms strike the sight but merit wins the soul.

. Do not compliment her too soon or ask her out: The idea is not trying to do the conventional things others do. This is the exact reason most girls go after guys who don't seem to be giving them any attention. This gets them confused and at the same time stupefied. They unconsciously start longing for your compliment and attention.

. Tell her about your other female friends (even if you have none). Do it in a normal way, like, telling her about the ones you once went out with, and the experiences you had with them. This will make her believe you have other options aside her. It will increase the value she has for you. By so doing, you're turning around the table, she'll be the one doing the chasing (unless she's so good at pretending not to care).

At this time, you must have succeeded in getting her attracted to you without appearing desperate. Asking her out would only be a formality. An opportunity she would be so happy to grab.

If she does not seem to care after all these (for reasons best known to her, or perhaps she might be in a serious relationship), do not push it. Look elsewhere. Don't kill yourself because of a woman. There are so many beautiful women out there. If she is interested, she'll give you hints.. If she's not, be mature enough not to throw tantrums. Look elsewhere with your dignity and respect intact.

Don't go about pursuing girls without first finding a purpose for your life. It will give you more confidence and pave the way for you. Seek to make girls attracted to you and coming for you instead of the other way.

NB: This does not intend to make anyone a womanizer, but to increase their confidence with girls. My advice is this:
. Date only when you're ready to settle down
. Make friends with the female folks. If you find anyone you fancy and that fancies you, date her. If she's good, marry her.
. Don't jump from one girl to another. By so doing, you waste valuable time, emotions, and resources.

Daalu nu

Wow

some no care ooo

Nice points up there OP...I kukuma thainGod say na DEN DE RUSH US!

We no dey too chase girls, na dem dey rush us

Summary please...

Bluezy13:
Summary please...

Are you a lazy Nigerian youth? Read and learn bro.

Mikolion87:
A lot of people obsess about girls, this is why they'll continue to play with you and milk you dry while channeling their love to the men they really care about. From my experience with girls, you don't need to struggle so much to get any girl's attention if you have attended first to the basic things. As it is said, first things first. This has been my message about dating and will continue to be, because it works. I don't know why guys like to take the hard route thereby jeopardizing their emotions. It hurts me to see guys degraded just because of a girl. This is why I have decided to pen this down.
If you want a girl to be all over you in reality, these are the basic things you should pursue, anyone telling you something else is not being realistic. You may succeed in getting a girl but you may not be able to keep her attracted to you for so long. In order not to be a victim of heartbreaks, follow these rules:

. Be independent and Successful : little wonder why many girls have abandoned their college lover for other men (real men). This should not come as a surprise. Success is attractive. Who wouldn't want to be associated with a successful and independent man. It is for this reason that most girls fall for doctors, lawyers, business men, etc. If you're still in school, face your studies, graduate, get a job.. Then you'll really begin to stress less about getting a girl. How do I know? Speaking from experience. This is the most important aspect of getting any girl. Every other rule is secondary.

. Be cute and presentable: Do not wear oversized clothes. Be moderately fashionable. Be clean and cute, with nice haircut. Wear a good cologne and footwear. If your dentition is bad, or you have stains or plaque on your teeth, or mouth odor, see a dentist. Looking good is good business.

. Have a good command of English language. It can be a turn off when one can't speak well enough. You don't have to speak big grammar. Simple words spoken well is enough. If you weren't opportune to go to school, it shouldn't stop you from learning. Learning is a lifetime process.

. Be romantic and have a good sense of humor: A good sense of humor has a way of turning on the emotional tap of every woman. You don't have to be a clown. Just know the right things to say at any point in time without appearing too serious. Crack jokes from time to time.

. Don't appear desperate : This is where a lot of guys screw things up by desperately pursuing a girl. It can be a total turn off. It is said that scarcity creates value. Be caring without appearing desperate and boggy. It will give her enough room to think about you and miss you.

. Be Cool, Calm and Collected. You don't have to be violent to prove your worth. Good Character is a very attractive virtue. Everyone is drawn to someone perceived to have good qualities. Be a good listener, extend generosity to the less privileged, be caring and sensitive to her emotions, be humble etc. Charms strike the sight but merit wins the soul.

. Do not compliment her too soon or ask her out: The idea is not trying to do the conventional things others do. This is the exact reason most girls go after guys who don't seem to be giving them any attention. This gets them confused and at the same time stupefied. They unconsciously start longing for your compliment and attention.

. Tell her about your other female friends (even if you have none). Do it in a normal way, like, telling her about the ones you once went out with, and the experiences you had with them. This will make her believe you have other options aside her. It will increase the value she has for you. By so doing, you're turning around the table, she'll be the one doing the chasing (unless she's so good at pretending not to care).

At this time, you must have succeeded in getting her attracted to you without appearing desperate. Asking her out would only be a formality. An opportunity she would be so happy to grab.

If she does not seem to care after all these (for reasons best known to her, or perhaps she might be in a serious relationship), do not push it. Look elsewhere. Don't kill yourself because of a woman. There are so many beautiful women out there. If she is interested, she'll give you hints.. If she's not, be mature enough not to throw tantrums. Look elsewhere with your dignity and respect intact.

Don't go about pursuing girls without first finding a purpose for your life. It will give you more confidence and pave the way for you. Seek to make girls attracted to you and coming for you instead of the other way.

NB: This does not intend to make anyone a womanizer, but to increase their confidence with girls. My advice is this:
. Date only when you're ready to settle down
. Make friends with the female folks. If you find anyone you fancy and that fancies you, date her. If she's good, marry her.
. Don't jump from one girl to another. By so doing, you waste valuable time, emotions, and resources.

Daalu nu

Everything you wrote is the TRUTH. Not Misleading, it's not a Miseducation. What I love most is your sense of RESPONSIBILITY which is the Bolded. Such sense is rare in most relationship tutors in this so called 'MORDERN' age.

Mikolion87:

Are you a lazy Nigerian youth? Read and learn bro.

More reason I need the summary.

kudos op

Nice one op,

Women are not solely attracted to men in the same way men are attracted to women. Men attraction lies in the resources and value they can offer. This is where most young guys got it unfigured out. What makes a woman attractive to a man is naturally given to her (her beauty, femininity, fertility, nurturing abilities), for men, it has to be worked for. To be successful and capable of providing, defending, and protecting.

Women will always view broke men with disdain not because she wants to, but because she is wired to go for the top male and procreate for them thus, making sure the strongest genes are passed down to the next generation. This is the evolutionary basis why women always go for rich men and men always go for young women in their most fertile moment (18-29 years).

An example displaying this dynamic is also why old men can always marry down a young woman in her most fertile moment, but women can't do the same. Again, a successful man is an attractive man.

It goes further than these but understanding the above makes one channel necessary energy in hustling, instead of wasting it impressing women.

God bless you!!! Nice one.

pansophist:
Nice one op,

Women are not solely attracted to men in the same way men are attracted to women. Men attraction lies in the resources and value they can offer. This is where most young guys got it unfigured out. What makes a woman attractive to a man is naturally given to her (her beauty, femininity, fertility, nurturing abilities), for men, it has to be worked for. To be successful and capable of providing, defending, and protecting.

Women will always view broke men with disdain not because she wants to, but because she is wired to go for the top male and procreate for them thus, making sure the strongest genes are passed down to the next generation. This is the evolutionary basis why women always go for rich men and men always go for young women in their most fertile moment (18-29 years).

An example displaying this dynamic is also why old men can always marry down a young woman in her most fertile moment, but women can't do the same. Again, an attractive man is a successful man.

It goes further than these but understanding the above makes one channel necessary energy in hustling, instead of wasting it impressing women.

Surest one. Well written, couldn't agree more

To be honest sir only few things can make a woman fall for a guy cuteness is not one of them. Money can make a man cute in a lady’s eyes (especially in Nigeria)

A woman doesn’t care about your command of English. You can speak broken or pidgin. In fact sir two of you can speak Yoruba from beginning to end.

Valid points from your writeup are

Be independent (have a car)
Tell her about other ladies(very important)
Be calm and don’t appear desperate


For hustling guys please forget about us for now I beg you. My younger brother went away from home at the age of 19 after his ex disappointed him now he is 24 and has his car (Camry muscle) his ex came to our house one day and was begging. I was the one who took a knife and chased her out to the front of the house. All the ladies are disappointment in Nigeria

I am not excluded

Please men use your head

Wilfredpat22:
To be honest sir only few things can make a woman fall for a guy cuteness is not one of them. Money can make a man cute in a lady’s eyes (especially in Nigeria)

A woman doesn’t care about your command of English. You can speak broken or pidgin. In fact sir two of you can speak Yoruba from beginning to end.

Valid points from your writeup are

Be independent (have a car)
Tell her about other ladies(very important)
Be calm and don’t appear desperate


For hustling guys please forget about us for now I beg you. My younger brother went away from home at the age of 19 after his ex disappointed him now he is 24 and has his car (Camry muscle) his ex came to our house one day and was begging. I was the one who took a knife and chased her out to the front of the house. All the ladies are disappointment in Nigeria

I am not excluded

Please men use your head

All the ladies are not disappointment in Nigeria. Work on urself.

Wilfredpat22:
To be honest sir only few things can make a woman fall for a guy cuteness is not one of them. Money can make a man cute in a lady’s eyes (especially in Nigeria)

A woman doesn’t care about your command of English. You can speak broken or pidgin. In fact sir two of you can speak Yoruba from beginning to end.

Valid points from your writeup are

Be independent (have a car)
Tell her about other ladies(very important)
Be calm and don’t appear desperate


For hustling guys please forget about us for now I beg you. My younger brother went away from home at the age of 19 after his ex disappointed him now he is 24 and has his car (Camry muscle) his ex came to our house one day and was begging. I was the one who took a knife and chased her out to the front of the house. All the ladies are disappointment in Nigeria

I am not excluded

Please men use your head

Kindly refrain from generalisations..not all Nigerian women wait with an outstretched arm ready to receive.
There are many who are hustling, working with careers and doing their own thing independent of men.

WORDWORLD:


Everything you wrote is the TRUTH. Not Misleading, it's not a Miseducation. What I love most is your sense of RESPONSIBILITY which is the Bolded. Such sense is rare in most relationship tutors in this so called 'MORDERN' age.

I appreciate your good remarks. Thank you

Bluezy13:
Summary please...

seconded!!

nikkypearl:
seconded!!

copy copy make me pass




nice one@Op

Nice one from the OP





Think cheap data, buy cheap data.

Mikolion87:


. Be independent and Successful : little wonder why many girls have abandoned their college lover for other men (real men). This should not come as a surprise. Success is attractive. Who wouldn't want to be associated with a successful and independent man. It is for this reason that most girls fall for doctors, lawyers, business men, etc. If you're still in school, face your studies, graduate, get a job.. Then you'll really begin to stress less about getting a girl. How do I know? Speaking from experience. This is the most important aspect of getting any girl. Every other rule is secondary.

I partially disagree with this line but i understand it goes both ways. Have you ever seen pretty ladies attracted to hoodrats, no money, just hustlers, haggard looking guys while they pretend to love 'rich guy' and milk him dry?. I have seen a lady whose boyfriend from Guyana was rich(in NY). As in he had two houses, cars, he was top supervisor at a construction company and was looking good as well.

Guess what, his blind love for the girl cost him everything. He stupidly signed off his house to the lady and in the process, the lady fell in love with a guy who rides bicycle in the hood (perhaps, her backup boyfriend). Since her name is on the deed now, she dumped the rich guy and brought in hustler and they married. The rich guy is now the poorest man in the world

He is skinny, drunkard, smoke many pockets of cigarettes a day and so frailed and heartbroken. Another on one is a guy spending his hard earned money on a lady and the lady saw clearly that she had financial security. But what did she do?. she went ahead and got pregnant for a low-life who can not even takecare of himself. A guy who still lives with his parent in the basement.

Our world is full of surprises man. I would say, chase the woman you like but do so with integrity. The moment you notice she seems to be using you or you doubt she is really into you, ditch her.

Empiree:
I partially disagree with this line but i understand it goes both ways. Have you ever seen pretty ladies attracted to hoodrats, no money, just hustlers, haggard looking guys while they pretend to love 'rich guy' and milk him dry?. I have seen a lady whose boyfriend from Guyana was rich(in NY). As in he had two houses, cars, he was top supervisor at a construction company and was looking good as well.

Guess what, he blind love for the girl cost him everything. He stupidly signed off his house to the lady and in the process, the lady fell in love with a guy who rides bicycle in the hood. Since her name is on the deed now, he dumped the rich guy and brought in hustler and they married. The rich guy is not the poorest man in the world

He is skinny, drunkard, smoke many pockets of cigarettes a day and so frailed and heartbroken. Another on one is a guy spending his hard earned money and the lady saw clearly that she had financial security. But what did she do?. she went ahead and got pregnant for a lowlife who can not even takcere of himself. A guy who still lives with his parent in the basement.

Our world is full of surprises man. I would say, chase the woman you like but do so with integrity. The moment you notice she's seems to be using you or you doubt she is into, ditch her.

If one is successful but does not know how to treat a girl well, she may prefer to settle down with the guy who treats her well but has no money. But then, if she finds one who has money and still knows how to treat her well, she'll leave her poor dude for him. It's a combination of many attributes working together. But, the relevance of money (not necessarily filthy rich type), cannot be overemphasized. Get independent first, then add other attributes to it, then you'll be good to go.

Mikolion87:


If one is successful but does not know how to treat a girl well, she may prefer to settle down with the guy who treats her well but has no money. But then, if she finds one who has money and still knows how to treat her well, she'll leave her poor dude for him. It's a combination of many attributes working together. But, the relevance of money (not necessarily filthy rich type), cannot be overemphasized. Get independent first, then add other attributes to it, then you'll be good to go.

Trying to impress a girl by treating her right is a disaster waiting to happen. If you have money, treat her like scum and she will respect you. The moment you begin to treat her with respect, she will begin to act funny. Am not saying you should abuse her though. But money is power

Empiree:
I partially disagree with this line but i understand it goes both ways. Have you ever seen pretty ladies attracted to hoodrats, no money, just hustlers, haggard looking guys while they pretend to love 'rich guy' and milk him dry?. I have seen a lady whose boyfriend from Guyana was rich(in NY). As in he had two houses, cars, he was top supervisor at a construction company and was looking good as well.

Guess what, his blind love for the girl cost him everything. He stupidly signed off his house to the lady and in the process, the lady fell in love with a guy who rides bicycle in the hood (perhaps, her backup boyfriend). Since her name is on the deed now, she dumped the rich guy and brought in hustler and they married. The rich guy is now the poorest man in the world

He is skinny, drunkard, smoke many pockets of cigarettes a day and so frailed and heartbroken. Another on one is a guy spending his hard earned money on a lady and the lady saw clearly that she had financial security. But what did she do?. she went ahead and got pregnant for a low-life who can not even takecare of himself. A guy who still lives with his parent in the basement.

Our world is full of surprises man. I would say, chase the woman you like but do so with integrity. The moment you notice she seems to be using you or you doubt she is really into, ditch her.

ever heard of the term ''alpha fuccks, beta buck''? that should explain why some women use some men for resources and submit to some for mating purpose. Mind you, I am referring to what stimulates her attraction on a primal level, the uncontrollable subconscious forces that reflects in her taste of attraction in men.

having money alone doesn't stimulate a woman in her primal base, albeit it's complimentary. Masculinity goes beyond financial supply. Many men operate under the societal toxic programming that pleasing a woman and given her heaven makes her attracted, it is a lie and the earlier men learn this, the better result they get from interacting with women.

Nice thread.

What I don't understand however is that, a girl that was with you when you were broke, but eventually left because she couldn't bear with you again, later on came back after you made it, isn't she a gold digger? And as well, is it safe to marry such a lady as a wife?

pansophist:
Nice one op,

Women are not solely attracted to men in the same way men are attracted to women. Men attraction lies in the resources and value they can offer. This is where most young guys got it unfigured out. What makes a woman attractive to a man is naturally given to her (her beauty, femininity, fertility, nurturing abilities), for men, it has to be worked for. To be successful and capable of providing, defending, and protecting.

Women will always view broke men with disdain not because she wants to, but because she is wired to go for the top male and procreate for them thus, making sure the strongest genes are passed down to the next generation. This is the evolutionary basis why women always go for rich men and men always go for young women in their most fertile moment (18-29 years ,their most fertile age)
An example displaying this dynamic is also why old men can always marry down a young woman in her most fertile moment, but women can't do the same. Again, a successful man is an attractive man.

It goes further than these but understanding the above makes one channel necessary energy in hustling, instead of wasting it impressing women.

My brother stop saying this stuff. Defending or protecting from what?

We are in 2018 not 1850 .Stop portraying women as weak beings who need protection and defending from men.

Rilwayne001:
What I don't understand however is that, a girl that was with you when you were broke, but eventually leaves because she couldn't bear with you again, later on came back after you made it, isn't she a gold digger? And as well, is it safe to marry such a lady as a wife?

Don't marry her. Marry a lady in your social class.

Let's here from them girls then! Mr girl opzy,as a woman you are,does this work for you?

jorion:

Trying to impress a girl by treating her right is a disaster waiting to happen. If you have money, treat her like scum and she will respect you. The moment you begin to treat her with respect, she will begin to act funny. Am not saying you should abuse her
though. But money is power

You said to treat her like scum, and at the same time you're saying you don't mean she should be abused. Bro, you're contradicting yourself. I don't know who has been feeding you such ideas. Any girl who will stick to any guy who disrespects her just because he has money is obviously a gold digger without any self worth and value. I'm sure you wouldn't like to go after just any kind of girl. Any girl who knows her worth will dump your sorry ass the moment you disrespect her.

At the same time, if you have taken time to read the post, you'll realize I never mentioned anything like trying to impress her. I said you should be caring without appearing DESPERATE and also not giving her so much attention. It's a matter of striking a balance. But you should never treat a woman like a scum, rather be MYSTERIOUS.

Elder001:



My brother stop saying this stuff. Defending or protecting from what?

We are in 2018 not 1850 .Stop portraying women as weak beings who need protection and defending from men.

When you stop misconstruing in a literal sense, only then you will understand the truism in those sentences