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My sister told me something. She said she had informed her husband prior to their wedding that he shouldn't dare cheat on her when they eventually marry and that the minute she finds out of any such thing then rest assured she will resume her own cheating too. Lol

Pataricatering:
dont mind them ! This is karma biting them in the ars! You cheat , cheat , cheat and then your wives cheat back you will now start crying like a bitxh! Ode!

trapQ:
Newsflash you're in 2018, not 1918. We see everyday how women are granted custody of their kids right here in Nigeria.

You self acclaimed feminist on this forum just make comments your brain upside down. Did I say its not possible for women to gain custody in Nigeria? Simple English, she can win the custody if the husband is a pussy man...Go back to secondary school if u ack asic comprehension madam

Most of you are simply pained women who wish you came as a man into the world. And you failed to realise that men and women have roles to play in the society an attempt to compete with each other is what makes you guys a failure..shior

For me the day i discover ,that's the she's leaving ma house cause i can't stand a cheat

tiredoflife:
Read the idiot
He started with he was working in a big company
He lost his job
She works with a big bank
The marriage was based on pay cheque
Now the weakling can't talk cos he lost hi job
She feeds him even though he claims he has a new job

That there is the real deal why he can only warn her
Wen no be say na Lagos marriage abi abuja marriage
I wish the man understand the gravitations of what he's doing.
U paid money on her head
Take her home if u still want her
Ritual has to be done

Even if u are born again
She don invite Satan to ur home
Pray can't save him
He will die
I give him six months
He will die
If he no pay money for her head
He is free
Nothing go do am

Words of wisdom , I wish he can follow your advise.
We are killing ourselves hiding in the name of religion and moral of the societies is dying in the name that Our God is a merciful God.
Na where Amadioha and Ogun dheyself.

biggy26:
Loool! Even you, how did you know the songs on the playlist if you are not also a junior ancestor?

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

So much Bullshit up here! Tell me how many men have time for this rubbish after 4 children and endless bills?

MPESA:
Words of wisdom , I wish he can follow your advise.
We are killing ourselves hiding in the name of religion and moral of the societies is dying in the name that Our God is a merciful God.
Na where Amadioha and Ogun dheyself.

Guy funny enough I be Christian
Christ embassy member for 16yrs
But I have learnt a lot from my fathers
I am next in line to lead the whole family once all our dad's die
Dem dey tell me every thing
I no go say cos I be born again
I go use my head carry load

Even bible says wen the edge is broken the serpent will strike

We no dey worship the juju we dey claim church
Now u come dey match the juju line say I love my wife
I warned her to stop
Dis guy go die
Na living dead him be

Wilfredpat22:
SIR, that is we women for you. It is so difficult for us to close our legs especially if we have been sleeping with countless men before marriage.

Her colleague has been enjoying her with you and you are the weaker man here. I will advice you to take a divorce. If my man cheats, I don’t even want to hear forgiveness, I am exiting from the house (that is if it his house)

And sir, it is only the colleague you are aware of, she might have been opening her treasure for the Bank manager, Auditor, Security guard... etc

Please take CHARGE AND DONT BE A SISSY

hmmmm....

very few female folks will be bold to say this about their kind...


like I always say, truth is my watch word

Lmao....Only dumb and/or overage women marry divorced men. No young educated and enlightened girl will settle for a divorce unless she's doing so to escape poverty. The wife will do good.
She's got money too

I don't support cheating but it is outright stupidity and double standards when men encourage cheating among men but vilify women for doing so.

CanadianEnginee:
You have a mental problem, it's so evident in your other posts. May God give you someone who will tame this stupidity of yours .
Women are the ones that should pray and watch WAR ROOM. He can afford to kick her out , she'll definitely lose. The guy she's flirting with won't leave his wife for her and men hardly go for the after-1s etc.

chiommy123:
am not justifying her promiscuity at all but if you listen to married women complain at times you may not blame them that much

It's left for the man to check himself, if he's the one that caused the fire that is consuming him but seriously promiscuous woman is like to edges sword that can destroy both man and the children at the same time.

ChidiAlaigbo:
So much Bullshit up here! Tell me how many men have time for this rubbish after 4 children and endless bills?

Leave the mumu
Dem think say we be oyinbo
Marriage needs this needs that
Wen she marry make she cheat cos husband no dey give her breakfast in bed

Telemudo don spoil our women
And dat useless Zeeworld

trapQ:
Lmao....Only dumb and/or overage women marry divorced men. No young educated and enlightened girl will settle for a divorce unless she's doing so to escape poverty. The wife will do good.
She's got money too

I don't support cheating but it is outright stupidity and double standards when men encourage cheating among men but vilify women for doing so.

U dey find nairaland likes
U go see am
Use am go market make butcher cut meat for u

tiredoflife:
Guy funny enough I be Christian
Christ embassy member for 16yrs
But I have learnt a lot from my fathers
I am next in line to lead the whole family once all our dad's die
Dem dey tell me every thing
I no go say cos I be born again
I go use my head carry load

Even bible says wen the edge is broken the serpent will strike

We no dey worship the juju we dey claim church
Now u come dey match the juju line say I love my wife
I warned her to stop
Dis guy go die
Na living dead him be

Sir from your responses and advise to him I certainly understand that you grew up in the mist of elderly ones.
Been a Christian never stop us from doing the right things traditionally but they no wan hear.
I was even surprise that the woman has been cooking and sleeping with him yet he never get the feelings that she's cheating on him or fall some kind of sickness.

Lmao, the way y'all fear cheating wives makes me wonder if it's not the same cheating you people have been doing and bragging about.

Have you been a woman before ? How do you know a woman cannot cheat and love her husband at the same time. You men are just big hypocrites who can't take a tiny dose of their own medicine.

tiwasiaife:
It is easier for a man to cheat and still love the family than a woman to do same.
Brother, ur death is near.she may kill u and claim a widow momentarily and start acting a career woman.
I don't know ur tribe but in Igbo land, if u know that ur wife cheats and u are still living with her and eating her food u are liable to die soon.
report her to her parents
report her to her branch manager in that bank.
Inform ur.dad
and inform ur priest
with all the evidences
if u.keep quite she may secretly kill u to cover up.
use ur head.

MPESA:
Sir from your responses and advise to him I certainly understand that you grew up in the mist of elderly ones.
Been a Christian never stop us from doing the right things traditionally but they no wan hear.
I was even surprise that the woman has been cooking and sleeping with him yet he never get the feelings that she's cheating on him or fall some kind of sickness.

Like I said he must be Yoruba
Or the woman don dey use dead body water baff
That's another way they escape the gods

The man if Yoruba is free
Dem no get culture reach that side

trapQ:
Lmao, the way y'all fear cheating wivesakes me wonder if it's not the same cheating you people have been doing and bragging about.

Have you been a woman before ? How do you know a woman cannot cheat and live her husband at the same time. You men are just big hypocrites who can't take a tiny dose of their own medicine.

Oh I see where u are coming from
Online feminist but pussy cat wey dem pour water for village
Come talk this one for village if we no go use u serve eriwi

[quote author=mysaviouralive post=70406309]Hello Admin pls move this to the front page and I will be in the comment section reading.

Pls I want to take a boldness step and I will not mind where it can lead to. I have to open an account now to post this. My wife is also a guest of nairaland and she will be seeing this post.

It happen that I got married to my wife over Nine yrs ago and we only have a Kid. I was working in a big company then before the new management came in and change the policy of the company and I was laid off. I was idle like 3yrs before I got another job. she is working in one of the biggest bank in Nigeria. Like 5yrs ago I noticed she will be smiling whenever she is chatting with one of her male colleague. I ask what are they normally discussing, but she told me that it was their office issue that they are discussing. I know the guy and his family and the guy has came to my house not more than four times.



It happen one day that I demanded to give her phone to browse because I was having problem with my phone. she gave me the phone around 10:30pm and I noticed she has has cleared all their chat. This make it look suspicious and I asked her immediately that why did you deleted the chat, but she told me it was a mistake. I think over it for sometime because I trust her then, but on the other hand my mind was telling me to find out more. As an IT expert I connected her phone to my system and do some forensic research on the phone, alas what I discovered was bad. My wife and the guy have been having an affair and chatting and sending their nude to themselves. I called her immediately and demanded to explain the pixture but she denial it and was telling me another story that she snap the pixture and to show me how she was Hot so that we can have sex that night.

she said I should show her where I got the nude pixs and before she came back from the office she has wipe all the pixs that I showed her thinking that I cannot recovered it anymore and I asked her why should you do that but was just begging me. I recovered all the pixs back and the chat she believe she has deleted and I have more proof that she has been cheating on me.

So I asked her to tell me the truth what is going on with the guy and her but she was just begging me. But I told him I dont want her to do or have anything with the guy again that if I catch her again she will not like what I will do for her, with the hope that she will change. Recently I noticed she stil chatting with the guy again and I rake on her to stop it but she told me that she was just explaining office issue she has when he (the guy) not around because she is the one that relief him on work.

This week they are still chatting late in the nite cos I always seen the chat, though she will delete it as soon as they chat finish but I always have the chat and also today they have chat alot to the extend that my wife was crying when she expecting good reply from the guy but the guy fail him and I noticed she has intimate with the guy rather than me her husband.

My wife can lie and so Promiscuous. I have called her severally to change but she did not, recently I heard she was talking with one of her online friend from Abuja when the guy told her he will be coming to visit her this coming week, and I expect my wife to tell me but uptill now she has not saying anything on it. This make me not to have much trust in her again because if she tell me something I will still think over it like five times again before I accepted.

So my plan now is to call the wife of her colleague and explain everything to the wife and I also planing of arresting her colleague because I still have the proof and dont mind what can come out of this, because I tired and cant continue like this anymore, ever since I have caught her I did not enjoy my home anylonger and I tried to erase it from my memory but not get it wright.

Pls save me and save my marriage if possible.

Thank you.[/quo

Divorce!!!

Chai! Some men strong oo! All this shit happened and you're still under the same roof with her? Don't arest the niger, you need a good advice from a good lawyer if ypu want a divorce, your wife can't change anymore, that's her life, if you can endure be a husband to a woman of many then go on. But mind you she cannever change.

tiredoflife:
Like I said he must be Yoruba
Or the woman don dey use dead body water baff
That's another way they escape the gods

The man if Yoruba is free
Dem no get culture reach that side

I reason with you of been a Yoruba.

Op, you may soon die if not dead already. History tells us that 50% of cheating women kill their husbands to be with their lovers. You know our society frowns at cheating wives unlike husbands.
Little wonders, in some cultures in Nigeria, if you keep quiet - the gods will kill you. No be any gods, na the women. Its an established trend. Hope you are still alive sha to read this. Quote me if yes

Chubhie:
What!

Gosh!
that (this) is wisdom from above (ancestors)

Save your marriage?

make up your mind about what you want first before asking for advice

Oga poster you must be a vegetable shuu you saw your wife's naked picture she sent to her lover boy and have the chat as an evidence yet you are acting like a weakling

Anyways continue telling her to stop.

prince049:
It experts how can I know how to check whatsapp abi na hack...No knowledge is a waste

you wanna turn princess iPhone into a zombie device? by spoofing it from a root device?

@ mysaviouralive, answer this questions:

are you sure you're a man?

Are you sure the kid is yours?

Are you having erectile dysfunction?

Are you suffering from mild impotency?

How much does your wife crave sex and how many time have you been able to satisfy her ?

Did you follow the right process to marry her?

Until you answer these questions, you can't get help. There's something from your side you're not telling us.


See, you appear compromised when you caught your wife cheating. Because I can't understand why you didn't act like a man, but chose to just warn her.


You have a loose woman as a wife. But you're the problem.


Some men really don't deserve the title , "man".

Jennifer89:
Oga poster you must be a vegetable shuu you saw your wife's naked picture she sent to her lover boy and have the chat as an evidence yet you are acting like a weakling

Anyways continue telling her to stop.

the guy mumu no be small.

007inc:
Don’t beg for love. Let us help u disgrace the two adulterous elements. Set her up n disgrace her publicly.
1. Don’t beat her
2. Hire a private investigator to get u live video footage between her n the idiot colleague
3. Broadcast the video to every staff of every branch of the particular bank she works( they will sack her)
4. Upload her video on every trending FB group page n IG pages and even church groups .
5. Make sure u make her useless n frustrated to the point she will contemplate suicide.
6. Make plans to marry a new wife n live a happy life.
If u need how to start let me know. We must expose evil women.

BULLSHIT!

You don't even put into consideration the child they both have together.Why making the video of her doing kerewawa with her colleague go viral?

OP can quietly divorce his wife and safe guarding the future of their child.

This is Nigeria,just imagine OP make the video go viral and later haunt his son later in future.

trapQ:
I hate cheating men.

That makes the two of us.

As couples, When ur sex life is below par, intimacy and connection dies. Intimacy opens all doors. My experience is real! Chat me up.

I would have lived to help save your marriage but then you do not have any marriage in the first place. At least not any longer.
Be a man and end the stupid union with her. Trust me, you can live again.